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quiet · 10-28-2005, 01:50 AM

would you ever consider entering into a serious relationship with someone who lives 1000+ miles from you? or better to just let it remain a casual fling?

i've always been curious how people do this, even if they have the means to travel frequently. thoughts?

Shoehorn! · 10-28-2005, 01:51 AM

I personally couldn't handle that.

nofx · 10-28-2005, 01:58 AM

if either person has trust issues, long distance is VERY hard

if not, go for it

I did the long distance thing for 2 years and I couldnt handle it anymore and said FUCK it and dumped the bitch.

stevo · 10-28-2005, 01:58 AM

Depends on the girl... Too many factors. Do you trust her, does she trust you? Is she willing to move, are you willing to move? Is there a chance you will be living together or close in the near future? Is she worth the time and effort (lots of traveling and long phone calls)? How serious are you? Etc...

DICKS*ARE*4*CHICKS · 10-28-2005, 02:00 AM

I say commitment is over rated, if your having great sex......don't rock the boat. Feel me?

quiet · 10-28-2005, 02:00 AM

this isn't about me at all, already have my own opinions... but i am interested in what others have to say about it.

Chris E · 10-28-2005, 02:05 AM

Ha... long distance in the UK is like 100 miles... that's probably nothing to you guys.

Mouthful of Savior · 10-28-2005, 02:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DICKS*ARE*4*CHICKS

I say commitment is over rated, if your having great sex......don't rock the boat. Feel me?

Then again, if you are having great sex then your probably having your boat rocked....

Dagwolf · 10-28-2005, 08:59 AM

Hey, I did it.

My current marriage started out as a very long-distance relationship (3000 miles I think). I met my wife in an IRC trivia game.

I also kept a very intense relationship going long-distance for over a year when I was 17, BEFORE internet. In the end it wasn't the distance that ruined it.

TDF · 10-28-2005, 09:00 AM

long distance never works

Doctor Dre · 10-28-2005, 09:15 AM

If you travel a lot ... chances are that you're gonna have a couple of thoses in diff cities ... my friend does that

Argonaut · 10-28-2005, 09:20 AM

don't think i could do it, need sex too much

Juicy D. Links · 10-28-2005, 09:21 AM

Never BRo.....

I consider long distance anything more than 10 miles from me.

Sheri Santiago · 10-28-2005, 09:21 AM

We did it for about 5 months until Easton moved down to Arizona...I don't think I could have done it if I didn't know he was eventually moving here though.

chupachups · 10-28-2005, 09:21 AM

Did it, about 1500 miles distance. Worked pretty well, though it ended for other reasons

Serge Litehead · 10-28-2005, 09:22 AM

4 years in LD relashionship, good time, interesting travel destinations (she studied abroad). that was it, marriage proposal didn't went through although was in consideration for some time. took a hard hit, didn't do anything for couple of years.
Would i consider doing it again? sure i would, but it would not be serious until we're close enough, distance wise too.
5 of my buds got married through IRC back in 96-99 , 4 of them are happy and some have kids now.

you definately got some options but in all honesty you're not together unless you're together, no matter how you look at it.

Herb Kornfield · 10-28-2005, 09:34 AM

It makes great for fuck buddies but not anyone that you want to make your partner and have a "real" relationship with.

You dont really know someone until you live with them

My view is that if the people are really into each other, they'd be wanting more than anything to be together as best they can. You would figure out a way to get a new life together and set up shop in a new area... not saying that this is you in paticular... just how it is for anyone....

You can make money anywhere, you can live anywhere on the earth and make a life out of it... its who you share it with is what matters.

Pornwolf · 10-28-2005, 09:35 AM

Long distance is only for the very young. After college age it's not possible.

Sosa · 10-28-2005, 10:01 AM

I couldn't do it. Wouldn't even try it.

