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SleazyDream · 07-25-2005, 01:27 AM

i think the incident that really changed my mind was when i knew i had to move out of the small town we lived in - we moved there so she could get a teaching job - and she got a good stable job - but i was dying inside there. I told her that -many times and said we had to move - economically her job didn't matter any more to us - i made more in a month than she did in a year - and with the experience she had she'd have been teaching in the city within a year - but she said she had NESTED and would not move - i protested saying and MEANING i was dying there - and she said no - she wouldn't move. I knew then and there what i was married to.

we weren't from that town - neither of us had many friends in that town. no reason to stay other then her not wanting to do another job interview. and she KNEW i was dying inside there but didn't care.

mrthumbs · 07-25-2005, 01:27 AM

SleazyDream · 07-25-2005, 01:29 AM

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Originally Posted by mrthumbs

Is it possible to love 'me' for 'me'? Isnt there ALWAYS a reason?
(like in your case.. you always bending backwards?).

You make it sounds like it should be unconditional.. i agree.. but looking
human nature i dont think thats possible. .or is it?

there's always conditions to love - saying there isn't would be avoiding the truth.

my condition was i needed the person i loved to love me for who i was - not what i did for them

reynold · 07-25-2005, 01:30 AM

It's funny coz it seems everyone loves participating on this thread.

SleazyDream · 07-25-2005, 01:33 AM

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Originally Posted by reynold

It's funny coz it seems everyone loves participating on this thread.

you find threads where real people talk about real things in their lives funny?

mrthumbs · 07-25-2005, 01:34 AM

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Originally Posted by SleazyDream

there's always conditions to love - saying there isn't would be avoiding the truth.

my condition was i needed the person i loved to love me for who i was - not what i did for them

Yes, but in the perspective of a person you ARE what you DO for them.

(and no.. just in case: i dont mean doing things for a person in a material way).

onlymovies · 07-25-2005, 01:37 AM

SleazyDream · 07-25-2005, 01:37 AM

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Originally Posted by mrthumbs

Yes, but in the perspective of a person you ARE what you DO for them.

(and no.. just in case: i dont mean doing things for a person in a material way).

i kinda think we are - but it's two sided - they are what they do for you as well.

giving and recieving is a two way street - you have to give - everyone talks about the giving - but the HARSE reality is you also have to receive - and if you're not getting something back - for years - something's gona break

lesbodojo · 07-25-2005, 11:01 AM

I agree. It's hard enough finding a mate who's your equal and that you can trust. ...plus feeling that person love you back? oy

My gf is everything to me. I'm a lucky gal; that's for sure.

Nylz · 07-25-2005, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by SleazyDream

i believe any good realtionship has to start with BOTH people standing on their own

This is VERY true

hotstuff · 07-25-2005, 11:21 AM

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Originally Posted by SleazyDream

Loving someone isn't hard - it's actually FEELING loved back that's hard to find.

... but cheeseburgers are widely available and *always* love you back.

flirty · 07-25-2005, 12:49 PM

it's hard to argue about love. i've been in love too many times and it has not yet given me a word definition. love is not a wasted emotion, i disagree with that. i love to love, & it makes me feel good & young. but it hurts so much when they dont love you back, or could not even mend your heart.

i always believe that love is like a bamboo tree, it is better to bend a little than to break.

p.s.
this thread is too mushy. it melts & somehow breaks my heart reading along....

Kiwigirl · 07-25-2005, 01:20 PM

Love, can make one do crazy things. Shit, I moved to the other side of the world just for LOVE!
I have been married nearly 6yrs, I still look at him with love. In fact I love him more today than the day I met him even with all his faults and mine! When I first met him he was earning 25cents a day, I paid for everything, so it was ovious that I was blinded by love.....(or his cock) hahahaha.
I think it works cause we are best friends. We drive each other nutts as we are complete opposit of one another but maybe thats why it works. Who knows? lol
My suggestion is to tell every woman ya meet that your a garbage man and if she is still interested then shes worth keeping around. Never let on that you are estiblished in your business until needed. Don't listen to me though, I could be blowing smoke out me own ass! LOL

The Adult Broker · 07-25-2005, 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted by mrthumbs

Very true.

Theres a BIG difference between talking to someone and communication.

Communication goes both ways.. sincere.

Like you said.. when that stops and all you can do is talk and get an ACK
from the other person with 0 changes thers not much you can do.

