exactly what I meant

What a lot of very dumb people. Read and understand Tala's original post. Sarah never made any secret of the fact that they had a fairly open relationship and that would in all probability mean FRIENDS that they fuck outside of the marriage. That being the case what better way to help in a time of huge loss than a good shag from someone you in all probability know and care about (even if not as much as your spouse). Given their lifestyle even were it a stranger it'd be perfectly understandable.

Good grief. How people in porn can be so judgemental on a regular basis amazes me. How people in business can be so dumb amazes me even more.

And as it keeps being stated - it has fuck all to do with donations. If you feel 'cheated' read the above and try to understand it. It really is very, very simple.

Exactly.

If you paid a little attention you would have noticed im not JUDGING
otherwise i would have started this thread and first post with different content.

Im just questioning the behaviour because it surprised me.. and i made a post about it instantly.. not really thinking about stuff just my first reaction on a message board and closed the first post with the line "or am i missing something".

The way you replied wasnt constructive so how do you expect me to respond? You should have learned how to deal with idiots like me during those 10 years!?

Anyway.. its not personal and im not judging im ASKING a question colored a bit by my personal feelings and opinion. Thats all.

my god are some of you so bored with your own lives that you have to question the intentions of someone else's life which, i might add, is none of your business?

just when i thought nothing else could amaze me. :disgust

While I am supporting Sarah on this issue, I have to say that was a pretty good post on your position.

I for one...judge everybody based upon their morals...values...and strength of character. I suspect that you do to. If you do not...you must have a strange group of friends...ranging from pedophiles...to rapists...thieves etc.

I think, perhaps, you may want to go back and read your original post. I'm sure you didn't mean it the way it came out..

Comfort sex has been around for a long time...and it's a viable way to deal with death, as sex is usually associated with life...

So much to learn from this.

Such as:

Bdjuf is apparently cheating on Persius.

Yup with life but also with love. And thats where the conflict in this situation is for me. Just as much as you statement makes sense to you my silly 'love' statement makes sense to me.

Just trying to understand so i appreciate replies like yours as what this thread
was intended for :)

for those of you that have been watching sarah post over the last year you would have known she had an open relationship with her husband

I didnt follow the thread were money was being raised. But why did she accept the money if she had a man on the side. I guess a lot of people werent aware of that when money was being raised for her. mrthumbs probably didnt either. And then when she posts that she's with someone else then that does sound a bit weird since she just accepted lots of money, money from probably a lot of people who thought she was all on her own now without any money.

With or without a man on her side.. she needed the money.. no doubt about that. Thats not the issue here.

What business is it of you people? Although I think Sarah was always pretty open that she and her husband "shared", and that she had a male lover whom her husband was confortable with and whom she had had a long liason with. Just because her husband died doesn't make her less human, and sometimes that closeness with someone can be more comfort for loss than all the crying in the world. Get off your fucking high horses.

How do you figure ? If she has some guy paying the bills , why does she need gfy money ?? Dudes prob buying champagne with the extra cash. :repuke jk but seriously , a little shady..

I can see you are conflicted....and I think you are confusing love, the emotion, with sex..the physical act.

If my husband died, I doubt if I would ever love another man again.
That's on an emotional level...

But, sex with a friend or a buddy....that's the bandaid.

Not a cure, mind you....but a temporary relief from the madness of grief....

Was she broke? Is that why she needed money? If she had a boyfriend/boyfriends...even if she personally was broke...would they not take care of her money needs...after all she is fucking him/them?

To repeat..."I for one...judge everybody based upon their morals...values...and strength of character. I suspect that you do to. If you do not...you must have a strange group of friends...ranging from pedophiles...to rapists...thieves etc."

That is kinda wrong.

It does seem that she wasnt that 'all alone far away from home'
as stated but that doesnt make anyone else responsible for her financial situation.

Even if that was the case it was our choice to donate and it wasnt because
she was needy and begging for cash. Once again: not the reason for this thread.

