Yes.

uhm...okay...you know what? uh-uh

Don't mistake your fucked up childhood for ours.

Youve never sounded so male before.

You sound like any of the males who live by the same creed and went down on chicks while their wives were at home.

A cheater is a cheater.

Don't listen to Satan, he's evil.

Yes, I am afraid you did. In my opinion, at least. Each relationship can have its own standard. However, if you fail to communicate about those standards, then I guess you have to default to the lowest common denomenator. You didn't intentionally cheat on him, but you did intentionally muff-dive, which I would have to say counts as cheating in a relationship where it hasn't been agreed otherwise. Poly lifestyle, whatever you choose to call it, is about communication and agreement.

Anyone seeking relationship advice from pornographers is doomed.

If this is what happened then thats her fault for treating every relationship the same :2 cents:


Still not an excuse.

What was it over your head?

I just know I would have been with my girl at a party like that... He wasnt so he must not be doing his job... Or dont give a shit and just playing mind games with her.

I am an Artiste, I tell you.

maybe its because they liked the idea of you sleeping with women. gender doesn't really make a difference as far as cheating goes. you go with someone else, you've cheated, plain and simple. whether or not your partner minds is a different matter.

one question though. how do you know your past boyfriends didn't think it was cheating when you never discussed it?

Fuck that I'm a smut peddler.

Oh yes because ppl in the porn biz don't have relationships. Please shut up.

Next

In your relationship, it's not cheating, because there is no violation of your trust. You've established "boundaries" other than the traditional kind in a relationship. That's definitely the way this situation should be handled from the start.

I really don't think zoe's boyfriend would be pissed off about this if it were discussed with him beforehand, and they agreed on what was okay and what was not.

I agree. However, it does help towards understanding. I guess I care about that more than blame.

WANTED

SWF willing to have a fun loving relationship with guy. Must be open minded sexually and willing to share girlfreind or girlfreinds with me. Must be willing to travel to exotic locations and enjoy passionate love making. Movies and fine dining not necessary.

If doing your job is being a possesive asshole, then yeah, you'd be doing your job. Did the thought ever cross your mind, that he <i>did</i> trust her to go to such a party on her own, and thats's why he's so pissed off?

Are you of legal age to even post here sweety?

I think it's called TRUST. Just because she goes somewhere with naked ppl doesn't mean her bf has to tag along. He trusted her and she broke that trust.
I think you have it all wrong. SHE MESSED UP WHICH MEANS SHE'S NOT DOING HER JOB not the other way around.
This is her issue.

OOOH BURN :feels-hot

They were the ones who brought it up

LOL


OH YEAH...100 BEYOTCHES!

Brains ,thank you :)

Im not possesive but must people know what happens at these parties anything can happen... And well it did

And you NEVER thought about bringing it up with him?
BTW how long have you been with him?

Yeah I know...crazy shit happened to me...I got fishooked by Dugmor...just wish they'd post the proof.

No no sweety anything doesn't just happen. People make things happen. Simple as that.

Shit just doesn't HAPPEN.
When you care for someone why would you even want to share yourself with another?

Pink I see your point but hell webmaster parties are wild with alot of wild sex... And yes Im 26

Yes its cheating and the first thing you need to do is stop acting like its nothing. Being commited to one person is just that. One person and thats it. You sux and he has every right to leave your ass. Would you mind if he was sucking someones dick?

Bottom line is your a fucking cheater and deserve being alone. Kudos to him for wanting to leave you. You just ruin somebody's life over your silly mishap. :2 cents:

LOL funny.

All I saw was a bunch of geeks with their digicams filming some hooker paid to put on a sex show.

If I was there and some girl/guy started giving me a lap dance or touching me and I didn't want it I would tell them to back off.
If I wanted something to happen and I had a bf/gf then I would have to deal with the consequences.

Ok, i cant take this, im going over to his place to try and mend this.


Thanks for all the imput guys.

Grr.

Yes I'm sure they are very wild but that doesn't mean let lose and pull down your pants and fuck everything that has two legs and a heart beat.

I think people draw the line a little too bluntly. Yes, it was cheating... but there are perfectly valid, loving, respectful, and even committed relationships that don't have those same boundaries.

That's the best plan. Best of luck with it, and Kudos for going that way. I hope you will do better with the communication thing in future. You've just seen why it matters.

and me:1orglaugh :1orglaugh

I'm bi-sexual and love to have sex with other women all the time.

Now if I did not have the blessing of the man I was with it would be cheating 1000%

We talked about it and set down the ground rules at the start.

So ALWAYS talk it over with your significant other BEFORE you do anything with anyone period. Female or male.

If you are truly bi, you will never be happy with the guy you are trying to keep. I would chalk it up for experience and find another guy to see and talk the bi thing out from the start.

Over the years the two of you will most likely build a resentment towards each other. It's already starting with him as your posts have shown.

You may love him quite a bit now and want to be with him forever. But what happens down the road, maybe years from now when you need to fill the needs of your bi sexuality?

Bi sexuality does not just go away.

Hugs,
Danielle

Let me get this stright... If your man buttfucked some dude in the bathroom behind the gasstation , then it's not cheating (?)

Cheating is cheating.. I don't give a fuck if it's with the same sex.. If you had the smallest amount respect for for man...you would have talked to him, before jumping in to bed with another person..

Sorry to say it... If he is braking up with you... it's your own fault.. You asked for it !!

You didnt go down on my wife did you? shes bi and we live in vegas.....

but she doesnt go down unless i have met the girl and give the a'ok.. its just a matter of respect...

hell, sometimes i jump in - but not always.. sometimes im just too tired....

but yes its def. cheating - you should of talked to him beforehand

Yes they're. But the boundaries in this relationship were never brought up.

I don't blame him if he doesn't want her.
I have been told (not like I didn't already know lol) that if I ever cheated male or female he would leave me wether or not we have kids.

And likewise for him.
When you start to date someone especially if you're bi these topics always come up. I don't see how they don't :2 cents:

I just don't understand why ANYBODY would let anybody they didn't know touch them in that type of manner.

Put the cheating aside for a few and think about this.
She prolly didn't know this girl she went down on and all of a sudden she's eating out her snatch !!

I guess some ppl have never heard of S.T.D's.
Or their body doesn't mean too much to them/don't think to highly of themselves.

:2 cents: :2 cents: