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bausch 03-06-2007 07:12 PM
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Originally Posted by KingK7 (Post 12031330)
It gets worse... The TV presenter is wearing a red shirt that day, and that is a signal to your friend that he someone is out to get him/her, and shit like that. Be careful around people like that. Best thing to do, if it is not immediate family, is to just cut them off completely.
No it hasn't gotten to this point. I don't think it will though. This person is only concerned with people in the real world, not tv people (yet).

I read that the "Seeing things in the tv" thing is mainly a symptom of regular shizophrenia where people hear voices.

My significant other never hears voices. They only get paranoid.

baddog 03-06-2007 07:12 PM
take it as a hint, let them keep the drive and ipod and never see them again.

You got out cheap.

rowan 03-06-2007 07:20 PM
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Originally Posted by bausch (Post 12031297)
Also, why would you consider it stealing per se? Perhaps I worded the topic of my thread wrong.

I DID buy one hard drive for this person and one for me. So perhaps this person just took THEIR hard drive and they just happened to take mine as well and not tell me about it? Is that really considered stealing?
Yes. If I purchased two of something so we could have one each, and my partner took mine without asking then it defeats the purpose of buying one for each. We're not talking about a chocolate bar, it is an object of value to you both in monetary and practical forms... you purchased that drive because you needed it, right? The person who took it completely disregarded that when they removed it from your possession.

bausch, you really need to get on top of this and move on. It sounds like you are both unusual people, but it's still painfully obvious that you are being seriously used by this person. I wish you'd see that.

collegeboobies 03-06-2007 07:23 PM
Print CL page as proof, have a friend buy it on CL, and give it to the theif as a gift. Then tell them they better like it because they better never come within 100 yards of your place again.

bausch 03-06-2007 07:28 PM
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Originally Posted by collegeboobies (Post 12031438)
Print CL page as proof, have a friend buy it on CL, and give it to the theif as a gift. Then tell them they better like it because they better never come within 100 yards of your place again.
I already made screenshots of the CL page. I set up a new e-mail address and mailed them last night saying I wanted to purchase it. The person didn't write me back yet, I think it might have been sold already.

Calico Jack 03-06-2007 07:36 PM
It's time to move on, but let her know that you know what she did. Show her the proof too, so there can be no dispute. Then walk away. If she can live with the shame, so be it, you're definately better off without her.

bausch 03-06-2007 07:37 PM
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Originally Posted by rowan (Post 12031422)
Yes. If I purchased two of something so we could have one each, and my partner took mine without asking then it defeats the purpose of buying one for each. We're not talking about a chocolate bar, it is an object of value to you both in monetary and practical forms... you purchased that drive because you needed it, right? The person who took it completely disregarded that when they removed it from your possession.

bausch, you really need to get on top of this and move on. It sounds like you are both unusual people, but it's still painfully obvious that you are being seriously used by this person. I wish you'd see that.
Yea you're right. It's not the first time the person stole from me. I didn't want to say it in the beginning of the thread because that would make people even more biased. I wanted people to judge the severity of the act based on one incident of stealing, not several.

Last time during a bad fight around a few months ago (which I started) this person withdrew $500 out of my checking account. They have my pin code cause I gave it to them because sometimes I will give them my my card go buy groceries for us, use it for gas etc... At first they denied it too but they ended up admitting it to me. I was mad of course but I got over it and forgot about it.

It's not like I work hard slaving away in a 9-5 job making low wages, I always have tons of checks rolling in like all the time. My significant other knows this and this and said "Ohhh it's only $500, you act like I stole tens of thousands from you, what's a few hundred dollars?" It kind of irks me that they say this even though they have no money at all, but whatevers....

They used part of that money to pay bills and the other half to buy some spy tool shit, some weird device that can detect hidden cameras...

I don't think this person is malicious or evil, I think they are just "childlike" and just don't know what's wrong or right. Plus in THEIR mind they are TRULY convinced someone is after them so therefore they felt they had no choice but to "borrow" my money to buy that spy device. To them it really was a matter of life and death.

rowan 03-06-2007 07:40 PM
Stealing is the act of taking something without asking. If the money really meant so little to you then they could have easily asked for it. What you make is irrelevant; it is still stealing.

Jim_Gunn 03-06-2007 07:42 PM
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Originally Posted by bausch (Post 12031309)
I find that a bit sexist. Why would the situation be more pathetic IF I was woman, which I am not saying I am, but IF I was.
Because successful women who make a great living- which I assume you are- don't need nor do they generally want to pay for sex in effect by supporting some lazy, shiftless, dishonest significant other. That's only something alpha males with money do if they are cocksman who wants to bang young chippies even if it cost them some money and they have to put up with bullshit.