Youve gone beyond the point of no return and its game over.

I still believe when that happens in a relationship (a relationship that once worked) youre always 60% responsible.

you are quite insightful in this topic I must say

cashengine · 07-25-2005, 01:56 PM

sometimes when im alone i "love" myself....

Holly Lez! · 07-25-2005, 01:58 PM

To quote another board and Pat B:
We are young, heartache to heartache we stand
No promises, no demands
Love is a battlefield
We are strong, no one can tell us we?re wrong
Searchin? our hearts for so long, both of us knowing
Love is a battlefield

pussyluver · 07-25-2005, 02:48 PM

Oh, come on Sleazy Twink!!! ya can't feel all the love for you on GFY?

You have JMan and I'm sure the luv from your dog is unconditional.

Exposing your emotions on GFY can and have unexpected and undesired results. Sometimes you end up Choking on your words. Kinda sad actually.

What made you so mushy today anyway? It's bad form to pick on a guy when he's talking about love and relationships.

In another thread you talked of a kinder and more gentle GFY (not exact words). Remember it was you that did a ton of drama building and shit throwing not that long ago. So have you turned a new leaf? I'm no longer a moron troll idiot.....

SleazyDream · 07-26-2005, 12:49 AM

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Originally Posted by pussyluver

Oh, come on Sleazy Twink!!! ya can't feel all the love for you on GFY?

You have JMan and I'm sure the luv from your dog is unconditional.

Exposing your emotions on GFY can and have unexpected and undesired results. Sometimes you end up Choking on your words. Kinda sad actually.

What made you so mushy today anyway? It's bad form to pick on a guy when he's talking about love and relationships.

In another thread you talked of a kinder and more gentle GFY (not exact words). Remember it was you that did a ton of drama building and shit throwing not that long ago. So have you turned a new leaf? I'm no longer a moron troll idiot.....

twist my words any way you want - I have no fear from those to plan to use this against me. To anyone that does that as far as I'm concerned it only shows thier own personal weaknesses.

real strength isn't in hiding who you are.

reed_4 · 07-26-2005, 01:29 AM

Sometimes, love moves in a mysterious ways. you just don't know when will the love return to you. "All we need is Love" john lennon.

RAM · 07-26-2005, 02:14 AM

Look here for the answer:
http://www.gofuckyourself.com/showthread.php?t=496278

reynold · 07-26-2005, 04:06 AM

forget about loving other, if you can't love yourself first.

blazin · 07-26-2005, 04:54 AM

I think the opposite is true in my case. I have no trouble finding love (from another). I just don't love them...

Fact is, that I can honestly say I have only ever loved one woman in my life.

cool1 · 07-26-2005, 04:58 AM

Personally I now could care less if some woman loves me.
After 3 failed marriages I do not have any more love in me to give to any woman.
Maybe some day I may feel again but I may be long dead by that time.

mikeyddddd · 07-26-2005, 05:06 AM

This thread makes me nauseous. Good-bye.

SleazyDream · 07-26-2005, 05:27 AM

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Originally Posted by reynold

forget about loving other, if you can't love yourself first.

ok, now what?

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flirty Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 2,840	it's hard to argue about love. i've been in love too many times and it has not yet given me a word definition. love is not a wasted emotion, i disagree with that. i love to love, & it makes me feel good & young. but it hurts so much when they dont love you back, or could not even mend your heart. i always believe that love is like a bamboo tree, it is better to bend a little than to break. p.s. this thread is too mushy. it melts & somehow breaks my heart reading along....

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pussyluver Clueless OleMan Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: ICQ - 169903487 Posts: 11,009	Oh, come on Sleazy Twink!!! ya can't feel all the love for you on GFY? You have JMan and I'm sure the luv from your dog is unconditional. Exposing your emotions on GFY can and have unexpected and undesired results. Sometimes you end up Choking on your words. Kinda sad actually. What made you so mushy today anyway? It's bad form to pick on a guy when he's talking about love and relationships. In another thread you talked of a kinder and more gentle GFY (not exact words). Remember it was you that did a ton of drama building and shit throwing not that long ago. So have you turned a new leaf? I'm no longer a moron troll idiot.....

07-26-2005, 01:29 AM	#69
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blazin Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 2,781	I think the opposite is true in my case. I have no trouble finding love (from another). I just don't love them... Fact is, that I can honestly say I have only ever loved one woman in my life.

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