Do you think about the effect of your words on your biz before you post? - GoFuckYourself.com

chase · 02-13-2006, 02:36 PM

I'm just curious....

Someone said something shitty to me in another thread-someone I've never, that I recall, had any contact with, so I was somewhat amused and even more so, puzzled by it. This person seems to be pretty talented at what he or she does, but after having been ambushed by him or her, I would likely never do business with him or her.

I know this is GFY and all, but really, that's a shaky excuse for bad behavior when your actions or words, more accurately, can affect your bottom line. When you behave professionally, people perceive you as professional. When you act like a boorish ass, that's the perception people have of you, and it would take a pretty brilliant talent to be able to overcome that kind of a reputation-especially when there are at least a dozen prominent competitors equally talented who do NOT have shitty attitudes.

There are people here who can give your business a big boost should you come into some sort of deal or partnership with them...and I'd wager many of them do keep an eye on how the people they are interested in working with behave. So, maybe it's just me, but I do try my best to mind my p's and q's and represent myself the best way I can, particularly when I am in a debate with someone, because that's a good indicator of how you will react under pressure. Of course we all make mistakes sometimes, and I am no exception to that rule, that's for sure. But I don't start shit just to get a reaction, and I really try not to step on anyone's toes unless they really, really asked for it, because you never know who you may need in the future.

polish_aristocrat · 02-13-2006, 02:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by chase

Do you think about the effect of your words on your biz before you post?

in short - yes I do

crockett · 02-13-2006, 02:43 PM

Most of the time I do, but I won't ass kiss someone I don't like, just because it might make me some money.

myjah · 02-13-2006, 02:44 PM

Unless it's a light hearted, easy-to-respond thread, I carefully weigh what consequences my responses may evoke. That's probably why I don't have as many posts as alot of other people.

chase · 02-13-2006, 02:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by crockett

Most of the time I do, but I won't ass kiss someone I don't like, just because it might make me some money.

Yeah, I hear what you are saying, and I'm not trying to advocate being two-faced at all. I just avoid people I don't like.

G-Rotica · 02-13-2006, 02:46 PM

You'd think we would all be so careful. However it seems some could care less.

everestcash · 02-13-2006, 03:41 PM

always, but i don't think a lengthy post and carefully chosen words have a great affect on the business here.

BlackCrayon · 02-13-2006, 03:55 PM

don't take things so personally. i keep my opinions and my business two seperate things.

chase · 02-13-2006, 04:28 PM

It's not a matter of taking things personally. I've had much worse said to me here and brushed it off, but I do make a mental note. If I'm considering hiring someone, or choosing which sponsor to highlight, or whatnot, and all other things are equal, a negative interaction is enough to send me the other way. Especially when I did nothing to provoke it...I remember Chris saying some rotten things to me, but I don't hold it over his head at all, because I know I pretty much brought it on myself.

To me, someone's personality is a factor in my business decision..if they present themselves well, I will be proud to say I work with them. If they are even-tempered, I don't have to worry about them reflecting negatively on me. If they go around treating people like shit, it will eventually catch up to them, and it will likely affect me, so I'd rather work with someone I enjoy working with.

It's not *just* skill that gets you by in life. It is personality, too.

And I watch how people treat other people, as well, not just how they treat me. If webmaster A treats everyone like shit, chances are higher he's gonna fuck me over. I don't mean those "brutally honest to the point of being pricks" people, either. At least you always know where you stand with those guys.

Maybe I'm thinking like a woman, but I'm pretty sure everyone, man or woman, would prefer to do business with people they like, respect, and trust.

beemk · 02-13-2006, 04:30 PM

i post a lot of stuff i should think twice before posting, but thats just who i am. ive had people who have talked shit to me for no reason that i buy advertising from. i still buy simply because i make money off of it.

Nickless · 02-13-2006, 04:32 PM

yes, what you say can be counterproductive for you, or be positive and get you more business, but your actions have more weight imho.

