I need your help. Urgent!
 

So for the past few months I have been trying to make some $ to help my girlfriend who, back in October of last year, was diagnosed with cancer (stage 4 chondrosarcoma). Of course, I ended up failing at this so I decided to try using gofundme . com to help, but so far not much has happened with this. All I want to do is help and I have tried finding work, but this did not work.

You can read more at http://www.gofundme.com/

I don't expect much to come from this, but figured I have nothing to lose posting this here. Sorry for bothering you all with this. I'm just very stressed out. I have already tried the people on my facebook via private msgs since I did not want to put this on my facebook page, but that didn't help and I can understand why. So many of us are going through hard times.

I've been helping the best I could with the low amount of $ I have\make, but this is not even coming close to actually helping. We have looked into many things locally, but so far nothing has helped very much. Anyway, I won't keep babbling on an on. You can go to http://www.gofundme.com and read a little more.

Again, I'm sorry for bothering you guys.

man that wont cover cancer :2 cents::2 cents: good luck ( my god have had a bunch of family die from cancer 3 of 4 of my grandparents) dood ill buy her some goodies (snacks) and spa shit if you email me :2 cents:

no, it won't cover cancer at all, but anything is better then nothing in this case, The stress level around here is very high and I have to do everything that I can to lessen her stress so she can at least feel a little happier with whatever amount of time she has left. She won't be getting any treatments since they won't actually do anything positive for her.

uhhhh marriage to start sinner :disgust put a ring on it :2 cents::2 cents:

I wish you the best of luck, however stage 4 of any kind of cancer? I am not sure there is a dollar amount that would help with anything. My best advice is to seek welfare or something. Any donations here are not going to cure cancer. Ask her family, sell your car, stop posting here and shut off your internet and save that monthly bill. :2 cents:

Good luck.

This $ would definitely not stop anything, but it will help with some of the things that are stressing her out the most right now. We have already got rid of a few things to lower her monthly expenses. neither of us have a car. the internet is not a huge expense so this would not solve or help anything. All I am doing is trying to get some temporary help while we wait for the other stuff happening financially to come through for her.

I'm not expecting anything that will be the savior of everything because that would never happen.. to anyone.. This is a short term solution for the current problems. Once everything else comes through in the next 3 months it will make things a little bit easier. Not perfect, but better then what it is at this time. But in the mean time I have to fix the stuff happening right now. This can't wait 3+ months.

My wifey and I wanna send you a little bit this weekend. We don't have much while going through her own post-cancer treatments and just finding out she needs more surgery for prevention, but I'll see what we can do since we totally get your frustration and kind of feel your pain, man. Cancer turns everything upside down... everything... money won't help her situation but at least it can make her remaining days and YOUR remaining days with her at your side a bit better, even if its a few bux for treats you can both enjoy.

I had noticed that success of gofundmes are a tough go. We did well around 2500 + private donations but it takes time. Give it time.. many people only donate later whilst they cannot when you first show it to them.

You should put up a photo of you both, makes it more personal and even strangers stumbling on your fund page will help. People want to connect with the people needing the assistance.

There's nothing I can say to make anything better, but we're thinking of you both here man. My heart breaks.... Hang in there Yngwie

Thank you very much. Cancer has really messed things up for sure. We never expected something like this to happen. At least not this soon, but now I'm just doing whatever I can to keep her happy. As hard as it is I will not give up.

bump and have luck both of you!

I have had the gofundme campaign up for a little over 1 month so I am being patient as I know things take time. I will talk with my gf to see if she would be ok with having her picture on there

Muchos LOL's you idiots are actually falling for this ?????

Thank you TeenCat.

If you honestly think that I would make up some bullshit about my gf having cancer you need help. I've never made up anything in my entire life in order to get $. If I would have found a job by this point I would not have even started this thread. I would have used the $ that I made from the job to help her with everything.

I wish I was making this up. At least that would mean that I would not be losing her. So think what you want.

Read the story, why aren't you at least living together? If you have benefits, marry her; nothing to lose, everything to gain.

living together is being talked about, but we have to get everything in order before that happens. Once we get to live together this will lower monthly expense. We're going to have to find a whole new apartment since hers or mine will not fit our stuff, but I'm in the process of trying to find an available apartment in this town that doesn't cost us a fortune.

Just have her move in. Why do you need a new apartment; it isn't like this is a long term commitment.

I'd have to move into her place since her place is bigger then mine. With the stuff she has (medical stuff) it would never all fit in my place and that is stuff she can't go without. In either case we will work something out.

You never fail to amaze me. You truly are a piece of shit.

Are you both Canadian Citizens? Wouldn't medicare cover a lot of costs?

