Relationship Over. Getting Her to Leave. Help

[Paul Waters]

OK. I have been with this woman for almost five years. She moved in 3 days after our first date. I am now 47, she is 50. I fucked up big time, and deserve some shit for it.

It has gone bad. It went bad a long time ago. I used to travel a lot, so it was easier to go with the flow. But I am no longer boarding the planes, and I finally engineered the split which she resisted because she is too old to start again. Or so I thought.. She says she will not leave until she has enough to buy a place where she can live and do her pro-domme bdsm thing and rent out part to a border. If I write a cheque for 35,000 her ass is gone.

She has seen a lawyer and knows her legal claim is zero. But she feels that she deserves a shit load for making my life miserable for a long time. OK, that is me venting and she has her side as well.

But I need her ass out. I don?t want to line the pockets of a lawyer if I can avoid it. And my big concern is her nuking my stuff which a lawyer could not prevent. I have a life to lead, a main job to do, and a porn biz to do.

She has been gone on a holiday for two weeks and life was golden. She returned today and life is hell. She wants to keep sleeping in the same bed. I want her ass out, at least to the other bedroom. She went to bed, and locked the bedroom door. I went and added some things to her hosts file. But I am major not proud of that.

I just want this to end. I have owned my condo for 17 years, and want my home back, on my own.

I need help on how to make that happen. How do I get her out.

If there are a couple of babes in Toronto who will exchange a year of room and board for a minor war experience, I want to talk to you about moving in to the spare room!

[detoxed]

throw her shit in the street and tell her you'll kill her if she contacts you again

[Magg]

$35k and shes out of this world period.

[BRISK]

Originally posted by Paul Waters
She moved in 3 days after our first date.

WTF!

[siccmade]

My neighbors across the hall are moving out because they told the landlord that the smell from the weed being smoked in my apartment has her thinking she might fail a piss test because she's going to college for law enforcement shit.

Landlord doesn't care, because he's just moving them into another one of his places.

Try it

[Gheenz]

Originally posted by Magg
$35k and shes out of this world period.

I'll do it for $10k

[robfantasy]

say... "im unhappy, please respect that"

[siccmade]

Originally posted by NickHimself
I'll do it for $10k

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[Trixxxia]

My personal opinion is if she wants money to leave & you have it readily available - then get a lawyer to be part of this exchange & agreement and it's the end of the story. By waiting & by living seperate lives in the same house you'll just be driving eachother crazy & acting like miserable fools in order to spite the other. Not worth the emotional burden. Give her money & try to keep it civil.

[sandman!]

sell the place move out and tell her to to get lost.

she dont own the place and cant stay there if you sell it.


easy way out.

[detoxed]

Dont give her money, dont move, kick her fucking ass out.

[siccmade]

Just fucking stand there tappin your foot pointing at the door.

[Dagwolf]

Take a vacation in Uruguay together. Then leave and take her return ticket, credit cards and I.D. with you.

[jade_dragon]

Is her name on the lease?
Did you get married?
Did you put anything in writting?


If the answer is no to all of that then it is time to call the police and tell them you have a guest who you refuses to leave and you wish to prevent an argument. It is your word against hers on weither you even had a relationship (crossed into common law marriage a while back) or if you just allowed the woman to stay with you as a friend. The less paperwork her name is on the easier it will be for you. If you took care of the woman for all these years then she should be happy you did so, it is up tp you as a person to give her a parting gift, I think the price she has asked is a bit high, maybe 2 or so to move all her stuff and pay a month or so of the rent.

If she was so worried about being on her own and having to start over then maybe she should find a way to peacefully co-exist with you and make you happy. I do not know why you did not just change the locks and put all her stuff in storage while she was gone. Life is to short for that kinda shit and you seem to be in at an age where all the bs should be over and you should be enjoying your maturity in peace and quiet!

[SuckOnThis]

Dude its fucking simple.

All you need to do is just start being a major pain in the ass, and I mean major. Do everything you can to make life miserable. Shut the phone and cable off, keep the place cold as hell, or hot as hell. Super glue the thermostat to the hottest or coldest position. Sell the fucking TV. Make it so the washer and dryer don't work. Turn the hot water off so she cant take a shower. Bring hookers to the house and fuck them in your bed when she's there. Play loud music at 3AM. You get the idea. And when she starts bringing up she wants money to move tell her you've already talked to a lawyer and he thinks you have grounds to have her commited.

If that shit doesnt work call the cops and tell her she hit you and when she's in jail move all her shit out.

[Vitasoy]

Treat her like shit, let her sleep on the floor.

[sandman!]

you can also try fucking all her friends that tends to piss off females.

[jade_dragon]

Oh yeah, get a few of those little mini cams and set them up in the apartment to protect your assets, if she is bold enough to destroy your stuff with the cameras taping it all then you can sue her and all she can do it pay it or file bankruptcy but it will most definitely give you a case for kicking her out of the place and the police will be happy to do it.

