Would you get offended if a grocery cashier doesn't greet you?

[bausch]

You know when you're checking out your groceries at the cashier aisle... if the cashier greeted the person in front of you but then didn't greet you for whatever would you :

1. get offended but keep it inside and not say anything

2. get offended but speak up, perhaps say something like "Well, hi to you too" etc

3. Notice that he didn't even greet you but you wouldn't get mad

4. Not even notice at all because you don't give a fuck


Keep in mind that this situation is when a cashier greeted the person BEFORE you and you heard it, but for some reason didn't greet you.

[Sly]

I would cry inside and finally pull the trigger once home.

[Spunky]

They usually are friendly and greet me,if not no big deal

[AaronM]

Odd that this thread would be posted tonight.

An hour ago I went into a grocery store. Between the front door and the first 10 feet, I had 5 employees greet me and ask how I was doing..One right after the other. I had to step around the 5th one so I could proceed into the store.

While in the store I was greeted by an additional 3 employees....All asking me how I was doing.

It was pissing me off. The cashier simply asked if I found everything I needed but at that point I as so irritated y the rest of the staff that I was in a bad mood.

[AaronM]

Originally Posted by bausch

Keep in mind that this situation is when a cashier greeted the person BEFORE you and you heard it, but for some reason didn't greet you.

Any chance that the person not being greet was a different race than the cashier?

Just curious.

[Sly]

Originally Posted by AaronM

Odd that this thread would be posted tonight.

An hour ago I went into a grocery store. Between the front door and the first 10 feet, I had 5 employees greet me and ask how I was doing..One right after the other. I had to step around the 5th one so I could proceed into the store.

While in the store I was greeted by an additional 3 employees....All asking me how I was doing.

It was pissing me off. The cashier simply asked if I found everything I needed but at that point I as so irritated y the rest of the staff that I was in a bad mood.

So how are you doing?

[abadfish]

I'd rather have that then what I usually get as a greeting at stores.

The employee greats you, you respond and nothing back from them. Sometimes they seemed trained to ask how you are, how your day has been etc... but then when you give a reply and respond with a like question they don't even listen for a response. I'd rather hear nothing then have someone ask how I am when they obviously don't give a fuck. They do this at the bank too... they will say hello and ask how you are but by the time they finish talking they already have turned off the speaker and have no idea what you are saying until you press the call button. Yet they asked YOU a question.

[baddog]

Originally Posted by Sly

I would cry inside and finally pull the trigger once home.

Quoted so Bausch doesn't miss it. You just know she was tearing up inside.

Did it occur to you that perhaps the cashier has had conversations with that customer before? Maybe they just don't like you (easy to understand).

[bausch]

Originally Posted by AaronM

Any chance that the person not being greet was a different race than the cashier?

Just curious.

Yes, I'm a different race than the cashier, but so was the person in front of me and he got greeted.

I think at this particular store the cashiers are supposed to greet everyone.

[bausch]

Originally Posted by baddog

Quoted so Bausch doesn't miss it. You just know she was tearing up inside.

Did it occur to you that perhaps the cashier has had conversations with that customer before? Maybe they just don't like you (easy to understand).

I don't like you either.

[woj]

or
5. go home and figure out what the fuck is wrong with me? Normal person wouldn't even notice stupid shit like that, let alone worry about it....

[baddog]

Originally Posted by woj

Normal person wouldn't even notice stupid shit like that, let alone worry about it....

Nothing normal about that chick . . .

[baddog]

Originally Posted by bausch

Yes, I'm a different race than the cashier, but so was the person in front of me and he got greeted.

I think at this particular store the cashiers are supposed to greet everyone.

Why was it so easy to figure out it was you?

[Sly]

If it makes you feel any better...

A couple weeks back I went to look at an apartment with my girlfriend. I was looking solely for myself. The rental agent did not look me in the eyes once throughout the whole meeting, it was probably a good 20 minutes at least. She would only look at my girlfriend.