Just morals and values.

This is the first time i ever agree with a post of yours.

I mean how do you know she isn't insuranced for that. Also, it's just weird she posts a statement like that thinking everyone who gave her money knew about 'the other guy'. Like the bear said, kinda shady.

Shitty deal :Hollering
I wont say anymore on this.
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I didnt know that, that makes it a bit different if he was already her lover. :smilie_we

With statements like this, I can now see why Sarah was so reluctant about accepting a collective gift...which is what it was...a gift.

Once the gift leaves my bank or hands, it's out of my judgmental jurisdiction, as I am the one who chose to give, in the first place...Sarah never asked for anything.

She never claimed to need gfy money.....that was something we who sent money decided to do...so, it's irrelevant whether or not anyone is paying her bills...

Yeah if all that is true it's all good i guess. :P.

Jesus Christ.

The replies in this thread so far are simple astounding.

Fact of the matter is, nobody here knows Sarah other than the persona we see of her on the boards, nobody knows anything about her past, present and future relations she may have or had with anyone.

Its her life, her body let her run it how she see's fit without everyone butting in to it.

I personally dont care one way or another who she fucks, the reason she fucks them or how often she fucks them, its non of my business, just as it isnt any of yours.

Regards,

Lee

Damn if I died and could see the bitch fucking someone else right away I'd fuckin kill her.. What a slut.

You would have sex with another man a week later?

Money was donated out of the good of everyones heart. I can understand why many feel as if she did everyone including her husband an injustice by having sex with another man so shortly after. It is her life, but it was brought on the boards and it will stay on the boards ... that's just the way it works.

Everyone lives different lives, but I share that feeling with you. :xmas-smil

Just as it isn't any of your business who posts on a message board Christmas Day.

Personaly I dont care if Sarah was fucking the Pope the day after whoever it was that died.

But for you people saying its not your business, you are obviously wrong. If Sarah felt it was nobody's business, she wouldnt have posted the info in a public forum. Its not your call to say its nobody's businees, it was Sarah's call, and she chose to make it public. So get over it.

People dont give gifts for no reason, people usually give gifts like this with the reasoning that its likely the person is struggling financially.

But yes , i think the more relevent matter would be the sex issue.

Can't think of any man who wouldn't be rolling in his grave ? If he isnt , he is awfully brave or awfully stupid.

Well actually, our business is based on message forums so yes, it is my business who is posting and where ;)

Regards,

Lee

:thumbsup :thumbsup exactly

I completely agree.

If i was her husband, i would be disappointed instead of happy. It is ok to move on, but not by fucking some other person, a couple of weeks after my passing. Only tells me that you have been waiting to explore with someone else, and my passing has free'd you. Flame me if you want but i see that as simply "fucked up."

If that was a guy on this board, he would be buried by now.
:2 cents:

Well my business is based on sex, so I guess it is my business who is having it and where.

Regards,

Entropy

This thread needs some of these :food-smil

Im sorry I have to agree with Mr Thumbs. To be absolutely devestated like she said she was, accepting contributions.. then to POST ON GFY that she was laid last week. I mean come on man. 1st of all some things should stay off public boards as in the death of a loved one. I find it tasteless and inexcusable to post anything like that. I may be totally wrong , but thats my thoughts

You people have a good way of only seeing things the way YOU think it should be, forget the context, forget anything else.. And apparently nobody here READS either.


I also fail to understand how SEX equates to Sarah having a new boyfriend or sugar daddy taking care of her. HOnestly if I was in the same boat, a little physical pleasure to take my mind of the pain and misery would be more theraputic than harmful. Having a mate die doesn't mean you stop living, it just means that a part of you has died. There's still lots of you left to live. Everyone deals with tragedy their own way. When the same thing happens to any of you, then you can point and say "I'd NEVER do that!"

It said she was laid two weeks ago which would make it a matter of days after her husband passed. You know, whatever. The world is an ugly place.