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AaronM · 06-18-2006, 10:42 AM

There are a number of people I have seen grow into various success stories in this business. Not all, but MOST of them changed along the way. For the most part, they became assholes.

I'm glad I chose to be an asshole from day one. When I reach their level of success then I will either be the same asshole or maybe I will be a bit nicer.

Time will tell.

BoyAlley · 06-18-2006, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by AaronM

I'm glad I chose to be an asshole from day one. When I reach their level of success then I will either be the same asshole or maybe I will be a bit nicer.

BUHAHAHA. Now THERE's a business strategy for ya!

seeric · 06-18-2006, 10:45 AM

agreed. i know a few too that were small fries in 99 and are now chips on the shoulder types.

sucks.

CaptainHowdy · 06-18-2006, 10:46 AM

Success hasn't changed me at all

!!

StuartD · 06-18-2006, 10:47 AM

Sadly, it seems to be true.

I find that people treat friends, acquintances and other's in business with a certain level of equality and fairness... until they begin to gain a certain level of success, at which point they begin to not only value some people more.. but feel others aren't worth their time.

It's almost comical to see these people fully dismiss others simply because they don't have enough to offer them in return, $$ wise.

AaronM · 06-18-2006, 10:48 AM

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Originally Posted by BoyAlley

BUHAHAHA. Now THERE's a business strategy for ya!

STFU, fag.

It worked for Pimpdog.

Tim · 06-18-2006, 10:48 AM

Some acquire confidence that they were lacking before and don't know how to deal with it.

BoyAlley · 06-18-2006, 10:48 AM

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Originally Posted by AaronM

STFU, fag.

It worked for Pimpdog.

AaronM · 06-18-2006, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by BoyAlley

Damn it....You were supposed to take that seriously and get pissed off at me.

I've failed again.

2HousePlague · 06-18-2006, 10:51 AM

It comes from a long-history of thinking our biz is ZERO-SUM. The more you have, the more you have to worry. I am NOT an advoacate of poverty -- But, I remember it --

2hp

cranki · 06-18-2006, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by VividTim

Some acquire confidence that they were lacking before and don't know how to deal with it.

that's the point.

12clicks · 06-18-2006, 10:57 AM

This subject comes up from time to time and its only ever an issue for the small guy who thinks he should be treated better.
"oh, we used to be friends and now you're a big shot with no time for me, boo hoo"

here's a clue, they're successful now and its much harder to find time for people who bring nothing to the table. This is a business, you want friends? spend more time on myspace.

People who gain success have done so by prioritizing their time. If you're getting less of their time, look at yourself for answers, not them.

bigdog · 06-18-2006, 10:58 AM

do you really think you are an asshole or someone who just keeps it real?

Mr. Romance · 06-18-2006, 10:59 AM

In my life, I have clearly seen that success enhances who you truely are..

Mr. Romance

scottybuzz · 06-18-2006, 11:00 AM

maybe because as people get richer they want more respect?

slapass · 06-18-2006, 11:01 AM

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Originally Posted by 12clicks

This subject comes up from time to time and its only ever an issue for the small guy who thinks he should be treated better.
"oh, we used to be friends and now you're a big shot with no time for me, boo hoo"

here's a clue, they're successful now and its much harder to find time for people who bring nothing to the table. This is a business, you want friends? spend more time on myspace.

People who gain success have done so by prioritizing their time. If you're getting less of their time, look at yourself for answers, not them.

well said. Now I gotta work to get to the level where people will listen to me ;)

AaronM · 06-18-2006, 11:01 AM

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Originally Posted by 12clicks

This subject comes up from time to time and its only ever an issue for the small guy who thinks he should be treated better.
"oh, we used to be friends and now you're a big shot with no time for me, boo hoo"

here's a clue, they're successful now and its much harder to find time for people who bring nothing to the table. This is a business, you want friends? spend more time on myspace.

People who gain success have done so by prioritizing their time. If you're getting less of their time, look at yourself for answers, not them.

At least you still take time out to cuddle with me.

seeric · 06-18-2006, 11:03 AM

one thing many in the biz fail to realize is that you meet the same people on the way down as you have met on the way up your ladder. no one stays at the top forever. well, there are a small percentage that always will just because of certain chokeholds they have on the markets they live in, but for the most part adult is an up today, down tomorrow game. treat people like shit on your way to the top and see how they treat you when you're back at the bottom trying to get back up because your niche of the moment has expired. for the most part technology and the advancement of online determines who stays at the top and who falls and hits the rungs the stepped on getting to the top. there are variables to what i just wrote, but i think you get the general idea.

Joey B. Lo · 06-18-2006, 11:03 AM

There is a fine line between confident and cocky. Being confident is an essential quality of the succesful, but blind cockyness causes poor judgement and the alienation of others. You should always try to treat others the way you would like to be treated, whether it benefits you or not.

