Do Threesomes End Relationships?
 

I'm listening to LoveLine and they mentioned that no matter what, if you are involved in a monogomous relationship and decide to have a threesome, that your relationship will eventually end if not end right away?

Is this actually true? Does anyone have experience with this?

I've heard more bad stories than good.

threesomes mean that someone is usually left out.

normally everyone wants to have their own relationship... swinging with couples is easier... thanks for the fuck... now go home LOL

The majority of the world can't deal with the emotions attached to sex, so for the most part they're right, but it's by far a rule.

I wouldn't put it that way.

I'd say that if you have a thresome, you no longer have a monogomous relationship.

Either both of you are prepared for that step, or the relationship comes to an end... whether it be the next day, or a year down the road.

so, if you have been in a relationship for a while, really love eachother, but just want to have a threesome for the sexual experience, is there any chance it would work?

Sorry to ask so many questions, but since emotions seem to be what gets in the way, and usually the girls are more emotionally involved, what if the girl was the one that was all for it?

no it's not true - Dr Drew spreads a bunch of bullshit propaganda on his show - he also thinks every girl who WANTS sex for the sake of sex was sexually abused as a child - the guy is old-fashioned and too enamored of his own opinions - there are no hard and fast rules to life - everyone's different and making blanket stereotyped statements about every woman, man or couple is retarded :2 cents:

Relationships end relationships. The world is changing quickly, and with the pace at which new information and stimuli are stuffed down our throats, settling down is becoming less and less of an interest to people. I don't think there's many people going to be pulling lifelong year marriages out anymore. People bore of eachother to easily these days. Sure there's eceptions, but they are becoming less and less in my eyes.....

Again, it's about what you both want. and/or are prepared for.

Your monogamous relationship would be over at that point. The relationship evolves, or it ends.

yes you can have sex just for the sex.... sex is supposed to be fun.. threesomes are fun.

If you go looking to make your twosome a triad.... it's tough... everyone has to love everyone.

If you just want to fuck and play around... another partner is just more options.... hell... a threesome, a foursome.... it just turns into entertainment at that point.

Sex is Sex.. Love is Love... they are two entirely different things that are attached to each other by the participants. One is physical.. one is emotional. You can keep them separated if you like, or you can connnect them.

Ok, speaking from experience here:

If you are the one pushing for the threesome it will most likely kill the relationship unless you do it right. By doing it right, I mean you have to make sure that during the whole time 70% of your attention is focused on her (your partner). Some guys are so excited to be wetting their stick on someone else they forget their manners sort of speak.

If she's pushing for it, the above still applies. The most important part is that before you start, set the ground rules and ask her how she sees the threesome going and what she wants to get out of it. The first couple of times it happens (if you are lucky) it's going to be fun but a little tense, after that, if you both like it, it should be smooth.

Also, after it happens, make sure to talk to her and get feedback, make sure she feels you care about her more than the monster between your legs.:winkwink:

Of course all of this applies only if you really care about her, if not just do it and hope for the best...:pimp

everyone has given great insight...thanks I appreciate it.

If your partner gets more than you,yes it is

I met my current girlfriend when I was dating her best friend. We had a threesome, then I hooked up with my girlfriend from there, leaving the first girl.

We've been together 3+ years, and hadn't met before that night.

Wait, I just saw your nick...You're a girl? If so do YOU want to?

Because if you're just doing it to make him happy but you are not really into it then YES it WILL end your relationship. :2 cents:

I'm a freak, I get off on watching my man with other girls but not everyone is like that.

I have known 2 couples this has happened with. One split up. One stayed together and got married later and are still happily married.

No it doesn't have to mean the end to things but it depends on the individual relationship and how the threesome is approached. My main advice to anybody looking at introducing other partners into a relationship - be it a threesome or an open relationship - is that it simply won't work if your relationship isn't super strong. You need to set rules and boundaries and never violate them.

Ask Donny.

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hey, can't we make it so i got to read this thread before you and posted that first ?

If you cant separate love and sex, then yes you will have problems. We have no problem with it, and have had many threesomes. Not a big dealio.

my most recent seems to have put me in some form of indefinate drought. Might this answer your question???

Been there, done that, short answer: Yes, not right away, but it will.

It will end 2 of the 3 eventually, or all 3. One good relationship is worth more than lots of bad ones... :2 cents:

I'd go with swinging, that always works!

I'm sure a guy like Dr. Drew who has spent years and years working with people who have addiction and emotional problems really doesn't know what he is talking about.

