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jaYMan · 07-21-2004, 10:36 PM

Sorry for length in advance... true story from last sat night...

My mother was in a car accident on July1st. She broke her back and shattered her ankle, also got a severe frontal lobe concussion which is terribly fucking with her short term memory. After 2.5 weeks in the hospital, and after 2 operations, she was physically ready for release from the Nuroscience wing of our local hospital.

She was to be released to a rehab center for phsyical therapy. She needed to learn how to move around with her back brace on, and to also learn how to get around without putting weight on her shattered ankle. A rehab center is usually just a dedicated wing in a nursing home, that a therapist comes to twice a day and gets the patients to move around a bit.

So, the place her insurance company places her, is in an awful part of town. Hey, you gotta have degrees or something to work in these places I thought, so hell, maybe people drive in.

Anyways, last Sat night, I was visiting right before bedtime. Keep in mind each and every day my mom forgets where she is, and has no recollection of the accident. Ever seen the movie 50 first dates? Same kinda thing. Okay, so I had never helped her into the bathroom before, and seeing my momma take a leak was something I really wanted to no part of. I hit the nurse call button. The light goes on outside the door in the hallway.

No one comes. Ten minutes later, my mom still standing on her broken ankle in the bathroom. Her roomate, who was about 95 years old, offers to help her. She does, and mom gets sorted out and statrs coming back into the room towards her bed.

A male patient, about 90 pounds and wild hair appears in the doorway. The little old lady that helped my mom get dressed says, get him out of here, he is always trying to get in bed with people! I'm thinking WTF. I look at him, and say hey, take a hike. He has a glazed look in his eye and looks straight through me. Sent chills down my spine.

I walk up to him and get in his face. Move it man, I'm not kidding, get the fuck out of here. Still nothing.

I put my hands up to him, to get ready to manhandle his little ass out the door. He pops to life, and darts across the hallway into another patients room. What the fuckever I thought.

Help momma get in bed, tell her g'night, etc, and make my way to leave. Its been 20 minutes since I hit the nurse call button keep in mind. I hear a scream from across the hall.

I go out and look into the room where the scream came from. A 100 year old man, all shriveled up with a Santa beard and white unkept hair looks right in my eyes and mouths the words HELP ME. At the end of the bed is the patient I ran out of my moms room. He has his hands up the old old guys gown. My mouth drops. The old old man being felt up hits his nurse light.

Now I'm standing in the hallway looking around. 2 nurse alarms are going off now, almost in harmony. Its been 25 mins since I hit my moms in her room, almost 30.

I run to the nurses station. No one. I start heading towards the front door of the building and 2 nurses walk in. I tell them whats going on, and they dart off, more concerned about me seeing them than worried about whats going on back down the hallway.

I go out the front door and find 4 more nurses sitting there smoking cigs.

I didn't know what to do. I wanted to get baseball bats and bash thier fucking skulls in. I realized this probably would just end up being taken out on my mom, since they knew I saw them fucking off.

Sorry for such a long story, but this happened Sat night, and I had to share it... Needless to say, found a new place first thing Monday morning, and I stayed all night in a chair next to her bed that night.

I never thought I'd have to be dealing with such things at 30.

ZanyCash Larry · 07-21-2004, 10:39 PM

You Write well, sorry it has to be about a sad story

Chris · 07-21-2004, 10:43 PM

thats fucked man

if i where you after you get your mom out let the state know :-/

zanycash Pete · 07-21-2004, 10:49 PM

Indeed! very fucked!

Bree · 07-21-2004, 11:01 PM

Damn jaY... that just totally sucks..

Those CNAs need to be fired.. sadly, nursing home abuse is so pervasive.

I hope it all works out for ya.. You know I'm here if you need any help..

/hugs

VirtuMike · 07-21-2004, 11:12 PM

Wow that would piss me off so bad I'd probably tape the whole thing and send it to asshat.

