Is it cheating if a guy with a girlfriend gets a lapdance at a stripclub? - Page 3 - GoFuckYourself.com

Peter Romero · 05-11-2003, 11:58 PM

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phogirl69 · 05-12-2003, 12:08 AM

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Originally posted by toodamnfli
well when he beats his meat( and considering your poor sexual appetite hes doing it pretty often) do u consider that cheating?

What makes you think I have a poor sexual appetite? You don't know shit about me. I never should have started this thread.

TDF · 05-12-2003, 12:12 AM

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Originally posted by phogirl69

What makes you think I have a poor sexual appetite? You don't know shit about me. I never should have started this thread.

finally we agree on something! From your rants I can tell you either have no backbone or your sexually frustrated,but more than likelya combination of both

Kanoealoha · 05-12-2003, 12:16 AM

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Originally posted by toodamnfli

From your rants I can tell you either have no backbone or your sexually frustrated,but more than likelya combination of both

yeah he's right get NEW DICK!

vegas2003 · 05-12-2003, 11:21 AM

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Originally posted by TheFLY
My main attraction to strip clubs is the psychology of it all... especially in Vegas you get some very creative women... Some of these women are extremely smart -- and unraveling their lies and movements is like solving a beautiful jigsaw puzzle... Do you think it's just tits and ass when guys throw down a few grand? Who wouldn't pay for a masterpiece of seduction? a stripper can appeal to all of your senses. Most every lap dance I ever got I remember vividly... the stripclub is like a dreamland -- -- you pick your girl -- have your personalized dream -- then you wake up... no strings attached.

Other selling points of a smart strip club is that the women are there to be compassionate... lots of guys need affection, someone to give a shit, or maybe some soothing for whatever neurotic problem... but most of these women have troubled lives themselves... so it's a sort of fucked up therapy session... the women get to pretend they are somebody else -- they are admired and adored... the men drool and then the strippers use borrowed or personalized methods of exploitation... a real legitimate stripper will profit from dishing out the truth... The truth is worth good cash if the clients are there to appreciate it... what could be more honest than seduction purely for the sake of seduction... no wedding, no flowers, no diamond ring... just pure poetic seduction as convenient as fast food.

you have crystallized the experience perfectly-I agree 100%

Buff · 05-12-2003, 11:25 AM

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Originally posted by phogirl69
Well, is it??

I think it kinda is, because he's getting his dick grinded by some other girl, and what if he has an orgasm or something? Isn't this cheating?

Cheating occurs in the mind (heart) before any physical activity takes place.

Or maybe that's just some sentimental bullshit some woman told me.

Either way, I've never had an orgasm from a lap dance -- at least not at the time of the dance. Later on, I might have jerked off thinking about the chick(s) or actually fucked them, but most dances are too short to finish the job, especially through pants.

theking · 05-12-2003, 11:28 AM

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Originally posted by phogirl69
Well, is it??

I think it kinda is, because he's getting his dick grinded by some other girl, and what if he has an orgasm or something? Isn't this cheating?

Anna Nicole???

Stamm321 · 05-12-2003, 12:24 PM

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Originally posted by FATPad
Depends. Are you going to have fun and hang out? Or are you going to sit there with a clipboard writing down infractions?

I have no idea what your relationship is like. Maybe he just wants a night out? If you two spend every night and day together then a night out is good. If you two don't do anything together at all, then this may not be so good.

All the stupid smartass comments aside, you two have to find what's right for you...not what's right for a group of people on an adult messageboard.

No Fatpad, she needs to do whats right for US in this relationship.. or else were gonna break up with her!!

Eric · 05-12-2003, 12:49 PM

This is all about acceptable behavior inside of a relationship. A girl and guy agree that certain things are acceptable. If they agree that a lap dance is not, then yes this is cheating. But in some cases a couple may agree that they can fuck other people as long as the other person is present. And it goes both ways. That is not cheating. Cheating is basically doing something that you are not suppose to do. But if it is ok. How can that not be cheating. Hell your girl may get off on watching some other chick wax your johnson while she masturbates and blows the guy from down the street. If you are both ok with that. How is that cheating? It is all about perspective.

beavis · 05-12-2003, 12:57 PM

Some of those strippers do all kinds of shit back therer when they are getting a lap dance.

I got head before and did not even ask for it and did not pay extra.

gregtx · 05-12-2003, 04:19 PM

Is whacking off to a computer cheating too????

Lapdances are harmless and fun...

My old lady says... I can look at the menu all I want.. as long as I cum home to eat....

Yo Adrian · 05-12-2003, 04:21 PM

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Originally posted by vegas2003
it is not CHEATING, but it's a shitty thing to do to your gf-

What are you kidding? Getting a lapdance isn't a big deal at all, if your girlfriend thinks it is then you need to start looking for a new one...

stocktrader23 · 05-12-2003, 04:33 PM

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Originally posted by phogirl69

No, if a guy cares about a girl he should respect what she's comfortable with, and if she's not comfortable with something he
should respect that. I don't feel it's a huge thing for a guy to give up, I feel it's something minor, it's not like I'm asking him to buy me a fucken car or go to the moon or anything, it's a small compromise, and if a guy cares about a girl he should be willing to sacrifice to make her happy.

Oh, so you compromised and let him go? I can name about 50 things that should be no big deal for my wife to give up, but any one of them would cause tension. Get over it. If he wanted to be out fucking other girls why would you want him anyway.

