Friend needs advice hes married - GoFuckYourself.com

EscortBiz · 10-08-2004, 08:56 AM

So where better to go then to the experts right here at GFY. (one the there will be a show called Dr. GFY)

Here is the info

He is:

29
Decent looking
Makes ok money works at same job for years

She is
25
Shes not goodloooking (looks wise shes nasty next to him)
Doest have to work

No kids, married for year and 5 months

He loves her to death

Now she tells him on Tuesday that she wants to have time to herself and wants to go back to live at her moms house, and maybe a divorce.

real crazy talk

WTF is this about? She says shes not seeing anyone etc.

I am sending a link to my friend he will be readin it so be nice

Lycanthrope · 10-08-2004, 08:59 AM

Honestly, sounds like she is fucking around and wants to spend some time w/ the new guy to see if he is "better".

With no kids, I'd welcome the break and see what transpires. Tell him to taste life too, but not to admit it or do it anywhere where she might see

cali_22 · 10-08-2004, 08:59 AM

Ya man thats a serious problem , most likely he should start dating again asap cause that cant last.

good luck with that , too bad

Raven · 10-08-2004, 09:01 AM

Not sure I understand how looks enter into the equation...

But, it surely sounds as if she may have too much time on her hands...

And, you're not giving enough information, really, that would allow a thoughtful opinion.....as to the root of the problem, which could be as easy or as difficult as:

Not a match made in heaven.
Infidelity on either of their parts.
Poor communication skills.
Unmet needs.
Unreasonable or unrealistic expectations.

rocki · 10-08-2004, 09:02 AM

if he wasn't married or wasn't coming out of a relationship and is not in this industry then i would say give him my number...

demented · 10-08-2004, 09:03 AM

She says she's not seeing anyone else? 10 to 1 she's lying.

EscortBiz · 10-08-2004, 09:04 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Raven
Not sure I understand how looks enter into the equation...

But, it surely sounds as if she may have too much time on her hands...

And, you're not giving enough information, really, that would allow a thoughtful opinion.....as to the root of the problem, which could be as easy or as difficult as:

Not a match made in heaven.
Infidelity on either of their parts.
Poor communication skills.
Unmet needs.
Unreasonable or unrealistic expectations.

Look im single and have single friends male and female and for us looks do matter

Now as far as married people go once people are married i dont know

polish_aristocrat · 10-08-2004, 09:05 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by EscortBiz

Now she tells him on Tuesday that she wants to have time to herself and wants to go back to live at her moms house, and maybe a divorce.

Looks like a crazy bitch

BitterPen · 10-08-2004, 09:07 AM

Is it out of the blue or have they been having problems? Girls get moody, and although this is not a good excuse, it is enough for some women. Maybe she feels trapped. ? I dunno. Sounds like serious trouble though. Best of luck to both of them

Peaches · 10-08-2004, 09:11 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Raven
Not sure I understand how looks enter into the equation...

But, it surely sounds as if she may have too much time on her hands...

And, you're not giving enough information, really, that would allow a thoughtful opinion.....as to the root of the problem, which could be as easy or as difficult as:

Not a match made in heaven.
Infidelity on either of their parts.
Poor communication skills.
Unmet needs.
Unreasonable or unrealistic expectations.

Ditto Raven's post.

Trixxxia · 10-08-2004, 09:14 AM

The girl needs a job - needs to have some other purpose in life other than sitting at home waiting for her husband. Boredom brings on crazy 'I deserve more' 'I'm better than this' 'He doesn't/isn't giving me enough attention' kinda thoughts.

The possibility of her having an affair can be probable if she has nothing better to do than shop/gym & what not.

I say give her the space letting her know full well that when she decides whether to come back or not - it's never certain that he'll want her back. If she wants to leave, open the door - you can't hold her back.

