7 Year Itch.... Is it real? Who's Made it through it? - GoFuckYourself.com

BitterPen · 09-22-2004, 10:48 PM

I've been married for 7 years. I've been 90% happy, but lately I've just felt restless. I'm not saying I want to cheat or leave; I'm just restless.

Has anyone felt this before? Have you made it past the infamous 7 year mark?

Your thoughts?

Rob · 09-22-2004, 10:50 PM

Let us be the judges....Show us your titties!

GiantGnome · 09-22-2004, 10:51 PM

18 years and still going strong. every one of them good.

BitterPen · 09-22-2004, 10:52 PM

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Originally posted by HighOnAcid
Let us be the judges....Show us your titties!

( O Y O )

There you go, now send me my fucking PS2!

NinjaSteve · 09-22-2004, 10:53 PM

Maybe you're stuck in a routine and just need to spice things up, do things a little different, or go on a vacation.

Rob · 09-22-2004, 10:53 PM

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Originally posted by BitterPen
( O Y O )

Whoa, those are some pretty big nips you got there!

BitterPen · 09-22-2004, 10:54 PM

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Originally posted by HighOnAcid
Whoa, those are some pretty big nips you got there!

More to suck on!

SpikeHeel · 09-22-2004, 11:28 PM

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Originally posted by BitterPen
I've been married for 7 years. I've been 90% happy, but lately I've just felt restless. I'm not saying I want to cheat or leave; I'm just restless.

Has anyone felt this before? Have you made it past the infamous 7 year mark?

Your thoughts?

hey bitterpen, why not try to have or think of creative ways to ignite your passion again? like making love with your partner in very weird places..like inside a hot air balloon, or while bungee jumping (is it possible? hehe) or inside a big freezer...

BitterPen · 09-22-2004, 11:46 PM

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Originally posted by NinjaSteve
Maybe you're stuck in a routine and just need to spice things up, do things a little different, or go on a vacation.

It's cool that you said that... I just bought tickets to go to Ft. Lauderdale tonight. His bday is in early Oct. so I'm hoping this little getaway will do us some good.

I am sure I'm stuck in a routine. The kids are a handfull at 4 and 6 years old, and he works a different schedule than me. We try to make "us" time, but it's hard.

Anyway, thanks for the advice! Keep it coming. I wanna know if I'm the only one that has ever felt this way

Satisfaction · 09-23-2004, 12:25 AM

cant say i have gone that long in any relationship i have had..

Sarah_Jayne · 09-23-2004, 12:57 AM

yes but I got thtrough it because it is way better than breaking up

Groove · 09-23-2004, 01:06 AM

Many of my friends have had relationship problems around the 7 year mark.

jasonir · 09-23-2004, 01:15 AM

The 7 year itch is a term for scabies. It sucks. Be careful.

CyberBachelor · 09-23-2004, 01:18 AM

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Originally posted by jasonir
The 7 year itch is a term for scabies. It sucks. Be careful.

fuck that...I am never stayin with anyone for 7 years

BitterPen · 09-23-2004, 08:02 AM

hmm... very interesting answers... any better ones from the day crew?

Methodcash Rick · 09-23-2004, 09:11 AM

17 years and still going strong..

We still love each other, and the sex life is still going strong, which is weird for a couple who have been stuck together almost 24/7 for the last 10 years..

Manowar · 09-23-2004, 09:22 AM

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Originally posted by HighOnAcid
Let us be the judges....Show us your titties!

ronaldo · 09-23-2004, 09:27 AM

14 years here.

The 7th year was no different than any other.

Although, we do fight ALOT less now than we used to. Simply because we've come to accept that everything she does is right, and everything I do is also right, unless she says so.

Tam · 09-23-2004, 09:32 AM

I have been with my husband for almost 22 years and we've gone thru some pretty bad lows and some awesome highs. This is normal, girl, ESPECIALLY if you both have jobs and you have kids. It's very easy to get so caught up in the world of responsible parent/adult and lose site of why you are doing it in the first place..... because you fell in love with him and wanted to make a family/life with him.

