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Spunky · 03-10-2006, 08:43 PM

Have to screw up a good relationship by asking..Where is this going?,what do you see happening in a year or two? I mean can't they just be happy taking things slow and seeing what progresses if anything ? Seems like every relationship I have it always winds up with that question being asked within the first few months..I always get uncomfortable and eventually end it because they keep nagging at me if I don't answer because I don't know what will happen.

tony286 · 03-10-2006, 08:46 PM

dont blame them they dont want their time wasted

Spunky · 03-10-2006, 08:51 PM

So spending time with someone,having a good time is considered a waste of time? We both get what we need..I treat them pretty good.

u-Bob · 03-10-2006, 08:59 PM

You want us to answer a question that begins with "why do women..."????

Sly · 03-10-2006, 09:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Spunky

So spending time with someone,having a good time is considered a waste of time? We both get what we need..I treat them pretty good.

It depends what age range you're dating. I would guess that most women in their 30s, especially if they don't have any children, are looking for something more long term like marriage.

GatorB · 03-10-2006, 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Spunky

Have to screw up a good relationship by asking..Where is this going?,what do you see happening in a year or two? I mean can't they just be happy taking things slow and seeing what progresses if anything ? Seems like every relationship I have it always winds up with that question being asked within the first few months..I always get uncomfortable and eventually end it because they keep nagging at me if I don't answer because I don't know what will happen.

Funny this is brought up. My girlfriend and I just broke up over this same issue. Got the same "don't want to waste time" answer. So I said "oh so I'm a waste of your time?" Then got a "no I didn't mean it like that" I mean if you say you love someone then turn around basically called them a waste of your time well I have issue with that. Why not enjoy the now and leave the future shit to the future. Seems like women see a relationship as a destination to be reached than journey to be experienced.

Spunky · 03-10-2006, 09:02 PM

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Originally Posted by u-Bob

You want us to answer a question that begins with "why do women..."????

Wasn't really a question..more of a statement.it is allowed on here.

tony286 · 03-10-2006, 09:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Spunky

So spending time with someone,having a good time is considered a waste of time? We both get what we need..I treat them pretty good.

if they are looking for something more it is.

Spunky · 03-10-2006, 09:08 PM

I guess the plan is to be honest right up front and say all I'm looking for is companionship and a screw now and then

Stacey_JoinRightNow · 03-10-2006, 09:09 PM

Bec. women always think of the future... We tend to have a plan in everything, and we want security... and we want the word "forever"...

Spunky · 03-10-2006, 09:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Stacey_JoinRightNow

Bec. women always think of the future... We tend to have a plan in everything, and we want security... and we want the word "forever"...

It is good to plan for the future,but nothing is forever..People change,their feelings for eachother eventually change.I'm not afraid of commitment it is the term "forever" that turns me off

Holly · 03-10-2006, 09:34 PM

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Originally Posted by GatorB

Funny this is brought up. My girlfriend and I just broke up over this same issue. Got the same "don't want to waste time" answer. So I said "oh so I'm a waste of your time?" Then got a "no I didn't mean it like that" I mean if you say you love someone then turn around basically called them a waste of your time well I have issue with that. Why not enjoy the now and leave the future shit to the future. Seems like women see a relationship as a destination to be reached than journey to be experienced.

Aren't you m00d's (or whatever name she's using now) boyfriend?

tony286 · 03-10-2006, 09:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Stacey_JoinRightNow

Bec. women always think of the future... We tend to have a plan in everything, and we want security... and we want the word "forever"...

oh that so not true lol

Furious_Female · 03-10-2006, 09:50 PM

I wouldn't want to be with someone that didn't want and expect similar things in life. There's no other way to describe it, other than a waste of time, because if you stay with someone just to pass the time until you find what you really want, is that fair to anyone?

Major (Tom) · 03-10-2006, 09:52 PM

dont fuck them.. you wont get that question.

duke

Spunky · 03-10-2006, 10:04 PM

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Originally Posted by DukeSkywalker

dont fuck them.. you wont get that question.

duke

They know their pussy is lined with gold and I'm weak

GatorB · 03-10-2006, 10:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Holly

Aren't you m00d's (or whatever name she's using now) boyfriend?