I decided to not comment to that since it's already hard enough knowing that I'm, going to lose her and not knowing when that day will come that having people make comments like that doesn't help one bit. All I was doing with this is asking for help while I try to do what I can on my end. Nothing more, nothing less.

As I said, medical costs are taken care of. We're not worried in that area. At least for now all medical stuff involving her is covered.

Sorry, must have missed that

My advice would be if you want to solicit donations, putting up some personal information would help a lot as people would be able to connect something personal.. Maybe tell a bit about yourself

Where you from in Ontario? Love it out there

I'm in Sudbury, Ontario. This is just hard for me to deal with since I lost my dad back on May 12 last year and not too long after my gf gets diagnosed with cancer. My mind hasn't been 100% since. But ya, I'm from Sudbury, live there my whole life,. I'm 40, have 1 younger bother and 1 younger sister. 2 nephews and 1 niece. Started the porn stuff back in 1997.. Did good for a few years, but as of 5 years ago, not so much. Been with my girlfriend for a very long time.. 15+ years..

Sorry to hear about this. I hope it all works out... I think Rob posted this list, maybe worth checking.
How To Get Your Projects Crowdfunded And Created: The Kickstarter Alternatives | Fast Company | Business + Innovation

People adding other sites into the comments. Its old but...

I agree, photos, as much personalization...Maybe offer links to foundations who treat her type of illness. Shows you are earnest and sincere. Might make people trust it more...

And lastly, if it is indeed short term, put your stuff in storage and take a suitcase to be with her. Moving is super stressful anytime. I can't imagine trying to do it in a time like this.

Best wishes...

How come you have no pictures of you with your girlfriend on your facebook?

Sorry about your dad

hope she gets better soon..

Shit man I'm sorry to hear. Hit me up and I'll donate. If you're bullshitting karma will rip your nuts off

I know this will sound very odd, but we've never actually taken any pictures together. Ya, very odd, but we spend so much time together that pictures was not something that we thought of. At this point I'm kind of regretting that, but it is what it is.

Not worried about karma in this case since nothing about this is bullshit.

You've dated her for 15 years and you dont have a single picture with her?

Have you posted the gofundme link on your facebook ? might help

hope she gets better soon..
best wishes.

No, I haven't posted in on my facebook. I msgd people on my facebook privately and gave them the link and other info. I kept this private. I know that seems crazy, but it's out of respect to my gf. I'd explain the reason behind this, but this was her wish and I am respecting that.

And no, no pics.. There may be some from 13 years ago or so but I will have to look for these. I know that there are boxes at her place that may have some older stuff in them so I will check those.

Ok no offense, and I hope I'm completely off base here

but by looking at your facebook

You have about 25 family members linked to it, most of whom have open profiles
Your profile is open
On none of your pics is there any mention of a girlfriend, no comments about a girlfriend, no comments that appear to be your girlfriend
None of your family members have pics of you with a girl who could be your girlfriend
None of the pics you are tagged in on your family pictures mention a girlfriend
None of your family members have posted this gofundme
Nothing written about anyone being sick with anything
You have no full name listed on your gofundme page
You have no picture on your gofundmepage
You have no pictures of a girl you dated for 15 years, but hundreds of pictures of other things

Again, I hope I'm wrong, but I would just hate people to get taken advantage of

If you like, I could message a few of them to confirm the story, and if it is legit I'll personally donate 200

Sound good?

I can understand how that would look suspicious, but on my facebook I chose to keep 99.9% of my personal life off of it and my family is fully aware of this. They haven't posted anything about gofundme because I told them not to. In either case, as I mention, I can see how this can look strange, but I would never and have never taken advantage of anyone.

I do things more privately because my gf wants it that way. I can go on and on and on explaining why, but it's just how she is and I will respect that. I do know that all this privacy and lack of things is not helping the cause, but I just wanted to try another place that may have been helpful so I posted here.


All I can say is that I am being 100% honest. I have no reason to lie and would never take advantage of anyone.

the one person on my facebook who would be able to confirm this is my mom. my aunts, uncles, cousins know a little - not much, but my mom knows everything since I tell her everything

Get her weed. Use it smart. It helps. It cures. Hemp oil and raw weed heads with carrots juice. CBD programs cancer cells to commit suicide while keeping and helping healthy cells. Do the research and act now. There is no time to waste.

They know what I told them in pm's, but my mom is the best source to know for sure if it's legit.

So Andre doesn't know ?

I just find it odd how you say you messaged everyone privately, but only your mom could confirm this

edit: If your goal is to raise money, why are you not posting this on your facebook page and having you family do the same? I guarantee you'd hit your goal overnight. Something doesn't make sense.

I have no problem with people having their own beliefs about things, but don't be a fucking idiot. Weed does not cure cancer, and people like you are the kind of people who convince others to not use scientifically backed medicine in exchange for home made remedies which can lead to people dying.