You are right, we are all individuals, but in the end most people are just part of the herd. I don't mean that in a bad way (so to speak) I just mean that there are certain things that are true most of the time with people. For example they will have someone call in who has chaos in their life and can't stay in a relationship and almost every time that person suffered some kinds of abuse. After a while patterns emerge. When Dr. Drew says something about someone it is because the evidence points to that being the case. It is the old " if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's a duck" idea. There are some cases where these blanket statements don't apply, but for the most part he is almost always right.

As for the threesomes. I would say there is about a 95% chance it will end your relationship. There are a very small number of people who can separate sex from emotion, but not very many. In the end there will be questioning and jealousy and it will lead to a demise in the relationship.

I think you must to ask her about it gently, and if you see that she would not do it stop to continue this theme if you want to save your relationship. Dont force her to do it, if she dont really interesting in it

didnt this happen with that donny character

then again, the more the merrier, that way you can always say you built 1 more relationship than you destroyed....

Its all fun and giggles until your slamming your girlfriends friend and she is just sitting there watching this thinking "what the fuck is going on".

Jealousy is a hell of a drug.

It is funny, we were just discussing this at dinner last night.

It comes down to this, if you are just out for fun, go for it. If it someone you really care about, forget it, it is not worth it.

Bullllllllllllshit, but you really have to have a strong relationship and a lot of trust.

I say if you really love the person you are with.. it could cause big trouble.. dont do it unless you are prepared for the consiquences .. words of advice :-)

The Key is to start your relationship in a 3some, this way there is no sour feelings later on ;)

Totally agreed with this comment. If your inlove with someone, don't go there.

Why am I just getting into this thread now?

Ladies, ask a pro.

We are talking about two women and a man here. Not dropping the soap in the shower.

ask Donny

You know, I'm disappointed with how conservative Dr Drew is. I've heard him say some strange things. Like if you start masturbating at a young age it means something was wrong with your home life. Yeah, whatever. Ok, sorry I got off topic.

My husband and I have been swinging for over 10 years. Even before we got married. We have had lots of 3somes and obviously it hasn't ruined our relationship. 3somes and swinging to us are fun adventures. We find people we like & play with them. They are playmates. My husband is my lifemate.

That being said. I don't think everyone is cut out for swinging. If you are insecure or a jealous type it probably won't work out for you. If explore swinging/3somes to fulfill something missing in your relationship, that is also bad. So, the you got drunk with a friend and all played around could go either way. lol

I have found that you have to communicate a lot about feelings you stir up so you know how each other feel and work so that you are both comfortable and having fun. But if you can be open and communicate and keep it as a full extra activity for both of you, then it can be LOTS of fun. :2 cents:

Surey it depends on the individuals.

Lol when I saw the thread title I knew you were listening to loveline... this has been said like 1000 times on the show

Probably correct a lot of the time

do you think hiring an escort or whatever would be a way to get around the emotional issue?

Didn't ruin mine

Bingo!
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I say go for it. If shit falls apart you still have a story to hold over your friend who has only had one women in his life. Cause that is what I do to my best friend everyday.

Yes it always does. I would say never do it.

Yes it always does. I would say never do it.

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Well said ... we have regular ... very regular threesomes, with a specific girl and we totally disconnect sex with love ...

Some people can't deal or accept that ... I understand that it can cause problems ... but it doesn't cause problems for us ... so therefore, I can see both sides ....

I dunno. It's all good fun :)

Had to be another girl, cause if its with your current I soooo would want to know how the guy qualified :winkwink:

more evolved people don't need to follow these same herd-like patterns :2 cents: some of my best and longest relationships were open and threesomes and/or swinging was never the cause of our problems - people in monogamous relationships still cheat and instead lie about it which ends the relationship - the real point of everything is relationships END - and people are starting to realize that nothing lasts forever - when you are unhappy in a relationship, yes, it makes more sense to move on instead of staying with someone your whole life who you're miserable with...

As the world and humans continue to evolve there will be more sexual openness, less traditional relationships, more non-conventional situations - monogamy is not natural to humans - it is based on cultural norms - it is not natural and ultimately will be wiped out and become an oddity in society. Already being sexually open is much more accepted then 50 years ago. This is where we are headed - pyschology is based on the norms of the day - remember when homosexuality was supposed to be a mental illness? If Dr Drew were 50 years older he would have been one of the guys spouting that line. Times are a'changing - threesomes and moresomes are good fun and there's nothing but invisible barriers in your mind that are stopping you from enjoying life to it's fullest. :2 cents::thumbsup