LittleMack · 02-13-2006, 04:33 PM

I do, I try not to get involved with a lot of bullshit so want to be careful.

Violetta · 02-13-2006, 04:34 PM

I try to behave and respect people and their business!

Downtime · 02-13-2006, 04:34 PM

yeah sometimes, definately

circlekhabib · 02-13-2006, 05:47 PM

I could care less. nothing absolutely
nothing that goes on here has any
effect on my business.
why? cuz i don't use a single
sponsor represented or advertised here

circlekhabib · 02-13-2006, 05:48 PM

well maybe one represented but
I still could care less.
post count is what matters

175

Spunky · 02-13-2006, 05:50 PM

You have to have some thick skin on here.and after all it is only a BBS

Phoenix · 02-13-2006, 05:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by circlekhabib

well maybe one represented but
I still could care less.
post count is what matters

175

u r on your way to whoredom tonight

Pornwolf · 02-13-2006, 05:54 PM

Most times, but sometimes the monster can't be constrained.

Sly · 02-13-2006, 05:57 PM

I have found that most people care more about making money than whether or not somebody hurt their feelings.

I "do business" with tons of people I know I would have a difficult time getting along with one-on-one. Fortunately I don't have to be somebody's best buddy to make money together.

Too much pride can cost you a lot of money.

psili · 02-13-2006, 06:01 PM

Mr Izz had a post a week or so ago, about how many times he didn't hit the "submit" button, or something like that. I replied that I've written thousands of words I haven't submitted; just either closed the browser window, hit the back button... something, except hitting "submit".

So yea. There's many things I wanted to say but just didn't feel it was appropriate saying in the greater scheme of things.

02-13-2006, 02:36 PM	#1
chase Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Tampa Bay Posts: 6,019	Do you think about the effect of your words on your biz before you post? I'm just curious.... Someone said something shitty to me in another thread-someone I've never, that I recall, had any contact with, so I was somewhat amused and even more so, puzzled by it. This person seems to be pretty talented at what he or she does, but after having been ambushed by him or her, I would likely never do business with him or her. I know this is GFY and all, but really, that's a shaky excuse for bad behavior when your actions or words, more accurately, can affect your bottom line. When you behave professionally, people perceive you as professional. When you act like a boorish ass, that's the perception people have of you, and it would take a pretty brilliant talent to be able to overcome that kind of a reputation-especially when there are at least a dozen prominent competitors equally talented who do NOT have shitty attitudes. There are people here who can give your business a big boost should you come into some sort of deal or partnership with them...and I'd wager many of them do keep an eye on how the people they are interested in working with behave. So, maybe it's just me, but I do try my best to mind my p's and q's and represent myself the best way I can, particularly when I am in a debate with someone, because that's a good indicator of how you will react under pressure. Of course we all make mistakes sometimes, and I am no exception to that rule, that's for sure. But I don't start shit just to get a reaction, and I really try not to step on anyone's toes unless they really, really asked for it, because you never know who you may need in the future. __________________ Need Hosting? Reality Check Network services me purrrfectly!

02-13-2006, 02:43 PM	#3
crockett in a van by the river Industry Role: Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 76,806	Most of the time I do, but I won't ass kiss someone I don't like, just because it might make me some money. __________________ In November, you can vote for America's next president or its first dictator.

02-13-2006, 02:44 PM	#4
myjah Back in the harbor Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 11,482	Unless it's a light hearted, easy-to-respond thread, I carefully weigh what consequences my responses may evoke. That's probably why I don't have as many posts as alot of other people. __________________ VP of Marketing AVN Media Network Skype: AVNJill [email protected]

02-13-2006, 02:46 PM	#6
G-Rotica Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 4,258	You'd think we would all be so careful. However it seems some could care less. __________________

02-13-2006, 03:41 PM	#7
everestcash Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 2,194	always, but i don't think a lengthy post and carefully chosen words have a great affect on the business here. __________________ Got solo girls/teen traffic? Promote our exclusive solo girl sites and boost your income!

