The Downside of Success. Are You Successful? - GoFuckYourself.com

DeanCapture · 03-05-2007, 11:11 AM

-A few words to those who are trying to find success in this industry or in life. These are actual quotes from people who have dealt with or are dealing with success. I found all of these on the net in 5 minutes. Just thought it was interesting to read experiences from others who are dealing with some of the "negative" things that success can bring.

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The more successful you become, the more people there are who don?t like you. If you?re not fighting with someone you?re doing something wrong.

The more successful you become, the more likely you are to meet hateful and hurtful men. Prepare yourself now, so you will not be surprised when it happens.

The fact is the more successful you become, the more you will be criticized.

The more successful you become, the more people want to see you fall.

The more successful you become, the more some people will resent your success.

The more successful you become, the more people want to become like you.

The more successful you become, the more people who will dislike you because of it.

The more successful you become, the more critics you will have. Get used to it.

The more successful you become, the more you have to deal with people who hate you for one reason or another. It?s a sad statement on the human condition.

The more successful you become, the more enemies you make. I think one has to be strong. If I were not strong I would have been broken a long time back."
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Are you successful? How do you deal with things like this? Why do successful people have these kinds of problems? What makes a human being go after another human being who is trying to achieve something better for themselves? Is it jealousy? Is it lack of human compassion? What is it?

shoeaholicanon · 03-05-2007, 11:30 AM

bump 4 u

jayeff · 03-05-2007, 11:31 AM

Jealousy plays a part... although I'm not sure it is simple jealousy so much as other peoples' successes are reminders of one's own failures. But the main factors are whether you are perceived to have earned your success and how you handle it.

The latter is probably the most important. There are any number of successful people who are generally liked and respected. Although the media in particular likes to highlight the people who are constantly attacked, they are relatively few in number and it is hard to escape the view that most get no less than they deserve.

The only group I can think of which was pretty much universally despised, were the yuppies of the 1980's. What was there not to despise?

The Ghost · 03-05-2007, 11:40 AM

True words.

The boards and this industry has it's fair share of those that feel they should be more successful than they are, and those that can not help you in any way improve your business or make more money. Most cannot make a living in adult, and a bit of the frustration is due to the fact that it's played off every day as there being easy money in adult.

The sad thing is that most of the hating and jealousy is without reason, because perceived success and actually being successful are two completely different things. There's the strong reality that many of the 'players' here (on GFY) won't be around in another year or two. Probably not even in the adult industry at all.

Anyone with any shread of business sense would be a fool to base their decisions off the boards, or off the second hand experience of someone they do not know personally.

The Ghost · 03-05-2007, 11:44 AM

And to clarify, i'm not saying there is not good information to be found on the boards. There are some great diamonds in the rough and advice that ocassionally slips out.

DeanCapture · 03-05-2007, 01:01 PM

Good thoughts guys - anyone else have answers?

2livejasmin · 03-05-2007, 01:04 PM

nice words ...

DeanCapture · 03-05-2007, 03:29 PM

Hmmm - maybe I should have put a couple of pics in my post

JP-pornshooter · 03-05-2007, 03:41 PM

one of the reasons i dont openly showcase my success..

but it is also a two way street i think, some with success are happy to share their "secrets" wheras some keep that to themselves 100% and i think those are more prone to the harmful criticism..

aico · 03-05-2007, 03:43 PM

no wonder no one likes me.

Jman · 03-05-2007, 03:43 PM

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Originally Posted by JP-pornshooter

one of the reasons i dont openly showcase my success..

but it is also a two way street i think, some with success are happy to share their "secrets" wheras some keep that to themselves 100% and i think those are more prone to the harmful criticism..

I wish i could say the same but being the Tom of Inkednation and one of the founders my success in the tattoo industry is pretty public and Yup got tons of haters.... See Sig

DeanCapture · 03-05-2007, 03:47 PM

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Originally Posted by JMan

I wish i could say the same but being the Tom of Inkednation and one of the founders my success in the tattoo industry is pretty public and Yup got tons of haters.... See Sig

hahahah - love the sig

tony286 · 03-05-2007, 03:49 PM

Im just a face in a crowd

SomeCreep · 03-05-2007, 03:54 PM

Yeah, although most of those quotes are true, they are very pessimistic. Those quotes are not the way I choose to view success.

Eric · 03-05-2007, 04:07 PM

I see all the mentioned items as challenges. Challenges make me stronger and make me want to succeed even more. When I was younger I had a few challengers inside my own family that didn't think I could do this or that. I used them to my advantage and I did exactly what they said I could never do.

Accept the challenges so that you may feel the exhilaration of victory. - George S. Patton

MissMina · 03-05-2007, 05:21 PM

Nice post and very true....

chaze · 03-05-2007, 05:33 PM

Well put, there is allot of haters that try to to make themselves feel better by lying about you.

Semi-Retired-Dave · 03-05-2007, 05:55 PM

Very well said and so TRUE.

jact · 03-05-2007, 05:56 PM

I must be successful, too bad it doesn't feel like it.

Grapesoda · 03-05-2007, 05:59 PM

tax issues . . .

The Duck · 03-05-2007, 06:05 PM

im not succesful so I have no clue

LiveDose · 03-05-2007, 06:22 PM

Good list. In a nutshell, when you become successful and people know it they will be jealous. I agree.

