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Naughty · 12-20-2007, 04:14 AM

She's the mother of my baby son, she left me and had a new boyfriend after about a week or so because she cannot be alone for more than one week.

Same when I met her, there was about two weeks of "alone" time between me and her ex bf.

Anyway ...

I think i pretty much accept that we're not a great couple, but sex-wise we were and now she is giving all that to somebody else. I visualize her having sex with this guy all the time. I hate it and cannot get rid of those visualizations. They're killing.

How does one get over those? Please do not say start fucking somebody else, I'm not ready for that, I tried but it is not the way for me.

I'm an idiot.

96ukssob · 12-20-2007, 04:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Naughty

She's the mother of my baby son, she left me and had a new boyfriend after about a week or so because she cannot be alone for more than one week.

Same when I met her, there was about two weeks of "alone" time between me and her ex bf.

Anyway ...

I think i pretty much accept that we're not a great couple, but sex-wise we were and now she is giving all that to somebody else. I visualize her having sex with this guy all the time. I hate it and cannot get rid of those visualizations. They're killing.

How does one get over those? Please do not say start fucking somebody else, I'm not ready for that, I tried but it is not the way for me.

I'm an idiot.

that sucks, im sorry to hear that. ive been there myself a few times and its not easy. I think the best way to get over it is to honestly move on as hard as it is. go out or just start talking to people, it will get your mind off it.

Naughty · 12-20-2007, 04:19 AM

I go out 3 times a week, the other nights I am with my baby (15 months old). Talk to a lot of people and try to enjoy life as much as possible.

I doesn't help though, it has been this way for 5 weeks now. I cannot break ties with her either, because of our child.

Oracle Porn · 12-20-2007, 04:20 AM

don't visualize it....it wont do you any good....

start doing other stuff....its kinda hard if you work at home but go out and get busy....and go fuck other girls....not ready? what the fuck?

Oracle Porn · 12-20-2007, 04:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Naughty

I go out 3 times a week, the other nights I am with my baby (15 months old). Talk to a lot of people and try to enjoy life as much as possible.

I doesn't help though, it has been this way for 5 weeks now. I cannot break ties with her either, because of our child.

you were stupid to make a child with her in the first place....press the undo button a few times.

WiredGuy · 12-20-2007, 04:22 AM

If your not ready to be with someone else, keep yourself distracted. Go work out, find a hobby, work on business, just keep yourself occupied to the point that you don't have the time to think about your girl.
WG

uno · 12-20-2007, 04:25 AM

Get busy with the work. Drown yourself in it. When you're not working,. go out with friends, meet new people, etc. If she has any money I'd see if I could get her to pay child support.

killerkay · 12-20-2007, 04:35 AM

been there, youll get over it eventually in time

Naughty · 12-20-2007, 04:37 AM

I have more money, I supported her so she could go to school. I'm thinking about getting full custody though.

I have all the answers that should work in theory, but it is not as easy in real life, haha.

and Oracle, not ready: Yeah, it happens to me when I am in love. I'm a sucker when it comes to romance;/
I wish it were different.

themonk · 12-20-2007, 04:39 AM

watch porn all the day ..

Naughty · 12-20-2007, 04:40 AM

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Originally Posted by themonk

watch porn all the day ..

I tried, made it even worse

hateman · 12-20-2007, 04:47 AM

I suggest that you audition for Jerry Springer.

[ Nate ] · 12-20-2007, 05:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Naughty

She's the mother of my baby son, she left me and had a new boyfriend after about a week or so because she cannot be alone for more than one week.

Same when I met her, there was about two weeks of "alone" time between me and her ex bf.

Anyway ...

I think i pretty much accept that we're not a great couple, but sex-wise we were and now she is giving all that to somebody else. I visualize her having sex with this guy all the time. I hate it and cannot get rid of those visualizations. They're killing.

How does one get over those? Please do not say start fucking somebody else, I'm not ready for that, I tried but it is not the way for me.

I'm an idiot.

Jack off when you think about it. The 'emotion' will slowly change into a new fetish.

Emil · 12-20-2007, 05:46 AM

Sounds like you need some fresh pussy, but if you're not ready for it I guess there's not much you can do about it. Try to spend more time with friends so you can keep your mind on other things.

12clicks · 12-20-2007, 07:19 AM

post a pic so I can visualize it too. then I'll figure out a way for me to stop and pass the idea on to you.

