Desperately needs advice...chicks being with other chicks,is this considered cheatin?
 

ok, I am really in need of some advice.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and I dont want it to end on a silly thing.

last month at Internext I did some stuff with a chick, made out and went down on her. My boyfriend considers that cheating. For that he wanted to break up with me, I told him I didnt consider that cheating, but since he feels that way ill stop. He doesnt care, he says I cheated and wants to break up with me. Its been a month after and I thought we mended things out, but things finally blew up. I "should have" known that was considered cheating.


What im asking is first, are there any relationships where the girl is able to have female lovers, second, is it a common thing, third what can I do to mend this, I really love this guy and dont want it to end on such a silly mishap

Any feedback i can get will be appreciated, thanks.

Yes, of course that is considered cheating!

well yes its cheating...

if I fuck my dog its cheating...

if your boifriend got a blowjob from his male boss he would be cheating you...

:glugglug
Vegas

No it's not cheating, your boyfriend is gay.

pics?

Gotta agree with vegasdude though. If he went down on a girl, would that be cheating? If so, then why not for you?

Well, how about the fact that all my last boyfriends didnt consider it cheating, and we never discussed that.

No issues here. of course my morals were formed in the 60's.

No shit!

Next time invite him to join in, if he turns you down get a real man...

You can't compare guys to girls in this situation. It's the LAW, and its says that its OK for girls to fuck eachother. The only reason I'd be pissed off if my girl fucked around with another chick is if I wasnt invited to atleast watch.

Maybe you should have discussed it before diving into the girl's crotch?

What do bisexual girls do when they're dating a guy?

thats like the rule.. as long as its in another state its not considered cheating... :glugglug

Thjats the thing, i didnt know it was something to be discussed. All my other boyfriends didnt consider that cheating, theres some things a chick can give that a guy cant.

tells you want to make out with girls also...

I had a bi gurl once I told to to make up her mind cuz I ain't sharing my gurL with anyone... nor would I ever cheat on her!

please!

Be faithful?

Doh, you're right on that technicality. "What happens in Vegas, stays in vegas".

I couldn't agree with you more:Graucho

Please, that is so not cheating.

You should smack your man and say learn to eat some pussy correctly and then I wont need other girls.... :)

:1orglaugh :1orglaugh :1orglaugh

I live in Vegas.

Would you be pissed if he got a blowjob from another girl? (or guy?)

lol

Dont need to come across too harsh, but you need a reality check, you love the cock, and you love the pussy, the cock you have doesnt like the fact that you love the pussy, seems to me youre not the only one with a pussy in this relationship. Strap on a dildo and try fucking him in the ass, I bet you anything he'll take it with a smile. The guy is gay, how could you not accept something like this? Youre not gonna live forever and he's gonna pass this up? Doesnt make any sence.

Zoe I take it as cheating. Honestly how would you feel if he was with a man?

IMO doesn't matter if it's with a he or she cheating is cheating.

Good luck though :)

if he was bisexual? and he got it from a guy? I wouldnt care.

trust me babe if you ain't honest with him YOU will loose him. So take a talk with him!

I think its cheating for a few reasons. Mainly its a breech of trust.

Now to me it is cheating if your acts can lead to someone else getting an STD. (no condome/dental dam defenses either since they aint full proof, plus there aint no kissing condoms that i know of)

I remain monogomous unless there is an agreement between me and whoever I am dating...beit a man OR a woman...Think of it like this, if you had a gf not a bf and she gave a guy head, wouldn't you be pissed?

Well by definition:


mo·nog·a·my
n.
The practice or condition of having a single sexual partner during a period of time.

The practice or condition of being married to only one person at a time.
The practice of marrying only once in a lifetime.
Zoology. The condition of having only one mate during a breeding season or during the breeding life of a pair.

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mo·noga·mist n.
mo·noga·mous adj.
mo·noga·mous·ly adv.



However, I'm sure more than a few guys would just consider it HOT and not mind, but rather invite that action into the bed with themselves....

Sounds like your guy is more going off the solid definition of being with only one person...


Good luck with that though, doesn't sound fun :/

If he was bisexual it wouldnt bother me.

and if it was a girl???

I mean if he was BI man or woman should not matter to you...

yep!! i agree!!

Unless HE was in Vegas too....was he?

Ooops...just saw that you live in Vegas...you messed up, hun

He is just jelouse that u didn't invite him in to the action!!... ask him if he wants to join.!!

would it be ok for your bf to go down on archer?

Thats the thing! I now know he considers that cheating, and I havent been with a girl since, nor will i be with one while in this relationship.

Doesnt that count as anything?

Bi doesn't mean you have to have both male and female relationships at one time :2 cents:

It just means you like both. So if you're involved with someone you're INVOLVED with JUST that person unless you make an agreement.

Depends upon the relationship, and the boundaries you have established.

Anytime you don't understand what the boundaries are then you need to discuss it and find out.

No this doesn't mean you have to ask if you can go out with friends on Friday instead staying home with him, but you should discuss what would be considered inappropriate in your relationship with others.

It also depends upon the level your relationship is at. If you guys are just dating and it's not exclusive then you're free to do what the hell you want, hell you're free to do what you want anyway but you have to accept the consequences it brings.

But if you have committed to some kind of closed relationship where it's supposed to be only you two then you have violated his trust. If it wasn't discussed, it should have been.

Cheating comes in many forms.

Anytime you start to devote more time to activities, other people in your life than you do the one who is important to you, you are in a sense cheating them.

Let me clarify this. I am not saying you can't have other friends in your life, that you can't have hobbies.

A prime example would be my aunt and uncle's relationship.

He started to go fishing alot. Sure, fishing is fine in moderation. But this guy started to go all the time.
Even during holidays he would take off by himself right after dinner while the entire family was there.

Well this went on for many years, until he finally took that next step and started to bang his secretary.

Now his cheating went to a whole new level, but the simple fact is he was cheating on his family the entire time.

Just talk to the guy because if you like to reach for ladies time to time, you better talk with him if not it will never work...