EscortBiz · 10-08-2004, 09:14 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by BitterPen
Is it out of the blue or have they been having problems? Girls get moody, and although this is not a good excuse, it is enough for some women. Maybe she feels trapped. ? I dunno. Sounds like serious trouble though. Best of luck to both of them

he says that for like a month they argued more then ever and it was over small stuff nothing serious

Trixxxia · 10-08-2004, 09:17 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by EscortBiz
he says that for like a month they argued more then ever and it was over small stuff nothing serious

Ok - well having read that I'll have to slant on this:

She's either seeing someone else - platonic or not
OR
She fell in love with someone else & even if the other guy doesn't know, she just knows that she doesn't have the same feelings for her husband anymore.

Raven · 10-08-2004, 09:21 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by EscortBiz
Look im single and have single friends male and female and for us looks do matter

Now as far as married people go once people are married i dont know

Ok...I can deal.

But, I said other things which probably have more resonance....than what I said about looks.

You're asking for advice....for a friend and that's a cool thing....but, whether you're single or married, there are factors, beyond looks, which can make or break a relationship....

More info is needed to give a thoughtful opinion....with or without the subject of one's personal appearance.

GTS Mark · 10-08-2004, 09:24 AM

She's probably in that stage where most women are when they are in their mid 20's. They dream since they were teenagers of having this stay at home mom life and finally when they get it after a couple of years they get bored and go WTF??! This life isn't what they want and flip the fuck out and get into anti-depressants and all that other shit.

Then they go out partying with their friends as they feel they missed the party stage as she got married too soon. She sees all her friends going out and partying and wants to join them.

I have seen this happen to a few of my friends (both of them in their mid 20's married) and it fucking sucks!

I fucking guarantee in 6 months this chick will come back begging after she has partied and got it all out of her system and finds out the single party scene isn't everything it's cracked up to be ;)

Tell your friend to kick her ass to the curb and go have some fun! Why would you would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?

DH

gornyhuy · 10-08-2004, 09:32 AM

Two letters:

O.J.

Sexzity · 10-08-2004, 09:38 AM

It will never last, then one of them will out of the married.
At least they dont have kids.

Sunny Leone · 10-08-2004, 09:40 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Raven
Not sure I understand how looks enter into the equation...

But, it surely sounds as if she may have too much time on her hands...

And, you're not giving enough information, really, that would allow a thoughtful opinion.....as to the root of the problem, which could be as easy or as difficult as:

Not a match made in heaven.
Infidelity on either of their parts.
Poor communication skills.
Unmet needs.
Unreasonable or unrealistic expectations.

I agree!

sicone · 10-08-2004, 09:40 AM

he needs to find out what is wrong... if its something that can be fixed then give the break a shot and work on it. If its not something that can be fixed, then its time to hire a divorce lawyer before she takes him for all he has

detoxed · 10-08-2004, 09:45 AM

She's not hot? What the hell does she think she deserves to not work for? I'd have made her get a job Day 1.

Nanda · 10-08-2004, 09:49 AM

Some people need time apart to think things out. I think marriage isn't a game, I think that you have to work things out as a couple.
She said that she wanted time to think and maybe a divorce? I think right there you should know she's probably wanting to move on!

Only you can decide what to do, but chances are that she isn't happy with you, with the relationship, or there might be someone else she's interested in...

WiredGuy · 10-08-2004, 09:53 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by rocki
if he wasn't married or wasn't coming out of a relationship and is not in this industry then i would say give him my number...

I can get out of adult really quickly

WG

el_greco · 10-08-2004, 09:56 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by DrinkingHard
She's probably in that stage where most women are when they are in their mid 20's. They dream since they were teenagers of having this stay at home mom life and finally when they get it after a couple of years they get bored and go WTF??! This life isn't what they want and flip the fuck out and get into anti-depressants and all that other shit.

Then they go out partying with their friends as they feel they missed the party stage as she got married too soon. She sees all her friends going out and partying and wants to join them.

I have seen this happen to a few of my friends (both of them in their mid 20's married) and it fucking sucks!