[SuckOnThis]

Originally posted by jade_dragon
Is her name on the lease?
Did you get married?
Did you put anything in writting?


If the answer is no to all of that then it is time to call the police and tell them you have a guest who you refuses to leave and you wish to prevent an argument.

That won't work. The police will tell him if she has her stuff there then she legally has the right to be there and he will need to evict her.

[jade_dragon]

True it would have been easier if this was a not a private home and simply an apartment or rental property where you can simply show she is not legally able to stay there.

Perhaps he can have all her belongings catagorized and removed from the home and put into storage while she is not there one afternoon. She can not even prove she owned any of it in court unless she has receipts for it or he admits she had it, even then the judge can only speculate as to the depreciated worth of the items, this is in the case of a fraudulent claim.

Seems like eviction may be the only thing you can do, remember it has to be put in her hand by a sherrif's officer or an officer of the court, this is really easy if you are there and open the door and let the officer in because they can not enter unless someone answers the door or there is just cause to enter the home for other reasons, file now because it takes no less than 30 days for all of that to go into effect.

[Video-Post]

Originally posted by Paul Waters
I went and added some things to her hosts file.

[Video-Post]

Oh and simple solution: Call the cops and have her thrown out. It's your flat isn't it?

[Video-Post]

By the way, when she went on vacation I would have switched the locks and when she came back and made a scene in front of the door, call the cops and say someone was trying to break into your apartment. That oughta teach her

[aSStig]

plead to her saying "please get the hell out of my house".....

[PlayGirl]

Originally posted by SuckOnThis
Bring hookers to the house and fuck them in your bed when she's there.

[pxxx]

Originally posted by Magg
$35k and shes out of this world period.

Lmao, you can even find some that would do it for 20k.

[detoxed]

Originally posted by pxxx
Lmao, you can even find some that would do it for 20k.

A bullet costs less than $1, do your own dirty work.

[Chris]

if someone makes residents at your house

you have to EVICT THEM
that means
go to court

that simple.
canadian laws may be diffrent though

[hydro]

Originally posted by SuckOnThis
Dude its fucking simple.

All you need to do is just start being a major pain in the ass, and I mean major. Do everything you can to make life miserable. Shut the phone and cable off, keep the place cold as hell, or hot as hell. Super glue the thermostat to the hottest or coldest position. Sell the fucking TV. Make it so the washer and dryer don't work. Turn the hot water off so she cant take a shower. Bring hookers to the house and fuck them in your bed when she's there. Play loud music at 3AM. You get the idea. And when she starts bringing up she wants money to move tell her you've already talked to a lawyer and he thinks you have grounds to have her commited.

If that shit doesnt work call the cops and tell her she hit you and when she's in jail move all her shit out.

youd be suprised how well that works for getting rid of people seriously do all that and don't shower, or shower and get the cheapeast cologne you can and wear it by the gallons

[quiet]

i won't ever let a relationship hit common-law status (an issue in Canada at least) without a pre-nup. i learned my lesson, big time.

[Preacher]

Originally posted by Dagwolf
Take a vacation in Uruguay together. Then leave and take her return ticket, credit cards and I.D. with you.

LOL.... thanks for the laugh man

[dig420]

"Why are you here? You know I don't want you here. You'd think you'd want to go someplace and be happy. I'm not happy. You're not happy. I'll pay your first month's rent and deposit on an apartment, and that's all I can do. You're an adult, you're not my wife. You're responsible for yourself just like I am.

I have a chance at happiness, and I'm taking it. I'm sorry."

works every time.

[=^..^=]

Originally posted by Paul Waters

She has seen a lawyer and knows her legal claim is zero.

consider yourself VERY lucky then -
in australia if you live together for 3 months or more she's entitled to half - same as a wife

[AvanteGuard]

Originally posted by =^..^=
consider yourself VERY lucky then -
in australia if you live together for 3 months or more she's entitled to half - same as a wife

goddamn that would really suck.

[EviLGuY]

Originally posted by Paul Waters
OK. I have been with this woman for almost five years. She moved in 3 days after our first date. I am now 47, she is 50. I fucked up big time, and deserve some shit for it.

It has gone bad. It went bad a long time ago. I used to travel a lot, so it was easier to go with the flow. But I am no longer boarding the planes, and I finally engineered the split which she resisted because she is too old to start again. Or so I thought.. She says she will not leave until she has enough to buy a place where she can live and do her pro-domme bdsm thing and rent out part to a border. If I write a cheque for 35,000 her ass is gone.

She has seen a lawyer and knows her legal claim is zero. But she feels that she deserves a shit load for making my life miserable for a long time. OK, that is me venting and she has her side as well.

But I need her ass out. I don?t want to line the pockets of a lawyer if I can avoid it. And my big concern is her nuking my stuff which a lawyer could not prevent. I have a life to lead, a main job to do, and a porn biz to do.