Naughty · 12-20-2007, 07:25 AM

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Originally Posted by 12clicks

post a pic so I can visualize it too. then I'll figure out a way for me to stop and pass the idea on to you.

For your own protection, I will not.

theS2O · 12-20-2007, 07:42 AM

argh that sucks.. been there and it's like a monster inside you.. can't escape. it will heal thru time though.. goodluck

ADL Colin · 12-20-2007, 07:43 AM

Hookers. Lots of hookers.

qxm · 12-20-2007, 07:48 AM

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Originally Posted by uno

Get busy with the work. Drown yourself in it. When you're not working,. go out with friends, meet new people, etc. If she has any money I'd see if I could get her to pay child support.

you might want to take this advice...it's actually pretty good, get yourself busy...go to the gym, start reading, watch cool TV series, do anything to avoid having your mind wondering "what if" ..... realize that the moments you visualize her doing nasty things with that other guy are the times you are doing nothing "mentally"

spazlabz · 12-20-2007, 07:49 AM

see a therapist. they can help you let go of the obsessive thoughts.. they also have some kicks ass meds if you find yourself with intrusive thoughts on a regular basis.

spaz

DamageX · 12-20-2007, 07:54 AM

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Originally Posted by spazlabz

see a therapist. they can help you let go of the obsessive thoughts.. they also have some kicks ass meds if you find yourself with intrusive thoughts on a regular basis.

spaz

Probably the best piece of advice. And sorry to hear that my friend.

Farang · 12-20-2007, 07:57 AM

women can fuck your mind so hard

Martin · 12-20-2007, 08:00 AM

Really it's just time.. After a few months she will be a fading thought.. Been there , done that.. Just start drilling into some next chic.

ungratefulninja · 12-20-2007, 08:21 AM

Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

american pervert · 12-20-2007, 08:23 AM

if you want, you can visualize me fucking her!

Phoenix · 12-20-2007, 08:30 AM

shes probably swallowing as well

leroytrolley · 12-20-2007, 08:34 AM

Seriously this worked for me......

Everytime I had the thoughts coming, I'd have a wank, and after that any thoughts of sex didnt really matter. I sometimes had to wank 3-5 times aday, but it got me through it!!

Phoenix · 12-20-2007, 08:38 AM

ok ok sorry was just joking

try listening to some pink floyd and chillin out

get yourself a good girl who wont leave

who has the baby now?

DirtyProfits · 12-20-2007, 08:42 AM

The more you can enjoy your life without her the higher the chances she will come back to you and her child. If she sees you with your child having fun, enjoying life then she will think about it and wonder why her life still sucks with her new boyfriend.

the content guy · 12-20-2007, 08:57 AM

Call Drew Peterson

pornguy · 12-20-2007, 08:59 AM

go peek in the window, and watch. Then bust into the room, and yell Im better at that than you are, and she always moaned more with me.

You will feel better.

Iron Fist · 12-20-2007, 09:02 AM

You'll get over it...

CaptainHowdy · 12-20-2007, 09:07 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by spazlabz

see a therapist. they can help you let go of the obsessive thoughts.. they also have some kicks ass meds if you find yourself with intrusive thoughts on a regular basis.

spaz

Wouldn't take the meds but a professional may help you deal with it...

BlackCrayon · 12-20-2007, 09:10 AM

Just realize that you are much better off without someone with such deep seeded issues (either that or someone who is a lying sack of shit) and that you can do much better. Someone who needs a man rather than a babysitter.

RyanL · 12-20-2007, 09:13 AM

It just takes time! Try to keep yourself as busy as you can. Eventually the thoughts will pass and you'll move on and find another love

Good luck to you!

NinjaSteve · 12-20-2007, 09:14 AM

She's probably getting some anal action too. Just thought I'd help your visualization.

LiveDose · 12-20-2007, 09:14 AM

It's very easy to replace a sexual relationship.

Start fucking. It's the best way to get rid of the memories of an ex.

ThreeXes · 12-20-2007, 09:22 AM

Feel the pain.......time cures all! Remember this pain before getting too serious or enmeshed in your next relationships!

Pipecrew · 12-20-2007, 09:29 AM

Let me tell you, i know the feeling, I have trained like 3-4 girls perfectly now, and eventually you breakup and some jerkoff gets to enjoy all your hard work. But hey, you get over everything with time.