I fucking guarantee in 6 months this chick will come back begging after she has partied and got it all out of her system and finds out the single party scene isn't everything it's cracked up to be ;)

Tell your friend to kick her ass to the curb and go have some fun! Why would you would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?

DH

Ditto DH's post. I'm watching this happen to a couple of friends now. If I were him, I'd get me an attorney real quick.

He's got to move on, it's obvious that she has.

Babaganoosh · 10-08-2004, 09:56 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Lycanthrope
Honestly, sounds like she is fucking around and wants to spend some time w/ the new guy to see if he is "better".

With no kids, I'd welcome the break and see what transpires. Tell him to taste life too, but not to admit it or do it anywhere where she might see

Exactly what I was going to say.

WiredGuy · 10-08-2004, 09:59 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by EscortBiz
Now she tells him on Tuesday that she wants to have time to herself and wants to go back to live at her moms house, and maybe a divorce.

WTF is this about? She says shes not seeing anyone etc.

I am sending a link to my friend he will be readin it so be nice

Honestly, it seems to me she's either not happy and wants her distance or she's seeing someone else already. Now if he loves her to death this is a problem. Maybe he's been showing her so much affection that its starting to annoy her. In that case, some space can be a good thing and I would say back off for a bit. If she comes back in a bit, don't be so affectionate. Now if she's seeing someone else, he needs to end it no matter how much it might hurt. In the end remember (this is to the guy) this, you've had a stable job, good income and obviously descent looks. She's the opposite. If she doesn't realize what she's throwing away, then she doesn't deserve you. Move on to someone who will appreciate you.

my 2cents for what its worth. Good luck.
WG

Herb Kornfield · 10-08-2004, 10:23 AM

From having gone thru a deal exactly like what your friend is about 5 years ago. Here is my advice.

Let her leave and move on with your life. If she isnt gong to stick by you 100% of time being married then, thats her problem to figure out, not yours.

Marriage is very serious. You are placing the other person above your needs and BOTH of your continued survival depends on each other.

There will be suitations that will test you collectively as well as individually as time goes on in a marriage that are MUCH tougher than just "needing space"

Either your with me or not. 100% of the time.

Being married for 5 wonderful years to a great woman has made me realize how importatnt it is to make things work for the common good of the family unit over what I want to have for only me.

There is more than 1 fish in the ocean my man.

Jim

Sosa · 10-08-2004, 11:20 AM

crazy shit, hope it all works out for your friend.

slapass · 10-08-2004, 12:01 PM

It is over. Very few people go to the lengths she is going to to get the relationship back together. She does not work so she has tons of time to "find" herself. I suspect she found soemthing and it was someone else. The good news is he sounds like this will be fine for him.

PrincessWannaLaya · 10-08-2004, 01:00 PM

Sorry to say, but i also think she has someone on the side already and is most likely lieing to your friend about not having one... its too bad .... but he should take it on a good note and realize that he is going to be single again, and he will be able to move on before he actaully made her pop out kids... Think Positive ... he can find better

pushpills · 10-08-2004, 01:24 PM

you should date him.

riosluts · 10-08-2004, 01:27 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by rocki
if he wasn't married or wasn't coming out of a relationship and is not in this industry then i would say give him my number...

whats wrong if he was coming out of a relationship

ztik · 10-08-2004, 01:29 PM

Murder Her it is the only answer

EZRhino · 10-08-2004, 01:30 PM

Drop her fast and find a good divorce lawyer. Its going to painful for him but this kind of situation never turns out good.

Scootermuze · 10-08-2004, 02:42 PM

There's really only a bottom line to the whole scenario...

So many times people want reasons that they can say, "oh.. ok.. I understand now."

But with some things.. such as ending relationships, no reason will be acceptable...

Whether she's honestly just needing 'me time' .. or is lying and is seeing someone else.. She doesn't want to be with him.. That should be enough of an answer.. even though it never is..