Not a big deal. Strange, yes, but so is life...

[Sly]

The first time I met AaronM he refused to shake my hand. Purely due to racial differences.

Just when you think you know people...

[Bro Media - BANNED FOR LIFE]

Originally Posted by Sly

The first time I met AaronM he refused to shake my hand. Purely due to racial differences.

Just when you think you know people...

that jackass, i vote ban!

[HouseHead]

Originally Posted by Sly

The first time I met AaronM he refused to shake my hand. Purely due to racial differences.

Just when you think you know people...

ouch. what a business model ;x

[BlackCrayon]

It must be because your ugly. I avoid the whole thing and use those automated checkouts at grocery stores.

[AaronM]

Originally Posted by Sly

The first time I met AaronM he refused to shake my hand. Purely due to racial differences.

Just when you think you know people...

LMFAO!

I VERY specifically remember our first ever meeting. I did try to shake your hand......But you gave me some lame excuse about being a cripple or some shit like that. Then you asked me why I was dressed like a n!gger.

[baddog]

Originally Posted by AaronM

LMFAO!

I VERY specifically remember our first ever meeting. I did try to shake your hand......But you gave me some lame excuse about being a cripple or some shit like that. Then you asked me why I was dressed like a n!gger.

Sounds like the same cold shoulder he gave me. . . . except for the dressing like a Nigerian.

[AaronM]

Originally Posted by baddog

Sounds like the same cold shoulder he gave me. . . . except for the dressing like a Nigerian.

No doubt. I've seen him do it to a number of people over the years. He seems to get a kick out of it or something.

What a twisted little bastard.

[PaygeaGrl]

I usually say hello first anyway. Sometimes, they don't say anything back but it doesn't bother me. I start thinking about all the shit that might be going on in their life--marriage problems, hate their job and have a jerk for a boss, cat died...

Saying hello to me might be the very last thing on their mind.


Either that, or they just have no manners, and I still don't give a rat's ass.

[baddog]

Originally Posted by AaronM

No doubt. I've seen him do it to a number of people over the years. He seems to get a kick out of it or something.

What a twisted little bastard.

I seem to recall that he stepped on my foot too.

[AaronM]

Originally Posted by baddog

I seem to recall that he stepped on my foot too.

What a fag.

[beemk]

sly leaves me hanging every time i try to high five him.

[beemk]

after seeing your past posts about hating to go out and public and being around people, im pretty sure that you probably dont have very friendly body language, im sure thats why they dont greet you.

[AaronM]

Originally Posted by beemk

sly leaves me hanging every time i try to high five him.

That must have been what he meant when he told me you were well hung.

Silly me....I was thinking something very different.

[minusonebit]

I expect such rudeness out of low-wage employees, esp. blacks and Mexicans. Mexicans are some of the rudest people and 95% of them do not know how to say thank you when you give them your money. Blacks have this annoying habit of standing around socializing with co-workers instead of waiting on you.

[AaronM]

Originally Posted by minusonebit

I expect such rudeness out of low-wage employees, esp. blacks and Mexicans. Mexicans are some of the rudest people and 95% of them do not know how to say thank you when you give them your money. Blacks have this annoying habit of standing around socializing with co-workers instead of waiting on you.

You know....I really dislike racist people.

Almost as much as I dislike minorities.

[ronaldo]

That probably wouldn't bother me. What DOES bother me is when I'm checking out and the cashier clearly looks at my card and then says "Thank you Mr.Stewart. Have a nice day."

That's patronizing bullshit at it's finest. If you don't know my name, say have a nice day or have a nice day sir. End it there. Don't call me by name like you KNOW me. Fuck I hate that.

[AaronM]

Originally Posted by ronaldo

That probably wouldn't bother me. What DOES bother me is when I'm checking out and the cashier clearly looks at my card and then says "Thank you Mr.Stewart. Have a nice day."

That's patronizing bullshit at it's finest. If you don't know my name, say have a nice day or have a nice day sir. End it there. Don't call me by name like you KNOW me. Fuck I hate that.

