Question for Anyone Married or Single - GoFuckYourself.com

96ukssob · 11-10-2009, 10:59 AM

Married people:
If you had to go back and do it again, would you get married?
If so, how long into the marriage was this or was it even before you got married.
If not, how honestly happy are you? - As in, "this life is tolerable, im to comfortable to leave" to "my wife and I are best friends, I couldnt leave without her" to "everyday i wake up and see my wife, i feel like the luckiest man in the world"

Single people:
Are you honestly happy being single?
If not, do you think that being in a relationship will make you happy?
Do you envy friends and family that are married with/without kids?
If you are happy being single, do friends and family ever say anything to you about "not being normal?" as in being married with kids, etc.?

The reason that I ask is because it seems that every friend that I have that is married wishes they were single and says "dont get married, bad idea if you enjoy your freedom" while single friends say "I wish i could find a girl to marry and have a family with?"

I know its more of "you want what you can't have" but I do have some friends that are very happy being single and have no intent ever getting married. My uncle is that way to, hes in his mid 40's and loves life without being tied down.

edit: the poll is anonymous and you can consider yourself "married" if you are in a long term or committed relationship

mikesinner · 11-10-2009, 11:08 AM

Marriage is a religious institution. Unless you are one of those crazy religious types you really shouldn't do it. You don't have to be legally married to raise a family.

RyuLion · 11-10-2009, 11:13 AM

8 out of 10 friends tell me they're unhappily married, or are already divorced with kids and will have to pay for the rest of their lives..

AaronM · 11-10-2009, 11:13 AM

I got married at 19, then divorced at 22. Said I would NEVER do it again.

Now I'm engaged.

How the fuck did that happen?

CaptainHowdy · 11-10-2009, 11:15 AM

Why do you want to know, handsome?

RyuLion · 11-10-2009, 11:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AaronM

I got married at 19, then divorced at 22. Said I would NEVER do it again.

Now I'm engaged.

How the fuck did that happen?

I got married at 18 divorced at 22 also! Thank goodness I didn't have kids!
she ruined my credit, but that was a while ago..never again..

sperbonzo · 11-10-2009, 11:19 AM

I waited until I was 43 to get married, I had a blast being a single manhoslut with tons of girls, and have had some long term relationships as well.

Now we have been married 3.5 years, and Vino is my best friend, I would never want to live without her. Seriously, we make each other very very happy.

I AM glad though, that I waited to get married for two main reasons:

1. I needed to bang a ton of girls to get over that "What am I missing" feeling

2. I needed to get to 40 to REALLY figure out what were best priorities in finding the right person for me. The things I thought I wanted in my 20s were different in my 30s and were different when I turned 40.

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Raf1 · 11-10-2009, 11:20 AM

what about engaged people?

MaDalton · 11-10-2009, 11:25 AM

you always want what you don't have

although: marrying is out of question anyways for me

fatfoo · 11-10-2009, 11:28 AM

I am single and happy. And I am constantly being bothered by people who think there's something wrong with that. Well, those people can go fuck themselves.

JayDeeZee · 11-10-2009, 11:31 AM

I'm only happy because my wife is happy. I like to make her happy. If you are getting married because you need her to cook, fuck, clean, make you a family, ect... It won't work.

Happy wife = Happy Life

After Shock Media · 11-10-2009, 11:44 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bossku69

Married people:
If you had to go back and do it again, would you get married?
If so, how long into the marriage was this or was it even before you got married.
If not, how honestly happy are you? - As in, "this life is tolerable, im to comfortable to leave" to "my wife and I are best friends, I couldnt leave without her" to "everyday i wake up and see my wife, i feel like the luckiest man in the world"

Yes I would do it again.
I am heading into 3 years.
I am very happy with being married to her. It does make my life tolerable. I am certain I could not live without her. I also have a near impossible time sleeping if she is not around, I feel giddy when I do see her each morning.
I am very damn lucky.

Quote:

Originally Posted by mikesinner

Marriage is a religious institution. Unless you are one of those crazy religious types you really shouldn't do it. You don't have to be legally married to raise a family.

I will disagree. Sure the churches have sort of hijacked it. Does not make it a bad idea. Earlier it was used to unite families and build up strength. Though there has been forms of marriage way before there was even Christianity, plus it is practiced in other cultures where it has no religious attachments. Sometime it is just about assets or trades.

Now I am not "legally" married if you mean by getting it done via a church and a license. We established all of a married rights via written contracts, limited power of attorney, etc. Actually it is more solid than a Legal Marriage. By solid I mean harder to get out of at will and things like that. Only downside is there are no tax advantages.

View Poll Results: Married/Single are you Happy?
I am married and happy	10	50.00%
I am married and not happy	1	5.00%
I am single and happy	9	45.00%
I am single and not happy	0	0%
Voters: 20. You may not vote on this poll

11-10-2009, 10:59 AM	#1
96ukssob So Fucking Banananananas Industry Role: Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: If I was in your ass you'd know it Posts: 12,991	Question for Anyone Married or Single Married people: If you had to go back and do it again, would you get married? If so, how long into the marriage was this or was it even before you got married. If not, how honestly happy are you? - As in, "this life is tolerable, im to comfortable to leave" to "my wife and I are best friends, I couldnt leave without her" to "everyday i wake up and see my wife, i feel like the luckiest man in the world" Single people: Are you honestly happy being single? If not, do you think that being in a relationship will make you happy? Do you envy friends and family that are married with/without kids? If you are happy being single, do friends and family ever say anything to you about "not being normal?" as in being married with kids, etc.? The reason that I ask is because it seems that every friend that I have that is married wishes they were single and says "dont get married, bad idea if you enjoy your freedom" while single friends say "I wish i could find a girl to marry and have a family with?" I know its more of "you want what you can't have" but I do have some friends that are very happy being single and have no intent ever getting married. My uncle is that way to, hes in his mid 40's and loves life without being tied down. edit: the poll is anonymous and you can consider yourself "married" if you are in a long term or committed relationship __________________ Email: Clicky on Me Last edited by 96ukssob; 11-10-2009 at 11:01 AM..

11-10-2009, 11:08 AM	#2
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11-10-2009, 11:13 AM	#4
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11-10-2009, 11:19 AM	#7
sperbonzo I'd rather be on my boat. Industry Role: Join Date: May 2003 Location: Miami, FL Posts: 9,748	I waited until I was 43 to get married, I had a blast being a single manhoslut with tons of girls, and have had some long term relationships as well. Now we have been married 3.5 years, and Vino is my best friend, I would never want to live without her. Seriously, we make each other very very happy. I AM glad though, that I waited to get married for two main reasons: 1. I needed to bang a ton of girls to get over that "What am I missing" feeling 2. I needed to get to 40 to REALLY figure out what were best priorities in finding the right person for me. The things I thought I wanted in my 20s were different in my 30s and were different when I turned 40. . __________________ Michael Sperber / Acella Financial LLC/ Online Payment Processing [email protected] / http://Acellafinancial.com/ ICQ 177961090 / Tel +1 909 NET BILL / Skype msperber

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11-10-2009, 11:25 AM	#9
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11-10-2009, 11:28 AM	#10
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11-10-2009, 11:31 AM	#11
JayDeeZee Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 3,595	I'm only happy because my wife is happy. I like to make her happy. If you are getting married because you need her to cook, fuck, clean, make you a family, ect... It won't work. Happy wife = Happy Life __________________