10-08-2004, 08:56 AM	#1
EscortBiz Fuck Checks, CASH only! Join Date: May 2002 Location: New York City Posts: 19,422	Friend needs advice hes married So where better to go then to the experts right here at GFY. (one the there will be a show called Dr. GFY) Here is the info He is: 29 Decent looking Makes ok money works at same job for years She is 25 Shes not goodloooking (looks wise shes nasty next to him) Doest have to work No kids, married for year and 5 months He loves her to death Now she tells him on Tuesday that she wants to have time to herself and wants to go back to live at her moms house, and maybe a divorce. real crazy talk WTF is this about? She says shes not seeing anyone etc. I am sending a link to my friend he will be readin it so be nice __________________ Spanking, Medical Fetish, Sleeping, Strap-on Anal Lesbians, Girls Fucking Guys, Handjob site REAL HOT, Shemales, Anal and Ass Licking sites 100% Real EXCLUSIVE with amazing retention, ccbill payouts, lots of content FREE FTP HOSTING Promote the largest and oldest member paid escort site, Converts 10 times better then any dating site, CCBill payouts ICQ# 158802076

10-08-2004, 08:59 AM	#2
Lycanthrope Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 4,517	Honestly, sounds like she is fucking around and wants to spend some time w/ the new guy to see if he is "better". With no kids, I'd welcome the break and see what transpires. Tell him to taste life too, but not to admit it or do it anywhere where she might see __________________

10-08-2004, 09:01 AM	#4
Raven Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 6,874	Not sure I understand how looks enter into the equation... But, it surely sounds as if she may have too much time on her hands... And, you're not giving enough information, really, that would allow a thoughtful opinion.....as to the root of the problem, which could be as easy or as difficult as: Not a match made in heaven. Infidelity on either of their parts. Poor communication skills. Unmet needs. Unreasonable or unrealistic expectations. __________________ Raven ~RETIRED~

10-08-2004, 09:07 AM	#9
BitterPen Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: TN Posts: 1,926	Is it out of the blue or have they been having problems? Girls get moody, and although this is not a good excuse, it is enough for some women. Maybe she feels trapped. ? I dunno. Sounds like serious trouble though. Best of luck to both of them __________________

10-08-2004, 09:14 AM	#11
Trixxxia Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Montreal, Canada Posts: 5,600	The girl needs a job - needs to have some other purpose in life other than sitting at home waiting for her husband. Boredom brings on crazy 'I deserve more' 'I'm better than this' 'He doesn't/isn't giving me enough attention' kinda thoughts. The possibility of her having an affair can be probable if she has nothing better to do than shop/gym & what not. I say give her the space letting her know full well that when she decides whether to come back or not - it's never certain that he'll want her back. If she wants to leave, open the door - you can't hold her back. Last edited by Trixxxia; 10-08-2004 at 09:15 AM..

10-08-2004, 08:59 AM	#3
cali_22 Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Whistler BC Posts: 2,330	Ya man thats a serious problem , most likely he should start dating again asap cause that cant last. good luck with that , too bad

10-08-2004, 09:02 AM	#5
rocki Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Fort Lauderdale Posts: 988	if he wasn't married or wasn't coming out of a relationship and is not in this industry then i would say give him my number...

10-08-2004, 09:03 AM	#6
demented Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Cincinnati Ohio Posts: 2,388	She says she's not seeing anyone else? 10 to 1 she's lying.

10-08-2004, 09:24 AM	#15
GTS Mark Vrume Mark Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Toronto, Canada Posts: 20,912	She's probably in that stage where most women are when they are in their mid 20's. They dream since they were teenagers of having this stay at home mom life and finally when they get it after a couple of years they get bored and go WTF??! This life isn't what they want and flip the fuck out and get into anti-depressants and all that other shit. Then they go out partying with their friends as they feel they missed the party stage as she got married too soon. She sees all her friends going out and partying and wants to join them. I have seen this happen to a few of my friends (both of them in their mid 20's married) and it fucking sucks! I fucking guarantee in 6 months this chick will come back begging after she has partied and got it all out of her system and finds out the single party scene isn't everything it's cracked up to be ;) Tell your friend to kick her ass to the curb and go have some fun! Why would you would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? DH

10-08-2004, 09:32 AM	#16
gornyhuy Chafed. Join Date: May 2002 Location: Face Down in Pussy Posts: 18,041	Two letters: O.J. __________________ icq:159548293

10-08-2004, 09:38 AM	#17
Sexzity Confirmed User Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Cyperspaces! Posts: 1,329	It will never last, then one of them will out of the married. At least they dont have kids.

