Agreed -- it really captures a side of AaronM, I think, seldom in evidence here on GFY -- :)

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Standby for NEWS about Tonight's...

! -- Special Guest* Discussion Presenter -- !

2HP

! -- TONIGHT'S SPECIAL GUEST DISCUSSION -- !

2HP

just deep inside her mind? :(

Kayla's a schmatt goyl, with a marvelously unrestrained personal sexuality -- :winkwink: -- I think you're gonna like what she's got in there. For any other glimpses, I'll post here whatever she permits -- :thumbsup

2HP

Oh my !!! That Red hair!!! Those Beautiful Eyez~!!! Veluptuous Titties OH MY!!!

Ill be waiting with my Pen n' Paper....oh and the tissue!!!

:pimp

Speaking of bumps

She's late.

Kayla is one of very few people for whom it is a pleasure to exercise my patience. Those of you who don't know her will soon see why.

2HP

I always hate having to prepare a bio (especially when so many of you know me), because I never really know what to tell people! Let me start with the basics: My name is Kayla Quinn, I am a 34 year old computer nerd. I got started online in late 1996, and opened my own website in July of 1998; I started as an "internet model" while I was still active duty Air Force, stationed at Nellis AFB, NV. I am quite proud of my military service and was highly decorated. I was presented with the Air Force Commendation Medal, at the time I was one of five Senior Airmen in the history of the United States Air Force to be awarded that medal.


Since I started my online life (my initial url was www.kayla-marie.com, then www.KaylaCam.com), I have grown and changed a bit. I have appeared in numerous adult films, mainstream movies and television shows. I have also been seen in magazines and calendars. I was awarded the KSex Radio 2003 Listeners Choice Award for "Favorite Amateur Porn Star 2003".

I enjoy my life online and strive to make it as fun for my members as I can. I try to provide the best porn that I can make and/or find without limiting my interaction with my members to porn. I am, above all else, a real person who likes to chat about everyday things just like anyone else. My website is not dedicated to mindless poking and prodding. My website is dedicated to me, David and my members. I still do everything myself, and still do the coding by hand. My website vascilates between being a labor of love and an arch nemesis, but I cannot imagine not having it.



And now...let me get started with the advice giving!


When I was first approached about writing this 'advice', I was not sure I was the right person for the job. I own not the largest nor most lucrative website...I do, however, have almost 10 years experience in this arena. What advice can I offer the noob? Let me state it simply, then expand upon what I consider to be the key: Be true to yourself. Sounds simple, doesn't it? It can be rough.

In this industry, there will always be someone telling you that you HAVE to do something in order to succeed. Listen to yourself, not to others. The only opinion that truely matters is your own. You cannot betray your own moral code/comfort levels and still enjoy this industry. Whether it be your own website or a film career, you must set your own limitations and stick with them This is not to say that limits do not change or that these are carved in stone. This is just to clarify that the only stone mason worthy of changing these personal rules is yourself. When I started out in films, I was told that I *had* to do anal, I *had* to do inter-racial, I *had* to do gang bangs, I *had* to do extreme scenes. I was also told that I was too old, too tall, too heavy and had too many tattoos to have any sort of a career in film. I set my own boundaries, decided what I was and was not willing to shoot and left the negative criticism where it belonged...behind me. Fourteen months later, I have reshaped my comfort levels and have shot approximately 80 scenes (some dvd, some internet site content). I have not let others hold me back, nor have I betrayed myself.

Keep in mind, as you are getting started in this business, that there is very little "wiggle room". Everything you film, produce, pose for, is out there for the world to see. If there is any one person you do not want finding out you are in the adult entertainment industry, be assured they WILL find out about it. Once you dedicate something to any medium, be it print, electronic or film, it is impossible for you to retract it and hide it from anybody. This is why it is so important that you stay honest with yourself and know your limitations. (If you feel you must have a drink or a little bit of some chemical to loosen yourself up in order to do a cam show or to film a scene, this is NOT the right business for you.)