If you want to say "try weed, it may alleviate some of pain/appetite issues" go for it, but don't say something as dumb as "weed cures cancer"

check your pm's

The weed and dietary changes are only effective on certain types of cells and in very rare cases.

I'll explain why.

Nothing "programs" them to commit suicide. Remember, cancer cells are errant dna-driven and gene-driven cells that the body cannot properly interface with via protein receptors and chemical signals due to extreme mutations much like extremely aged cells. Our scientists can barely even interface, the deformation of the cells going arrant are just too random from person to person.. no two patients cells are exactly alike in their deformation.

THC, CBD and the general compounds in weed are merely used to raise the alkaline levels in the body to a point where fast-dividing cells cannot effectively multiply and create stronger offspring cells. Same with dietary cures. This is actually how some chemotherapy treatments work, but on a much much more grandeur scale and employing blockers tailored to specific cancers receptors. Even the few cases where CDB interrupted receptors, it was only for very very specific cancers.

I'm not saying it doesn't work for the ones it has worked for though. It CAN work for some cancers known to us already and some that we dont know it works on yet but really, why not try it anyways, right?. But... it's also dangerous in believing it's a "cure" all by itself because its a mix of changes in diet, prognosis, physiology of the affected tissue areas, general health, determination and sheer luck that comes into play. Just like there are cancers that chemo cannot effect, either, if the body is just unable to fight it or unable to replace the vital tissues in the area, weed wont do anything good, except make life a little better until its time to go on the next journey.

Anyways,

If anything, my advice in regards to ingestion and self-cures... try it.. you have nothing to lose, but changes in diet and using natural cures may (and likely will) prolong a better quality of life (which is totally worth it). And for the lucky few, it may just work.

We are in wild age of medical advances for cancer treatments. So many viable options and so much more research to do. I just hope something simple that works is found soon, because enough's enough... too much cancer. My community is full of it and even many of my family in ontario have suffered its effects...

(and yes, this was long-winded, but I also believe Yngwie needs this at the top of the page to get people to read his plea and that I think people who suggest these cures need to take facts into consideration when giving advice on such a sensitive situation)

Just sayin', I think you need to chill out Sam. He's already explained this all.

The simple fact is, if this was fake, he would do jail time being that he is in Canada. This shit doesn't get taken lightly and can end very badly for him if he was making this all up. Scams like this dont get pulled very often. I believe he's genuine, but I also beleive that he is very private and not fully divulging the circumstances of his relationship to her - which is his business and her business alone.


Believe or not, support him or dont.

We are both pretty private people, but no, I would never make something like this up. I'm not that crazy that I would risk going to prison over a few measly dollars or even millions of dollars. We keep our lives pretty private.. between her and I.. It's been that way for a very long time and we prefer it that way. This is why I haven't divulged every single little thing.

If there's one thing I hate the most, it's people's generosity being taken advantage of. I'm not saying that's what he's doing, but I think I'm askinf valid questions. I understand that people value their privacy, and I'm the same way. That being said, when you ask for donations you should be willing to provide people with some sort of proof instead of a page with not even a name.


It's not like I'm just trying to troll his thread. Cancer is a bitch. When there can be proof given I will donate 200 like I said.

Just to keep everyone updated

He private messaged me a name of his mother on facebook and said I could message her to confirm. I asked if I could message his brother / sister to confirm as well and he said yes

He then messaged again saying that his family doesn't know about the go fund me page because he never showed it to them since he knew they wouldn't be able to help out. In this thread he implies he has sent them the link and the reason they haven't posted anything on their facebook walls was because he asked them not to.

In private message he told me his girlfriend doesn't know he's doing this.

In here he has implied she does know he's doing this.

Take that for what you will. I'm going to sleep

yes, I did say that I pm'd people on my facebook, but I did avoid some since I knew that they would be able to help and some of them were family so I did not want to bother them. Also, I didn't say that my gf knew that I was doing this. I'm doing it FOR her yes, but she doesn't know about this. I'm sorry if I said anything that made it sound like she knew.

In either case, everyone is free to ignore my thread completely. I don't want my whole life out in public so I left some stuff out. I do understand that some info is needed and I could have easily made my facebook completely private, but it's wide open. Not hiding anything. Just keeping MY and HER life more private.

Dude I wish you all the best in life, good health and fortune for your gf, your family and your friends.

But I fucking loathe threads like this. So I have to say that two years ago you said you were getting out of this industry when you let the sites expire you sold links on. You are still around. So you aren't exactly trustworthy.

Also if you want to keep your life and her life private, don't ask for help on a public forum.

Bump for a fellow Ontarian.

With all that sonofsam has posted this is starting to feel like nocarrier v2.0. We need the gfy detectives on this ASAP.