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NBDesign · 05-04-2003, 03:48 PM

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Originally posted by Equinox
I just thought - can webmasters, who probably have never ever seen each other, but have known each other from daily or weekly conversations on boards or ICQ, establish a good friendship over time? It seems to me personally like I know some people in my ICQ list better than my own girlfriend ...

I mean, it can't really be a friendship in the traditional sense... you really don't *know* the person... I'm puzzled.

Same thing with this artificial hate against certain 'characters' or 'nicknames' that you establish. Isn't it silly? What tells you that the board appearance isn't just a markup, but in real life the person might end up being actually quite nice. lol

Fuck, I hafta go to Vegas next January.

Yes, it is possible to both make firends and to hate others without even meeting them face to face. You get a good sense of another person just by the way they respond.

Granted, some things to not translate well through type and can be taken the wrong way, but you can get a real good idea of that persons personality none the less.

05-04-2003, 10:49 PM

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Originally posted by Equinox
I just thought - can webmasters, who probably have never ever seen each other, but have known each other from daily or weekly conversations on boards or ICQ, establish a good friendship over time? It seems to me personally like I know some people in my ICQ list better than my own girlfriend ...

I mean, it can't really be a friendship in the traditional sense... you really don't *know* the person... I'm puzzled.

Same thing with this artificial hate against certain 'characters' or 'nicknames' that you establish. Isn't it silly? What tells you that the board appearance isn't just a markup, but in real life the person might end up being actually quite nice. lol

Fuck, I hafta go to Vegas next January.

Damn you are actually nice now....

I make a difference in buisness relashionship
freidnship
and accountences

real friends are rare on the net !
But hey... it can be possible i jsut have hard time trusting people...
Alot of head games going on... Alot people almsot wants something from you... are they real,, honnest,, real friends welll
hard to say is it?

Raven · 05-04-2003, 11:29 PM

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Originally posted by sarah_webinc
some of by best friendships - not to mention my marriage - came from people I knew for ages online first. I was friends with them and loved them before I met them in the flesh. You either connect or you don't regardless of what realm you meet each other in.

Me, too, Sarah...met Tev online back in '95...married him..and we're in the same biz....

I don't relate well to offline folks anymore, except my family....

Offline people don't understand what I do...I'm tired of explaining that, yes, it's really work....and, no....I don't whack off every five minutes....yes, it's really a biz..and..no, I don't wanna build them a website...and, no..they're not going to make millions in five minutes......

My online friends..I might only see them once a year...some I haven't met at all....but, it's cool..when I've been talking to someone for a while and then we get to meet at a conference...put a face to the name....

booker · 05-04-2003, 11:32 PM

I think it's a lot easier to make online enemies than online friends. People get the wrong idea and get offended really fast when they're insulated by the internet.. and they are (if outgoing people to begin with) rather prone to at least bullshitting and keeping up the appearance of friendship in person if both people have common goals, especially goals that involve making money.

*whew* that was a mouthful

CGI · 05-05-2003, 02:49 AM

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Originally posted by booker
I think it's a lot easier to make online enemies than online friends. People get the wrong idea and get offended really fast when they're insulated by the internet..

Ain't that the truth?

I've been lurking here for a while... that's normally what I do on the boards because it's very easy to get in a hell of a fight, however I understand that it's going to happen too - everyone needs to vent and online is a pretty safe place for it.

I think a lot of us in the industry have a fairly lacking real-life social life due to the demands placed on us. I'm lucky in that my wife works along side of me in everything I do (well, for the most part). We are together 24 hours a day, 7 days a week... spent a total of 3 days apart (one consecutive period) in the last 7 years and never more than 24 hours any other time in those same 7 years. Believe it or not, we almost never fight either lol.

Real life? I hate people.... well, for the most part. It takes every ounce of willpower to not start choking the fucking idiots I run into when I go out (and my god are there a lot of them out there), but online I know that people are just personas... you might be a great person in real life, but a dick online -- or vice versa -- and that makes it pretty easy to like even those people who are dicks online

Can you have better online relationships than offline? I don't think it really matters, however online removes the physicial appearance "first impression" that gets in the way of so many offline relationships (as much as I'd like to say there are people who are not at all superficial, that's bull - everyone forms opinions based on first impressions). I think it's EASIER to build online relationships, however you may very well be just building a relationship with someone's persona.

And yeah, I'm a geek... we've lived in Portland for about a year and a half now and I know less people locally than I can count in a single hand. Online? I have over 300 people on my contact list (business and personal) and also keep in touch with some of the people I grew up.

Anyway, I'm getting long winded (as I tend to do when I actually post)... what's other people's takes?

Jakke PNG · 05-05-2003, 02:53 AM

I want to buy these 'friends' too. Where can I get 'em from?

Crow · 05-05-2003, 03:04 AM

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Originally posted by Equinox
I just thought - can webmasters, who probably have never ever seen each other, but have known each other from daily or weekly conversations on boards or ICQ, establish a good friendship over time?

No. Some of the biggest assholes I've ever seen on boards or talked to on ICQ actually turned out to be really cool in person and good to do business with. Some of the nicest people on boards and ICQ turned out to be slap nuts when I met them in person.

