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badmunchkin · 06-14-2007, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by fluffygrrl

hey, can't we make it so i got to read this thread before you and posted that first ?

great minds and all

fiddy!

Scroto · 06-14-2007, 07:19 PM

im available for testing...

IntenseAmber · 06-14-2007, 11:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Shey

Wait, I just saw your nick...You're a girl? If so do YOU want to?

Because if you're just doing it to make him happy but you are not really into it then YES it WILL end your relationship.

I'm a freak, I get off on watching my man with other girls but not everyone is like that.

It's something we have just talked about. I don't know if either of us are ready to make that decision yet. But I greatly appreciate your insight. Oh, yeah, sorry, I am a girl

kane · 06-15-2007, 01:19 AM

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Originally Posted by badmunchkin

more evolved people don't need to follow these same herd-like patterns

some of my best and longest relationships were open and threesomes and/or swinging was never the cause of our problems - people in monogamous relationships still cheat and instead lie about it which ends the relationship - the real point of everything is relationships END - and people are starting to realize that nothing lasts forever - when you are unhappy in a relationship, yes, it makes more sense to move on instead of staying with someone your whole life who you're miserable with...

As the world and humans continue to evolve there will be more sexual openness, less traditional relationships, more non-conventional situations - monogamy is not natural to humans - it is based on cultural norms - it is not natural and ultimately will be wiped out and become an oddity in society. Already being sexually open is much more accepted then 50 years ago. This is where we are headed - pyschology is based on the norms of the day - remember when homosexuality was supposed to be a mental illness? If Dr Drew were 50 years older he would have been one of the guys spouting that line. Times are a'changing - threesomes and moresomes are good fun and there's nothing but invisible barriers in your mind that are stopping you from enjoying life to it's fullest.

I agree with much of what you are saying. I agree that humans are typically not meant to be monogomas. I think some people can be in a relationship with the same person for years and years and be happy, but most of us cannot. Also you are right, sexuality is getting to be more and more open as is happiness in a relationship. I would say the divorce rate now shows that. People are unhappy in a marriage and they leave where 50 years ago they just stayed and remained miserable.

However, none of this goes to the root question. Do threesomes destroy relationships? The answers is almost always yes. Dr. Drew, I think, isn't spouting the mantra of the day. If you spend a long time seeing people with problems eventually you see patterns. It is a numbers game. If you interview 1000 girls that lost their virginity at a very young age or started experimenting sexually at a very young age and 980 of them have some kind of abuse in their past, you start to see the pattern and it is fair to speculate when a girl tells you she lost her virginity at 12 that she was abused. She may be one of the few that don't fit the pattern, but most likely she is. The same goes for threesomes. If you talk to 1000 couples that had a threesome and 950 of them ended up breaking up you can say with some authority that threesomes help cause break-ups. More realistically, and I think most doctors agree with this, there were problems in the relationship before the threesome ever came into play and the threesome ends up just being a catalyst for the end. After all, as you said, all relationships eventually end. People do crazy things to try to hold on to relationships. They have kids, change jobs, move, change who they are and all kinds of stuff. Having a threesome is often just one of those things.

I think there may be a time 1000's of years from now where people can be sexually open. A couple can have a committed relationship but still have a threesome or swing every now and then and have it not affect their relationship. That said, in the end we are still jealous animals and we get emotionally involved with each other so that hurdle will be a very difficult one for most people to get past.

SleazyDream · 06-15-2007, 01:28 AM

if skufty watches and touches me at some point does it count as a threesome?

Sarah_Jayne · 06-15-2007, 02:32 AM

Threesomes end already weak relationships..even if the weakness isn't noticed beforehand. Trust me, a relationship can survive, threesomes, foursomes, orgies, etc...IF and only if the relationship is strong beforehand and it is done on equal terms.

calibra · 06-15-2007, 03:06 AM

I can't imagine somebody fucking my wife next to me. I'd shoot both.

CIVMatt · 06-15-2007, 09:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Anna_Miller

You know, I'm disappointed with how conservative Dr Drew is. I've heard him say some strange things. Like if you start masturbating at a young age it means something was wrong with your home life. Yeah, whatever. Ok, sorry I got off topic.

My husband and I have been swinging for over 10 years. Even before we got married. We have had lots of 3somes and obviously it hasn't ruined our relationship. 3somes and swinging to us are fun adventures. We find people we like & play with them. They are playmates. My husband is my lifemate.

That being said. I don't think everyone is cut out for swinging. If you are insecure or a jealous type it probably won't work out for you. If explore swinging/3somes to fulfill something missing in your relationship, that is also bad. So, the you got drunk with a friend and all played around could go either way. lol

I have found that you have to communicate a lot about feelings you stir up so you know how each other feel and work so that you are both comfortable and having fun. But if you can be open and communicate and keep it as a full extra activity for both of you, then it can be LOTS of fun.

Kel & I soooooo need to come work with you

DaddyHalbucks · 06-15-2007, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by stickyfingerz

If you cant separate love and sex, then yes you will have problems. We have no problem with it, and have had many threesomes. Not a big dealio.

Sorry, love and sex are hopelessly intertwined. That is why threesomes are so much trouble.

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