Sorry Ron, it won't happen again.

[tony286]

I usually say hello and if they dont say hello its ok. The person makes 6 bucks a hour.

[AaronM]

Originally Posted by tony404

The person makes 6 bucks a hour.

To perform BASIC customer service.

[baddog]

Originally Posted by AaronM

To perform BASIC customer service.

I think ringing up my goods in a timely manner and giving me the correct change would suffice.

[minusonebit]

Originally Posted by AaronM

You know....I really dislike racist people.

Almost as much as I dislike minorities.

I didn't say anything racist. I merely observed traits that certain groups of people have.

[bausch]

I was thinking about this more and I was wondering if it could be discrimination as well? Perhaps because I look young for my age (ageism) or racial discrimination (because I'm asian) so the cashier assumed that I would be meek and timid and let them get away with this?

Also, I know the cashier doesn't have a relationship with the customer in front of me, they just chose to ignore me.

Also, no, I didn't have negative body language or anything like that. My body language was neutral.

Isn't that weird if the cashier greets everyone but ignores me specifically for whatever reason?

I was reading another topic on another board about discrimination so I was reminded of this incident and I got angry again. I'm still kind of annoyed at it.

I know this is an old topic, but I was just reminded of it and getting pissed off again...

[Mutt]

Originally Posted by bausch

I was thinking about this more and I was wondering if it could be discrimination as well? Perhaps because I look young for my age (ageism) or racial discrimination (because I'm asian) so the cashier assumed that I would be meek and timid and let them get away with this?

Also, I know the cashier doesn't have a relationship with the customer in front of me, they just chose to ignore me.

Also, no, I didn't have negative body language or anything like that. My body language was neutral.

Isn't that weird if the cashier greets everyone but ignores me specifically for whatever reason?

I was reading another topic on another board about discrimination so I was reminded of this incident and I got angry again. I'm still kind of annoyed at it.

I know this is an old topic, but I was just reminded of it and getting pissed off again...

meds

[Emil]

Eros: a grocery cashier SNUBBED ME!

[polish_aristocrat]

Young looks, being dresser poorly and race perhaps as well can surely influence how you are treated at a store.

But it's rather connected with the fact that the seller doesn't expect you to spend much money, because you look young and are poorly dressed.

But a grocesy store, well it's something else.

If the person in front of me was greated but I weren't, then I'd probably notice it, but wouldn't lose sleep about it and wouldn't make a thread about it and wouldn't bump it 2 weeks later....

[bausch]

Originally Posted by polish_aristocrat

Young looks, being dresser poorly and race perhaps as well can surely influence how you are treated at a store.

But it's rather connected with the fact that the seller doesn't expect you to spend much money, because you look young and are poorly dressed.

But a grocesy store, well it's something else.

If the person in front of me was greated but I weren't, then I'd probably notice it, but wouldn't lose sleep about it and wouldn't make a thread about it and wouldn't bump it 2 weeks later....

I don't dress poorly. I am always dressed up, even when going to the grocery store.

Why would you assume that I'm poorly dressed?

I don't dress super casual to the store. I dress up.

[Violetta]

Originally Posted by Sly

I would cry inside and finally pull the trigger once home.

[teg0]

4. Not even notice at all because you don't give a fuck

[StuartD]

If you want a good experience, pick the old lady cashier.... if you want someone hot to look at, choose the young hot chick.
Chances are you won't get a good experience with a young hot chick cause she really doesn't want to be there.

As for guys.... why would you pick the line with a guy cashier?

[justFred]

hah, I just recently worked at Albertson's, and the training videos are SOOOO cliche! The worst part is, they actually expect you to act like that and write you up if you don't.

G.O.T.

Greet. Offer. Thank.