Remember that one of your most valuable assets is your reputation. I was recently asked in an interview: Besides your own site, what amateur site would you recommend me to join? Why do you recommend this specific site?

After pondering that for a bit, my reply was simple, yet honest. "OY! This is a WAY unfair question for many reasons! I know far too many amateur gals to choose just one website to throw out there. Besides, there are tons of niches and specialty websites that appeal to a certain genre. The best I can say is this: Look for a website that looks like it is actually updated; no sense in paying a recurring membership for a site that has ceased to grow. Personally, I tend to read through a website to see if I can glean anything of the gals personality in the text. Bland, impersonal, or cliche text generally means a bland, impersonal, cliche website. I also look for little 'tips' that the site I am looking at is a fake-amateur website. Does it look EXACTLY like a few other websites that I have seen? (I usually go to the "Webmasters" link and check that out a bit if I suspect it is not a genuine amateur website.) I have a quirky sense of humor and am very experimental, so I tend to be drawn to those websites which are unique. I also read what they offer with their website. I am frugal...how much am I getting for my dollar? How much of that content is static (pictures, stories, etc) and how much dynamic (cam shows, chats, etc)...just to see if there is going to be something live on those late nights when I cannot sleep. I look for lies, too. Does the amateur claim to be a pre-med student yet have half the words on her site misspelled? If they lie about their bio, how can I trust them to tell me the truth about their members content. Then again, I might just be a little anal retentive about this sort of stuff...LOL"

Also, make sure you know how to do things yourself! Do not rely on anyone else to take care of things for you. You never know when that person might not be available and leave you stranded...this goes for fixing your website as well as for pumping up your....ego....

I realize this is a bit rambling and chaotic, such is the life of most porn chickies! I hope this offers some insight for those debating venturing in to this biz, if not, I owe you 3 minutes of your life back! ;)

Having had the pleasure of knowing Kayla for a couple years now (I believe it was Joe's Crab Shack that I first had the pleasure of handling her boobs), I can state that Kayla definitely practices what she preaches.

If you have ever been to her place you know that she has it together and really takes care of her members. She has cams everywhere!! And her members area has more content than a lot of sponsors paysites I have seen.

Any aspiring cam girl would be well advised to become friends with Kayla, then try to squeeze every bit of info you can out of her.

Much respect Kayla. :thumbsup

David is a great guy too.

YAY KAYLA!!!!!!!!!! *hugs n cheap feels*

Hi Beautifulz (Tala & Kayla)

Sorry Tala, the questions are for Kayla though :P

ok first off ....DAAAAMN!!!! Mucho Caliente!!! ok now that I got that out

You say you started your first website in '98, Was this your Cam site? and if so, was it easy to get out there are popular or did it take awhile and also (yes a 2 parter) do you think it was a lot easier compared to now? I mean the way the internet porn industry has boomed within the last 8 years

And your cam house, behind the scenes, I myself have plans with a cam house....managability, hours, any legal issues, can you elaborate on this a little. How many cams do you have going? Are you the only one or do you have friends or special guests? Hours? Gimme the scoop Darlin :winkwink:

Uhm i need more coffee thats all i have for now....

Thank you for giving us an inside look of your portion of the industry....

Can i contact you on icq or something another time for further questions if necessary?

Ladies... :bowdown

2HP

Ok! It was, indeed, my cam site that I started back in the day...altho at that time, the cams were not initially 24/7. I did not start running my cam (at that time, I started with one 24/7 cam) until 1999. At that time, the market was easier and I had the distinct advantage as most sites were still using Webcam 32 for thier cam software. For those not grasping the concept here...I not only had a less diluted target market but I was one of the first to have streaming software and one of the first to have audio capabilities as well. While most sites were advertising an image every 30-45 seconds, I was blazing in comparison.

