Does It Pay To Be An Asshole??? - GoFuckYourself.com

DeanCapture · 04-26-2007, 11:13 AM

In this industry.....does it pay to be nice - or does it pay to be an asshole?

Regarding this thread by Mailman....just got me to thinking if it really pays to be nice in this industry - what do you think? I mean....clearly Mailman bent over backwards to work with these people and in the end he got fucked!

There are so many scammers in this business who are looking to screw people out of money and take advantage of people - makes you wonder if it's a good idea to be nice or if you should be a hardass all the time

For myself - I'm a laid back kinda guy. Born & raised in the south where respect for others and having manners are very important. I treat everyone with dignity & respect until they give me a reason to do otherwise. I am naturally a "good ol'boy" but ya' know something? That attitude has come back to haunt me time and time again when dealing with folks in this industry. I've been ripped off, taken advantage of, disrespected and generally shit on from time to time by some peeps in this industry. Even by peeps that you would never expect that from - I know I didn't.

With that said - there are also a lot of great people in this business who have good hearts and who always look out for their business partners. For the most part - I've delt with these kinds of people but it hasn't always been like that. What's your experience been like???

Does it pay to be nice??? Or does it pay to be an asshole???

AaronM · 04-26-2007, 11:15 AM

I've been fucked over far more times when I was being nice than I have been while being an asshole.

BigCashCrew · 04-26-2007, 11:17 AM

I'm not going to name names but I've seen a few people do very well by playing the asshole.

I'm a nice guy too and have pondered the thought of being an asshole just to keep myself from getting fucked. I'd never fuck anyone over - but then again I gotta watch my own ass. Like you said, there are a lot of sharks in this industry who will fuck you in a heart beat and say all the right things to keep you believing them.

shoeaholicanon · 04-26-2007, 11:18 AM

that's a tough one. people dont like to deal with assholes - yet when you're nice - you get walked all over. i think a balance would be better.

lazycash · 04-26-2007, 11:21 AM

I don't think being an asshole worked out too good for Alienq.

sextoyking · 04-26-2007, 11:21 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DeanCapture

In this industry.....does it pay to be nice - or does it pay to be an asshole?

Regarding this thread by Mailman....just got me to thinking if it really pays to be nice in this industry - what do you think? I mean....clearly Mailman bent over backwards to work with these people and in the end he got fucked!

There are so many scammers in this business who are looking to screw people out of money and take advantage of people - makes you wonder if it's a good idea to be nice or if you should be a hardass all the time

For myself - I'm a laid back kinda guy. Born & raised in the south where respect for others and having manners are very important. I treat everyone with dignity & respect until they give me a reason to do otherwise. I am naturally a "good ol'boy" but ya' know something? That attitude has come back to haunt me time and time again when dealing with folks in this industry. I've been ripped off, taken advantage of, disrespected and generally shit on from time to time by some peeps in this industry. Even by peeps that you would never expect that from - I know I didn't.

With that said - there are also a lot of great people in this business who have good hearts and who always look out for their business partners. For the most part - I've delt with these kinds of people but it hasn't always been like that. What's your experience been like???

Does it pay to be nice??? Or does it pay to be an asshole???

Good post Dean...

I too think you need a balance - not just in this industry but in anything business.

I try and be nice and professional with everyone all the time. If you screw me over or try too - well we can't do biz anymore...

I just try and treat ppl how I would like to be treated.. I know that's an old saying but it works most of the time

Cheers

DWB · 04-26-2007, 11:23 AM

Though I may play a sleazy pornographer with no morals online, I'm a nice and honest guy in real life. Yea, I'm a tad freaky, but who isn't?

I believe in being nice, fair and honest. This practice has brought me more business that I could have ever wished for. Good karma, if it does exist, has come back to me 10 fold.

