Partner Fidlelity :: would you test it - GoFuckYourself.com

Frank The Tank · 05-13-2004, 04:47 AM

Someone i know is going out with a girl a long time now and hes a paranoid fucker .. shes gorgeous and i admit it myself but i know shes crazy about him .. now he wants to marry her but due to previous bad experiences hes paranoid about her fidelity and now has a crazy idea of offering a guy whos a well known womaniser whom is defintely her type money to try and seduce his gf to test her ..

Now my question is would you do something similar - what do you think of this guy and his idea ..

personally i think hes lost it ...lol

EviLGuY · 05-13-2004, 04:51 AM

Thats fucked up. I can;t see that ending well at all. Best case she doesn't cheat and he feels all better, but what if the fact he ever did that to her came out?

There are better ways to find out how a girl feels.

ALiEn_OuT · 05-13-2004, 05:06 AM

Should keeps updated as to the results ... now i'm curious

Blinky · 05-13-2004, 05:12 AM

If you get the chance, tell the chick, make sure she doesn't fall for it, then everyone will be happy.

I don't get it, why be crushed if someone cheats on you ? They obviously aren't worth going out with if they're like that, so just get over it.

There's always someone better....

Jakke PNG · 05-13-2004, 05:14 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Blinky
If you get the chance, tell the chick, make sure she doesn't fall for it, then everyone will be happy.

I don't get it, why be crushed if someone cheats on you ? They obviously aren't worth going out with if they're like that, so just get over it.

There's always someone better....

Did you see the marry part of the post? I wouldn't be as lighthearted as you if I wanted to marry someone. She cheats, let's get over it. I couldn't. I'd drop the bitch in a heartbeat.

Frank The Tank · 05-13-2004, 05:33 AM

ill keep yall posted but i think if she cheats BEFORE the marriage proposal then at least he has the comfort that he doesnt have to go through all the expenses of a wedding and divorces and knows shes not the one he wants to spend his life with

DR_PHIL · 05-13-2004, 05:36 AM

if there is any doubt, then they dont need to get married.

SykkBoy · 05-13-2004, 08:45 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by TeenGodFather
Did you see the marry part of the post? I wouldn't be as lighthearted as you if I wanted to marry someone. She cheats, let's get over it. I couldn't. I'd drop the bitch in a heartbeat.

if he can't trust her, then there's no reason to be married...

stev0 · 05-13-2004, 08:48 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by SykkBoy2
if he can't trust her, then there's no reason to be married...

That's what i was thinking too.... why would you want to marry someone you think might cheat on you?

TheEnforcer · 05-13-2004, 08:48 AM

The dude most certainly lost it.

monica · 05-13-2004, 08:59 AM

It's wrong, plain and simple. You just have to close your eyes and trust when you are in love. And yes, sometimes you are going to get burned, but isn't it worth the risk?

Jakke PNG · 05-13-2004, 09:06 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by SykkBoy2
if he can't trust her, then there's no reason to be married...

Maybe he does. What does the test hurt?

Jakke PNG · 05-13-2004, 09:07 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by monica
It's wrong, plain and simple. You just have to close your eyes and trust when you are in love. And yes, sometimes you are going to get burned, but isn't it worth the risk?

Why is it wrong?

Furious_Male · 05-13-2004, 09:22 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by monica
It's wrong, plain and simple. You just have to close your eyes and trust when you are in love. And yes, sometimes you are going to get burned, but isn't it worth the risk?

Sounds like hes closed his eyes and went in blind one to many times and now hes had enough. I guess I can't blame him.

On the flip side I am not sure how healthy this is to start out a marriage. Perhaps he should seek the advice of a professional.

Jaden · 05-13-2004, 10:16 AM

yep you can bet your ass next time around I am going to be doing some serious digging to keep from screwed again. Not unethical at all. And I would have no problem with someone checking up on me for the same reasons....Do what you are supposed to do and it won't matter who is watching when.