Triple 6 · 07-21-2004, 11:15 PM

nice pic.

get them fired with it.

chase · 07-21-2004, 11:20 PM

Hey sweet thing...I'm sorry you had such a traumatic event! I'm not sure where you are, but here's a link to a Cali site that handles how to make a complaint about nursing homes. I know it's tough to stick your neck out, but think about how many patients have been sexually assaulted due to the negligence of the staff to monitor their patients. (And I don't care how off his rocker the man is, to his victims, it has NO impact whatsoever on their trauma!)
http://www.canhr.org/complaint.htm
Much love!
Chase

iwantchixx · 07-21-2004, 11:24 PM

go to the media Jay, Seriously, Nothing fucks these bad places up bad like a good old fashioned media stint does

Goatse · 07-21-2004, 11:33 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Triple 6
nice pic.

get them fired with it.

Followed by riots, cries of racism, and a flowery speech by Jesse Jackson...

Manowar · 07-21-2004, 11:50 PM

thats fucked up man

Elli · 07-22-2004, 12:08 AM

That's horrible. I hope you found somewhere safe for her. And yes, I would definitely raise a stink about the other place. Maybe call the insurance company and let them know what kind of "service" they are providing?

wyldblyss · 07-22-2004, 12:16 AM

Although no one likes to get involved I really would notify every department I can think of. People are being sexual assaulted, and even older people have their pride and they take a sexual assault hard. Many do not have family and there is no one to help them out in the situation. It will take someone else to help them. You should be that person.

contentjunky · 07-22-2004, 12:22 AM

UNBELIEVABLE! Its outrageous. Im very sorry about your mom. Its good that your helping her out pal. Good Job!

XxShiznaughtxX · 07-22-2004, 12:41 AM

I wonder how pervasive this kind of apathy is in care services.

If you were a fat Hatian woman how eager would you be to go up to wipe someone's ass.

xxxdesign-net · 07-22-2004, 12:49 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by jaYMan

I didn't know what to do. I wanted to get baseball bats and bash thier fucking skulls in. I realized this probably would just end up being taken out on my mom, since they knew I saw them fucking off.

S

Report them to the highest person you can.. Nobody likes incompetent employes..

MaDalton · 07-22-2004, 01:18 AM

that's really really fucked up - i would also suggest to go to the local newspaper or whatever. not every patient is that lucky to have a son that cares - save them all.

hova · 07-22-2004, 01:47 AM

thats really fucked up

ModelPerfect · 07-22-2004, 05:04 AM

Damn, that sucks. You should get very 'loud' about this.

LadyMischief · 07-22-2004, 05:07 AM

Take it to your local medical board.. facilities like that endanger more lives than they help.

Rankings · 07-22-2004, 05:11 AM

glad you were there to witness it and put an end to it. hope your mom gets well soon!

Jason Fromm · 07-22-2004, 05:34 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Triple 6
nice pic.

get them fired with it.

For sure...that was quick thinking to snap that picture. Wait till your mom gets out, then take 'em to court.

kmanrox · 07-22-2004, 05:35 AM

i'm surprised there arent any racist interjections yet

johnbosh · 07-22-2004, 05:36 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by JupZChris
thats fucked man

if i where you after you get your mom out let the state know :-/

yeah it sucks men

good luck

Fred Quimby · 07-22-2004, 06:00 AM

Sorry bud

Toolz · 07-22-2004, 06:08 AM

Damn dude, start with the hospital admin. Given that they probably already know this goes on you can start with the state licensing board for nurses and get these women all under investigation for dereliction of duties. Nurses make GOOD, GOOD money and I'm sure they'll be interested in keeping their jobs.

07-22-2004, 06:13 AM

Judging by the pic, they can't even pic their trash up off the ground, let alone look after elderly or sick people.

stembolt · 07-22-2004, 06:14 AM

thats fucked up mate
get your mum out
report that place
tell the papers
sort them fuckers out

Lange · 07-22-2004, 07:03 AM

Dang...JaYMan, sorry to see that about your mother. Hope she has a speedy recovery.

It's a shame to see something like that happening...Just thank god you were there to see what was going on.

