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Basic_man · 11-05-2004, 11:39 AM

Bad, because there is mostly only guys in this bizz :D

Eric · 11-05-2004, 11:41 AM

The downsides you are all talking about can happen in many situations.

Should you not date a girl that is in your circle of friends? I mean if you are in the same circle of friends you should click and get along really well, but at the same time he/she may have fucked someone else in that circle, he/she will probably be around if you break up.

The issue is are you mature enough to date someone in this industry and not give a shit about what other people say or do?

Any dating situation can have it's downfalls. Most are self inflicted and created.

neverlearn · 11-05-2004, 11:57 AM

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Originally posted by BradM
You homo. I have no idea why you didn't. I just assumed you were.
To this day I would give it a go. She had great funbags.

One night at the local watering hole she was there with Dougie and I was there and she was fuckin trash drunk walked up and started spewing praise to me at the top her lungs and gave me a big fat wet one on the lips.

And yeah, I rubbed a few out thinking bout those big funbags for sure lol

ChandieGirl · 11-05-2004, 12:08 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Eric_aka_RedEyes
The downsides you are all talking about can happen in many situations.

Should you not date a girl that is in your circle of friends? I mean if you are in the same circle of friends you should click and get along really well, but at the same time he/she may have fucked someone else in that circle, he/she will probably be around if you break up.

The issue is are you mature enough to date someone in this industry and not give a shit about what other people say or do?

Any dating situation can have it's downfalls. Most are self inflicted and created.

True, oh wise one.

However, the hidden variable is that no matter how mature and capable of "moving on" you are, you still can't control the
other persons maturity or ability to handle themselves in
said situations. In a group of friends, everyone would
help temper the situation. In biz, people won't interject
as freely.

Just my

...and believe me, I've earned 'em.

C

Juicy D. Links · 11-05-2004, 12:12 PM

just fucking no dating

SleazyDream · 11-05-2004, 12:14 PM

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Originally posted by juicylinks
just fucking no dating

few women can handle the emotionality of that and continue to be around the guy.

fuck women not in your social circles

BradM · 11-05-2004, 12:16 PM

I think I'd do it, just not make a big deal out of it. Keep people the hell out of the drama.

ChandieGirl · 11-05-2004, 12:18 PM

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Originally posted by BradM
I think I'd do it, just not make a big deal out of it. Keep people the hell out of the drama.

Now THAT is funny. Very few people in this biz stay out of the drama. It's "As the Web Turns".

ChandieGirl · 11-05-2004, 12:18 PM

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Originally posted by BradM
I think I'd do it, just not make a big deal out of it. Keep people the hell out of the drama.

Now THAT is funny. Very few people in this biz stay out of the drama. It's "As the Web Turns".

PhillipB · 11-05-2004, 12:24 PM

Sooo....Eric, uhm...what are you doing tomorrow night? Want to go rent Ghost and order Chinese take-out?

The coolest thing about dating a girl in the industry is that you could be looking at porn on your computer and she could walk in and not think twice lol.

Seriously though, it can be tough. If you're dating a girl who's job it is to flirt and shmooze clients, there can be some jealousy issues at hand.

Then there's the whole "dating talent" thing. I'm pretty secure in my manhood, but something just doesn't sit right with me when I know my wife or girlfriend is fucking another dude. I guess some guys can separate sex and love...I'm not sure I'm one of them.

BradM · 11-05-2004, 12:24 PM

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Originally posted by Chandiegirl

Now THAT is funny. Very few people in this biz stay out of the drama. It's "As the Web Turns".

Tanker + Ellisa
Rene + Jenn

Two good examples of people who have managed to remain low key for the most part.

What's the problem Chandie, are you backing down now?

PhillipB · 11-05-2004, 12:29 PM

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Originally posted by BradM
I think I'd do it, just not make a big deal out of it. Keep people the hell out of the drama.

I agree. Loose lips sink ships...

ChandieGirl · 11-05-2004, 12:29 PM

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Originally posted by BradM
Tanker + Ellisa
Rene + Jenn

Two good examples of people who have managed to remain low key for the most part.