This being said, there is also always a certain amount of hate towards those who are succesful whether they deserve it or not, its just human nature. I know I feel envy whenever I see a program blowing up. The trick is to turn it into a source of inspiration. People making it BIG in our industry these days just proves there is still lots of cash to be made in adult

2HousePlague · 06-18-2006, 11:04 AM

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Originally Posted by slapass

well said. Now I gotta work to get to the level where people will listen to me ;)

They call that SHOUTING --

2hp

AaronM · 06-18-2006, 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by bigdog

do you really think you are an asshole or someone who just keeps it real?

Here's the thing about that.

People tend to remember and focus more on the negative things in life rather than the positive. Because of this, I can post 10 threads on GFY that either compliment or praise 9 people then tell one person that they fucked up and guess which one of the 10 threads I will be remembered for?

You can't keep it real without telling it like it is and the truth tends to be offensive at times and THAT is what makes me an asshole....Among other things.

12clicks · 06-18-2006, 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by AaronM

At least you still take time out to cuddle with me.

I love you.

you just give me a lot of stuff to play devil's advocate with.

Big_Red · 06-18-2006, 11:06 AM

Yep personally witnessed it.

Dont forget where you use to shit. Cause it might come back and smack you in the face.

stickyfingerz · 06-18-2006, 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by A1R3K

one thing many in the biz fail to realize is that you meet the same people on the way down as you have met on the way up your ladder. no one stays at the top forever. well, there are a small percentage that always will just because of certain chokeholds they have on the markets they live in, but for the most part adult is an up today, down tomorrow game. treat people like shit on your way to the top and see how they treat you when you're back at the bottom trying to get back up because your niche of the moment has expired. for the most part technology and the advancement of online determines who stays at the top and who falls and hits the rungs the stepped on getting to the top. there are variables to what i just wrote, but i think you get the general idea.

A1R3K is a good example of how people should be. Doesnt think his shit dont stink yo!

AaronM · 06-18-2006, 11:09 AM

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Originally Posted by 12clicks

I love you.

you just give me a lot of stuff to play devil's advocate with.

And you are one of the few who realise this and plays the part well.

My God...Intelligent debates on GFY., WTF is this place coming to?

Jman · 06-18-2006, 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by AaronM

At least you still take time out to cuddle with me.

seeric · 06-18-2006, 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by AaronM

My God...Intelligent debates on GFY., WTF is this place coming to?

say it isn't so!!!!!!!

AaronM · 06-18-2006, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by JMan

LOL...Fucker

EdgeXXX · 06-18-2006, 11:23 AM

Shit... it doesn't even have to involve "success". Many people that I have come across over the years are so weak and insecure that they change and/or turn into assholes the minute that you give them any extra authority or put them in any kind of position of perceived "power".

stickyfingerz · 06-18-2006, 11:30 AM

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Originally Posted by EdgeXXX

Shit... it doesn't even have to involve "success". Many people that I have come across over the years are so weak and insecure that they change and/or turn into assholes the minute that you give them any extra authority or put them in any kind of position of perceived "power".

Edgexxx is another person that reaches out to help others, and knows his shit stinks.

testpie · 06-18-2006, 11:32 AM

Here's a given in life:

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Money corrupts all, absolutely

marketsmart · 06-18-2006, 11:40 AM

a wise man learns from his mistakes a fool doesnt...

now matter how successful you become, remember, its a long climb to the top and a short fall to the bottom.. i have seen many people, including myself, become successful and then lose it in the blink of an eye.. its a humbling experience and one i hope to never repeat...

stickyfingerz · 06-18-2006, 01:54 PM

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Originally Posted by AaronM

And you are one of the few who realise this and plays the part well.

My God...Intelligent debates on GFY., WTF is this place coming to?

Intelligent debate? lol

Drake · 06-18-2006, 02:52 PM

"One cannot be betrayed if one has no people" - Kobayashi

notabook · 06-18-2006, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Mike33

"One cannot be betrayed if one has no people" - Kobayashi

"Gay people take it up the ass" - BoyAlley

DatingGold · 06-18-2006, 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by AaronM

There are a number of people I have seen grow into various success stories in this business. Not all, but MOST of them changed along the way. For the most part, they became assholes.

I'm glad I chose to be an asshole from day one. When I reach their level of success then I will either be the same asshole or maybe I will be a bit nicer.

Time will tell.

haha that's my first impression of you.. I get the same thing though lol.

detoxed · 06-18-2006, 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by 12clicks

This subject comes up from time to time and its only ever an issue for the small guy who thinks he should be treated better.
"oh, we used to be friends and now you're a big shot with no time for me, boo hoo"

here's a clue, they're successful now and its much harder to find time for people who bring nothing to the table. This is a business, you want friends? spend more time on myspace.