Be nice, but be aware. Also, just because you're a nice guy does not mean you have to roll over and let someone walk on you. Be stern when you make your deals, be honest, and if you get fucked... its sadly the nature of the business. The adult industry is known for having the worst scum, ex-cons and scammers out there, and sooner or later you will cross one. Just hope you are a bit smarter than he is. No need to be an asshole. You will reap what you sow.

luv$ · 04-26-2007, 11:27 AM

My general rule of thumb is to be as good a person as I can possibly be for everyone I decide to give my time to. Sometimes I don't do as well as I'd like to.

It's only when I'm pushed that I push back - my flaw though is I have a tendency to push back twice as hard when pushed. It's been a problem in the past but it's one of those things; just how i am i spose.

The hardest time i had was while living in florida. EVERYONE there is one of two things: a complete asshole or nice as hell. Problem was there were a LOT of assholes, so I just spent all my time pushing back on a daily basis when going out and doing anything. It sucked.

Lykos · 04-26-2007, 11:32 AM

Nope i dont think so
a like not to be an asshole,much more ppl is there when i need help.

drjones · 04-26-2007, 11:32 AM

Everyone will eventually get fucked once in a while, whether your an asshole or a nice guy. Even assholes can get screwed by other assholes.

DeanCapture · 04-26-2007, 11:36 AM

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Originally Posted by luv$

It's only when I'm pushed that I push back - my flaw though is I have a tendency to push back twice as hard when pushed.

The interesting thing that I've learned over the last few years is that relationships - especially business relationships are very complicated. You may think your getting pushed and feel a need to "push back"....only to realize that in the other persons mind...they were not pushing you at all. Some peoples personalities are such that you always think your getting pushed when in fact - you might not be.

Communicating thru email makes the problem even worse because you don't have the luxury of actually hearing the words or the tone of the voice so you sometimes take things the wrong way. Has this even happened to any of you? Email is a great tool for basic communication but when talking about serious business - a phone call should always be in order. Otherwise you run the risk of offending someone with your email because they may read it wrong....or you may read theirs wrong! Thoughts???

JoeS · 04-26-2007, 11:38 AM

Mean People Suck! lol but its true they do.
One thing people who think its profitable or cool to be an asshole should realize is that before they spew out their hate, greed and anger at others that stuff all has to come through them first. All the anger and lies and negativity has to pass through them before they can deliver it to others. So the Karma as it were is instant. That's why I try to let the little things go and take a step back and a deep breath whenever I think someones insulting or attacking me. Many times it's just a misunderstanding or the persons having their own problems and it's got little to do with me. So if I take that mental step back and deep breath I can have a chance to reframe the incident in a positive light . Ask myself ok whats really going on here, how can I learn from this?

It's like the story of a man on a bus and there are these two kids acting up and yelling and running around like little kids do creating chaos. So the mans getting upset not being able to relax on the way to work he goes the to kids father and reads him the riot act about controlling his kids and respecting others etc etc.. Well the father then explains how sorry he is. Explains that the kids just lost their mother to cancer last night and they are having a hard time dealing with it. BAM! the man feels like shit. He has to reframe the situation because now he realises he can't always know whats going on with another persons life and why people do things or say things and maybe not everything revolves around him.

Does it pay to be a good guy? Depends what you mean by pay. I think it's very rewarding to be a good human being. I think its not about the number of joins you make but the good traffic trades you make along the way to more joins!

Good health and good relationships is vastly more rewarding than good stats which one achieves by hook or by crook.

I think the same life rules that our grandparents tried to teach us as children apply even now as porn webmasters or whatever we are doing. They said,
"do onto others as you would have them do onto you" and " if you don't have something good to say don't say anything at all". That's a great starting point for anyone in business or life in genera. They also said "Play nice" hehe and I agree with that too. You get much further in life by working with others than being small minded and a "asshole".