Frank The Tank · 05-13-2004, 11:26 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by SykkBoy2
if he can't trust her, then there's no reason to be married...

i dont think hes that he cant trust HER hes been burned twice already and has a hard time trusting ANYWHERE

jwerd · 05-13-2004, 11:28 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by basadmin
Someone i know is going out with a girl a long time now and hes a paranoid fucker .. shes gorgeous and i admit it myself but i know shes crazy about him .. now he wants to marry her but due to previous bad experiences hes paranoid about her fidelity and now has a crazy idea of offering a guy whos a well known womaniser whom is defintely her type money to try and seduce his gf to test her ..

Now my question is would you do something similar - what do you think of this guy and his idea ..

personally i think hes lost it ...lol

Trust is everything. If he doesn't trust her and wants to "test" her, that just isn't going to work and he needs to move on.

Raf1 · 05-13-2004, 11:42 AM

I wouldn't do it, but if it makes him feel better...

torrey · 05-13-2004, 11:44 AM

Walk away.

Kassidy · 05-13-2004, 11:53 AM

If he can't trust her, he's not ready for a serious commited relationship. And if she ever found out that he did that, he'd probably lose her anyway.

Perhaps he'd be better off spending his money on some therapy.

kimzar · 05-13-2004, 12:35 PM

the movie "kissing a fool"
relationships are hard enough as is, why make them harder, if he doesnt trust her then thats his problem, even if she passes this initial test that doesnt mean it might not happen down the line

StickyGreen · 05-13-2004, 12:40 PM

thats a bad situation overall and probably wont have happy results...im curious how that turns out though...

AVM · 05-13-2004, 12:46 PM

A one time unethical practice in pursuit of a lifetime of happiness?
Well worth it in my opinion, I think he should definitely do it.

Many people have said he shouldn't be getting married - If he has to question her fidelity. Well fact is, regardless of your compatibility, how amazing you get along together, how wonderful your relationship is --- This trust/insecurity issue has no discretion. It doesn't come for the "bad relationships" and go with the "good relationships". It stays with you for life, and or until you seek solace. It (the trust factor) will become apparent with or without suspicious behavior practices by the person in question.

Why? Because love/companionship/ and all that goes out the wind0w when you have fear/insecurity issues. So no matter how perfect the girl/guy is, if a person has low self esteem and or have been hurt before? Fact is, the thought will always be in the back of their mind - In love or not, this character flaw will surface!

Thus - I feel one can meet their soul mate, fall deeply in love, get married, and still have a bit of anxiety when it comes to trust.

Jaden · 05-13-2004, 01:37 PM

Also. while it is great to look at marriage as all about love and romance and whatever else, it also is entering in a partnership. I doubt anyone out there would enter in a business agreement with someone wherein you agree that if things go sour they get half of absolutely everything withough checking the person out a bit deeper than just taking their word for it.

Trust is a great thing...blind trust is just plain ignorant. Especially when you are giving someone the power to not only crush your heart but instant access to half of everything you have.

TheFrog · 05-13-2004, 01:40 PM

i, personally would do that test too

AWC · 05-13-2004, 01:43 PM

insecure males are a waste of time... hope she falls for the other dude and gets rid of this loser.

Elli · 05-13-2004, 01:48 PM

After the test, if she passes, will he tell her what he did? Or will he be forever paranoid that she might find out and leave him for his lack of trust in her obviously upstanding morals?

WPProphet · 05-13-2004, 02:12 PM

If he goes through with this test, will that be enough? Probably not, his insecurities and fears of being hurt are obviously deep seeded. He should seek counseling to help him deal with the fact that some people are assholes and will hurt you nomatter what you do. and besides that what's to say just because she passes this test that she wouldnt fail it a few years down the road when things get tough? A onetime test doesnt prove faithfulness to your llover. there is no test. You either trust or not and if you get hurt, you grieve and move on to some one better. sorry that's my

PhotoGreggXXX · 05-13-2004, 02:37 PM

I'm getting married soon to my hottie, love partner. We have an open relationship and she likes women as much as me. I have no problem with her bringing home a cutie for both of us to play with

Tala · 05-13-2004, 02:44 PM

That's fucked up. SERIOUSLY fucked up. He gets busted, then she's gone.

