one minute man in a 3-some... don't think so :1orglaugh

well im off to bed!

Hugs&kisses -> now take that talk with him!

Thats the thing!
If he was with a guy, I wouldnt mind, a guy has parts and skills i lack because im not male.

If he was with a chick thats considered cheating because im a chick, and whatever hes getting from her he should be getting with me

Nope...it sounds like it's too late :(
How long have you been with this guy? If it's a long time and even then I don't see how this topic of conversation never came up considering he knows that you're bi.

Now thats GAY!

(hows the phannie thing commin?)

No. I'd consider it cheating if my g/f kissed another guy/girl .. nobody touches my girl but me.

ah the FREE love 60's. You old goat.:winkwink: I was in Europe man was that fun

Yeah it sounds like he is scared of two girls at once...

Well maybe whatever you're giving to the girl you should be getting from him :2 cents:

Doesn't really matter what you alone think.

That's part of being in a relationship. Just because you wouldn't care if he gave a guy head, doesn't mean he thinks it's okay for you to be off jumping into bed with another chick whenever you feel like it.

Don't people in relationships discuss anything anymore?

ask dr phil

Yeah, just...I know it doesnt help anything, but it happened at one of those webmaster parties, i got a lap dance, she started kissing me, she shoved it in my face, there was nothing I could have done, really.

Grr.

not my definition...

I consider it cheating as soon as my gurl is getting down with another PERSON!

all the power if you can make your definition work !

Not every man wants to join in on a threesum :2 cents:
But thats just from personal experience.

Nothing you could have done?

C'mon.

I'm interested in hearing Zoe's answer to this one.

Hell 90% of the guys wouldnt have turned it down either

I think it depends on the relationship. If you never talked about it, and he considers it cheating, then it doesn't look good. If you had talked about it, I think what you did would have been acceptable in a surprising number of relationships.

Personally, I would worry more about your own relationship than what people on here think about it, though. He thinks it was cheating, and his position is certainly reasonable even if it isn't 100% obvious without a doubt. That means you two should probably work it out between you, with some apologizing, compromising, and learning done by each party.

Yeah or Dr. Drew.

He'd have a field day with this.

Before it was all broken down he'd have one, two or all three in the party admitting they were touched by an uncle.

For some reason I believe chicks being with chicks is different the chicks being with guys.

Then 90% of guys would be cheating.

You're starting to sound like some men LOL.
"I didn't mean to...his pants just fell off and I fell ontop of him"
Come on that shit doesn't fly anymore.

Cheating is cheating period.

Hmm, are you saying that being bisexual, means you <i>have</i> to have sex with both men and women? How would you feel if you found out he was sucking some guy's cock?

I think it's cheating. It's a betrayal of trust.

As has already been established what you think only applies to you.

As I was trying to say, no we didnt discuss it before, and yes I am willing to give up chicks while being with him. Its not the problem of me still wanting to be with chicks, i just want him to understand that i didnt consider that cheating at that time. Since I know now its cheating it wont happen again.

Supposing he thinks he should be allowed to bang every chick he comes across who sticks it in his face til "there's nothing he can do"?

Hell, he thinks it...it must be the way things go.

:thumbsup

Yeah sounds like the guy wasnt doing his job...
If he was she just likes women like alot of girls I have dated does

Regardless you have already violated his trust and that is something you will have to regain.

You might as well just kiss this relationship off because you're going to hear about this for as long as you're with the guy.

10 years later:

Zoe: How come you didn't put away the clean dishes?

Boyfriend: How come you ate that chick's pussy out in Vegas back in 2003?

Amen :thumbsup
I guess some ppl don't :(

i think everyone is missing the point to what im asking.

Im not trying to continue relationships with chicks.

Im asking, that since we didnt discuss before me being with chicks was cheating, did I still "cheat" on him

Since I know he considers it cheating now it isnt going to happen again.

If you've expressed your regret, apologies, etc etc etc, and willingness to work it out, that you love him, and all the rest that goes with that conversation, and he STILL wants to leave.

Then it sounds like he just 'wants to leave' :/

Maybe he just wants some space.... But if he's gonna carry this incident around with him and can't come to grips with it, then do you REALLY wanna deal with someone that will have this over your head from now until.....?.....


just something to think about....


He's gotta 'wanna' work it out....can't force that to happen as shitty as that may seem....


Good luck though and hopefully for you it's just a 'he needs time' thing...

If not, you've just learned a painful lesson :/

:1orglaugh

Understandable, its been a month and it still blows up.

Yes, you still cheated on him. Whether you think you did or not. Read the posts, you're ignoring what everybody is saying because you don't want to admit you were wrong. :2 cents:

If its been a month since then and he is still with you.....he wont go know where!

How can you be bisexual and think that? If you're truly bi, then it shouldn't matter if the person is male or female, right? You will have sex with either, so when you're bi, people are just people. In that case, no matter what side of the species you have sex with, it is cheating.


If he won't take you back, you'll just have to find a man that doesn't mind you doing the licky-licky every so often.

And for those of you who haven't had the pleasure of meeting Zoe..she's is extremely cute.

I feel violated because I didn't get to watch.

Ah. I see what you mean. Personally, I think he should give you another chance. Your standards fell into a pattern from past relationships, and your own feelings, so you made a mistake that went outside his boundaries.

A big mistake, but not a malicious one... Hell, you told him, and were surprised by his response, so it wasn't exactly everyday cheating.

Here's the problem. Fair doesn't always come into it. He feels you cheated, and he probably feels it is a matter of morality, principle, and perhaps even something like pride. The fact that you did it may be enough to ruin things for him, trust-wise-- even if you never did it again.

Apologies and repentence, even reforming, don't undo what was done. I think he should try to forgive, but I can also see where he might be coming from if he didn't. My best advice to you is not to appriach this as "I didn't think it was wrong", but more "I did wrong without knowing, and now want to work things out so I can stay with you."

As a poly person, I know how hard it can be to make sure everyone is on the same page. However, since you have decided to take a somewhat poly path in life, I think you have a responsibility to communicate more than you did.

I have been in this exact situation, the only difference was, we spoke about it FIRST.

I personaly don't consider it cheating, however by definition it is.
We came to an arrangement where she could do anything she wanted with another girl simply because it didn't bother me.

Guys that have problems with that I think are insecure, all jealousy etc.. comes from being afraid you will loose the girl or guy to the other person, or selfishness with your time.

Either way, its not a good personality trait.

If you wanna make up, you better have a long conversation with him about why he doesn't like it..

As for common, *most of my girlfriends tend to be bi, and I like the fact that they eat pussy, especialy if they invite me to a few munches too :1orglaugh

What are you jabbering about?
He didn't "do his job" because she decided to cheat on him? WAKE UP FUCKTARD.