What's the problem Chandie, are you backing down now?

haha

As I mentioned above, I am TOTALLY envious when it does
work. There are a few couples who make me rethink this
issue time and again....Jason & Gail, Tanker & Ellisa, Jenn & D-Money, J$tyles & Danielle (and baby makes three).

But I could also list (with ease) five times as many people
who it HASN'T worked for...and has created drama and
discomfort aplenty.

But who knows, perhaps someone will change my mind.
I never say never.

BradM · 11-05-2004, 12:34 PM

I try to be an optimist as much as I can. While I do see how it would be a nightmare and I would like to avoid it... I also think this is the ideal place to meet someone closely linked with the kind of person I am.

That being said... you can have drama dating a non industry person, or have it here. If you play your cards right, or try to meet someone NOT insane (

) I think even a breakup can be an easy enough thing and seeing each other at shows, or what have you can be a pleasent hello.

I keep in touch with most of my exs.. one even on a daily basis. So I know keeping things civil can be easy enough.

So my 2 cents... yes it can be tricky but if you want it to work and don't CARE about what others are saying, but still do your job I think there is nothing wrong with it.

NetRodent · 11-05-2004, 12:34 PM

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Originally posted by PersianKitty
dating? What's dating?

That's where they cut you open and count the rings.

Honez · 11-05-2004, 12:38 PM

I actually seriously dated someone in the industry and it ended horribly. But, we didn't bring a lot of people into our personal business so when it ended, the only drama was between us. We are now friends again and talk on occassion. But my current guy was not in the industry when I met him although I met him at an industry function. I say it really depends on the people and the situation. There is no right or wrong answer.

Jman · 11-05-2004, 12:41 PM

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Originally posted by APN Philip
Sooo....Eric, uhm...what are you doing tomorrow night? Want to go rent Ghost and order Chinese take-out?

The coolest thing about dating a girl in the industry is that you could be looking at porn on your computer and she could walk in and not think twice lol.

Seriously though, it can be tough. If you're dating a girl who's job it is to flirt and shmooze clients, there can be some jealousy issues at hand.

Then there's the whole "dating talent" thing. I'm pretty secure in my manhood, but something just doesn't sit right with me when I know my wife or girlfriend is fucking another dude. I guess some guys can separate sex and love...I'm not sure I'm one of them.

Back off bitch, he's My precious

PhillipB · 11-05-2004, 12:44 PM

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Originally posted by JMan
Back off bitch, he's My precious

lol!

PhillipB · 11-05-2004, 12:46 PM

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Originally posted by NetRodent
That's where they cut you open and count the rings.

Hey NR, how are things over there!

Kimmykim · 11-05-2004, 01:10 PM

I'd say the success rate is about as good as with any other dating scheme. Mail order brides might have a higher conversion ratio, I dunno.

Eric · 11-05-2004, 01:16 PM

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Originally posted by APN Philip
Sooo....Eric, uhm...what are you doing tomorrow night? Want to go rent Ghost and order Chinese take-out?

The coolest thing about dating a girl in the industry is that you could be looking at porn on your computer and she could walk in and not think twice lol.

Seriously though, it can be tough. If you're dating a girl who's job it is to flirt and shmooze clients, there can be some jealousy issues at hand.

Then there's the whole "dating talent" thing. I'm pretty secure in my manhood, but something just doesn't sit right with me when I know my wife or girlfriend is fucking another dude. I guess some guys can separate sex and love...I'm not sure I'm one of them.

Remember dude. Not all girls that are considered "Talent" fuck on the job.

BradM · 11-05-2004, 01:17 PM

LOLL!!!! Kimmy good news you're first on my hit list.

Eric · 11-05-2004, 01:18 PM

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Originally posted by JMan
Back off bitch, he's My precious

Oh shit I nearly just pissed myself! HAHAHAHAHA

V_RocKs · 11-05-2004, 01:25 PM

Only good for gay webmasters, so you should be alright.

Eric · 11-05-2004, 01:26 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Chandiegirl
True, oh wise one.