Communication, people. Talk to each other. If he's so paranoid, has he told her his paranoia? have they tried to work that out, or is he a nitwit who thinks it's best not to tell her about something that scares him so badly?

Frank The Tank · 05-13-2004, 03:56 PM

she knows about the ex's and what happened and yes hes talked but thats not enough for some people .. its the nagging thought ..

well fuck it i dunno im thinking he should do it either way .. if she leaves him over the test well shes not really in love with him either ..

Syl · 05-13-2004, 04:35 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by PhotoGreggXXX
I'm getting married soon to my hottie, love partner. We have an open relationship and she likes women as much as me. I have no problem with her bringing home a cutie for both of us to play with

Is she allowed to "play" with other men too?

RicardoB · 05-13-2004, 04:38 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by DR_PHIL
if there is any doubt, then they dont need to get married.

Agreed

Kassidy · 05-13-2004, 11:52 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Syl
Is she allowed to "play" with other men too?

I was wondering the same thing...

reynold · 05-14-2004, 12:53 AM

Without trust, they won't last long.

newsdude · 05-14-2004, 02:06 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by PhotoGreggXXX
I'm getting married soon to my hottie, love partner. We have an open relationship and she likes women as much as me. I have no problem with her bringing home a cutie for both of us to play with

Congrats to you and wish you the best of luck!

graphicsbytia · 05-14-2004, 02:13 AM

if I were you I would warn that girl to run away and don't look back..

the type of thing he's thinking of doing is something an abuser does

samuel · 05-14-2004, 02:28 AM

What movie are you looking for?

If you want to marry someone it is suppose because you are in love with her and you trust her.... that thing to tell another guy to seduce your gf only denotes a BIG INSECURITY!!...

Samuel

pure energy · 05-14-2004, 02:36 AM

He's a total loser, thats what I think.

StRoGE · 05-14-2004, 04:25 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by graphicsbytia
if I were you I would warn that girl to run away and don't look back..

the type of thing he's thinking of doing is something an abuser does

Not always. This test could just be the final step to him trusting her completely. Ive been in his shoes before, and I got burned, bad. I had trust issues in the relationship, but she kept downplaying them. Well we got into a fight one day and she slept with one of her friends.
To this very day I wish I had known she was capable of it from the beginning. My advice to this guy, is DO THE FUCKING TEST.
It could mean the difference between being unhappy for a couple months, or destroying your life.
Let us know the results please.

05-13-2004, 04:47 AM	#1
Frank The Tank Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Ireland Posts: 3,225	Partner Fidlelity :: would you test it Someone i know is going out with a girl a long time now and hes a paranoid fucker .. shes gorgeous and i admit it myself but i know shes crazy about him .. now he wants to marry her but due to previous bad experiences hes paranoid about her fidelity and now has a crazy idea of offering a guy whos a well known womaniser whom is defintely her type money to try and seduce his gf to test her .. Now my question is would you do something similar - what do you think of this guy and his idea .. personally i think hes lost it ...lol __________________ aim : titanceltic icq : 307499327 Frank[@]babesandstuff.com

05-13-2004, 05:33 AM	#6
Frank The Tank Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Ireland Posts: 3,225	ill keep yall posted but i think if she cheats BEFORE the marriage proposal then at least he has the comfort that he doesnt have to go through all the expenses of a wedding and divorces and knows shes not the one he wants to spend his life with __________________ aim : titanceltic icq : 307499327 Frank[@]babesandstuff.com

05-13-2004, 08:48 AM	#10
TheEnforcer Confirmed User Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 2,855	The dude most certainly lost it. __________________ Hit me up below for all your advertising needs!