BrunoB · 04-26-2007, 11:50 AM

not realy! work pay more

luv$ · 04-26-2007, 11:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DeanCapture

The interesting thing that I've learned over the last few years is that relationships - especially business relationships are very complicated. You may think your getting pushed and feel a need to "push back"....only to realize that in the other persons mind...they were not pushing you at all. Some peoples personalities are such that you always think your getting pushed when in fact - you might not be.

Communicating thru email makes the problem even worse because you don't have the luxury of actually hearing the words or the tone of the voice so you sometimes take things the wrong way. Has this even happened to any of you? Email is a great tool for basic communication but when talking about serious business - a phone call should always be in order. Otherwise you run the risk of offending someone with your email because they may read it wrong....or you may read theirs wrong! Thoughts???

YES! Facial features, gestures, tone - it's all missing from this medium! Particularly IM.

In response to what you said I agree 100% about mispercieving being pushed, as such I try really really hard to not be impulsive with it, and take much more care when online.

I think it just boils down to one of those things that as one gets older their judgment improves.

All you can really do in the meantime is be yourself

Sly · 04-26-2007, 11:59 AM

If someone fucks me over, shame on them. Certainly doesn't make me want to be that person. I am who I am, its gotten me this far, I see no reason to change that simply because others are assholes.

pornguy · 04-26-2007, 12:06 PM

Its not just being an ass. Its being one when the time is right.

And if you do it that way, it works fine.

Jon Clark - BANNED FOR LIFE · 04-26-2007, 01:11 PM

Nice guys finish last... At least that is what they say

g$$$ · 04-26-2007, 01:13 PM

i say....be a nice guy until they cross the line..then *BAM*...open up ur can of whoop @$$

Steve Awesome · 04-26-2007, 01:17 PM

I've only ever met Dugmor and he was the nicest guy ever.

J. Falcon · 04-26-2007, 01:19 PM

There are a lot of succesful asshole out there but that is not the way to go imo.

RP Fade · 04-26-2007, 01:20 PM

I think there is a fine line. If you're too nice, it opens the door for people to take advantage of you or ignore you. If you're just a real asshole, I dont think that motivates others to work for or with you.

I always liked what Theodore Roosevelt said:

'Speak Softly and carry a big stick'

CDSmith · 04-26-2007, 01:27 PM

I like to think of myself as a nice guy who has a set of large sharp teeth.

I give what I get.

Angelo22 · 04-26-2007, 02:02 PM

Better to be nice and work without fucking anyone in the ass for little sums of money...

RedShoe · 04-26-2007, 02:46 PM

Dean, if you need help being an asshole just let me know. I was raised in a trailer park, I know a thing or two about being hillbilly dickish.

Anyone fucks with you, let me know.

BigPinPin · 04-26-2007, 03:01 PM

I don´t think you need to be an asshole, you just should not mix real $$$ business with pleasure. BY the way, the biggest assholes are the ones who don´t show it ! There are so many motherfuckers in this industry and all they do is playing a fucking fake theater show! Visit some events and you know what I mean after the event ends and the business starts again ! ;)

LiveDose · 04-26-2007, 03:05 PM

It's a balance. If you're going to be nice it's important to not let anyone push you around though.

chaze · 04-26-2007, 03:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DeanCapture

In this industry.....does it pay to be nice - or does it pay to be an asshole?

Regarding this thread by Mailman....just got me to thinking if it really pays to be nice in this industry - what do you think? I mean....clearly Mailman bent over backwards to work with these people and in the end he got fucked!

There are so many scammers in this business who are looking to screw people out of money and take advantage of people - makes you wonder if it's a good idea to be nice or if you should be a hardass all the time

For myself - I'm a laid back kinda guy. Born & raised in the south where respect for others and having manners are very important. I treat everyone with dignity & respect until they give me a reason to do otherwise. I am naturally a "good ol'boy" but ya' know something? That attitude has come back to haunt me time and time again when dealing with folks in this industry. I've been ripped off, taken advantage of, disrespected and generally shit on from time to time by some peeps in this industry. Even by peeps that you would never expect that from - I know I didn't.