People who gain success have done so by prioritizing their time. If you're getting less of their time, look at yourself for answers, not them.

perfect words

Juicy D. Links · 06-18-2006, 03:01 PM

Very very true bro

EdgeXXX · 06-18-2006, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by stickyfingerzdotnet

Edgexxx is another person that reaches out to help others, and knows his shit stinks.

Right back at ya, Sticky

Aric · 06-18-2006, 03:42 PM

I'm witnessing this first hand. It sucks.

jonesy · 06-18-2006, 03:47 PM

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Originally Posted by AaronM

There are a number of people I have seen grow into various success stories in this business. Not all, but MOST of them changed along the way. For the most part, they became assholes.

I'm glad I chose to be an asshole from day one. When I reach their level of success then I will either be the same asshole or maybe I will be a bit nicer.

or a bigger one -

i see you mellowing with age yet maintaining your acerbic wit.

Aric · 06-18-2006, 03:56 PM

It sucks even more when they change and forget the people that helped them gain that success.

p1mpdogg · 06-18-2006, 04:04 PM

i have yet to hit my pinnacle.

im doing ok tho, and i am a total asshole on the boards, but off the boards im the opposite. im as laid back as they come and very easy to get along with. ask anyone has met me.

madawgz · 06-18-2006, 04:07 PM

forsure money changes people, you can do so many more things...

Relish XXX · 06-18-2006, 04:07 PM

If there is one person who I know will be a sucess story and not change is Boy Alley from www.alleybucks.com

I am a multimillionaire and I like be rude to people who are pathetic.

Relish XXX · 06-18-2006, 04:11 PM

You have guys who are nothing but think they are something because they are employed by people who are ie 12 Clicks. 12 Clicks thinks because he works for a guy who came up with some great ideas and made a shit load of cash that he is him. Same kind of thing goes for Baddog. Badbog is a gambler who is always chasing his losses. Without Goodgirl he would be fuck all.

Farang · 06-18-2006, 04:12 PM

I'm still a nice guy.............. but not very succesful... yet

Aric · 06-18-2006, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Relish XXX

You have guys who are nothing but think they are something because they are employed by people who are

You also have people who would be nothing if not for their employees. Works both ways

12clicks · 06-18-2006, 06:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Relish XXX

You have guys who are nothing but think they are something because they are employed by people who are ie 12 Clicks. 12 Clicks thinks because he works for a guy who came up with some great ideas and made a shit load of cash that he is him. Same kind of thing goes for Baddog. Badbog is a gambler who is always chasing his losses. Without Goodgirl he would be fuck all.

two questions.
#1 who's my boss?
#2 wtf have you ever done in this business?

I'll wait.

CuriousToyBoy · 06-18-2006, 06:55 PM

I was the same person doing the same shit when I was on the bones of my ass.

The only thing that has changed is the global location and accents of people I am around.

;-)

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12clicks Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: God's right hand Posts: 19,789	This subject comes up from time to time and its only ever an issue for the small guy who thinks he should be treated better. "oh, we used to be friends and now you're a big shot with no time for me, boo hoo" here's a clue, they're successful now and its much harder to find time for people who bring nothing to the table. This is a business, you want friends? spend more time on myspace. People who gain success have done so by prioritizing their time. If you're getting less of their time, look at yourself for answers, not them. __________________ I'm not a dinosaur, I'm a crocodile. I've seen dinosaurs come and go and I'm left unimpressed.

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AaronM Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: ┌∩┐ ◣_◢ ┌∩┐ Posts: 46,909	Success changes people. There are a number of people I have seen grow into various success stories in this business. Not all, but MOST of them changed along the way. For the most part, they became assholes. I'm glad I chose to be an asshole from day one. When I reach their level of success then I will either be the same asshole or maybe I will be a bit nicer. Time will tell.

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seeric .......... Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: .......... Posts: 41,917	agreed. i know a few too that were small fries in 99 and are now chips on the shoulder types. sucks.

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seeric .......... Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: .......... Posts: 41,917	one thing many in the biz fail to realize is that you meet the same people on the way down as you have met on the way up your ladder. no one stays at the top forever. well, there are a small percentage that always will just because of certain chokeholds they have on the markets they live in, but for the most part adult is an up today, down tomorrow game. treat people like shit on your way to the top and see how they treat you when you're back at the bottom trying to get back up because your niche of the moment has expired. for the most part technology and the advancement of online determines who stays at the top and who falls and hits the rungs the stepped on getting to the top. there are variables to what i just wrote, but i think you get the general idea. Last edited by seeric; 06-18-2006 at 11:05 AM..

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