However, the hidden variable is that no matter how mature and capable of "moving on" you are, you still can't control the
other persons maturity or ability to handle themselves in
said situations. In a group of friends, everyone would
help temper the situation. In biz, people won't interject
as freely.

Just my ...and believe me, I've earned 'em.

C

IF that person is that way. Let them be. All you can ever control is yourself. I always say "Kill them with kindness" do the same with an ex and for the most part they will have nothing bad to say about you. And if they do talk shit people will eventually see through them and realize they are not worth being around.

For the most part anything negative that comes out of a relationship is usually because the relationship was continued on longer than it should have been. So the real question is when you know something is wrong do you stay in too long or do you know how to cut the cord early before things become too drama filled. That is where the drama comes from most of the time from all relationships industry or not.

sherie · 11-05-2004, 01:27 PM

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Originally posted by SleazyDream
few women can handle the emotionality of that and continue to be around the guy.

fuck women not in your social circles

I know more guys like that.

Do what you want I say and fuck what anyone else thinks. Anyone that wants to get involved with my business and cause drama is certainly going to get a lot more than they bargained for.

It's up to the person, you can't help who you dig, if you are mature about it, it's all good. The shows shmos, if you can't remain civil then you should not even be banging or in a relationship at all regardless of the industry or person.

(well unless the guy or girl is a total dick and you can avoid situations where you are one on one) Whatever, do what you want when you want and with whomever you want.

DWB · 11-05-2004, 01:27 PM

I've done it a few times and it always ended BAD. But there are exceptions I'm sure.

BradM · 11-05-2004, 01:27 PM

That's true Eric. Stringing things along usually creates bad tastes in everyones mouth.

Jman · 11-05-2004, 01:28 PM

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Originally posted by Kimmykim
I'd say the success rate is about as good as with any other dating scheme. Mail order brides might have a higher conversion ratio, I dunno.

Babe can you be shipped in Canada

WiredGuy · 11-05-2004, 01:35 PM

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Originally posted by JMan
Babe can you be shipped in Canada

I'm sure if I could ship drugs to her, she can be shipped here

WG

chAos · 11-05-2004, 02:05 PM

you know i think that it can work but it is a lot of work and sometimes you can find yourself in situations that make your partner uncomfortable and i think that is the major thing.

you need to be respectful of the boundries that you and your partner have set forth and not let one person feel bad in a situation.

just my thoughts ..

rocki · 11-05-2004, 02:07 PM

don' t do it...

NinjaSteve · 11-05-2004, 02:14 PM

I see a lot of valid points. I would date a pornstar, however not a girl that's actually in the industry (webmaster or working for another company).

Why? I find most pornstars hot. And they know how to get their freak on.

Why not some other girl in the industry? Because of the points already made.

Ana Laura · 11-05-2004, 02:20 PM

Bad idea.

PhillipB · 11-05-2004, 02:30 PM

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Originally posted by Eric_aka_RedEyes
Remember dude. Not all girls that are considered "Talent" fuck on the job.

That's true. I guess "fuck" was the wrong word in my post. I meant having any sort of intimate relation, whether it's fucking, sucking, or even kissing. Call me old fashioned, whatever...

Btw, does anyone know of any long-term relationship where either person (or both) are talent?

Kimmykim · 11-05-2004, 03:20 PM

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Originally posted by JMan
Babe can you be shipped in Canada

It's so cooooold up there in the winter, except in Van, tho...

Wired Guy, I need to talk to you, can you icq me please? 101 69 6 1 9

WiredGuy · 11-05-2004, 03:27 PM

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Originally posted by Kimmykim
Wired Guy, I need to talk to you, can you icq me please? 101 69 6 1 9

Adding you now, and yes, I bought you a double pack of meds and will bring them to LA webmaster access for you

WG

Honez · 11-05-2004, 03:30 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by APN Philip
That's true. I guess "fuck" was the wrong word in my post. I meant having any sort of intimate relation, whether it's fucking, sucking, or even kissing. Call me old fashioned, whatever...

Btw, does anyone know of any long-term relationship where either person (or both) are talent?