Never mix friendship with business anyway.

SykkBoy · 05-05-2003, 08:47 AM

If I want a friend, I'll buy a fucking dog....

leg3 · 05-05-2003, 08:53 AM

i tried with a few dudes, but it didnt work out right
they showed their true assholes

or maybe i just drink too much?

foe · 05-05-2003, 10:41 AM

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Originally posted by AWW - Kevin

for your sake i hope you're kidding

in real live Fletch and I are best friends

real live eh?

Mishi · 05-05-2003, 02:53 PM

Hmm...I've been meeting people online since 1983 (good ol' CompuServe CB...yes, I am a geek) and about 9 times out of ten, when I meet them in "real" life, there's no notable transition, no surprise...I already know them and the face-to-face meeting is just a formality. The notable exception, similar to what Crow mentioned, is that the more agressive board personalities are often MUCH more laid back in person.

Raven · 05-05-2003, 03:01 PM

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Originally posted by Mishi
Hmm...I've been meeting people online since 1983 (good ol' CompuServe CB...yes, I am a geek) and about 9 times out of ten, when I meet them in "real" life, there's no notable transition, no surprise...I already know them and the face-to-face meeting is just a formality. The notable exception, similar to what Crow mentioned, is that the more agressive board personalities are often MUCH more laid back in person.

Hey, Mishi....you're one of the ones I've met online...and, I'm going to disagree with you...

Usually, the pricks online are pricks offline, too...

kinetic · 05-05-2003, 04:29 PM

I remember I had one friend once...
yeees.. he was an webmaster . One day , he never camed online , I am still wondering why ?

Machete_ · 05-05-2003, 04:35 PM

The simplyfied question is:
could you fall in love with the "im just a sexy girl" chat bot ?

Monique Niccole · 05-05-2003, 04:39 PM

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Originally posted by Raven
Usually, the pricks online are pricks offline, too...

Are you talking about me behind my back again?

Mishi · 05-05-2003, 04:46 PM

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Originally posted by Afrekete

Are you talking about me behind my back again?

lol, I was wondering if I should be concerned...

PattyeCake* · 05-05-2003, 07:04 PM

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Originally posted by Serge_Oprano

fuck you, so funny....

Hummmm.. I believe I first met Serge on a board in late 95 or early 96....

I still love him today!

awu · 05-05-2003, 07:34 PM

I have more webmaster friends that Iv'e known online for a few years than I do where I live. Probably because I spend more hours online than I do going out. How sad lol but I love it.

2.5 years ago I met a photographer online and we became great friends and setup a biz together. We have a great working relationship and we both make $'s. People tell me It's impossible to have a biz like this but it works and has been for the past 2 years. 100% trust is what makes it work

05-04-2003, 11:32 PM	#55
booker Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Baltimore Posts: 1,370	I think it's a lot easier to make online enemies than online friends. People get the wrong idea and get offended really fast when they're insulated by the internet.. and they are (if outgoing people to begin with) rather prone to at least bullshitting and keeping up the appearance of friendship in person if both people have common goals, especially goals that involve making money. whew that was a mouthful __________________ Xanadu024 (aim) or 286785389 (icq) "Hard work beats talent when talent doesn't work hard."

05-05-2003, 02:53 AM	#57
Jakke PNG ex-TeenGodFather Industry Role: Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Suomi Finland Perkele Posts: 20,306	I want to buy these 'friends' too. Where can I get 'em from? __________________ ..and I'm off.

05-05-2003, 08:47 AM	#59
SykkBoy Jesus loves bacon Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Sin City, Motherfucker Posts: 19,969	If I want a friend, I'll buy a fucking dog.... __________________ Support my new movie “The Second Coming”

05-05-2003, 02:53 PM	#62
Mishi Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Scottsdale, AZ Posts: 1,054	Hmm...I've been meeting people online since 1983 (good ol' CompuServe CB...yes, I am a geek) and about 9 times out of ten, when I meet them in "real" life, there's no notable transition, no surprise...I already know them and the face-to-face meeting is just a formality. The notable exception, similar to what Crow mentioned, is that the more agressive board personalities are often MUCH more laid back in person. __________________ Looking for PHP/MySQL solutions? Check out Cyboriginal - custom scripts, installation services and more.

05-05-2003, 08:53 AM	#60
leg3 Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Houston, TX Posts: 193	i tried with a few dudes, but it didnt work out right they showed their true assholes or maybe i just drink too much?

05-05-2003, 04:29 PM	#64
kinetic Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Loch Ness Posts: 395	I remember I had one friend once... yeees.. he was an webmaster . One day , he never camed online , I am still wondering why ?

05-05-2003, 04:35 PM	#65
Machete_ WINNING! Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 14,579	The simplyfied question is: could you fall in love with the "im just a sexy girl" chat bot ?

05-05-2003, 07:34 PM	#69
awu Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Australia Posts: 228	I have more webmaster friends that Iv'e known online for a few years than I do where I live. Probably because I spend more hours online than I do going out. How sad lol but I love it. 2.5 years ago I met a photographer online and we became great friends and setup a biz together. We have a great working relationship and we both make $'s. People tell me It's impossible to have a biz like this but it works and has been for the past 2 years. 100% trust is what makes it work

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