Crazy story.

WebTitan · 07-22-2004, 07:11 AM

i have had both parents ill in the hospital from time to time and we have a family 'policy' that NO ONE is ever left alone at a hospital. we each take turns spending the day AND nights with them so we KNOW they are being cared for. never had stories as bad as this one though

sorry man

jimmyf · 07-22-2004, 07:17 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by contentjunky
UNBELIEVABLE! Its outrageous. Im very sorry about your mom. Its good that your helping her out pal. Good Job!

MetaMan · 07-22-2004, 07:18 AM

that is horrible.

if its one thing that ticks me off the most is the mistreating of the elderly, it truly takes a twisted person to take advantage of them. im not sure how u held yourself back, i would have freaked out.

Odie · 07-22-2004, 07:24 AM

sorry to hear about that Jayman...i'd def write to the hospital and then see where it takes you. If there's no response then I'd take it to the papers and the governing boards of that hospital.

I broke my back when I was 12 so I know what she's going thru. It's not fun, and having competent help is extremely necessary.

I'm surprised that they let your mom out of bed so soon after the accident.

good luck with this.

pussyluver · 07-22-2004, 07:28 AM

Spent all nighters at a hospital when my mom was sick with cancer. Sad that this is more common that it should be. Good luck in finding a better place.

jennym · 07-22-2004, 08:17 AM

So sorry to hear about your mom. Best of luck to her in her recovery.

Definitely go public with this. I would call the local news station. They will not change unless they are forced to. Public awareness is the easiest and fastest way to get the ball rolling.

cherrylula · 07-22-2004, 08:26 AM

Sorry to hear about that. But I have heard and experienced way worse stories in hospitals and convalescent homes.

And I figure you might already realize to NEVER leave any expensive jewelry on your loved ones when they are in any sort of hospital.

I had a Great-Grandmother go through a bunch of jewelry after being in a home for 2-3 years before she passed away. She was so old and sick, but still wanted her jewelry on. Eventually we just started getting her cheap silver rings and things to wear because we could not watch her 24/7 and the motherfuckers just kept stealing even like $6 silver rings off her fingers.

Few things are worse than negligent medical workers.

enter » · 07-22-2004, 08:34 AM

That is fuckin' HORRIBLE! I'm pissed just from reading it. You HAVE to do something. Check your local TV stations for those 'channel 5 on your side' type things where they expose shit like this. They would eat a story like this up and it would damn sure get them exposed.