You pretty well summed it up in a nutshell when you said you work opposite shifts.. that is easy to lose sight of a relationship, without even adding the kids and day to day stuff in there.

FIND A SITTER!!!!! And find one FAST! Seriously. What we had to do was set aside time as follows
Family time - where you spend time with the whole family, MAKE the time, and you won't feel guilty with the others that follow!!
Me time- thisis AS crucial as family time, you have to be able to keep sight of who YOU are, in order to be on top of your game with the rest of the household members
HIS time - MAKE him do the male bonding thing, no matter what, make him do it.... it's awesome for letting him know he can still have his male bonding time, most men feel they lose this when they say "I do"
OUR time - this is time when your husband and you escape, even if it is just to go dancing, movie, dinner..... for a couple of hours. Just take the time when you can focus ONLY on each other and no one else. Don't go out with other couples on this one, just the two of you. DO NOT talk about kids, work, nothing but catching up on who each of you are and why you fell in love with him in the first place.

Chances are, he feels the same way you do, very much in love with you, but men don't express this like WE do... LOL (MY husband does, but I am told this is rare). What we used to do, when we couldn't get someone to watch the kids..... feed the kids their dinner, and let them go to bed, and then cook you two a nice little candlelight dinner and have it together.... don't have to leave the house and you have your time together without the kids and phones and whatnot. I am not one to leave my kids often, so this was awesome for me, I knew they were safe in bed and I was having my time with the one and only man I will ever love.

Long winded I know, but honey, I have been married for so long that we have about gone thru everything a couple can go thru and survive. We have been the worst that's ever happened to each other and the best, but always keep sight of the best.

Tam · 09-23-2004, 09:33 AM

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Originally posted by ronaldo
14 years here.

The 7th year was no different than any other.

Although, we do fight ALOT less now than we used to. Simply because we've come to accept that everything she does is right, and everything I do is also right, unless she says so.

You are THE perfect man....... rotfl
BUT you almost caused me to shoot coffee all over my screen....... LMAO

jhauser · 09-23-2004, 09:35 AM

I hear that some peoples itch last from the 7 to the 9th anniversary.

JesseD · 09-23-2004, 09:35 AM

Just some words of advice... Since you are telling the entire world you are "happy/not happy" I wouldn't let your spouse on your computer to see this thread!

Jakke PNG · 09-23-2004, 09:37 AM

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Originally posted by JesseD
Just some words of advice... Since you are telling the entire world you are "happy/not happy" I wouldn't let your spouse on your computer to see this thread!

Yeah, definately. That could lead to some communication which in turn could lead in some resolution, we wouldn't want THAT to happen.

Mr Dickovitch · 09-23-2004, 10:15 AM

Do you do double anal?

xlogger · 09-23-2004, 10:20 AM

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Originally posted by BitterPen
( O Y O )

i knew it!! implants!!

BitterPen · 09-23-2004, 10:20 AM

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Originally posted by JesseD
Just some words of advice... Since you are telling the entire world you are "happy/not happy" I wouldn't let your spouse on your computer to see this thread!

Thanks, but we really do have a good relationship. I have no secrets from him. He knows how I feel; I just wondered if I was the only person that has felt this way.

Honestly, in the big scheme of things, our marriage problems are near none. We don't fight. He's never been unfaithful. He's always been a huge help with the kids. He tries to be romantic at times. It is just me...? This is why I can't figure out why I am restless. I am sure it's just the whole routine factor, and the fact that we don't get out as much as we should.

And, Tam, I really appreciate your post. It would be awesome to get a sitter sometime. My parents take the kids as often as possible, but they are old and cranky and get tired of chasing two little beasts around the house. lol

Anyway, Thanks again to everyone that has posted!

I think I mentioned it earlier, but we just bought tickets to go to Florida (without the kids) for his birthday... Hopefully a vacation will do us some good. It has been a while!

gornyhuy · 09-23-2004, 11:09 AM

I'll let you know in 3 days!!!