05-13-2004, 08:59 AM	#11
monica Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Canada Posts: 220	It's wrong, plain and simple. You just have to close your eyes and trust when you are in love. And yes, sometimes you are going to get burned, but isn't it worth the risk? __________________ monica AT monicaweb DOT net

05-13-2004, 11:42 AM	#18
Raf1 Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Writer for hire :) Gallery descriptions, articles, blog posts etc. ICQ: 209 356 106 Posts: 12,117	I wouldn't do it, but if it makes him feel better... __________________ 80% Revshare or 30$ PPS on $1 trials: 200 Niches = Vidz.com Galleries / FLVs / Embeds 3 & 5mins FLVs \| RSS & Tube Feeds \| Matching Thumbs \| FLV Browser & Exporter \| No Prechecked Xsales >> Mobile Redirection Script: mobile.vidz.com also paying 80% net Lifetime << ICQ: 198-394-557

05-13-2004, 04:51 AM	#2
EviLGuY So Fucking Banned Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: malta Posts: 12,745	Thats fucked up. I can;t see that ending well at all. Best case she doesn't cheat and he feels all better, but what if the fact he ever did that to her came out? There are better ways to find out how a girl feels.

05-13-2004, 05:06 AM	#3
ALiEn_OuT Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Calgary AB Canada Posts: 577	Should keeps updated as to the results ... now i'm curious

05-13-2004, 05:12 AM	#4
Blinky Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Australia Posts: 268	If you get the chance, tell the chick, make sure she doesn't fall for it, then everyone will be happy. I don't get it, why be crushed if someone cheats on you ? They obviously aren't worth going out with if they're like that, so just get over it. There's always someone better....

05-13-2004, 05:36 AM	#7
DR_PHIL Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Never visits the same thread twice Posts: 4,099	if there is any doubt, then they dont need to get married.

05-13-2004, 10:16 AM	#15
Jaden Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: CO Posts: 151	yep you can bet your ass next time around I am going to be doing some serious digging to keep from screwed again. Not unethical at all. And I would have no problem with someone checking up on me for the same reasons....Do what you are supposed to do and it won't matter who is watching when.

05-13-2004, 11:44 AM	#19
torrey Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Pornslinga USA Posts: 1,656	Walk away. __________________

05-13-2004, 11:53 AM	#20
Kassidy Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Vancouverish... ICQ# 111432084 Posts: 1,219	If he can't trust her, he's not ready for a serious commited relationship. And if she ever found out that he did that, he'd probably lose her anyway. Perhaps he'd be better off spending his money on some therapy. __________________ The ORIGINAL micro niche program- All Original and exclusive content. Paying 60% recurring through CCBill, FHG, free content & gallery templates Well researched niches with on-target content. SUBSTANCE SELLS!

05-13-2004, 12:35 PM	#21
kimzar Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Your Mother's Snatch! Posts: 1,874	the movie "kissing a fool" relationships are hard enough as is, why make them harder, if he doesnt trust her then thats his problem, even if she passes this initial test that doesnt mean it might not happen down the line

05-13-2004, 12:40 PM	#22
StickyGreen . Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 13,076	thats a bad situation overall and probably wont have happy results...im curious how that turns out though... __________________ Refer Cam Girls and Take Home 10% of Everything They Make For Life

05-13-2004, 12:46 PM	#23
AVM Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: South Florida. Posts: 1,890	A one time unethical practice in pursuit of a lifetime of happiness? Well worth it in my opinion, I think he should definitely do it. Many people have said he shouldn't be getting married - If he has to question her fidelity. Well fact is, regardless of your compatibility, how amazing you get along together, how wonderful your relationship is --- This trust/insecurity issue has no discretion. It doesn't come for the "bad relationships" and go with the "good relationships". It stays with you for life, and or until you seek solace. It (the trust factor) will become apparent with or without suspicious behavior practices by the person in question. Why? Because love/companionship/ and all that goes out the wind0w when you have fear/insecurity issues. So no matter how perfect the girl/guy is, if a person has low self esteem and or have been hurt before? Fact is, the thought will always be in the back of their mind - In love or not, this character flaw will surface! Thus - I feel one can meet their soul mate, fall deeply in love, get married, and still have a bit of anxiety when it comes to trust. Last edited by AVM; 05-13-2004 at 12:47 PM..