With that said - there are also a lot of great people in this business who have good hearts and who always look out for their business partners. For the most part - I've delt with these kinds of people but it hasn't always been like that. What's your experience been like???

Does it pay to be nice??? Or does it pay to be an asshole???

Good question, I have seen many get burned. I would say be cool but also don't trust anyone at first. And Google is your friend when checking a business.

04-26-2007, 05:18 PM

I think it depends on the situation. Being an asshole all the time is not a good thing, but there are cases when you need to be.

tony286 · 04-26-2007, 05:34 PM

I would rather be nice and smart

Wont get rich but I get to look at myself in the mirror

DeanCapture · 04-26-2007, 06:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tony404

I would rather be nice and smart

Wont get rich but I get to look at myself in the mirror

I like the way you think

Dugmor · 04-28-2007, 09:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Steve Awesome

I've only ever met Dugmor and he was the nicest guy ever.

Thanks for the compliment

Semi-Retired-Dave · 04-28-2007, 10:24 PM

Some guys like to play the Asshole role, I never got into it and never will.
It's bad Karma and it will bite you in the ass over and over again the rest of your life. What are assholes really trying to prove, boost of ego. Whatever!

Life is short, Live it well.

RedShoe · 04-28-2007, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by CyberAge-Dave

Life is short, Live it well.

Life is short? It's the longest thing you'll ever do.

Paul Markham · 04-29-2007, 01:54 AM

We kid ourselves that how we come across on a board makes a BIG difference to our success. We are manufacturers, bus conductors or shop owners and how we deal with each other has little to no effect on consumers.

We produce a product or bring buyers to the mall or sell it. Do you really think how we relate with each other makes any difference to a guy with his dick in his hand?

Yes we can all kiss each others asses, boost egos and act like the main man. But when a surfer hits a site if it does not make him horny enough to get his credit card out, you lose.

Yes you can be a major character to all the guys here who make $500 a month driving traffic, but unless your site, traffic or product is EXACTLY what the surfer wants you rely on minnows of the industry to deal with you because you're a "Character"

I just got back from Amsterdam and on another board they were flaming me for not going to the parties. I go to a show to do business, to make money, not pose with a bunch of free loaders at a party. And if you know me personally you know I'm not a shy person.

D · 04-29-2007, 02:12 AM

Raised as a Southern Boy myself, I've always believed that projecting positive energy creates more positive energy.

Treat others as you would want to be treated. Give everyone their fair due... but also keep your eyes open, because not everyone approaches things that way.

Brujah · 04-29-2007, 02:15 AM

Just be an asshole, to the assholes. Be cool to everyone else.

04-26-2007, 11:13 AM	#1
DeanCapture Haters & Trolls SUCK! Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 9,275	Does It Pay To Be An Asshole??? In this industry.....does it pay to be nice - or does it pay to be an asshole? Regarding this thread by Mailman....just got me to thinking if it really pays to be nice in this industry - what do you think? I mean....clearly Mailman bent over backwards to work with these people and in the end he got fucked! There are so many scammers in this business who are looking to screw people out of money and take advantage of people - makes you wonder if it's a good idea to be nice or if you should be a hardass all the time For myself - I'm a laid back kinda guy. Born & raised in the south where respect for others and having manners are very important. I treat everyone with dignity & respect until they give me a reason to do otherwise. I am naturally a "good ol'boy" but ya' know something? That attitude has come back to haunt me time and time again when dealing with folks in this industry. I've been ripped off, taken advantage of, disrespected and generally shit on from time to time by some peeps in this industry. Even by peeps that you would never expect that from - I know I didn't. With that said - there are also a lot of great people in this business who have good hearts and who always look out for their business partners. For the most part - I've delt with these kinds of people but it hasn't always been like that. What's your experience been like??? Does it pay to be nice??? Or does it pay to be an asshole??? __________________ Twitter: @DeanCapture Instagram: @TheDeanCapture DeanCapture "at" Gmail.com