Hi, how are you today?
Fine, and you?
FANTASTIC! Did you find everything alright?
Yes I did, thank you.
So how are your kids {blah blah blah}
{transaction complete- courtesy clerk's turn}
I'd love to help you out to your car today, Ma'am. {do NOT ask a question, this is a statement}
No, that's ok I think I can handle it.
I don't mind at all, I have to go collect carts from the lot anyway!
Ok, if you insist {super big smile}
{help with groceries, talk small talk...}
Thank you for shopping at Albertson's! Have a GREAT DAY!

{all the while I check out their ASSets in stolen looks and/or wonder how they live with themselves and/or consider how best to get away with an extra smoke break without getting caught on the 96 cameras in and around the store}

they didn't greet you? call the fucking union.
fin.

[bausch]

Originally Posted by StuartD

If you want a good experience, pick the old lady cashier.... if you want someone hot to look at, choose the young hot chick.
Chances are you won't get a good experience with a young hot chick cause she really doesn't want to be there.

As for guys.... why would you pick the line with a guy cashier?

Sometimes you can't pick who your cashier is because when the line gets too long they will open up new aisles and say "I can help the next customer".

[bausch]

Originally Posted by justFred

hah, I just recently worked at Albertson's, and the training videos are SOOOO cliche! The worst part is, they actually expect you to act like that and write you up if you don't.

G.O.T.

Greet. Offer. Thank.

Hi, how are you today?
Fine, and you?
FANTASTIC! Did you find everything alright?
Yes I did, thank you.
So how are your kids {blah blah blah}
{transaction complete- courtesy clerk's turn}
I'd love to help you out to your car today, Ma'am. {do NOT ask a question, this is a statement}
No, that's ok I think I can handle it.
I don't mind at all, I have to go collect carts from the lot anyway!
Ok, if you insist {super big smile}
{help with groceries, talk small talk...}
Thank you for shopping at Albertson's! Have a GREAT DAY!

{all the while I check out their ASSets in stolen looks and/or wonder how they live with themselves and/or consider how best to get away with an extra smoke break without getting caught on the 96 cameras in and around the store}

they didn't greet you? call the fucking union.
fin.

Thanks. If I go to Albertsons in the future I'll remember this.

[nico-t]

i really dont care. Around here greetings at grocery stores are just 'hi'.

[SarahLLO]

Originally Posted by minusonebit

I expect such rudeness out of low-wage employees, esp. blacks and Mexicans. Mexicans are some of the rudest people and 95% of them do not know how to say thank you when you give them your money. Blacks have this annoying habit of standing around socializing with co-workers instead of waiting on you.

Is it possible that you only notice minorities doing displeasing things because you're predisposed to disliking them and are looking for them to be rude?

Because, seriously. Rudeness isn't a genetic trait. I mean, I've met more rude white people than any other race, and been treated worse by white people in general, but that's just because those particular people were assholes... had nothing to do with them being white, or brown, or purple.

Bausch, it may just be that the cashier chose not to say 'hello' for reasons COMPLETELY UNRELATED TO YOU. Chill the fuck out. Who still stews over some random cashier "snubbing" them over a month later?

[bausch]

Originally Posted by SarahLLO

Is it possible that you only notice minorities doing displeasing things because you're predisposed to disliking them and are looking for them to be rude?

Because, seriously. Rudeness isn't a genetic trait. I mean, I've met more rude white people than any other race, and been treated worse by white people in general, but that's just because those particular people were assholes... had nothing to do with them being white, or brown, or purple.

Bausch, it may just be that the cashier chose not to say 'hello' for reasons COMPLETELY UNRELATED TO YOU. Chill the fuck out. Who still stews over some random cashier "snubbing" them over a month later?

Yes, it's possible. I just had bad vibes from this cashier, as if they didn't like me and were being rude at me in particular for some reason. I just got very bad vibes. I'm not stewing about it, I was reminded by the incident because I was reading a topic about being discriminated against and I thought perhaps that was the issue instead of being just "snubbed".

And also, it hasn't been a month. It's been 15 days.

[Lighter]

4. Not even notice at all because you don't give a fuck