I Just Don't Understand Board Asshats - GoFuckYourself.com

Meloman · 08-19-2014, 07:12 AM

So I'm always amazed how some people can be total asshats on the boards and not realize it costs them business.

If you're a shitty web designer, desperate for work, bitter at life for all your failures you probably shouldn't be acting like an idiot on GFY. Being nice will get you more clients.

Or

If you're a terrific web designer with plenty of clients, making money hand over fist and don't care about getting work from GFY. Well then I hope the day comes that everything in your life falls apart and you come here looking for work only to find that you alienated yourself being an asshat. Nothing lasts forever...

I just refuse to believe that being an asshat on GFY for attention gets more business than somehow getting that same attention in a positive way. It's the lazy mans marketing method.

I guess I just prefer polite people, even when it comes to board personas.

Just my thoughts...

slapass · 08-19-2014, 07:18 AM

Totally agree. Who wants to deal with crabby people?

Tam · 08-19-2014, 07:30 AM

I couldn't agree more - I am all about playing and having a great time, but not really much into the whole "slapping my chest" kind of thing - that just really never has seemed very productive to me - even if I find things that I could REALLY be nasty about, I refrain from it - in as much as the people who are members and post here, I'd rather be seen as having some sort of a brain and dignity to the ones that aren't. ;)

RebelR · 08-19-2014, 07:31 AM

Yup.. totally agree.

CaptainHowdy · 08-19-2014, 07:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Meloman

Just my thoughts...

Spill the beans ...

candyflip · 08-19-2014, 07:40 AM

I don't care if someone is a dick on this board. If they do quality work and are reliable, that is all I care about. If you care skit how others act on an internet message board, you're the one with the problem...in my opinion.

pornmasta · 08-19-2014, 07:51 AM

Gfy = playtime

Zuzana Designs · 08-19-2014, 07:57 AM

Life is too short to be bitter or angry.

PR_Glen · 08-19-2014, 08:05 AM

If i only worked with people i got along with all the time i'd have nothing to do around here! hehe

There are lines you don't cross though.. I can agree with that much.

atom · 08-19-2014, 08:09 AM

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Originally Posted by candyflip

I don't care if someone is a dick on this board. If they do quality work and are reliable, that is all I care about. If you care skit how others act on an internet message board, you're the one with the problem...in my opinion.

Easy to say until you deal with crazy. I hired a designer off this board 2 years ago, someone who does great work and came recommended. They can be a bit combative on here, drama queen.

Person was a nightmare to deal with. Call's morning, noon and night about ideas for the website that were well outside of the scope of the agreed upon project. Call's regarding things in his personal life - money problems, girlfriend problems. Drunk emails at 3am.

If they had not been recommended I would not have used them based off their board personality. Wish I would have listened to my gut.

Meloman · 08-19-2014, 08:14 AM

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Originally Posted by PR_Glen

There are lines you don't cross though.. I can agree with that much.

Bingo. I'm sure there are certain things I could say to you that would bother you enough to walk over to Dave and go "Please don't do business with this guy".

I'm not bitter or angry. More like puzzled on why some people don't "get it".

It's 1 thing to just not agree on someones politics, religious beliefs etc. But it's a whole other thing to be insulting to others for no reason and expect to get work from it...

CurrentlySober · 08-19-2014, 08:15 AM

i enjoy turds...

TeenCat · 08-19-2014, 08:18 AM

but wait, this is fucking around ... what are you talking about? this is gfy, if we talk business, we talk privatelly, and i am totally another person, same as you, i hope ...

have a nice sunday everyone ...

Barefootsies · 08-19-2014, 08:21 AM

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Originally Posted by atom

Easy to say until you deal with crazy. I hired a designer off this board 2 years ago, someone who does great work and came recommended. They can be a bit combative on here, drama queen.

Person was a nightmare to deal with. Call's morning, noon and night about ideas for the website that were well outside of the scope of the agreed upon project. Call's regarding things in his personal life - money problems, girlfriend problems. Drunk emails at 3am.

I can think of a few different possibilities for who this would be.... designer + combative drama queen + substance abuse issues.