All the Best for you and your mom

07-21-2004, 10:36 PM	#1
jaYMan peace&profit, Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 4,885	fucking horror story from last sat night (pic) Sorry for length in advance... true story from last sat night... My mother was in a car accident on July1st. She broke her back and shattered her ankle, also got a severe frontal lobe concussion which is terribly fucking with her short term memory. After 2.5 weeks in the hospital, and after 2 operations, she was physically ready for release from the Nuroscience wing of our local hospital. She was to be released to a rehab center for phsyical therapy. She needed to learn how to move around with her back brace on, and to also learn how to get around without putting weight on her shattered ankle. A rehab center is usually just a dedicated wing in a nursing home, that a therapist comes to twice a day and gets the patients to move around a bit. So, the place her insurance company places her, is in an awful part of town. Hey, you gotta have degrees or something to work in these places I thought, so hell, maybe people drive in. Anyways, last Sat night, I was visiting right before bedtime. Keep in mind each and every day my mom forgets where she is, and has no recollection of the accident. Ever seen the movie 50 first dates? Same kinda thing. Okay, so I had never helped her into the bathroom before, and seeing my momma take a leak was something I really wanted to no part of. I hit the nurse call button. The light goes on outside the door in the hallway. No one comes. Ten minutes later, my mom still standing on her broken ankle in the bathroom. Her roomate, who was about 95 years old, offers to help her. She does, and mom gets sorted out and statrs coming back into the room towards her bed. A male patient, about 90 pounds and wild hair appears in the doorway. The little old lady that helped my mom get dressed says, get him out of here, he is always trying to get in bed with people! I'm thinking WTF. I look at him, and say hey, take a hike. He has a glazed look in his eye and looks straight through me. Sent chills down my spine. I walk up to him and get in his face. Move it man, I'm not kidding, get the fuck out of here. Still nothing. I put my hands up to him, to get ready to manhandle his little ass out the door. He pops to life, and darts across the hallway into another patients room. What the fuckever I thought. Help momma get in bed, tell her g'night, etc, and make my way to leave. Its been 20 minutes since I hit the nurse call button keep in mind. I hear a scream from across the hall. I go out and look into the room where the scream came from. A 100 year old man, all shriveled up with a Santa beard and white unkept hair looks right in my eyes and mouths the words HELP ME. At the end of the bed is the patient I ran out of my moms room. He has his hands up the old old guys gown. My mouth drops. The old old man being felt up hits his nurse light. Now I'm standing in the hallway looking around. 2 nurse alarms are going off now, almost in harmony. Its been 25 mins since I hit my moms in her room, almost 30. I run to the nurses station. No one. I start heading towards the front door of the building and 2 nurses walk in. I tell them whats going on, and they dart off, more concerned about me seeing them than worried about whats going on back down the hallway. I go out the front door and find 4 more nurses sitting there smoking cigs. I didn't know what to do. I wanted to get baseball bats and bash thier fucking skulls in. I realized this probably would just end up being taken out on my mom, since they knew I saw them fucking off. Sorry for such a long story, but this happened Sat night, and I had to share it... Needless to say, found a new place first thing Monday morning, and I stayed all night in a chair next to her bed that night. I never thought I'd have to be dealing with such things at 30. __________________ peace&profit, jaYMan

07-21-2004, 10:39 PM	#2
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07-21-2004, 10:43 PM	#3
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07-21-2004, 10:49 PM	#4
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07-21-2004, 11:01 PM	#5
Bree Registered User Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: meh Posts: 356	Damn jaY... that just totally sucks.. Those CNAs need to be fired.. sadly, nursing home abuse is so pervasive. I hope it all works out for ya.. You know I'm here if you need any help.. /hugs

07-21-2004, 11:15 PM	#7
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07-21-2004, 11:20 PM	#8
chase Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Tampa Bay Posts: 6,019	Hey sweet thing...I'm sorry you had such a traumatic event! I'm not sure where you are, but here's a link to a Cali site that handles how to make a complaint about nursing homes. I know it's tough to stick your neck out, but think about how many patients have been sexually assaulted due to the negligence of the staff to monitor their patients. (And I don't care how off his rocker the man is, to his victims, it has NO impact whatsoever on their trauma!) http://www.canhr.org/complaint.htm Much love! Chase

07-21-2004, 11:24 PM	#9
iwantchixx Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: The Boonies Posts: 12,860	go to the media Jay, Seriously, Nothing fucks these bad places up bad like a good old fashioned media stint does

07-21-2004, 11:50 PM	#11
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07-22-2004, 12:08 AM	#12
Elli Reach for those stars! Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 17,991	That's horrible. I hope you found somewhere safe for her. And yes, I would definitely raise a stink about the other place. Maybe call the insurance company and let them know what kind of "service" they are providing? __________________ email: [email protected]

07-22-2004, 12:16 AM	#13
wyldblyss Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: The Buck Starts Here Posts: 5,779	Although no one likes to get involved I really would notify every department I can think of. People are being sexual assaulted, and even older people have their pride and they take a sexual assault hard. Many do not have family and there is no one to help them out in the situation. It will take someone else to help them. You should be that person.