04-26-2007, 11:27 AM	#8
luv$ !$!$!$!$!$!$!$!$!$!$ Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Paper Street Posts: 6,158	My general rule of thumb is to be as good a person as I can possibly be for everyone I decide to give my time to. Sometimes I don't do as well as I'd like to. It's only when I'm pushed that I push back - my flaw though is I have a tendency to push back twice as hard when pushed. It's been a problem in the past but it's one of those things; just how i am i spose. The hardest time i had was while living in florida. EVERYONE there is one of two things: a complete asshole or nice as hell. Problem was there were a LOT of assholes, so I just spent all my time pushing back on a daily basis when going out and doing anything. It sucked. __________________ Domain Auction - now till 12:01AM on the 2nd... Paper Streeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet Cash The Real Workout - Innocent High - Oye Loca - Her Freshman Year - Solo Interviews - This Girl Sucks. ** HQ Fresh ORIGINAL sites.

04-26-2007, 11:32 AM	#9
Lykos Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: World Posts: 31,030	Nope i dont think so a like not to be an asshole,much more ppl is there when i need help. __________________

04-26-2007, 11:32 AM	#10
drjones Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Charlotte, NC Posts: 908	Everyone will eventually get fucked once in a while, whether your an asshole or a nice guy. Even assholes can get screwed by other assholes. __________________ ICQ: 284903372

04-26-2007, 11:38 AM	#12
JoeS Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 891	Mean People Suck! lol but its true they do. One thing people who think its profitable or cool to be an asshole should realize is that before they spew out their hate, greed and anger at others that stuff all has to come through them first. All the anger and lies and negativity has to pass through them before they can deliver it to others. So the Karma as it were is instant. That's why I try to let the little things go and take a step back and a deep breath whenever I think someones insulting or attacking me. Many times it's just a misunderstanding or the persons having their own problems and it's got little to do with me. So if I take that mental step back and deep breath I can have a chance to reframe the incident in a positive light . Ask myself ok whats really going on here, how can I learn from this? It's like the story of a man on a bus and there are these two kids acting up and yelling and running around like little kids do creating chaos. So the mans getting upset not being able to relax on the way to work he goes the to kids father and reads him the riot act about controlling his kids and respecting others etc etc.. Well the father then explains how sorry he is. Explains that the kids just lost their mother to cancer last night and they are having a hard time dealing with it. BAM! the man feels like shit. He has to reframe the situation because now he realises he can't always know whats going on with another persons life and why people do things or say things and maybe not everything revolves around him. Does it pay to be a good guy? Depends what you mean by pay. I think it's very rewarding to be a good human being. I think its not about the number of joins you make but the good traffic trades you make along the way to more joins! Good health and good relationships is vastly more rewarding than good stats which one achieves by hook or by crook. I think the same life rules that our grandparents tried to teach us as children apply even now as porn webmasters or whatever we are doing. They said, "do onto others as you would have them do onto you" and " if you don't have something good to say don't say anything at all". That's a great starting point for anyone in business or life in genera. They also said "Play nice" hehe and I agree with that too. You get much further in life by working with others than being small minded and a "asshole". __________________ Chat App that pays you!, Let's use this chat app that pays us for using it! Why use ICQ or Skype when we could use a chat app (with video & voice) that pay$ you (up to 70%) of all the ad revenue they make! All the best! Joe S.

04-26-2007, 11:15 AM	#2
AaronM GFY Royality ;) Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: ┌∩┐ ◣_◢ ┌∩┐ Posts: 46,921	I've been fucked over far more times when I was being nice than I have been while being an asshole.

04-26-2007, 11:17 AM	#3
BigCashCrew Registered User Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 3,570	I'm not going to name names but I've seen a few people do very well by playing the asshole. I'm a nice guy too and have pondered the thought of being an asshole just to keep myself from getting fucked. I'd never fuck anyone over - but then again I gotta watch my own ass. Like you said, there are a lot of sharks in this industry who will fuck you in a heart beat and say all the right things to keep you believing them.