Sid70 · 08-19-2014, 08:22 AM

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Originally Posted by candyflip

I don't care if someone is a dick on this board. If they do quality work and are reliable, that is all I care about. If you care skit how others act on an internet message board, you're the one with the problem...in my opinion.

Right.

Meloman is a pussy.

Sid70 · 08-19-2014, 08:22 AM

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Originally Posted by TeenCat

but wait, this is fucking around ... what are you talking about? this is gfy, if we talk business, we talk privatelly, and i am totally another person, same as you, i hope ...

have a nice sunday everyone ...

Indeed.

Carmelo, give us a break.

Sid70 · 08-19-2014, 08:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Zuzana Designs

Life is too short to be bitter or angry.

Right.

But some people simply see one side only.

Sid70 · 08-19-2014, 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by PR_Glen

If i only worked with people i got along with all the time i'd have nothing to do around here! hehe

There are lines you don't cross though.. I can agree with that much.

True that.

Sid70 · 08-19-2014, 08:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Meloman

Bingo. I'm sure there are certain things I could say to you that would bother you enough to walk over to Dave and go "Please don't do business with this guy".

I'm not bitter or angry. More like puzzled on why some people don't "get it".

It's 1 thing to just not agree on someones politics, religious beliefs etc. But it's a whole other thing to be insulting to others for no reason and expect to get work from it...

People do insult each other here on a larger scale then that what you became aware about.

Sid70 · 08-19-2014, 08:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Barefootsies

I can think of a few different possibilities for who this would be.... designer + combative drama queen + substance abuse issues.

The OP is trying to insult me indirectly. Let's face it, he is the person who thinks he is the one to contact me via skype telling HOW he is expecting me to behave on this board.

A person darely trying to cast his vision on me.

I dont allow myself to directly contact CyberSEO for example, a person I barely can call friendly . . .

But Carmelo thinks he is the moral compass of this board.

FFS, gimme a break.

I was fucked so many times by the members of this board I don' give a fuck about user name ed304068ere with 35 post count.

Barefootsies · 08-19-2014, 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Sid70

The OP is trying to insult me indirectly.

I have no idea what you're talking about.

Are you saying this whole thread is about you, and (you) acting like an asshat?

Sid70 · 08-19-2014, 08:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Barefootsies

I have no idea what you're talking about.

Are you saying this whole thread is about you, and (you) acting like an asshat?

That is what pussy Carmelo claims.
And his opinion is questionable.

Read some of my replies above.

Generally speaking, Carmelo, if you had balls you'd call my name yourself, but you'd rather sting me from behind.

pornmasta · 08-19-2014, 08:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Sid70

That is what pussy Carmelo claims.
And his opinion is questionable.

dude don't be an ass

Markul · 08-19-2014, 09:12 AM

Lines are being crossed almost daily here and zero fucks are given

dicknipples · 08-19-2014, 09:25 AM

arock10 · 08-19-2014, 09:28 AM

What if they are just trolling the trolls?

2MuchMark · 08-19-2014, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by pornmasta

Gfy = playtime

That's a bingo!

Sly · 08-19-2014, 09:58 AM

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Originally Posted by candyflip

I don't care if someone is a dick on this board. If they do quality work and are reliable, that is all I care about. If you care skit how others act on an internet message board, you're the one with the problem...in my opinion.

Message boards are like a drunk guy.

Everyone knows that guy that goes a little over-the-top when they are drinking. He is not misbehaving because he is drinking, he is misbehaving because that's who he is and every time that he's not drinking he has enough power to suppress it.

I don't buy into the "Internet persona" bull shit. If you are a hothead asshole on a message board, it is extremely likely that you are a hothead asshole when things are not going your way. My personal experience backs this up as well.

This isn't my "Internet persona." This is who I am. Like me, don't like me, doesn't matter either way, it's me.

wehateporn · 08-19-2014, 09:59 AM

All about the page views

Meloman · 08-19-2014, 10:04 AM

Well here's a perfect analogy.

Let's say you have two people you can hire and all things are equal. Same price, same quality of work, same everything.

Person 1 is a total asshat and throws insults that cross the line (family etc).
Person 2 is a total professional.