CuriousToyBoy · 03-05-2007, 06:30 PM

Envy is one of the 7 deadly sins for a reason .....

2c

Richard - Triplexcash · 03-05-2007, 06:41 PM

I think those quotes are very accurate. I read somewhere that envious people, even those who you think are friends, are really dangerous, silent enemies, as they are always hoping you fail.

The Dalai Lama has some interesting reads on happiness ... good thread to start my morning, thanks!

koreancowboy · 03-05-2007, 07:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Ghost

True words.

The boards and this industry has it's fair share of those that feel they should be more successful than they are, and those that can not help you in any way improve your business or make more money. Most cannot make a living in adult, and a bit of the frustration is due to the fact that it's played off every day as there being easy money in adult.

The sad thing is that most of the hating and jealousy is without reason, because perceived success and actually being successful are two completely different things. There's the strong reality that many of the 'players' here (on GFY) won't be around in another year or two. Probably not even in the adult industry at all.

Anyone with any shread of business sense would be a fool to base their decisions off the boards, or off the second hand experience of someone they do not know personally.

Why do you think most people aren't successful in the adult industry?

Grapesoda · 03-05-2007, 08:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by koreancowboy

Why do you think most people aren't successful in the adult industry?

98% of peeps aren't successful in any area . . don't blame adult

Star 69 · 03-05-2007, 08:10 PM

True and wise words

03-05-2007, 11:11 AM	#1
DeanCapture Haters & Trolls SUCK! Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 9,275	The Downside of Success. Are You Successful? -A few words to those who are trying to find success in this industry or in life. These are actual quotes from people who have dealt with or are dealing with success. I found all of these on the net in 5 minutes. Just thought it was interesting to read experiences from others who are dealing with some of the "negative" things that success can bring. ------------ The more successful you become, the more people there are who don?t like you. If you?re not fighting with someone you?re doing something wrong. The more successful you become, the more likely you are to meet hateful and hurtful men. Prepare yourself now, so you will not be surprised when it happens. The fact is the more successful you become, the more you will be criticized. The more successful you become, the more people want to see you fall. The more successful you become, the more some people will resent your success. The more successful you become, the more people want to become like you. The more successful you become, the more people who will dislike you because of it. The more successful you become, the more critics you will have. Get used to it. The more successful you become, the more you have to deal with people who hate you for one reason or another. It?s a sad statement on the human condition. The more successful you become, the more enemies you make. I think one has to be strong. If I were not strong I would have been broken a long time back." ------------ Are you successful? How do you deal with things like this? Why do successful people have these kinds of problems? What makes a human being go after another human being who is trying to achieve something better for themselves? Is it jealousy? Is it lack of human compassion? What is it? __________________ Twitter: @DeanCapture Instagram: @TheDeanCapture DeanCapture "at" Gmail.com

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The Ghost IslandDollars.com Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Icq: 176176 Posts: 12,188	And to clarify, i'm not saying there is not good information to be found on the boards. There are some great diamonds in the rough and advice that ocassionally slips out. __________________ ISLAND DOLLARS 1000's of Exclusive TS scenes / Constant Updates Best TS Network your surfers will ever join Last edited by The Ghost; 03-05-2007 at 11:47 AM..

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DeanCapture Haters & Trolls SUCK! Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 9,275	Good thoughts guys - anyone else have answers? __________________ Twitter: @DeanCapture Instagram: @TheDeanCapture DeanCapture "at" Gmail.com

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jayeff Confirmed User Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 2,944	Jealousy plays a part... although I'm not sure it is simple jealousy so much as other peoples' successes are reminders of one's own failures. But the main factors are whether you are perceived to have earned your success and how you handle it. The latter is probably the most important. There are any number of successful people who are generally liked and respected. Although the media in particular likes to highlight the people who are constantly attacked, they are relatively few in number and it is hard to escape the view that most get no less than they deserve. The only group I can think of which was pretty much universally despised, were the yuppies of the 1980's. What was there not to despise?

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DeanCapture Haters & Trolls SUCK! Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 9,275	Hmmm - maybe I should have put a couple of pics in my post __________________ Twitter: @DeanCapture Instagram: @TheDeanCapture DeanCapture "at" Gmail.com

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JP-pornshooter Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: westcoast usa Posts: 4,007	one of the reasons i dont openly showcase my success.. but it is also a two way street i think, some with success are happy to share their "secrets" wheras some keep that to themselves 100% and i think those are more prone to the harmful criticism..

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aico Moo Moo Cow Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Washington State Posts: 14,748	no wonder no one likes me.

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tony286 lurker Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: atlanta Posts: 57,021	Im just a face in a crowd

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Eric Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: The Helm! Posts: 8,818	I see all the mentioned items as challenges. Challenges make me stronger and make me want to succeed even more. When I was younger I had a few challengers inside my own family that didn't think I could do this or that. I used them to my advantage and I did exactly what they said I could never do. Accept the challenges so that you may feel the exhilaration of victory. - George S. Patton __________________ No One

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MissMina Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 2,478	Nice post and very true....

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chaze Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 9,752	Well put, there is allot of haters that try to to make themselves feel better by lying about you.

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Richard - Triplexcash Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 915	I think those quotes are very accurate. I read somewhere that envious people, even those who you think are friends, are really dangerous, silent enemies, as they are always hoping you fail. The Dalai Lama has some interesting reads on happiness ... good thread to start my morning, thanks! __________________ Richard [email protected] ICQ: 322574184

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