Yes. Rick OShea and Brittany OConnell. Been together for about 10 years I believe.
Brittany OConnell

ChandieGirl · 11-05-2004, 03:49 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Eric_aka_RedEyes
IF that person is that way. Let them be. All you can ever control is yourself. I always say "Kill them with kindness" do the same with an ex and for the most part they will have nothing bad to say about you. And if they do talk shit people will eventually see through them and realize they are not worth being around.

For the most part anything negative that comes out of a relationship is usually because the relationship was continued on longer than it should have been. So the real question is when you know something is wrong do you stay in too long or do you know how to cut the cord early before things become too drama filled. That is where the drama comes from most of the time from all relationships industry or not.

I don't know that I have ever experienced someone
seeking to hurt my reputation or "talking shit". I guess
I am just more uncomfortable with hurt feelings and
the (unavoidable) discomfort that people feel when
two "ex's" come together ie: who to invite to dinner, etc.

For being a huge industry, it can sure feel *very* small
*very* quickly.

punker barbie · 11-05-2004, 04:43 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by chAos
you know i think that it can work but it is a lot of work and sometimes you can find yourself in situations that make your partner uncomfortable and i think that is the major thing.

you need to be respectful of the boundries that you and your partner have set forth and not let one person feel bad in a situation.

just my thoughts ..

i totally agree with you jeff! now lets move on to the hard part of what you just said.... how about actualy following through on that.

ps) sorry for giving you shit, i couldnt resist LOL ;)

chAos · 11-05-2004, 04:47 PM

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Originally posted by punker barbie
i totally agree with you jeff! now lets move on to the hard part of what you just said.... how about actualy following through on that.

ps) sorry for giving you shit, i couldnt resist LOL ;)

i think you have seen some of it so far

punker barbie · 11-05-2004, 04:50 PM

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Originally posted by chAos
i think you have seen some of it so far

ummmmmm your just a tad bit late my dear..... LOL :P

Steen2 · 11-05-2004, 04:51 PM

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Originally posted by BradM
I had this conversation this week and it got me thinking more and more how BAD an idea it is.

I say it's better to bring people from the industry into your life rather than bringing people from your life into this industry.

I think both are best to stay away from.

ChandieGirl · 11-05-2004, 04:52 PM

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Originally posted by punker barbie
ummmmmm your just a tad bit late my dear..... LOL :P

*grabs popcorn*

This is getting interesting.

(sorry, PB and Chaos. Now its me who couldn't resist)

BradM · 11-05-2004, 04:55 PM

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Originally posted by Chandiegirl
*grabs popcorn*

irishfury · 11-05-2004, 05:01 PM

I don't date just fornicate

ChandieGirl · 11-05-2004, 05:07 PM

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Originally posted by BradM

ROFL

Kimmykim · 11-05-2004, 05:30 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Chandiegirl
I guess I am just more uncomfortable with hurt feelings and
the (unavoidable) discomfort that people feel when
two "ex's" come together ie: who to invite to dinner, etc.

For being a huge industry, it can sure feel *very* small
*very* quickly.

If someone has to choose between ex's for dinner, that's just bullshit, if there are more than 8 people at the table.

The problem is NOT dating someone from within the industry, the problem is how to act professionally while you're dating someone within the industry.

If you're hanging out with your friends that met in the business on vacation somewhere, then that does pose some thought. But if it's a business dinner, then act professionally, whether you're ex's or currents.

That's Rule #1.

There are people that didn't start out in this industry, ended up in it with their spouse or whatever you want to call it, that have split up while in the industry. And both of them still come out to dinners, act professionally and things are good all the way around.

ChandieGirl · 11-05-2004, 05:41 PM

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Originally posted by Kimmykim
If someone has to choose between ex's for dinner, that's just bullshit, if there are more than 8 people at the table.

The problem is NOT dating someone from within the industry, the problem is how to act professionally while you're dating someone within the industry.

If you're hanging out with your friends that met in the business on vacation somewhere, then that does pose some thought. But if it's a business dinner, then act professionally, whether you're ex's or currents.

That's Rule #1.