If you are a woman making any kind of living and the fact that you are willing to rationalize away some horrible person shitting on you daily by stealing from you means there is something wrong with you, usually low self esteem.

The best solution either way is dump the loser and find a real man (or woman) who treats you nicely.

bausch 03-06-2007 07:46 PM
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Originally Posted by Jim_Gunn (Post 12031512)
Because successful women who make a great living- which I assume you are- don't need nor do they generally want to pay for sex in effect by supporting some lazy, shiftless, dishonest significant other. That's only something alpha males with money do if they are cocksman who wants to bang young chippies even if it cost them some money and they have to put up with bullshit.

Ifyou are a woman making any kind of living and the fact that you are willing to rationalize away some horrible person shitting on you daily by stealing from you means there is something wrong with you, usually low self esteem.

The nest solition either way is dump the loser and find a real man (or woman) who treats you nicely.
Well, I'm not a woman, but usually whoever pays is the one that has the power. If a woman wants to pay then that's great for her. Perhaps she's just independent and doesn't need anything from a man. I think that is a commendable trait and something to be praised, not put down!

A lot of females I know would actually prefer to pay for the guy as long as the guy is FAITHFUL. If a woman wants a guy to stay faithful it's better for her NOT to go for an alpha man , because ALPHA MEN ARE MORE LIKELY TO CHEAT!!!!!!!!

A lot of women now don't WANT a man to pay. If men pay, they are more likely to feel entitled, and like you SAID, alpha males just want to bang tons of girls.

So a woman who wants a monogamous relationshiop has a better chance with a NON ALPHA MALE.

I would prefer to pay as long as the other person does not cheat. If someone is an alpha anything, male or female, they will be more likely to fuck around.

Perhaps an alpha woman likes to pay because she doesn't want to be cheated on!

woj 03-06-2007 07:49 PM
that's kinda funny... someone steals from you, tries to sell it, you catch them red-handed and then you consider forgiving them? :1orglaugh :1orglaugh

bausch 03-06-2007 07:51 PM
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Originally Posted by Jim_Gunn (Post 12031512)
Because successful women who make a great living- which I assume you are- don't need nor do they generally want to pay for sex in effect by supporting some lazy, shiftless, dishonest significant other. That's only something alpha males with money do if they are cocksman who wants to bang young chippies even if it cost them some money and they have to put up with bullshit.
Perhaps she'd rather be treated badly by someone lazy instead of being cheated by some alpha male!

I would rather pick a poor lazy person who treats me badly than an alpha individual who cheats!

What is good about an alpha male if he's gonna cheat? Who would want that? That's just as bad as a lazy person who steals from you.

They are BOTH equally bad!

rowan 03-06-2007 07:53 PM
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Originally Posted by bausch (Post 12031523)
Well, I'm not a woman,
Does that mean you're underage? :helpme :winkwink: :error

rowan 03-06-2007 07:57 PM
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Originally Posted by bausch (Post 12031556)
Perhaps she'd rather be treated badly by someone lazy instead of being cheated by some alpha male!

I would rather pick a poor lazy person who treats me badly than an alpha individual who cheats!

What is good about an alpha male if he's gonna cheat? Who would want that? That's just as bad as a lazy person who steals from you.

They are BOTH equally bad!
It's not so black and white in the real world. There are plenty of good people. You don't need to settle for second best.

I'll leave you with this:

Is there really that much difference with dishonesty about who he sleeps with, versus dishonesty about what he's blatantly stolen from you?

baddog 03-06-2007 08:01 PM
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Originally Posted by bausch (Post 12031494)
Last time during a bad fight around a few months ago (which I started) this person withdrew $500 out of my checking account. They have my pin code cause I gave it to them because sometimes I will give them my my card go buy groceries for us, use it for gas etc... At first they denied it too but they ended up admitting it to me. I was mad of course but I got over it and forgot about it.
First time shame on them, second time shame on you.

You sound like a very desperate chick.

Nodtveidt 03-06-2007 08:02 PM
If a person cheats on you, it's for generally one of two reasons:

1. They've got a problem with faithfulness, and would cheat on anyone
2. They're not happy with you and like the way they feel with someone else

Issue 1 is their problem, issue 2 is usually yours.

baddog 03-06-2007 08:02 PM
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Originally Posted by bausch (Post 12031523)
Well, I'm not a woman,
A gay guy?

p0rnus 03-06-2007 08:02 PM
I'd be kicking some ass to the curb, seriously!

You will not be able to trust them around anything. You don't have to be poor, but you also don't have to be a chump.

This person you care for is taking advantage of you. They will eventually see that you notice that they have no respect for you and you haven't done anything about it, and sell something you really care about.

bausch 03-06-2007 08:03 PM
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Originally Posted by rowan (Post 12031573)
It's not so black and white in the real world. There are plenty of good people.