Most people will choose #2, the professional.

And Sid, you made my point quite clearly. Good luck with your business.

This isn't about just fucking around on GFY. This is about throwing insults that cross the line and cost clients. It makes no sense to me, but hey to each there own.

Sid70 · 08-19-2014, 10:09 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Meloman

Well here's a perfect analogy.

Let's say you have two people you can hire and all things are equal. Same price, same quality of work, same everything.

Person 1 is a total asshat and throws insults that cross the line (family etc).
Person 2 is a total professional.

Most people will choose #2, the professional.

And Sid, you made my point quite clearly. Good luck with your business.

This isn't about just fucking around on GFY. This is about throwing insults that cross the line and cost clients. It makes no sense to me, but hey to each there own.

I believe even the person who was sent a comment in the thread about kids playing video games most likely understood it correctly. You need a doctor.

slapass · 08-19-2014, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by atom

Easy to say until you deal with crazy. I hired a designer off this board 2 years ago, someone who does great work and came recommended. They can be a bit combative on here, drama queen.

Person was a nightmare to deal with. Call's morning, noon and night about ideas for the website that were well outside of the scope of the agreed upon project. Call's regarding things in his personal life - money problems, girlfriend problems. Drunk emails at 3am.

If they had not been recommended I would not have used them based off their board personality. Wish I would have listened to my gut.

I have had the same experience. Always judge them by what they write on here. I understand that people have strong held beliefs/ideas/etc. Just watch out for those who always go to the other side or come off extreme to be extreme.

PiracyPitbull · 08-19-2014, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Sly

Message boards are like a drunk guy.

Everyone knows that guy that goes a little over-the-top when they are drinking. He is not misbehaving because he is drinking, he is misbehaving because that's who he is and every time that he's not drinking he has enough power to suppress it.

I don't buy into the "Internet persona" bull shit. If you are a hothead asshole on a message board, it is extremely likely that you are a hothead asshole when things are not going your way. My personal experience backs this up as well.

This isn't my "Internet persona." This is who I am. Like me, don't like me, doesn't matter either way, it's me.

+1 and gfy hot headed board persona's are probably hammered for real anyway, double hammered so to speak ;)

Surely it takes too much effort to post on a consistent basis in a manner that's not natural, for it to be worth it in the long run. The extra effort to change what would be your real post style to one that makes you appear to be an asshole plus the risk of losing customers. There really seems to be no upside to posting like an ass unless you have no business to conduct on a forum or are......just an ass.

Barry-xlovecam · 08-19-2014, 10:45 AM

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Originally Posted by pornmasta

Gfy = playtime

+1

The Porn Nerd · 08-19-2014, 10:50 AM

You want polite and yet you call people 'asshats'?
OK.....

Wickedpictures · 08-19-2014, 10:54 AM

agree 100%

RyuLion · 08-19-2014, 05:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Zuzana Designs

Life is too short to be bitter or angry.

EddyTheDog · 08-19-2014, 06:06 PM

I have been here on and off for 14ish years - It's been interesting to see people grow up from assholes to half descent people - Some go the other way of course...

Some others have good days and bad days.....

Shit, I just lost my train of thought - What was I going to say?..

NaughtyRob · 08-19-2014, 06:56 PM

Not just web designers, anyone. Be professional and you will get work.

edgeprod · 08-19-2014, 06:57 PM

Sid, I had no idea you were a designer. Just looked at your portfolio site. Please contact me on Skype ASAP, I have a lot of work for you, starting today.

Nurgle · 08-19-2014, 07:59 PM

Meloman!

Rochard · 08-19-2014, 08:16 PM

I don't give too much thought to what any one says on GFY. Ever.

Spunky · 08-19-2014, 09:09 PM

I get along with everybody,it's the discrimination against Canadians that bother me

sandman! · 08-19-2014, 09:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by candyflip

I don't care if someone is a dick on this board. If they do quality work and are reliable, that is all I care about. If you care skit how others act on an internet message board, you're the one with the problem...in my opinion.