Phoenix · 10-28-2005, 10:04 AM

if it is worth it...you will find yourself booking flights...if youhave to woner about it...it is probably just a casual thing

MetaMan · 10-28-2005, 10:06 AM

depends on the person, if it is 100% worth it then why not?
there is nothing wrong with dedicating yourself to someone, i have done it before, it didnt end up working out in the end but it was 100% worth it and definatley a possitive expierience in my life.

you have to have to UTMOST trust for the person or you will kill yourself thinking to much especially the fact you never are 100% sure what they are up to.

ssp · 10-28-2005, 10:14 AM

Never ever do long distance. I've seen them all try it and they all failed. A relationship is more than a good talk over the phone.

Kevsh · 10-28-2005, 10:21 AM

1000 miles? Nothing to it, I've had much farther. ;)

Seriously, it's no walk in the park and realistically, unless one of you makes the move - quickly - it won't last.

GlydeGirl · 10-28-2005, 10:27 AM

As a swinger, I have many long distance lovers with whom I've been able to continue to foster relationships that have lasted more than 10 years, and that are still going strong (and will likely be lifelong). But I also have been living happily in a primary non-monogamous live-in relationship for the past 8 years, so that satisfies my needs for a day-to-day spousal relationship.

I think that long distance works great if you aren't seeking a spouse-type of commitment from your lover!

WiredGuy · 10-28-2005, 10:38 AM

I don't like the idea of it, but being so mobile and flexible with my work, I could easily move for longer periods of time to be with someone if she's that special to me.
WG

selena · 10-28-2005, 10:41 AM

Been there.

The concept of a distance relationship wasn't bad.

Just the person I had one with.

loverboy · 10-28-2005, 10:47 AM

been there and never worked for me

amandaspost · 10-28-2005, 11:01 AM

Long distance relationships hardly ever work out

sinclair · 10-28-2005, 11:47 AM

Currently in one. About 500 miles. It has its ups and downs like anything, but I think it is worth it. With ICQ, phone, email, monthly visits, its not as bad as I thought it would be.

Mr. Jim · 10-28-2005, 12:32 PM

Having spent long periods of time out of the US, I have beeninvolved in several. The thing that is unavoidable is not being there to experience things with the person who you care about. Over time it really starts to dissolve. The one thig all relationships need is touch. Sentimental offerings and expression will only go so far before the primal need for contact is needed. The relationship turns into fantasy really...there is very little true exchange of emotion unless written or spoken.

I know it works for some but I sincerely believe they are a waste of time and can bring about some real depression issues

Th!nk · 10-28-2005, 09:45 PM

i think long distance relationships will never work out. distance is some what a big factor for partners.

Furious_Female · 10-28-2005, 10:06 PM

Napolean and I lived 600 miles apart when we met.... he just moved here 2 weeks ago

SleazyDream · 10-28-2005, 11:18 PM

if it's someone i really like i'd move

miss wild · 10-29-2005, 08:09 PM

It depends on you both but based from my experienced as long as you really love each other it will work and the most important you'll have a communication and TRUST to each other

10-28-2005, 01:50 AM	#1
quiet we'll miss you our friend. RIP Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Fernie, BC Posts: 25,115	long distance relationships... would you ever consider entering into a serious relationship with someone who lives 1000+ miles from you? or better to just let it remain a casual fling? i've always been curious how people do this, even if they have the means to travel frequently. thoughts? __________________ we'll miss you our friend. RIP

10-28-2005, 01:51 AM	#2
Shoehorn! Die With Your Boots On Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Hawaii Posts: 22,872	I personally couldn't handle that. __________________

10-28-2005, 01:58 AM	#3
nofx Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Virgin Mary's womb Posts: 16,826	if either person has trust issues, long distance is VERY hard if not, go for it I did the long distance thing for 2 years and I couldnt handle it anymore and said FUCK it and dumped the bitch. __________________ Often times I wonder why There's love and hate, theres live or die. When sickness comes I must decide: When feelings go, theres suicide.

10-28-2005, 02:00 AM	#5
DICKSARE4*CHICKS I do not recommend anything in my signature. Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: In my head Posts: 22	I say commitment is over rated, if your having great sex......don't rock the boat. Feel me? __________________ Sig too big!