04-26-2007, 11:18 AM	#4
shoeaholicanon Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,003	that's a tough one. people dont like to deal with assholes - yet when you're nice - you get walked all over. i think a balance would be better.

04-26-2007, 11:21 AM	#5
lazycash Troll Patrol Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Local Socal Posts: 15,214	I don't think being an asshole worked out too good for Alienq.

04-26-2007, 11:23 AM	#7
DWB Registered User Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Encrypted. Access denied. Posts: 31,779	Though I may play a sleazy pornographer with no morals online, I'm a nice and honest guy in real life. Yea, I'm a tad freaky, but who isn't? I believe in being nice, fair and honest. This practice has brought me more business that I could have ever wished for. Good karma, if it does exist, has come back to me 10 fold. Be nice, but be aware. Also, just because you're a nice guy does not mean you have to roll over and let someone walk on you. Be stern when you make your deals, be honest, and if you get fucked... its sadly the nature of the business. The adult industry is known for having the worst scum, ex-cons and scammers out there, and sooner or later you will cross one. Just hope you are a bit smarter than he is. No need to be an asshole. You will reap what you sow.

04-26-2007, 11:50 AM	#13
BrunoB Registered User Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 46	not realy! work pay more

04-26-2007, 11:59 AM	#15
Sly Let's do some business! Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 31,364	If someone fucks me over, shame on them. Certainly doesn't make me want to be that person. I am who I am, its gotten me this far, I see no reason to change that simply because others are assholes. __________________ Vacares - Web Hosting, Domains, O365, Security & More - Paxum and BTC Accepted Windows VPS now available Great for TSS, Nifty Stats, remote work, virtual assistants, etc. Click here for more details.

04-26-2007, 12:06 PM	#16
pornguy Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Homeless Posts: 62,911	Its not just being an ass. Its being one when the time is right. And if you do it that way, it works fine. __________________ PornGuy skype me pornguy_epic AmateurDough The Hottes Shemales online! TChicks.com \| Angeles Cid \| Mariana Cordoba \| MAILERS WELCOME!

04-26-2007, 01:11 PM	#17
Jon Clark - BANNED FOR LIFE North Coast Pimp Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: 304-534-757 Posts: 9,395	Nice guys finish last... At least that is what they say

04-26-2007, 01:13 PM	#18
g$$$ Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 2,807	i say....be a nice guy until they cross the line..then BAM...open up ur can of whoop @$$

04-26-2007, 01:17 PM	#19
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04-26-2007, 01:19 PM	#20
J. Falcon www.AdultCopywriters.com Industry Role: Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 31,626	There are a lot of succesful asshole out there but that is not the way to go imo. __________________ Adult Copywriters SEO Content for Porn Sites sales at adultcopywriters dot com

04-26-2007, 01:20 PM	#21
RP Fade Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 3,343	I think there is a fine line. If you're too nice, it opens the door for people to take advantage of you or ignore you. If you're just a real asshole, I dont think that motivates others to work for or with you. I always liked what Theodore Roosevelt said: 'Speak Softly and carry a big stick' __________________ HomemadeCash.com - Homemade & GF sites powered by NScash.com HomemadeVideoPass.com - The only all homemade mega site OurHomemadePorno.com - Real couples fucking on camera Contact ICQ: 400-786-531 Email: fade AT nscash.com

04-26-2007, 01:27 PM	#22
CDSmith Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: May 2001 Location: My network is hosted at TECHIEMEDIA.net ...Wait, you meant where am I located at? Oh... okay, I'm in Winnipeg, Canada. Oops. :) Posts: 51,460	I like to think of myself as a nice guy who has a set of large sharp teeth. I give what I get. __________________ *Promote Wildmatch, ImLive, Sexier.com, and more!!* ALWAYS THE HIGHEST PAYOUTS: Big Bux/ImLive SIGNUP ON NOW!!! Put some PUSSYCA$H in your pocket. ICQ me at: 31024634