AK · 12-20-2007, 09:51 AM

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Originally Posted by WiredGuy

If your not ready to be with someone else, keep yourself distracted. Go work out, find a hobby, work on business, just keep yourself occupied to the point that you don't have the time to think about your girl.
WG

great advise!
i am sorry to hear what happened. I have been there once or twice myself and I kept myself occupied as much as possible.

since this is GFY....

i would say start promoting Webcamclub.com at $150 PPS or Amateurmatch.com at $75 PPS should take your mind off that pretty easy!

Skillz Unlimited · 12-20-2007, 10:16 AM

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Originally Posted by RyanL

It just takes time! Try to keep yourself as busy as you can. Eventually the thoughts will pass and you'll move on and find another love

Good luck to you!

That is honestly the best advice. Fuck meds, fuck a therapaist, fuck hookers (well, don't fuck hookers;)..).

I think people are forgetting that she left you (according to your post) which means if it we're up to you, you would still be with her. So we're not only dealing with the thought of her sleeping with someone else, but you actually care about her. I can understand why you're not ready to deal with other women yet. When you really care about someone it's more than just pussy. My advice to you bro is to take RyanL's advice. I know it hurts but life goes on and time heals all wounds. You'll get over it enventually. Just make sure you take care of your son, don't bad mouth her in front of the kid, tell her to do the same. Tell her to watch them men she has around your son and you do the same with the women. No child needs to be exposed to the adult habits of his parents. You created this situation so now you need to make the best of it.

Rule #1 - Make sure the kid doesn't suffer because of your mistakes.
Rule #2 - Don't argue with her around the child
Rule #3 - Dont argue with her on the phone about shit that doesn't matter. Keep the convo's only about the child and keep it movin. Talking about relationship is only going to hurt more.
Rule #4 - Spend as much time with your kid as you can and dont miss anything like school event's, soccer games, any of that. Always be there.
Rule #5 - Don't try to fuck her when you pick up or drop off the kid. That only creates more drama unless you honestly think there is a chance of you two getting back together. Chances are if she had a boyfriend a week after you guys broke up, she was probably cheating on you. She can't be trusted so why waste your time? Get along with her for the sake of the child and that's it.

Good luck to you man. You got a long road ahead of you but how you act will determine if it's a hard road or not.

WarChild · 12-20-2007, 10:22 AM

When you grow up you won't have these sorts of problems.

seeric · 12-20-2007, 10:32 AM

get a new girlfriend. start porking her.

problem solved.

guaranteed.

Jman · 12-20-2007, 10:37 AM

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Originally Posted by WiredGuy

If your not ready to be with someone else, keep yourself distracted. Go work out, find a hobby, work on business, just keep yourself occupied to the point that you don't have the time to think about your girl.
WG

Yes and fuck a hooker once in a while, this might help you stop having sexual thoughts about your ex boning someone else.

If anyone critics you for it tell em it's therapy

Ashleysteel · 12-20-2007, 10:40 AM

Sorry to hear that... I'd try watching some porn or something... The only way to stop thinking about something is to think about something DIFFERENT, so try to occupy your mind with something more pleasant. Every time you think about her with him, try writing down a list of reasons why you are happy you aren't with her anymore. That way you can train your mind to remember why things happened like this and move forward!

L-Pink · 12-20-2007, 10:42 AM

If you want to really torture yourself ... think about how much bigger the other guys cock probably is.

D · 12-20-2007, 10:45 AM

Time heals all wounds.

Fucking other chicks helps speed up the process.

florin · 12-20-2007, 10:54 AM

post a picture with her.........

florin · 12-20-2007, 10:55 AM

to see if she´s worthed all your grief, of course.....

jo3 · 12-20-2007, 10:57 AM

new hobbies

you'll be ready to start dating again before you know it...

don't just sit around and do nothing, i've been there... it ain't worth it.

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Naughty Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Utopia Posts: 6,483	I need help: I can't stop visualizing my ex porking her new boyfriend She's the mother of my baby son, she left me and had a new boyfriend after about a week or so because she cannot be alone for more than one week. Same when I met her, there was about two weeks of "alone" time between me and her ex bf. Anyway ... I think i pretty much accept that we're not a great couple, but sex-wise we were and now she is giving all that to somebody else. I visualize her having sex with this guy all the time. I hate it and cannot get rid of those visualizations. They're killing. How does one get over those? Please do not say start fucking somebody else, I'm not ready for that, I tried but it is not the way for me. I'm an idiot. __________________ seks.ai for sale - ping me

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