10-08-2004, 09:40 AM	#19
sicone Retired Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Sac Posts: 18,453	he needs to find out what is wrong... if its something that can be fixed then give the break a shot and work on it. If its not something that can be fixed, then its time to hire a divorce lawyer before she takes him for all he has __________________

10-08-2004, 09:45 AM	#20
detoxed vip member Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 17,798	She's not hot? What the hell does she think she deserves to not work for? I'd have made her get a job Day 1.

10-08-2004, 09:49 AM	#21
Nanda Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: African Safari Posts: 5,310	Some people need time apart to think things out. I think marriage isn't a game, I think that you have to work things out as a couple. She said that she wanted time to think and maybe a divorce? I think right there you should know she's probably wanting to move on! Only you can decide what to do, but chances are that she isn't happy with you, with the relationship, or there might be someone else she's interested in... __________________ My Ex-husband SKULL-BUITRE ran off to Colombia with OUR money and screwed me after I helped him build OUR business. He is hiding in Colombia and never paid the settlement $ from our divorce!

10-08-2004, 10:23 AM	#26
Herb Kornfield Is on the 1 Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Philly Burbs Posts: 4,996	From having gone thru a deal exactly like what your friend is about 5 years ago. Here is my advice. Let her leave and move on with your life. If she isnt gong to stick by you 100% of time being married then, thats her problem to figure out, not yours. Marriage is very serious. You are placing the other person above your needs and BOTH of your continued survival depends on each other. There will be suitations that will test you collectively as well as individually as time goes on in a marriage that are MUCH tougher than just "needing space" Either your with me or not. 100% of the time. Being married for 5 wonderful years to a great woman has made me realize how importatnt it is to make things work for the common good of the family unit over what I want to have for only me. There is more than 1 fish in the ocean my man. Jim

10-08-2004, 11:20 AM	#27
Sosa In Tushy Land Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Nebraska Posts: 40,149	crazy shit, hope it all works out for your friend.

10-08-2004, 12:01 PM	#28
slapass Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Earth Posts: 14,622	It is over. Very few people go to the lengths she is going to to get the relationship back together. She does not work so she has tons of time to "find" herself. I suspect she found soemthing and it was someone else. The good news is he sounds like this will be fine for him.

10-08-2004, 01:00 PM	#29
PrincessWannaLaya Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Florida Posts: 520	Sorry to say, but i also think she has someone on the side already and is most likely lieing to your friend about not having one... its too bad .... but he should take it on a good note and realize that he is going to be single again, and he will be able to move on before he actaully made her pop out kids... Think Positive ... he can find better

10-08-2004, 01:24 PM	#30
pushpills Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: CHICAGO Posts: 3,700	you should date him.

10-08-2004, 01:29 PM	#32
ztik Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Nomad Posts: 5,196	Murder Her it is the only answer

10-08-2004, 01:30 PM	#33
EZRhino Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: couch Posts: 6,258	Drop her fast and find a good divorce lawyer. Its going to painful for him but this kind of situation never turns out good.

10-08-2004, 02:42 PM	#34
Scootermuze Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 4,513	There's really only a bottom line to the whole scenario... So many times people want reasons that they can say, "oh.. ok.. I understand now." But with some things.. such as ending relationships, no reason will be acceptable... Whether she's honestly just needing 'me time' .. or is lying and is seeing someone else.. She doesn't want to be with him.. That should be enough of an answer.. even though it never is..