There are people that didn't start out in this industry, ended up in it with their spouse or whatever you want to call it, that have split up while in the industry. And both of them still come out to dinners, act professionally and things are good all the way around.

Well said.

FlyingIguana · 11-05-2004, 05:43 PM

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Originally posted by BradM
Good or bad idea.
Why do you have your opinion?

Discuss.. this could get good.

sorry man, you're not my type

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11-05-2004, 11:41 AM	#52
Eric Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: The Helm! Posts: 8,818	The downsides you are all talking about can happen in many situations. Should you not date a girl that is in your circle of friends? I mean if you are in the same circle of friends you should click and get along really well, but at the same time he/she may have fucked someone else in that circle, he/she will probably be around if you break up. The issue is are you mature enough to date someone in this industry and not give a shit about what other people say or do? Any dating situation can have it's downfalls. Most are self inflicted and created. __________________ No One

11-05-2004, 12:34 PM	#64
BradM Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: 1123,6536,5231 Posts: 3,397	I try to be an optimist as much as I can. While I do see how it would be a nightmare and I would like to avoid it... I also think this is the ideal place to meet someone closely linked with the kind of person I am. That being said... you can have drama dating a non industry person, or have it here. If you play your cards right, or try to meet someone NOT insane () I think even a breakup can be an easy enough thing and seeing each other at shows, or what have you can be a pleasent hello. I keep in touch with most of my exs.. one even on a daily basis. So I know keeping things civil can be easy enough. So my 2 cents... yes it can be tricky but if you want it to work and don't CARE about what others are saying, but still do your job I think there is nothing wrong with it.

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chAos Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: hell Posts: 1,348	you know i think that it can work but it is a lot of work and sometimes you can find yourself in situations that make your partner uncomfortable and i think that is the major thing. you need to be respectful of the boundries that you and your partner have set forth and not let one person feel bad in a situation. just my thoughts .. __________________ chAos Email Solutions - Traffic - Domains email: [email protected] skype: marketingguruchaos icq: 101955210

11-05-2004, 12:12 PM	#55
Juicy D. Links So Fucking Banned Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: N.Y. -Long Island -- Posts: 122,992	just fucking no dating

11-05-2004, 12:16 PM	#57
BradM Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: 1123,6536,5231 Posts: 3,397	I think I'd do it, just not make a big deal out of it. Keep people the hell out of the drama.

11-05-2004, 12:24 PM	#60
PhillipB Just a Simple Carpenter Join Date: May 2003 Location: Your mom's house... Posts: 1,338	Sooo....Eric, uhm...what are you doing tomorrow night? Want to go rent Ghost and order Chinese take-out? The coolest thing about dating a girl in the industry is that you could be looking at porn on your computer and she could walk in and not think twice lol. Seriously though, it can be tough. If you're dating a girl who's job it is to flirt and shmooze clients, there can be some jealousy issues at hand. Then there's the whole "dating talent" thing. I'm pretty secure in my manhood, but something just doesn't sit right with me when I know my wife or girlfriend is fucking another dude. I guess some guys can separate sex and love...I'm not sure I'm one of them.

11-05-2004, 01:10 PM	#70
Kimmykim bitchslapping zebras!!!!! Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: In a shack by the beach Posts: 16,015	I'd say the success rate is about as good as with any other dating scheme. Mail order brides might have a higher conversion ratio, I dunno.

11-05-2004, 01:17 PM	#72
BradM Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: 1123,6536,5231 Posts: 3,397	LOLL!!!! Kimmy good news you're first on my hit list.

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11-05-2004, 01:27 PM	#77
DWB Registered User Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Encrypted. Access denied. Posts: 31,779	I've done it a few times and it always ended BAD. But there are exceptions I'm sure.

11-05-2004, 02:07 PM	#82
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11-05-2004, 02:14 PM	#83
NinjaSteve Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 11,089	I see a lot of valid points. I would date a pornstar, however not a girl that's actually in the industry (webmaster or working for another company). Why? I find most pornstars hot. And they know how to get their freak on. Why not some other girl in the industry? Because of the points already made. __________________ ...

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