04-26-2007, 02:02 PM	#23
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04-26-2007, 02:46 PM	#24
RedShoe 赤い靴 call me 202-456-1111 Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: The Valley Posts: 14,831	Dean, if you need help being an asshole just let me know. I was raised in a trailer park, I know a thing or two about being hillbilly dickish. Anyone fucks with you, let me know. __________________ SPECIALTY COSTUMES • PROPS • FX Superheroes • Monsters • Robots PM for details For any manufacturing needs. Adult or otherwise. aka BonsHigh on Insta Bonsai weed plants

04-26-2007, 03:01 PM	#25
BigPinPin Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: May 2003 Location: Spain Posts: 894	I don´t think you need to be an asshole, you just should not mix real $$$ business with pleasure. BY the way, the biggest assholes are the ones who don´t show it ! There are so many motherfuckers in this industry and all they do is playing a fucking fake theater show! Visit some events and you know what I mean after the event ends and the business starts again ! ;)

04-26-2007, 03:05 PM	#26
LiveDose Show Yer Tits! Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Somewhere Out there... Posts: 25,792	It's a balance. If you're going to be nice it's important to not let anyone push you around though. __________________ Scammer Alert: acer19 acer [email protected] [email protected] Money stolen using PayPal

04-26-2007, 05:18 PM	#28
JaneB Guest Posts: n/a	I think it depends on the situation. Being an asshole all the time is not a good thing, but there are cases when you need to be.

04-26-2007, 05:34 PM	#29
tony286 lurker Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: atlanta Posts: 57,021	I would rather be nice and smart Wont get rich but I get to look at myself in the mirror

04-28-2007, 10:24 PM	#32
Semi-Retired-Dave Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: LA Posts: 11,190	Some guys like to play the Asshole role, I never got into it and never will. It's bad Karma and it will bite you in the ass over and over again the rest of your life. What are assholes really trying to prove, boost of ego. Whatever! Life is short, Live it well. __________________ Support a Good Cause

04-29-2007, 01:54 AM	#34
Paul Markham Too old to care Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: On the sofa, watching TV or doing my jigsaws. Posts: 52,943	We kid ourselves that how we come across on a board makes a BIG difference to our success. We are manufacturers, bus conductors or shop owners and how we deal with each other has little to no effect on consumers. We produce a product or bring buyers to the mall or sell it. Do you really think how we relate with each other makes any difference to a guy with his dick in his hand? Yes we can all kiss each others asses, boost egos and act like the main man. But when a surfer hits a site if it does not make him horny enough to get his credit card out, you lose. Yes you can be a major character to all the guys here who make $500 a month driving traffic, but unless your site, traffic or product is EXACTLY what the surfer wants you rely on minnows of the industry to deal with you because you're a "Character" I just got back from Amsterdam and on another board they were flaming me for not going to the parties. I go to a show to do business, to make money, not pose with a bunch of free loaders at a party. And if you know me personally you know I'm not a shy person. __________________ Blowout deal. 880 videos, 2,400 image sets, plus many RAW videos. $500. PM me for a deal. Skype Paulmarkham70

04-29-2007, 02:12 AM	#35
D Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: The Valley Posts: 7,412	Raised as a Southern Boy myself, I've always believed that projecting positive energy creates more positive energy. Treat others as you would want to be treated. Give everyone their fair due... but also keep your eyes open, because not everyone approaches things that way. __________________ -D. ICQ: 202-96-31

04-29-2007, 02:15 AM	#36
Brujah Beer Money Baron Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: brujah / gmail Posts: 22,157	Just be an asshole, to the assholes. Be cool to everyone else. __________________ Free Premium Domain Lists and Tools at Clickmojo.com For Sale: Obscenity.com