Is there really that much difference with dishonesty about who someone sleeps with, versus dishonesty about what someone has blatantly stolen from you?
Yes, cheating is MUCH worse than stealing because I would forget about the money real fast because there's always more coming in.

Cheating would be traumatizing forever because I would always wonder;

"What did the other person look like? Were they better than me? Why did they choose that person over me? What did that person have that I don't have? Why am I not good enough? What could I do to prevent this from happening again? Oh great, now I'll die alone cause I'm traumatized for life. How was the sex with the other person? Where they really good? " etc etc

I would lose a lot of sleep over it. I would be mad if someone stole from me but I wouldn't lose any sleep over it unless it was big amounts...

Cheating is the ultimate betrayal.

woj 03-06-2007 08:04 PM
100 thieves... edit: (shit I'm early :( )

sternyduke 03-06-2007 08:04 PM
stealing is just the tip of the iceberg. you'll wish you dropped their ass when they admit to giving you herpes or ass warts. fuck second chances unless you enjoy being shit on or something...

Aussie Rebel 03-06-2007 08:09 PM
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Originally Posted by bausch (Post 12027687)
Ok, I just wanted to know if stealing is considered crossing lines.
Fuck yeah! I hate thieves of any kind:mad:

bausch 03-06-2007 08:17 PM
Rowan, do you remember the post I made a few years ago about seeing someone who was hypochondriac and reading that strange chinese site? You asked me what happened about that on another board...

It's the same person that I'm talking about in this thread. I think I know what was wrong with them back then. I think it was a nervous breakdown...

JaneB 03-06-2007 08:55 PM
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Originally Posted by bausch (Post 12027259)
A few weeks ago I ordered two hard drives, one for myself and one for someone I'm dating as a gift. I didn't even have time to open the box so I just left it there until one day I noticed it was gone. It's not very noticeable because my house is kind of messy and there's other boxes laying around so it kind of blended in... I asked the person that I was seeing if they took it, and they were like no of course not. And this person is a good actor, they were totally pretending to be worried that someone broke into my house etc

Until right now, I saw this person on Craigslist selling the hard drive I bought for them, I recognize their cell number. Well, I guess if I bought it for them, they can do whatever they want with it, but they lied to me, and not only that but they took my hard drive too!

I've been dating this person seriously for around 2 years or so.

Anwyays, we got in a big fight a few days ago and I noticed my Ipod was gone too! I have a feeling this person took it as well.

Now this person has financial problems and I actually was helping them out, help paying some of their bills etc. But I didn't know they would take stuff from my house and sell it.

Anyways, I would never call the cops because well I just wouldn't... Also, I have money and I'm not poor so it's not like took huge amounts of money from me.

I guess this person felt I wasn't helping them enough... Or since we got in a fight they know I'm not going to bail them out so they just decided to sell it, but the thing is when we were cool with each other, they didn't tell me that they took my stuff either...

Is it really a big deal? I can buy new hard drives easily, maybe it's not that big of a deal? Or is it the principle of it? I would get totally angry if a stranger stole from me but if it's something I care for I tend to overlook it, like it's not a big deal... perhaps they needed money or whatever...

You can forgive people but I would never trust them again. It is a big deal to steal, but it is worse to steal from someone you are dating. I would cut all ties with this person. There is no excuse for their behavior.

rowan 03-06-2007 11:36 PM
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Originally Posted by bausch (Post 12031663)
Rowan, do you remember the post I made a few years ago about seeing someone who was hypochondriac and reading that strange chinese site? You asked me what happened about that on another board...

It's the same person that I'm talking about in this thread. I think I know what was wrong with them back then. I think it was a nervous breakdown...
I was wondering if you'd remember that was me :)

To be honest, the relationship sounded quite shaky and uncertain even back then...

Blingbaby 03-06-2007 11:50 PM
My question is what kind of fucked up relationship do you have with this *person* that after two years together you can't lend a helping hand and they have to resort to stealing from you. Shame on you both, what a sham!

bausch 03-07-2007 12:14 AM
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Originally Posted by Blingbaby (Post 12032448)
My question is what kind of fucked up relationship do you have with this *person* that after two years together you can't lend a helping hand and they have to resort to stealing from you. Shame on you both, what a sham!
I already help them with their bills, we got in a fight so that's why this person decided to sell it. They take it when they are mad during a fight. I always help this person out, I spent thousands on them already!

bausch 03-07-2007 12:18 AM
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Originally Posted by rowan (Post 12032412)
I was wondering if you'd remember that was me :)

To be honest, the relationship sounded quite shaky and uncertain even back then...
Yes I remember. I also pm'ed you on the other board and asked you something but you never responded... :( It's not important now anyways, it had to do with one of my threads in the past but that one is already done with.