10-28-2005, 02:00 AM	#6
quiet we'll miss you our friend. RIP Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Fernie, BC Posts: 25,115	this isn't about me at all, already have my own opinions... but i am interested in what others have to say about it. __________________ we'll miss you our friend. RIP

10-28-2005, 01:58 AM	#4
stevo Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Orlando, Florida Posts: 2,051	Depends on the girl... Too many factors. Do you trust her, does she trust you? Is she willing to move, are you willing to move? Is there a chance you will be living together or close in the near future? Is she worth the time and effort (lots of traveling and long phone calls)? How serious are you? Etc...

10-28-2005, 02:05 AM	#7
Chris E Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 2,895	Ha... long distance in the UK is like 100 miles... that's probably nothing to you guys.

10-28-2005, 08:59 AM	#9
Dagwolf President of Canada Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Leaving Hell, Entering Limbo Posts: 23,141	Hey, I did it. My current marriage started out as a very long-distance relationship (3000 miles I think). I met my wife in an IRC trivia game. I also kept a very intense relationship going long-distance for over a year when I was 17, BEFORE internet. In the end it wasn't the distance that ruined it. __________________ Sleep well, and dream of large women.

10-28-2005, 09:00 AM	#10
TDF Triple OG nigga on GFY Industry Role: Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: in the BP4L family compound Posts: 27,296	long distance never works __________________ Sig heil

10-28-2005, 09:20 AM	#12
Argonaut Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Florida Posts: 149	don't think i could do it, need sex too much

10-28-2005, 09:21 AM	#13
Juicy D. Links So Fucking Banned Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: N.Y. -Long Island -- Posts: 122,992	Never BRo..... I consider long distance anything more than 10 miles from me.

10-28-2005, 09:21 AM	#14
Sheri Santiago Confirmed User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Scottsdale Posts: 1,584	We did it for about 5 months until Easton moved down to Arizona...I don't think I could have done it if I didn't know he was eventually moving here though. __________________ Wild West Cash Royal Vault...$30+PPS, HD Sites

10-28-2005, 09:21 AM	#15
chupachups Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Sweden/Spain you sum bitch! Posts: 6,576	Did it, about 1500 miles distance. Worked pretty well, though it ended for other reasons __________________

10-28-2005, 09:22 AM	#16
Serge Litehead Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Behind the scenes Posts: 5,190	4 years in LD relashionship, good time, interesting travel destinations (she studied abroad). that was it, marriage proposal didn't went through although was in consideration for some time. took a hard hit, didn't do anything for couple of years. Would i consider doing it again? sure i would, but it would not be serious until we're close enough, distance wise too. 5 of my buds got married through IRC back in 96-99 , 4 of them are happy and some have kids now. you definately got some options but in all honesty you're not together unless you're together, no matter how you look at it. __________________ SilverCrocodile.com Adult web design since '05

10-28-2005, 09:34 AM	#17
Herb Kornfield Is on the 1 Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Philly Burbs Posts: 4,996	It makes great for fuck buddies but not anyone that you want to make your partner and have a "real" relationship with. You dont really know someone until you live with them My view is that if the people are really into each other, they'd be wanting more than anything to be together as best they can. You would figure out a way to get a new life together and set up shop in a new area... not saying that this is you in paticular... just how it is for anyone.... You can make money anywhere, you can live anywhere on the earth and make a life out of it... its who you share it with is what matters.

10-28-2005, 09:35 AM	#18
Pornwolf Drunk and Unruly Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Hollywood Posts: 22,712	Long distance is only for the very young. After college age it's not possible. __________________ I've trusted my sites to them for over a decade... Webair, bitches.

10-28-2005, 10:01 AM	#19
Sosa In Tushy Land Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Nebraska Posts: 40,149	I couldn't do it. Wouldn't even try it.