As for the current 24/7 cam situation...the legal issues are getting more and more complicated *grumble grumble* IF there is even a possibility that any adult situations will occur, I get 2257 info/releases signed. I allow no one under the age of 21 in my home. All guests are forewarned that I run my cams and that by entering my home they are agreeing to have their likeness broadcast via the internet. I currently run 6 cams 24/7 as well as a replay cam. I schedule 3 interactive cam/sex shows/chats a week. Sometimes these include guests (most often David). My show schedule is posted for my members and updated weekly.

Let's see...did I leave anything out? Oh! Feel free to ICQ me, I am ALWAYS invisible, otherwise I am overwhelmed by ICQ's from fans. Questions are always welcome...if I do not know the answer to what you ask I will do my best to refer you to someone who does!

Awesome... Thank you again Beautiful :pimp

Kayla never ceases to amaze me -- in person, she's just about the opppsite of what anyone would expect, given just a superficial glance -- which is, sadly, all most folks take the time for.

For the sort of person who has a difficult time accepting what Kayla does or what we all do, I would wish nothing more than that they find themselves on a bar stool or sitting at a bus-stop next to Kayla Quinn one day. You couldnt' help BUT be taken by her poise and intelligence -- to then discover, after you'd formed the only impression it is possible to form of Kayla, that she is a Sex Performer, you' be forced to reconcile your prejudices against a most instructive reality.

That is exactly what needs to happen to millions of people in the world every DAY, if we're ever going to turn the tide of mounting condemnatory pressure we face from both the Govermment and Private sectors.

The number of people who work in this industry is so small against the numbers who oppose us, we should all be doing all we can all the time to correct perception.

That is why I asked Kayla to come on the thread and permit a light to be shined on her -- I wanted to hold her up. Thank you so, much Kayla -- :thumbsup

2HP

First off, thank you! I am taken aback a touch! I had no idea I had made such an impression upon you, but I am glad that I managed to do so.


Second, I agree with you whole-heartedly...I am mentally recalling our conversation the other night and am tempted to elaborate...I am only not doing so because I hate to throw stones.

On that cheerful note...I am off to criss-cross America in a bar-hopping binge. Cross your fingers and hope I can convert enough of middle America in to supporting OUR side of this controversial lifestyle!

:winkwink:

Bumps for the cause..... :pimp

-Respect

Ok, didn't receive a response email... :( I'm gonna resend and put my gfy name in there.. I want/need some money...

I've been with Aaron many times when we're just out at a mall, eating dinner in a restaurant, hanging out. There is a certain panache, a certain 'something' he's got that allows women the freedom and safety to respond. He does not sound threatening. He knows when to back off. He 'reads' women and that is a rare talent.

So whats on the agenda? is school out for the holiday :winkwink:

Happy 4th ALL!!!!!

There will be a...







... announcement today -- :)



2HP

sorry to flake -- but, in my zeal to button-down the schedule for the week's Special Guest Discussions, i overlooked the fact that some folks might wish to pursue plans of a decidedly OFFLINE sort, today -- on the 4th of July -- lol -- @

the good news, however, is that i have now booked the next 3 Special Discussion presenters, and it looks to be a very "illuminating" week, at least for the impoverishedNOOBS -- if not for an even larger group -- :winkwink:




2HP

Bumps...

*note to admin.....unless i didnt see it you should make a couple smilies giving bumps....Respect....first thing i did when i was raising a kid was teach him to give bumps..... :winkwink: Funny and respect right away....he wasnt even two and he would insist on giving bumps :P ....anyway....yea....

I am very much looking forward to your Special Guest Discussions. I am also preparing to add much of what's been written to kblogger.com to help spread the word for all the 'impoverished noobs' and the vets who are listening.

As to the 4th of July being restorative, I wish.

I have five dogs who think they are in a war zone, which they are, during this holiday of holidays. While I'm all psyched that it's America's birthday, they are refusing to go outside to perform their duties as dogs...

Instead, they are cowering and quivering under beds, in corners, the entire weekend, which does become a flashy "let's buy out the entire display and get the loudest bang bangs manufactured and legally (some not so legally) permissable missiles of colour.