Sid70 · 08-20-2014, 12:46 AM

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Originally Posted by edgeprod

Sid, I had no idea you were a designer. Just looked at your portfolio site. Please contact me on Skype ASAP, I have a lot of work for you, starting today.

LOL

Only took 11 years.

Magnetron · 08-20-2014, 04:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Sid70

LOL

Only took 11 years.

Would've been 1.1 years if you were 10% less asshat.

Klen · 08-20-2014, 04:40 AM

Note:being an asshat is not necessary to "reject" people.There is a thing called marketing 101,where with negative press you can actually get far far more business.Best offline example for that would be Howard Stern.Also,being nice = being unrecognizable so it's not always best to do that approach.

RandyRandy · 08-20-2014, 04:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Magnetron

Would've been 1.1 years if you were 10% less asshat.

I think it would have been 1.1 years if he was 90% less asshat. 10% less asshat would have had him still waiting 9.9 years.

Magnetron · 08-20-2014, 05:07 AM

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Originally Posted by RandyRandy

I think it would have been 1.1 years if he was 90% less asshat. 10% less asshat would have had him still waiting 9.9 years.

<---- math fail

Sid70 · 08-20-2014, 06:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Magnetron

Would've been 1.1 years if you were 10% less asshat.

You don't know me at all, asshat LOL
I claim Meloman is an asshat, start a thread about him, call him names now.
If a person is intruding into your private messenger telling you tons of shit, trying to cast his vision on you,
assaulting you verbally without listening what you have to say that is ASSHATing big time, that is
what Meloman does.

Call him names.

08-19-2014, 07:12 AM	#1
Meloman Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Sacramento,CA Posts: 1,540	I Just Don't Understand Board Asshats So I'm always amazed how some people can be total asshats on the boards and not realize it costs them business. If you're a shitty web designer, desperate for work, bitter at life for all your failures you probably shouldn't be acting like an idiot on GFY. Being nice will get you more clients. Or If you're a terrific web designer with plenty of clients, making money hand over fist and don't care about getting work from GFY. Well then I hope the day comes that everything in your life falls apart and you come here looking for work only to find that you alienated yourself being an asshat. Nothing lasts forever... I just refuse to believe that being an asshat on GFY for attention gets more business than somehow getting that same attention in a positive way. It's the lazy mans marketing method. I guess I just prefer polite people, even when it comes to board personas. Just my thoughts...

08-19-2014, 07:30 AM	#3
Tam Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: In your face Posts: 8,484	I couldn't agree more - I am all about playing and having a great time, but not really much into the whole "slapping my chest" kind of thing - that just really never has seemed very productive to me - even if I find things that I could REALLY be nasty about, I refrain from it - in as much as the people who are members and post here, I'd rather be seen as having some sort of a brain and dignity to the ones that aren't. ;) __________________ "Want to get listed on The Porn Map? Email [email protected] or message me on Skype (TamboSpr)!"

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PR_Glen Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 9,058	If i only worked with people i got along with all the time i'd have nothing to do around here! hehe There are lines you don't cross though.. I can agree with that much. __________________ webmaster at pimproll dot com

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slapass Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Earth Posts: 14,622	Totally agree. Who wants to deal with crabby people?

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candyflip Carpe Visio Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: New York Posts: 43,057	I don't care if someone is a dick on this board. If they do quality work and are reliable, that is all I care about. If you care skit how others act on an internet message board, you're the one with the problem...in my opinion.

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Meloman Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Sacramento,CA Posts: 1,540	Well here's a perfect analogy. Let's say you have two people you can hire and all things are equal. Same price, same quality of work, same everything. Person 1 is a total asshat and throws insults that cross the line (family etc). Person 2 is a total professional. Most people will choose #2, the professional. And Sid, you made my point quite clearly. Good luck with your business. This isn't about just fucking around on GFY. This is about throwing insults that cross the line and cost clients. It makes no sense to me, but hey to each there own.

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08-20-2014, 04:40 AM	#47
Klen Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Little Vienna Posts: 32,235	Note:being an asshat is not necessary to "reject" people.There is a thing called marketing 101,where with negative press you can actually get far far more business.Best offline example for that would be Howard Stern.Also,being nice = being unrecognizable so it's not always best to do that approach.