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BJ · 02-08-2008, 03:24 PM

So, I found out my old flight instructor died a few nights ago, I knew him for over a year as I was working on my commercial pilots license. I didn't always fly with him, but trained 4 days a week and saw him regularly. Ive never met his family and he has 3 young kids. Ive gone out a few times with him for beers, etc. Last timewe spoke was about 2 months ago.

I feel kinda weird showing up at his wake as I said ive never met any of his family. One of my other pilot buddies called me with the info on the wake.

Would it be appropriate for me to attend?

Thanks for your oppinions.

Bryan G · 02-08-2008, 03:28 PM

If you knew his yes its appropriate

mrwilson · 02-08-2008, 03:29 PM

Yeh ofcourse, show up.
I'm sure his faimly would appreciate it.
May he rest in peace.

DigitalDruid · 02-08-2008, 03:30 PM

If you feel close enough to go, then by all means.Who would say otherwise?

Peaches · 02-08-2008, 03:32 PM

It's rarely inappropriate to go to a wake or funeral.

One of my son's friends died about 2 years before he did and at his wake his mother said to me "I didn't know he had so many friends!". That made me realize that wakes and funerals aren't for the deceased, they're for the living. And the more you can surround them and let them know their loved one meant something to you, the better.

Calico Jack · 02-08-2008, 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Peaches

It's rarely inappropriate to go to a wake or funeral.

One of my son's friends died about 2 years before he did and at his wake his mother said to me "I didn't know he had so many friends!". That made me realize that wakes and funerals aren't for the deceased, they're for the living. And the more you can surround them and let them know their loved one meant something to you, the better.

That sums it up perfectly.

u-Bob · 02-08-2008, 03:54 PM

ofcourse it would...

LauraLee · 02-08-2008, 03:55 PM

It is very appropriate, as Peaches said so well. When my family was touched by death it was a comfort to us seeing so many people both close and not as close be there. It reminds you just how many people they touched and affected.

Also, a mantra that I try to follow- I would rather regret doing something, than to regret not doing something.

Bro Media - BANNED FOR LIFE · 02-08-2008, 04:13 PM

you knew the guy, go pay your final respect to him nobody is gonna tell you to get out...

02-08-2008, 03:24 PM	#1
BJ Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: asia Posts: 5,590	Oppinion on attending a wake So, I found out my old flight instructor died a few nights ago, I knew him for over a year as I was working on my commercial pilots license. I didn't always fly with him, but trained 4 days a week and saw him regularly. Ive never met his family and he has 3 young kids. Ive gone out a few times with him for beers, etc. Last timewe spoke was about 2 months ago. I feel kinda weird showing up at his wake as I said ive never met any of his family. One of my other pilot buddies called me with the info on the wake. Would it be appropriate for me to attend? Thanks for your oppinions.

02-08-2008, 03:28 PM	#2
Bryan G Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Toronto Posts: 8,338	If you knew his yes its appropriate __________________ Bryan skype: bryan.glass3 \| ICQ 302999591

02-08-2008, 03:30 PM	#4
DigitalDruid Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 647	If you feel close enough to go, then by all means.Who would say otherwise? __________________ Get on here and make some ca$h

02-08-2008, 03:55 PM	#8
LauraLee Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: (Still) One Touch Cockie Posts: 3,821	It is very appropriate, as Peaches said so well. When my family was touched by death it was a comfort to us seeing so many people both close and not as close be there. It reminds you just how many people they touched and affected. Also, a mantra that I try to follow- I would rather regret doing something, than to regret not doing something. __________________ Priority Payout skype lauralee.bunker LL's Email

02-08-2008, 03:29 PM	#3
mrwilson mrwilson 2.0 Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: ICQ: 465406783 Posts: 5,122	Yeh ofcourse, show up. I'm sure his faimly would appreciate it. May he rest in peace.

02-08-2008, 03:32 PM	#5
Peaches Old broad Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Away Posts: 13,933	It's rarely inappropriate to go to a wake or funeral. One of my son's friends died about 2 years before he did and at his wake his mother said to me "I didn't know he had so many friends!". That made me realize that wakes and funerals aren't for the deceased, they're for the living. And the more you can surround them and let them know their loved one meant something to you, the better.

02-08-2008, 03:54 PM	#7
u-Bob there's no $$$ in porn Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: icq: 195./568.-230 (btw: not getting offline msgs) Posts: 33,063	ofcourse it would...

02-08-2008, 04:13 PM	#9
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