I begin to dread this holiday. As an adopted citisen, I adore my country, even with all that is happening within and beyond its borders; but, I do live in a neighbourhood which is filled to overflowing with cedar houses and very tall trees. Having to wet down my house, roof and grounds every day for an entire weekend is not my idea of fun.

And, now, back to the show at hand.

Jack. What have you got for us?

2HousePlague -

Apologies for not ICQ'ing earlier and will do so tomorrow. Just wanted to know your reply email didn't go unnoticed and I'd still like to discuss any ideas on contributions I could make, if any *shrug*, to this worthy cause.

Cheers man and, in my opinion, you're keeping to your word about keeping this discussion alive.

Thanks man.

bret

Exciting week (or what's left of it) for the impoverishedNOOBS.com, the Industry our Friends.

There should be 3 Special Guest Discussions over the next 3 days, if I can manage to bring them off, while working around 3 of the thickest DayRunners in our Biz. Keep your fingers crossed -- and watch the way that things are summed -- :)


2HP

:pimp

Well, that is great news. Halcyon is a perfect choice.

350........

..i wanted this intro on this page. :)

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When Jack approached me about writing for this project, I knew it would be fun. Consider this article is less of a ?how-to? and more of a ?what if??

What *could* the adult internet be?

I know that many people come to porn because they hear about the easy money.
But just like the gold rush days in California, these borderlands have treasure much more significant than the financial.

Woah, whoa, woah?.
Many reading this are probably already turned off. ?I just wanna know how to make money.?

I?m going to ask you to bare with me and hold off on that concern for just a moment. The great people in history -- and the great men of business -- allowed themselves to think bigger. And became bigger.


There is and will always be a market for traditional porn. By traditional, I mean, the business of pornographic imagery/video/audio packaged and sold to consumers who are hungry for (or addicted to) stimulating the primitive sex urges in their brain.

But we are on the cusp of a new type of ?porn.? I?m not even sure porn is the right word. Because it is more than a business.
If I wasn?t afraid of being burned at the stake, I might even say that this emerging model is more ?church-like.?

I?ll explain?


The adult industry has always been a borderland. A place for outlaws. Porn lives in the grey area where legality and morality intertwine. It is this unstable nature that makes it so exciting and fertile.

We all know that technology has always had an interesting relationship with the adult industry (see printing, see VCR, see?). But the adult-INTERNET relationship is something profoundly different.

This is because the Internet does 3 things:

1) It connects us.
Loooong ago, people knew they were connected. We have all heard stories of ?primitive? people who feel a connection to the earth and each other. But technology has slowly been pushing us apart. Making our lives more and more ?convenient? but also more and more solitary. In houses with 4 people, there are often 4 TVs. Think about that.
The Internet is an amazing tool to *RE-teach* us about the connections between all people. The internet is the first time we?ve been given a tool that actually allows us to see and hear people all over the world. Not movie stars on the screen. But our peers world wide. Live. This tool allows us to start visualizing ourselves as a part of the One. This is a Big concept, so I will just let it sit and continue.

2) It allows people to find their tribe.
The internet has allowed people to learn that they are not freaks. Whether you are a Furry, balloon fetishist, or golden shower enthusiast, the internet shows people that they are not alone. This cannot be over-stated. This is huge. Imagine the life of shame that a stuffed animal fetishist would endure if he thought he was the only one. Imagine the inner torture. The awareness that ?I?m not broken? is profound.

Now, one could argue that by erasing the traditional lines of traditional sexual desire, we have opened a Pandora?s box of depravity. I would argue that we are still early on in the pendulum swing response to our years of institutionalized repression and ?morality wars.?


3) It gives us our Community / Congregation
This is really an extension of number one. After you have the awareness that you are not alone, you slowly realize that you are a part of a group. Of course you have always been a part of a group. You?ve been an ?American.? Or a ?Catholic.? Or ?New Yorker.? Or whatever.
But generally, those groups are not chosen by you. And even though you did not CHOOSE to be an American, your socialization molds you into the image of an ?American.? I don?t want to get bogged down into the principals of sociology, but lets just say that sexual attitudes are definitely something that are given to you by this massive ?group? that you are a part of.