No I've never been with anyone in this biz.

CDSmith · 03-10-2006, 10:39 PM

Some women (not all) never seem to get that you can't force things like deeper feelings, love and commitment. There is no hurrying things along, they have to take their natural course.

However, it's not just women asking this of men. Plenty of guys out there have asked these same kinds of questions of women, and the woman has felt pressured as well.

I've had one or two women start asking "where do you see things going with us" after only one or two dates believe it or not. Talk about pressure.

It's more understandable after seeing someone for a few months that they might want to ask, but there has to be a way to find the answers to those questions without putting pressure on the other person or putting them on the spot.

And in looking at the ridiculous divorce rate out there right now I would say that there is a LOT to be said for just relaxing and taking things slow and being happy, and just getting to know someone and let things take their course.

chadglni · 03-10-2006, 10:43 PM

You guys keep saying pressure, what fucking pressure. Here is how the conversation should go...

"Where do you see this going with us?"
"I don't have a fucking clue"

Brutal honesty is the best policy.

Spunky · 03-10-2006, 10:46 PM

So true..being in a couple long term relationships,one for nine years,I enjoyed and hated it all at the same time.All I remember that my dad said before he left is "Half"..changed me forever

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Spunky I need a beer Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: ♠ Toiletville ♠ Posts: 133,944	So spending time with someone,having a good time is considered a waste of time? We both get what we need..I treat them pretty good. __________________ *YOUR INFORMATION HERE*

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Spunky I need a beer Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: ♠ Toiletville ♠ Posts: 133,944	I guess the plan is to be honest right up front and say all I'm looking for is companionship and a screw now and then __________________ *YOUR INFORMATION HERE*

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Stacey_JoinRightNow Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Montreal Posts: 6,269	Bec. women always think of the future... We tend to have a plan in everything, and we want security... and we want the word "forever"... __________________

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Furious_Female Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Upstate, New York Posts: 8,187	I wouldn't want to be with someone that didn't want and expect similar things in life. There's no other way to describe it, other than a waste of time, because if you stay with someone just to pass the time until you find what you really want, is that fair to anyone? __________________ Skype: j3nn.com ICQ 160370494 My current favorite high-converting sponsor: CrakRevenue

03-10-2006, 08:46 PM	#2
tony286 lurker Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: atlanta Posts: 57,021	dont blame them they dont want their time wasted

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CDSmith Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: May 2001 Location: My network is hosted at TECHIEMEDIA.net ...Wait, you meant where am I located at? Oh... okay, I'm in Winnipeg, Canada. Oops. :) Posts: 51,460	Some women (not all) never seem to get that you can't force things like deeper feelings, love and commitment. There is no hurrying things along, they have to take their natural course. However, it's not just women asking this of men. Plenty of guys out there have asked these same kinds of questions of women, and the woman has felt pressured as well. I've had one or two women start asking "where do you see things going with us" after only one or two dates believe it or not. Talk about pressure. It's more understandable after seeing someone for a few months that they might want to ask, but there has to be a way to find the answers to those questions without putting pressure on the other person or putting them on the spot. And in looking at the ridiculous divorce rate out there right now I would say that there is a LOT to be said for just relaxing and taking things slow and being happy, and just getting to know someone and let things take their course. __________________ *Promote Wildmatch, ImLive, Sexier.com, and more!!* ALWAYS THE HIGHEST PAYOUTS: Big Bux/ImLive SIGNUP ON NOW!!! Put some PUSSYCA$H in your pocket. ICQ me at: 31024634

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chadglni Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: PEI, Canada Posts: 6,924	You guys keep saying pressure, what fucking pressure. Here is how the conversation should go... "Where do you see this going with us?" "I don't have a fucking clue" Brutal honesty is the best policy. __________________ Sign up here - Dating Site affiliate program

03-10-2006, 10:46 PM	#20
Spunky I need a beer Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: ♠ Toiletville ♠ Posts: 133,944	So true..being in a couple long term relationships,one for nine years,I enjoyed and hated it all at the same time.All I remember that my dad said before he left is "Half"..changed me forever __________________ *YOUR INFORMATION HERE*