05-13-2004, 01:37 PM	#24
Jaden Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: CO Posts: 151	Also. while it is great to look at marriage as all about love and romance and whatever else, it also is entering in a partnership. I doubt anyone out there would enter in a business agreement with someone wherein you agree that if things go sour they get half of absolutely everything withough checking the person out a bit deeper than just taking their word for it. Trust is a great thing...blind trust is just plain ignorant. Especially when you are giving someone the power to not only crush your heart but instant access to half of everything you have.

05-13-2004, 01:40 PM	#25
TheFrog Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 4,095	i, personally would do that test too

05-13-2004, 01:43 PM	#26
AWC Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Bumfuck Posts: 1,223	insecure males are a waste of time... hope she falls for the other dude and gets rid of this loser.

05-13-2004, 01:48 PM	#27
Elli Reach for those stars! Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 17,991	After the test, if she passes, will he tell her what he did? Or will he be forever paranoid that she might find out and leave him for his lack of trust in her obviously upstanding morals? __________________ email: [email protected]

05-13-2004, 02:12 PM	#28
WPProphet Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Valencia, CA Posts: 340	If he goes through with this test, will that be enough? Probably not, his insecurities and fears of being hurt are obviously deep seeded. He should seek counseling to help him deal with the fact that some people are assholes and will hurt you nomatter what you do. and besides that what's to say just because she passes this test that she wouldnt fail it a few years down the road when things get tough? A onetime test doesnt prove faithfulness to your llover. there is no test. You either trust or not and if you get hurt, you grieve and move on to some one better. sorry that's my __________________ AIM: WPmktgdir ICQ: 278887331

05-13-2004, 02:37 PM	#29
PhotoGreggXXX Confirmed User Join Date: May 2003 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 1,616	I'm getting married soon to my hottie, love partner. We have an open relationship and she likes women as much as me. I have no problem with her bringing home a cutie for both of us to play with __________________ PornPayouts! Tons of Exclusive new HI Dev Videos... Home of the WeDo Girls! e-mail: [email protected] ICQ - 138-053-157 Last edited by PhotoGreggXXX; 05-13-2004 at 02:40 PM..

05-13-2004, 02:44 PM	#30
Tala Fucked if I know Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Do you have a flag? Posts: 23,368	That's fucked up. SERIOUSLY fucked up. He gets busted, then she's gone. Communication, people. Talk to each other. If he's so paranoid, has he told her his paranoia? have they tried to work that out, or is he a nitwit who thinks it's best not to tell her about something that scares him so badly? __________________ ICQ: 11120676 \| Google: mindcrime \| Skype: suitemindcrime\|E-Mail: mindcrime AT gmail.com\|PR girl with great writing skills for hire!!!! Contact me to work for YOU!\|TECHIEMEDIA? 24/7 support from some of the best techs in the biz. Tell Jim that I sent you.

05-13-2004, 03:56 PM	#31
Frank The Tank Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Ireland Posts: 3,225	she knows about the ex's and what happened and yes hes talked but thats not enough for some people .. its the nagging thought .. well fuck it i dunno im thinking he should do it either way .. if she leaves him over the test well shes not really in love with him either .. __________________ aim : titanceltic icq : 307499327 Frank[@]babesandstuff.com

05-14-2004, 12:53 AM	#35
reynold Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Global Traveler Posts: 51,271	Without trust, they won't last long.

05-14-2004, 02:13 AM	#37
graphicsbytia Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Tennessee Posts: 2,618	if I were you I would warn that girl to run away and don't look back.. the type of thing he's thinking of doing is something an abuser does

05-14-2004, 02:28 AM	#38
samuel Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: email address Posts: 1,986	What movie are you looking for? If you want to marry someone it is suppose because you are in love with her and you trust her.... that thing to tell another guy to seduce your gf only denotes a BIG INSECURITY!!... Samuel

05-14-2004, 02:36 AM	#39
pure energy Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 4,274	He's a total loser, thats what I think. __________________ Click Here to get $42 a sale AND Get FREE MGP Coaching from WebmasterLabor.Com Sign up above then EMAIL info (( at )) webmasterlabor DOT com for your free 1 to 1 MGP coaching