She has been gone on a holiday for two weeks and life was golden. She returned today and life is hell. She wants to keep sleeping in the same bed. I want her ass out, at least to the other bedroom. She went to bed, and locked the bedroom door. I went and added some things to her hosts file. But I am major not proud of that.

I just want this to end. I have owned my condo for 17 years, and want my home back, on my own.

I need help on how to make that happen. How do I get her out.

If there are a couple of babes in Toronto who will exchange a year of room and board for a minor war experience, I want to talk to you about moving in to the spare room!

Next time she leaves.. change the locks.

[strats]

Originally posted by =^..^=
consider yourself VERY lucky then -
in australia if you live together for 3 months or more she's entitled to half - same as a wife

now there is a place for unappreciated american women

[blazin]

Originally posted by EviLGuY
Next time she leaves.. change the locks.

Exactly

[DarkJedi]

throw her shit out and change the locks.
seriously.

then sell the place and move somewhere.

[yys]

Your fucked dude!
She's lived with you for more then 2 years. If she can show any bills, i.e. credit cards, cellphone bills even banking statements coming to your address, or she can prove that she's purchased home furnishing's and such your common law in Ontario and she's entitled to half of your shit. Get yourself a lawyer as fast as possible.

[susanna]

WTF do you guys take on women who make less money then you? Get a gal with a life next time and she will be wondering how to get you the fuck out of her house.

[wyldblyss]

Originally posted by yys
Your fucked dude!
She's lived with you for more then 2 years. If she can show any bills, i.e. credit cards, cellphone bills even banking statements coming to your address, or she can prove that she's purchased home furnishing's and such your common law in Ontario and she's entitled to half of your shit. Get yourself a lawyer as fast as possible.

He is right! I have been there, done that. She gets 50% of everything you have and there isn't a damn thing you can do about it. I don't know how much you are worth..but if buying her a place to do her thing would be less than 50% of what you are worth....get a lawyer..strike a deal....she gets a place and signs off on any claim to your assets. If you think owning the condo before you met her means you get to keep it...think again. I owned my home prior and he managed to get a court order forcing me to put my house on the market so he could get his 50% out even though I had kids and no place else to go...he even managed to have it so that there was a 30 day closing. My home sold about an hour after it was on the market..I had 30 days to find a new place to live and no money to do so.

[LadyMischief]

I can come kick her the fuck out... I'm in that kind of mood right now.

[Nate-MM2]

If the laws in Ontario are the same as in BC regarding this (I assume they are nation-wide) she is your common law wife and DOES have claim to your stuff.

If you can settle it all for $35K (get it in writing!) cut the fucking cheque today!

Hope it works out...

[Nate-MM2]

As for the people saying treat her like shit, make her life miserable, etc, etc....

I may be a young guy but I'm old enough to know that a woman will win that war 9 times out of 10.

[LadyMischief]

Serious man look me up I have some angst

[NoCarrier]

Originally posted by jade_dragon
Is her name on the lease?
Did you get married?
Did you put anything in writting?


If the answer is no to all of that then it is time to call the police and tell them you have a guest who you refuses to leave and you wish to prevent an argument. It is your word against hers on weither you even had a relationship (crossed into common law marriage a while back) or if you just allowed the woman to stay with you as a friend. The less paperwork her name is on the easier it will be for you. If you took care of the woman for all these years then she should be happy you did so, it is up tp you as a person to give her a parting gift, I think the price she has asked is a bit high, maybe 2 or so to move all her stuff and pay a month or so of the rent.

If she was so worried about being on her own and having to start over then maybe she should find a way to peacefully co-exist with you and make you happy. I do not know why you did not just change the locks and put all her stuff in storage while she was gone. Life is to short for that kinda shit and you seem to be in at an age where all the bs should be over and you should be enjoying your maturity in peace and quiet!

Yup.. She can't do anything and you can almost sue her for extortion.

[NiteRain]

LOL, see my mother was right, once they move in, it will be hard to get them out. Especially, if you are a nice guy. Bad guys would have no problem throwing her out, an evil bastard would go to the police and file for a restraining order against her ass, and have the police come and tell her she has 15 minutes to grab what she can and get out. That way she can't come back around you without getting thrown in jail, and if she does, just keep reporting it, so when you have enough, call the police to take her away for aggravated stalking, which is 15 years in jail in Florida. Problem solved.

[Monk]

fake drama?

if they were in that situation... how could neither NOT know about the common law marriage rules? how could their LAWYER(S) not know?

[brand0n]

throw gasoline on her and light a big cigar.
hope this helps. always seems to work for me.

[Tom_PMs]

You said "she knows her claim is zero".

Do *YOU* know that? For a legal FACT? From a lawyer?
If the answer is No you dont, then you better educate yourself first and foremost. Take it from there once you know 100% solidly where you stand.