10-28-2005, 10:04 AM	#20
Phoenix BACON BACON BACON Industry Role: Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Poems everybody, the laddie fancies himself a poet Posts: 35,462	if it is worth it...you will find yourself booking flights...if youhave to woner about it...it is probably just a casual thing __________________ Skype Phoenixskype1 Telegram PhoenixBrad https://quantads.io

10-28-2005, 10:06 AM	#21
MetaMan I AM WEB 2.0 Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 28,682	depends on the person, if it is 100% worth it then why not? there is nothing wrong with dedicating yourself to someone, i have done it before, it didnt end up working out in the end but it was 100% worth it and definatley a possitive expierience in my life. you have to have to UTMOST trust for the person or you will kill yourself thinking to much especially the fact you never are 100% sure what they are up to.

10-28-2005, 10:14 AM	#22
ssp Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 7,990	Never ever do long distance. I've seen them all try it and they all failed. A relationship is more than a good talk over the phone.

10-28-2005, 10:21 AM	#23
Kevsh Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: TO Posts: 8,619	1000 miles? Nothing to it, I've had much farther. ;) Seriously, it's no walk in the park and realistically, unless one of you makes the move - quickly - it won't last.

10-28-2005, 10:27 AM	#24
GlydeGirl Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 1,516	As a swinger, I have many long distance lovers with whom I've been able to continue to foster relationships that have lasted more than 10 years, and that are still going strong (and will likely be lifelong). But I also have been living happily in a primary non-monogamous live-in relationship for the past 8 years, so that satisfies my needs for a day-to-day spousal relationship. I think that long distance works great if you aren't seeking a spouse-type of commitment from your lover!

10-28-2005, 10:38 AM	#25
WiredGuy Pounding Googlebot Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Canada Posts: 34,482	I don't like the idea of it, but being so mobile and flexible with my work, I could easily move for longer periods of time to be with someone if she's that special to me. WG __________________ I play with Google.

10-28-2005, 10:41 AM	#26
selena Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: On The Edge Posts: 7,994	Been there. The concept of a distance relationship wasn't bad. Just the person I had one with. __________________ ~ Doer of Things at MetArtMoney Where Flawless Beauty Meets Art ~The MetArt Network ~ selena.delgado9

10-28-2005, 10:47 AM	#27
loverboy When it rains, it pours Industry Role: Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 20,609	been there and never worked for me

10-28-2005, 11:01 AM	#28
amandaspost Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: New Jersey Posts: 1,935	Long distance relationships hardly ever work out

10-28-2005, 11:47 AM	#29
sinclair Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 1,431	Currently in one. About 500 miles. It has its ups and downs like anything, but I think it is worth it. With ICQ, phone, email, monthly visits, its not as bad as I thought it would be. __________________ -- skype:vmgsinclair "Imagine a world in which every single person on the planet is given free access to the sum of all human sex."

10-28-2005, 12:32 PM	#30
Mr. Jim Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 4,372	Having spent long periods of time out of the US, I have beeninvolved in several. The thing that is unavoidable is not being there to experience things with the person who you care about. Over time it really starts to dissolve. The one thig all relationships need is touch. Sentimental offerings and expression will only go so far before the primal need for contact is needed. The relationship turns into fantasy really...there is very little true exchange of emotion unless written or spoken. I know it works for some but I sincerely believe they are a waste of time and can bring about some real depression issues

10-28-2005, 09:45 PM	#31
Th!nk Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 6,996	i think long distance relationships will never work out. distance is some what a big factor for partners.

10-28-2005, 10:06 PM	#32
Furious_Female Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Upstate, New York Posts: 8,187	Napolean and I lived 600 miles apart when we met.... he just moved here 2 weeks ago __________________ Skype: j3nn.com ICQ 160370494 My current favorite high-converting sponsor: CrakRevenue

10-28-2005, 11:18 PM	#33
SleazyDream I'm here for SPORT Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phone # (401) 285-0696 Posts: 41,470	if it's someone i really like i'd move __________________ This dog, is dog, a dog, good dog, way dog, to dog, keep dog, an dog, idiot dog, busy dog, for dog, 20 dog, seconds dog! Now read without the word dog.

10-29-2005, 08:09 PM	#34
miss wild Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 1,304	It depends on you both but based from my experienced as long as you really love each other it will work and the most important you'll have a communication and TRUST to each other __________________ [img]http://****************/sig/fhv3_b_624x80.gif[/img]