Men, it's not a compliment to women when you hit on us...
 

I don't think it's a compliment when a man hits on a woman because I'm aware of the fact that for most men it's only a numbers game; they assume that if they hit up 20 chicks at least one will give him her number (or whatever their personal ratio is), so you are basically just "one of the numbers", it doesn't mean you're anything special at all.

So why should women even be flattered if a guy looks at them or asks for their number, cause fact is that most guys will look at every woman who is remotely attractive.. How is this supposed to be flattering?

I think it might even be insulting because the man is assuming that the woman will actually feel flattered when he hits on her, while for him it's only a numbers game. It's insulting the woman's intelligence because he is assuming she won't recognize his game.

What are your thoughts on this?

you think too much

Congrats you worked it out.

Another note to men, stop caring so much what most women want - they tend to rate themselves too highly. If she won't fuck you, or gives you attitude when you approach tell her to fuck off and move quickly along to the next one. Remember, it's a numbers game.

It's a numbers game for women too, if the guy gives her an attitude she can also tell him to fuck off and move along to the next one...

1. your asking gfy this?
2. I guess your not the 1 out of the 20 then.

So basically your premise is that both men and women act foolishly?

Did you think this out before posting it?

I am not asking for anything. I am TELLING the men out there that I do not consider it a compliment. Just to get it out of my system. I feel better now.

Maybe if men out there wanted you to feel complimented, they would actually pay you a compliment. Maybe when they're "hitting" on you it's not so much they're trying to compliment you but more they're trying to establish a connection, line of communication, common interest, something.

Yes, but it is still not flattering because the men are assuming that if they try to establish that connection with enough women than eventually one will give in, it's still a numbers game to most men... A lot of men are trying to establish that connection with numerous women simultaneously.

No one likes rejection - no matter how plastic the initial attempt might or might not be.

Don't get mad when men hit on you, get mad when they stop. There a millions of unattractive women that never get hit on, do you want to trade places with them?

I would much rather trade places with a man. I have penis envy.

americans... :(

stereotyping sucks

while we're on the subject, when a guy hits on a girl at a bar and offers to buy her a drink. Why the fuck does she always order one of them multi-color umbrella fuckers that cost 20 bucks? Is that part of the insult? Just wondering...

It's not a numbers game while you are in the moment. It's a 1 on 1 chance. You are not thinking "oh what the hell, I can pass her up for the next one". The intent is to hopefully have that connection work out as it's happening.

If you responded with this attitude when someone first interacts with you then why would they want to continue talking to you?

I don't talk to girls with the intention of flattering them right off the bat. That comes later. The whole point is to open communication... get something going. Yeah, so what if I talk to you and 20 other girls. My aim is not to get laid (that's secondary). My aim is to interact. If the interaction sucks with you, then yeah, move on to another conversation (could even ben other guys). If it's great with you.. bingo.. keep on talking and see what kind of person you are and where the conversation leads.

try using a strapon...

If I want your number - I'll just hand you my phone and TELL YOU to get creative with it.

Ok, well this is much better. This I understand.

To be honest I never even interact back when people try to open communication with me, I already am assuming the worst and would rather be left alone so I just walk away, I never interact back.

Most guys don't have good intentions like you though, most are looking to get laid. I have been reading this interesting site for men called "FastSeduction" and it's very eye opening, it describes techniques men use to get women such as mirroring (this one I already knew about; mirroring movements, breathing etc), kinesthetics, neg hits, and all sorts of interesting things. I never knew men were so manipulative! I am going to get that book "The Game" by Neil Strauss so that I can be on alert.

Well aren't you the shizznit:thumbsup

You going to AVN? I still owe you something....

Try David D's www.doubleyourdating.com - "The Game" is a really good one too.

No. What do you owe me? Mail it of forget it. I'm a lover not a fighter.

Oh, is that so.. ?

Good rap Kevin, she fell for it - the pseudo-intellectual ones are the easiest to nail once you know how to play them... :winkwink:

ADG

Nigga please...

no shit Sherlock

you're female, what would you know about picking up women? ;)

I read shit like this :

http://www.fastseduction.com/guide/

and shit like this:

http://www.amazon.com/Game-Penetrati...25542&sr= 8-1
http://www.amazon.com/Mystery-Method...25542&sr= 8-2
http://www.amazon.com/What-Dont-Want...8225699&sr=8-1

Then next thing you see is no numbers at all at your phone :)

Oh fuck. This reminds me of when my sister told me she completely understood bikers because she read a book about them.

This chick is certifiable

silly girl

wow, awesome way to stereotype all men :thumbsup

how about the women who just talk to men to get free drinks? they have a 50/50 chance imo AT LEAST (as long as you are "somewhat" attractive) to get a man to buy you a drink.

please, get off your high horse... just because a guy talks to you does not always mean he is playing you for a hookup. maybe some guy actually wants to talk to you for you and get to know you as a person rather than get down your pants.

I have plenty of friends who actually talk to girls to get to know them, not to get a number. im not saying all men are like this because some of them really could care less about you and more about getting down your pants

either way looks like you got shot down tonight and have a hate towards men

Studied correctly, women can become beter pick-up artists than men. They arent crippled by "need" like most men are. Which can hinder ambition... until they see the money in it. MONEY IN IT you say??? The most valuable comodoty in our business is beautiful women. We should all be or become experts at them. Don't hate!!!

bausch is obviously an expert, she's read the necessary material.

You'll never fully understand us, or our motives. You possess a female brain.

It's not possible for me to ever get "shot down" because I never talk to another person/make conversation first.
I never publicly show interest in anyone.

No, I started this thread because I get annoyed when men try and talk to me or be nice to me, I know they have ulterior motives, therefore I do not even talk back and cut them off immediately because I know to them it's only a game.

All men want is sex and they are looking for as much pussy as possible. Is there anything else to understand?

This is why I love living in Czech. Here is you flirt with a girl she's flattered. She's not thinking you're doing anything wrong, it's just a game men and woman play.

bausch if you think the only reason a guy will come over to you in a bar and talk to you is because it's a numbers game, that says more about what you think of yourself than men.

Get a life girl, flirting is a game. It's natural and normal. Remove the tent pole they stuck up your ass at 12 and stop thinking men are the enemy.

I'm assuming it's friendly flirting.

Difference between Czech, English and Czech girls.

Flirt with a Czech girl and she's confident enough to know it's a compliment.
Flirt with an English girl and she'll tell you to fuck off.
Flirt with an American girl and she'll phone her lawyer claiming sexual harassment. :1orglaugh.

by shot down i was referring to a guy would come up and talk to you, realize after a few minutes that he wanted nothing to do with you and move on... leaving you in the dust hence causing you to be "shot down" :winkwink:

whatever tho. point being is not all guys are like that. i dont go around saying that every girl is a money hungry whore who stops putting out and starts sleeping around the minute i dont buy her some expensive gift... although ive found that to be true in the past, i know there are nice women out there.

so what really happened that caused all this anger that you have toward us men?

My first post was more of a joke, but honestly that is a pretty stupid hollywood fed stereotype. I'd say younger guys, sure that's a lot of it. But certainly as guys get older (and a lot of guys in general) really like having a relationship with a person they like to be around, get along with, etc. Most men aren't as easily led around by their cock as most women think. But if your hanging out in a night club and a guy is on the drink and looking for a good night? Well than you are closer to the truth, otherwise you're really not.

My gawd... that's the best thing you've writen on GFY in 5 years I've been reading you. Thank you and good night!!!