02-13-2006, 03:55 PM	#8
BlackCrayon Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Ottawa Posts: 19,631	don't take things so personally. i keep my opinions and my business two seperate things. __________________ you don't know you're wearing a leash if you sit by the peg all day..

02-13-2006, 04:28 PM	#9
chase Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Tampa Bay Posts: 6,019	It's not a matter of taking things personally. I've had much worse said to me here and brushed it off, but I do make a mental note. If I'm considering hiring someone, or choosing which sponsor to highlight, or whatnot, and all other things are equal, a negative interaction is enough to send me the other way. Especially when I did nothing to provoke it...I remember Chris saying some rotten things to me, but I don't hold it over his head at all, because I know I pretty much brought it on myself. To me, someone's personality is a factor in my business decision..if they present themselves well, I will be proud to say I work with them. If they are even-tempered, I don't have to worry about them reflecting negatively on me. If they go around treating people like shit, it will eventually catch up to them, and it will likely affect me, so I'd rather work with someone I enjoy working with. It's not just skill that gets you by in life. It is personality, too. And I watch how people treat other people, as well, not just how they treat me. If webmaster A treats everyone like shit, chances are higher he's gonna fuck me over. I don't mean those "brutally honest to the point of being pricks" people, either. At least you always know where you stand with those guys. Maybe I'm thinking like a woman, but I'm pretty sure everyone, man or woman, would prefer to do business with people they like, respect, and trust. __________________ Need Hosting? Reality Check Network services me purrrfectly!

02-13-2006, 04:30 PM	#10
beemk CLICK HERE Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 20,829	i post a lot of stuff i should think twice before posting, but thats just who i am. ive had people who have talked shit to me for no reason that i buy advertising from. i still buy simply because i make money off of it. __________________ I host with Vacares

02-13-2006, 04:32 PM	#11
Nickless Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: homeless Posts: 1,955	yes, what you say can be counterproductive for you, or be positive and get you more business, but your actions have more weight imho.

02-13-2006, 04:33 PM	#12
LittleMack www.pornkings.com Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Florida Baby!! Posts: 4,645	I do, I try not to get involved with a lot of bullshit so want to be careful. __________________ [email protected]

02-13-2006, 04:34 PM	#13
Violetta Affiliate Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 28,735	I try to behave and respect people and their business! __________________ M&A Queen

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Downtime Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: May 2004 Location: America. Posts: 7,320	yeah sometimes, definately __________________ #27024067

02-13-2006, 05:47 PM	#15
circlekhabib Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 490	I could care less. nothing absolutely nothing that goes on here has any effect on my business. why? cuz i don't use a single sponsor represented or advertised here __________________ transexual sponsors

02-13-2006, 05:48 PM	#16
circlekhabib Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 490	well maybe one represented but I still could care less. post count is what matters 175 __________________ transexual sponsors

02-13-2006, 05:50 PM	#17
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02-13-2006, 05:57 PM	#20
Sly Let's do some business! Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 31,329	I have found that most people care more about making money than whether or not somebody hurt their feelings. I "do business" with tons of people I know I would have a difficult time getting along with one-on-one. Fortunately I don't have to be somebody's best buddy to make money together. Too much pride can cost you a lot of money. __________________ Vacares - Web Hosting, Domains, O365, Security & More - Paxum and BTC Accepted Windows VPS now available Great for TSS, Nifty Stats, remote work, virtual assistants, etc. Click here for more details.

02-13-2006, 06:01 PM	#21
psili Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Loveland, CO Posts: 5,526	Mr Izz had a post a week or so ago, about how many times he didn't hit the "submit" button, or something like that. I replied that I've written thousands of words I haven't submitted; just either closed the browser window, hit the back button... something, except hitting "submit". So yea. There's many things I wanted to say but just didn't feel it was appropriate saying in the greater scheme of things. __________________ Your post count means nothing.