The internet has allowed us find geographically independent micro-communities. (GFY is an example of one.) And these micro communities allow us to re-define ourselves by new rules. Rules that WE choose.

This is a round-about way to say that the internet has given us the tools to break free of our socialization. We can reject the shame. We can reject anything that doesn?t come from within us.

And this is where the beauty of porn comes into play.

Porn is the one of the last outlaw territories. As I said, porn is the overlap between morality and legality.

In this grey area, things are less ridged.
In this grey area, people are ripe for consciousness change.

I see the self-run ?single girl sites? as the infant model for a new type of sexual congregation. It already is happening. People join Vanilla?s site or Sammy or Allie not because they are traditional consumers looking for a product. But because they are PEOPLE looking for a CONNECTION.

The ?model? is the pixilated pastor who gives weekly sermons in the form of sexual videos or webcam chats. Instead of consumers who are disconnected from the manufacture of a product they consume, the members are a part of something human. (I mentioned that this was "church-like." Members of a church put in money to support the growth of the church and the salery of the leaders.)

The word will turn many off, but I believe that the secret ingredient in this connection is LOVE.

As I said, I?m not talking about the existing business of porn. I?m talking about something new.







My art/sex/love experiment into this realm is a site called Pinkgasm.com that I create with my soulmate tASSy. It is a blog. It is a forum. It is a pay site, too.

With pinkgasm.com, tASSy and I have tried to present our sexuality as merely one part of a life philosophy. We see the website as something that chronicles a journey. And it?s a journey that we invite anyone to come along on.

If the journey is one that people respond to, they will join. Not ?join? like join a website??join? like ?alter their life path in the direction of the journey.? (Kinda like how people start joining Rocky as he runs down the streets pf Philly.) In a traditional porn site, you have thousands of members who are essentially isolated. But when the members are all part of a communal journey (including communal support) it builds a sort of spiritual inertia.

Whoa?Spiritual? I thought we were talking about sex?!

Exactly. Our sexuality is a source of massive power. It is no wonder we have been taught to be ashamed of it. To keep the volume down. To keep it out of sight.

The truth is we all are born with a massive sexual reactor inside us?a god-given mechanism for generating personal and spiritual power.

And I think that porn?could be?possibly?maybe? a way to empower the masses. This money-making smut could be the tools for social change and consciousness evolution.


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We as humans are much bigger than we know. And while our sex is just a part of the ?repressed power? we have inside us, I believe it is the easiest to access.

People that would never walk a labyrinth or meditate can understand the transcendence of sexual climax. Through this micro-communities, people can embrace their sexuality, and gain the momentum to embrace every aspect of their true selves.

I know this is a bit lofty for a conversation on porn. But that is exactly my point. We need to re-train ourselves to think more lofty. And there is no better landscape for this evolution than the potential-filled online porn industry.

Unfortunately, there is no list of steps, or content guidelines that will tell you how to do this. It can only happen when those in the pulpit are genuinely on the journey themselves.

So regardless of what you do to make a buck?see yourself on a journey. If you walk with righteousness and love, your story will be epic and your bounty beyond words.




p.s. I love you. ;)

p.p.s. check out FLASHCA$H for making CA$H in the current porn world.



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2HP

Hal,

Your insight into the human psychy always amazes me. Great post!

well done, Hal . . . of course, that was to be expected

Fucking amazing Halcyon, i was wondering if Jack had you up his sleeve somewhere ready to burst out in this message jack is trying to get to people....

And Ill say it again....Halcyon, YOU ARE an inspiration...

:thumbsup

that is so nice of you!

Thank you! Much appreciated! Jack has a way of getting the flow rolling... :)

You will be quite an act to follow Halycon but I am honored to follow you. Let's hope I can meet you on the high bar