Jerry
Jerry
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Roald · 05-12-2003, 04:44 PM

No problem at all, it's not like you fuck her or anything. It's just some entertainment

basschick · 05-12-2003, 04:52 PM

if you haven't made this a part of your relationship, and both he and you consider your relationship exclusive, yes - it's cheating.

most of the men i know who say to their gf/wives "oh, honey, it's not cheating" go fucking insane if their woman does the shit they do at the strip clubs. apparently it's only not cheating if you're a man *LOL*

don't you believe that bullshit about "if you excited him at home, he wouldn't go to strip clubs". i've seen guys with boring wives i can't imagine why they're with who never go to strip clubs, and guys with gorgeous, exciting, sexually on wives who greet them at the door in sexy lingerie or go to dinner with no underwear and masturbate under the table, then have him taste her finger for dessert. a guy that wants to have sexual contact with other women is going to do it no matter what you do or don't do, and whether you like it or not. find someone who shares your opinion of what a relationship is. why compromise about the person you share your life with?

Libertine · 05-12-2003, 05:17 PM

Whether it's cheating or not depends on what a couple has agreed upon. Nothing more, nothing less. However, if you agree to something you don't feel comfortable with, it is just as likely to fuck up your relationship as cheating is.

Personally, I stick to the "look don't touch" rule. Every straight man looks at women, however, any kind of non-casual touching - ranging from lapdances to kissing other women to fucking other women - is in my opinion essentially sex. I love my girl too much to even want to do that.

Thorin · 05-12-2003, 05:37 PM

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Originally posted by muchmoreporn
cheating can be debated, some couple let others fuck others is that cheating "no" but if your girlfriend doesnt want you at the strip bar its disrespectful and considered cheating. your doing something that in her eyes is not allowed.

This is the best response so far...

It's cheating if either partner says it is. If you can't agree on it then that's a strong case for why you might not be right for each other.

*Anything* is fine between conscenting adults, but it always takes two to tango.

liquidkid · 05-12-2003, 05:43 PM

phogirl69 - Your boyfriend won't think that hard about whether he should get a lap dance or not because he knows it doesn't mean shit, its the strippers job; he was probably out with his buddies and got a lapdance as did all his friends. You can't blame him for that...he's just havin fun.

Not allowing a guy to the strip club is like telling him he can't look at porn. Have some confidence in yourself and know he is coming home to you and not the stripper.

pink_in_the_middle · 05-12-2003, 06:21 PM

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Originally posted by LadyMischief
If my old man went out to a strip club and DIDN'T get himself a kickass lapdance, I would smack him upside the head so hard when he got home his dick would invert. WTF? WHO CARES! He's not sticking his dick in her, it's masturbation with more visual stimulation, and with his clothes on. What's the big deal? Cripes. He's bringing the sexual energy home to me. *drool* (Side note, I almost ALWAYS go to the strip club with the guys, I get the lap dances free)

Do you even have a choice ;)

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05-12-2003, 12:49 PM	#109
Eric Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: The Helm! Posts: 8,818	This is all about acceptable behavior inside of a relationship. A girl and guy agree that certain things are acceptable. If they agree that a lap dance is not, then yes this is cheating. But in some cases a couple may agree that they can fuck other people as long as the other person is present. And it goes both ways. That is not cheating. Cheating is basically doing something that you are not suppose to do. But if it is ok. How can that not be cheating. Hell your girl may get off on watching some other chick wax your johnson while she masturbates and blows the guy from down the street. If you are both ok with that. How is that cheating? It is all about perspective. __________________ No One

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05-12-2003, 04:44 PM	#114
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05-12-2003, 04:52 PM	#115
basschick Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: el lay, ca usa Posts: 2,540	if you haven't made this a part of your relationship, and both he and you consider your relationship exclusive, yes - it's cheating. most of the men i know who say to their gf/wives "oh, honey, it's not cheating" go fucking insane if their woman does the shit they do at the strip clubs. apparently it's only not cheating if you're a man LOL don't you believe that bullshit about "if you excited him at home, he wouldn't go to strip clubs". i've seen guys with boring wives i can't imagine why they're with who never go to strip clubs, and guys with gorgeous, exciting, sexually on wives who greet them at the door in sexy lingerie or go to dinner with no underwear and masturbate under the table, then have him taste her finger for dessert. a guy that wants to have sexual contact with other women is going to do it no matter what you do or don't do, and whether you like it or not. find someone who shares your opinion of what a relationship is. why compromise about the person you share your life with?

05-12-2003, 05:17 PM	#116
Libertine sex dwarf Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 17,860	Whether it's cheating or not depends on what a couple has agreed upon. Nothing more, nothing less. However, if you agree to something you don't feel comfortable with, it is just as likely to fuck up your relationship as cheating is. Personally, I stick to the "look don't touch" rule. Every straight man looks at women, however, any kind of non-casual touching - ranging from lapdances to kissing other women to fucking other women - is in my opinion essentially sex. I love my girl too much to even want to do that. __________________ /(bb\|[^b]{2})/

05-12-2003, 05:43 PM	#118
liquidkid Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Sacramento Posts: 219	phogirl69 - Your boyfriend won't think that hard about whether he should get a lap dance or not because he knows it doesn't mean shit, its the strippers job; he was probably out with his buddies and got a lapdance as did all his friends. You can't blame him for that...he's just havin fun. Not allowing a guy to the strip club is like telling him he can't look at porn. Have some confidence in yourself and know he is coming home to you and not the stripper.