Tam · 09-23-2004, 11:47 AM

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Originally posted by BitterPen
Honestly, in the big scheme of things, our marriage problems are near none. We don't fight. He's never been unfaithful. He's always been a huge help with the kids. He tries to be romantic at times. It is just me...? This is why I can't figure out why I am restless. I am sure it's just the whole routine factor, and the fact that we don't get out as much as we should.

And, Tam, I really appreciate your post. It would be awesome to get a sitter sometime. My parents take the kids as often as possible, but they are old and cranky and get tired of chasing two little beasts around the house. lol

Yup, I know what you mean. My husband's mom used to watch mine when I only had two of them and they would wear her out to no end. But she still did it, SHE is the one that taught me how to be a wife and mom and who taught me about the times that needed to happen. She was not only my Mom/Mother-in-law, but my best friend and mentor..... she passed away several years ago, and I miss her, but she was the one that taught me to always be mindful of ME!

If you can't get away.... do the dinner after hours thing at home.... you will be amazed how very cool that is. Simply because you are in your element, you have no worries about the kids, and you can do it in those sexy nighties..... *giggling*. It really is great to just RELAX.

And trust me woman, the ROUTINE has gotten to me many many times. My husband is a godsend to me, like you, mine has never strayed or even hinted at it.... so I knew it was just me. Women get restless and bored too....... let no one tell you any different. And I would almost venture to say more so than men, they just aren't AS vocal about it, we feel like we have failed if we voice it out loud..... but, honey, we haven't failed, it's the ones that do NOT act on it and try and fix it that fail.....

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ronaldo Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: ICQ#: 272000271 Posts: 5,475	14 years here. The 7th year was no different than any other. Although, we do fight ALOT less now than we used to. Simply because we've come to accept that everything she does is right, and everything I do is also right, unless she says so.

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Tam Rude Bitch Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: In your face Posts: 8,500	I have been with my husband for almost 22 years and we've gone thru some pretty bad lows and some awesome highs. This is normal, girl, ESPECIALLY if you both have jobs and you have kids. It's very easy to get so caught up in the world of responsible parent/adult and lose site of why you are doing it in the first place..... because you fell in love with him and wanted to make a family/life with him. You pretty well summed it up in a nutshell when you said you work opposite shifts.. that is easy to lose sight of a relationship, without even adding the kids and day to day stuff in there. FIND A SITTER!!!!! And find one FAST! Seriously. What we had to do was set aside time as follows Family time - where you spend time with the whole family, MAKE the time, and you won't feel guilty with the others that follow!! Me time- thisis AS crucial as family time, you have to be able to keep sight of who YOU are, in order to be on top of your game with the rest of the household members HIS time - MAKE him do the male bonding thing, no matter what, make him do it.... it's awesome for letting him know he can still have his male bonding time, most men feel they lose this when they say "I do" OUR time - this is time when your husband and you escape, even if it is just to go dancing, movie, dinner..... for a couple of hours. Just take the time when you can focus ONLY on each other and no one else. Don't go out with other couples on this one, just the two of you. DO NOT talk about kids, work, nothing but catching up on who each of you are and why you fell in love with him in the first place. Chances are, he feels the same way you do, very much in love with you, but men don't express this like WE do... LOL (MY husband does, but I am told this is rare). What we used to do, when we couldn't get someone to watch the kids..... feed the kids their dinner, and let them go to bed, and then cook you two a nice little candlelight dinner and have it together.... don't have to leave the house and you have your time together without the kids and phones and whatnot. I am not one to leave my kids often, so this was awesome for me, I knew they were safe in bed and I was having my time with the one and only man I will ever love. Long winded I know, but honey, I have been married for so long that we have about gone thru everything a couple can go thru and survive. We have been the worst that's ever happened to each other and the best, but always keep sight of the best. __________________ Get in Touch on Telegram if you need a hardworker - (since 1999) - All About Me!

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