This person is still taking those weird "herbal medicines", I think they are placebo and don't do anything. I had to buy a lot of the medicines for the person too because they said they were "dying" and their "head hurted so much."

Also back then I didn't know what was bothering them, if they took steroids or had health probs. Now I know. It was all in the head.

Blingbaby 03-07-2007 12:19 AM
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Originally Posted by bausch (Post 12032522)
I already help them with their bills, we got in a fight so that's why this person decided to sell it. They take it when they are mad during a fight. I always help this person out, I spent thousands on them already!
Well then your choice is clear, go all the way or get out of this mess..

DarkJedi 03-07-2007 01:22 AM
You are a fucking idiot.

And stop saying "them" it's fucking retarded. It's either he or she.

You are probably a fag, because no real man would even think twice about it.

beemk 03-07-2007 02:32 PM
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Originally Posted by bausch (Post 12031367)
they would rather watch porn than sell it of course...
you must not be pleasing them in bed then, chances are they are going to cheat on you if they arent already.

beemk 03-07-2007 02:33 PM
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Originally Posted by bausch (Post 12031599)
Yes, cheating is MUCH worse than stealing because I would forget about the money real fast because there's always more coming in.

Cheating would be traumatizing forever because I would always wonder;

"What did the other person look like? Were they better than me? Why did they choose that person over me? What did that person have that I don't have? Why am I not good enough? What could I do to prevent this from happening again? Oh great, now I'll die alone cause I'm traumatized for life. How was the sex with the other person? Where they really good? " etc etc

I would lose a lot of sleep over it. I would be mad if someone stole from me but I wouldn't lose any sleep over it unless it was big amounts...

Cheating is the ultimate betrayal.
the morals are pretty closely related, someone who would be ok with stealing from their significant other wouldnt think twice about cheating on them.

Sluggo 03-07-2007 02:39 PM
Fuck her. Kick her to the curb.

Kimo 03-07-2007 02:46 PM
get rid of them NOW


seriously

BlackCrayon 03-07-2007 02:51 PM
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Originally Posted by bausch (Post 12031006)
I didn't meet this person on-line but through a friend. The thing is that I feel like no one's perfect and whomever I am going to be with will have something wrong with them. I chose this person because their sibling is my friend of over 10 years and told me the best quality about this person is that they are faithful.

I feel like I can chose between someone who doesn't mooch and steal from me but cheats on me, or someone who might mooch and have some flaws but remain faithful. I don't feel like there are good people left in the. world. If this doesn't work out I. won't have the willpower to even meet someone else. I will just give up and stay alone for the rest of my life until I die.

Also, this person is also my best friend. I don't have much friends and don't get along with my family and if I leave this person I'll basically be on my own all alone in the world.
wow, sounds like you are only with this person because you are afraid to be alone, which i guess is something a lot of people fall into but is certainly no way to spend the rest of your life. you saying you won't have the willpower to meet someone else is just a way for you to justify staying with them. sure, everyone has their flaws but it sounds like you are dealing with a full out mental patient. personally i'd rather be alone than deal with that bullshit.

BlackCrayon 03-07-2007 03:00 PM
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Originally Posted by bausch (Post 12031599)
Yes, cheating is MUCH worse than stealing because I would forget about the money real fast because there's always more coming in.

Cheating would be traumatizing forever because I would always wonder;

"What did the other person look like? Were they better than me? Why did they choose that person over me? What did that person have that I don't have? Why am I not good enough? What could I do to prevent this from happening again? Oh great, now I'll die alone cause I'm traumatized for life. How was the sex with the other person? Where they really good? " etc etc

I would lose a lot of sleep over it. I would be mad if someone stole from me but I wouldn't lose any sleep over it unless it was big amounts...

Cheating is the ultimate betrayal.
sounds like you were hurt by a previous relationship where the other person cheated and now let it cloud your judgement so much that the person could be a serial killer as long as he didn't fuck other people. there are plenty of people out there who are faithful, just because you met a few that weren't doesn't mean they all aren't.

Z 03-07-2007 03:27 PM
Buh bye...

chaze 03-07-2007 03:43 PM
No questions about it, NO

Doctor Dre 03-07-2007 03:48 PM
Jesus christ...

A relationship is based on trust... no way in hell I could live with that person.

bausch 03-07-2007 03:49 PM
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Originally Posted by beemk (Post 12035831)
you must not be pleasing them in bed then, chances are they are going to cheat on you if they arent already.
What I meant was that it's too strenuous for them to work, it gives them headaches. They can't do it. This person doesn't watch porn hardly actually. I was trying to say that they aren't capable of working selling porn due to too many mental probs, it's stressful for them to do even simple things like submitting. They say it stresses them out.


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