07-22-2004, 12:22 AM	#14
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07-22-2004, 12:41 AM	#15
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07-22-2004, 01:18 AM	#17
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07-22-2004, 01:47 AM	#18
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07-22-2004, 05:04 AM	#19
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07-22-2004, 05:07 AM	#20
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07-22-2004, 05:11 AM	#21
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07-22-2004, 05:35 AM	#23
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07-22-2004, 06:00 AM	#25
Fred Quimby Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Long Island, NY Posts: 5,430	Sorry bud

07-22-2004, 06:08 AM	#26
Toolz Confirmed User Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Podunk Posts: 690	Damn dude, start with the hospital admin. Given that they probably already know this goes on you can start with the state licensing board for nurses and get these women all under investigation for dereliction of duties. Nurses make GOOD, GOOD money and I'm sure they'll be interested in keeping their jobs.

07-22-2004, 06:13 AM	#27
evildick Guest Posts: n/a	Judging by the pic, they can't even pic their trash up off the ground, let alone look after elderly or sick people.

07-22-2004, 06:14 AM	#28
stembolt Confirmed User Join Date: May 2004 Location: deck 6 section 16 uss enterprise ncc1701e Posts: 463	thats fucked up mate get your mum out report that place tell the papers sort them fuckers out __________________ hahahahahahahahaha once upon a time i had something to put here!!!!

07-22-2004, 07:03 AM	#29
Lange Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: The Beach Posts: 472	Dang...JaYMan, sorry to see that about your mother. Hope she has a speedy recovery. It's a shame to see something like that happening...Just thank god you were there to see what was going on. Crazy story.

07-22-2004, 07:11 AM	#30
WebTitan Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Western NY Posts: 5,114	i have had both parents ill in the hospital from time to time and we have a family 'policy' that NO ONE is ever left alone at a hospital. we each take turns spending the day AND nights with them so we KNOW they are being cared for. never had stories as bad as this one though sorry man

07-22-2004, 07:18 AM	#32
MetaMan I AM WEB 2.0 Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 28,682	that is horrible. if its one thing that ticks me off the most is the mistreating of the elderly, it truly takes a twisted person to take advantage of them. im not sure how u held yourself back, i would have freaked out.

07-22-2004, 07:24 AM	#33
Odie Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: The WATER BABY! Posts: 7,040	sorry to hear about that Jayman...i'd def write to the hospital and then see where it takes you. If there's no response then I'd take it to the papers and the governing boards of that hospital. I broke my back when I was 12 so I know what she's going thru. It's not fun, and having competent help is extremely necessary. I'm surprised that they let your mom out of bed so soon after the accident. good luck with this. __________________ Odie [email protected] Are you Mobile???? MMACanada ICQ # 166208354 See Who I Am At AdultWhosWho.com!

07-22-2004, 07:28 AM	#34
pussyluver Clueless OleMan Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: ICQ - 169903487 Posts: 11,009	Spent all nighters at a hospital when my mom was sick with cancer. Sad that this is more common that it should be. Good luck in finding a better place.

07-22-2004, 08:17 AM	#35
jennym Confirmed User Join Date: May 2003 Location: the south Posts: 1,622	So sorry to hear about your mom. Best of luck to her in her recovery. Definitely go public with this. I would call the local news station. They will not change unless they are forced to. Public awareness is the easiest and fastest way to get the ball rolling.

07-22-2004, 08:26 AM	#36
cherrylula lol Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 15,969	Sorry to hear about that. But I have heard and experienced way worse stories in hospitals and convalescent homes. And I figure you might already realize to NEVER leave any expensive jewelry on your loved ones when they are in any sort of hospital. I had a Great-Grandmother go through a bunch of jewelry after being in a home for 2-3 years before she passed away. She was so old and sick, but still wanted her jewelry on. Eventually we just started getting her cheap silver rings and things to wear because we could not watch her 24/7 and the motherfuckers just kept stealing even like $6 silver rings off her fingers. Few things are worse than negligent medical workers.

07-22-2004, 08:34 AM	#37
enter » Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: -- arizona --» Posts: 2,362	That is fuckin' HORRIBLE! I'm pissed just from reading it. You HAVE to do something. Check your local TV stations for those 'channel 5 on your side' type things where they expose shit like this. They would eat a story like this up and it would damn sure get them exposed. All the Best for you and your mom __________________ «-- offer extended through New Years (icq286487452)