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michel · 02-14-2005, 10:26 AM

Start a new topic (post your pic) called: "would you hit it?"

jawanda · 02-14-2005, 10:35 AM

Michel lol

IwantU Bryan · 02-14-2005, 10:37 AM

Breakup

jayeff · 02-14-2005, 10:39 AM

There is nothing borderline about this and I'm sorry, but you are a fool if you start trying to find reasons to blame yourself for other peoples' bad behavior. There are lots of acceptable ways to deal with the situation you described, but a physical reaction isn't one of them.

Unfortunately, I suspect that since you are even asking the question, you are already busy rationalizing/excusing his behavior. So let's just hope next time the consequences are no more serious.

The Bootyologist · 02-14-2005, 10:39 AM

get the fuck out of that relationship

that is totally and completely abusive

you did nothing to deserve to be hit

The Bootyologist · 02-14-2005, 10:42 AM

this guy is a psycho phogirl69 and i feel really sorry for you right now

there are really great men everywhere that will worship you the way you deserve

Spunky · 02-14-2005, 10:44 AM

It will only get worse..time to end it and move on.No man should hit a woman

MGPspots · 02-14-2005, 10:45 AM

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Originally Posted by phogirl69

I posted this in the wrong thread so I'll repost it here again:

Before I even say anything, I just want to say that the guy in question DID NOT hit me HARD, I don't have any bruises or anything! I don't want people to think that I get beaten on, or that my bf abuses me, or ANYTHING alike. I only got a little bit red and that was all, and it's the first time this has happened. But I am almost afraid to state what the reason was for the fight happened between me and my bf and I am hesitant that you all will think it is my fault.

What happened was that my bf was on the laptop on the pc, and I came outside to see what he was doing, and I kept on bugging him and reading over his shoulder, so he told me to go back into the bedroom. I didn't feel like going inside so I kept by his side and according to him I was annyoing him really badly (which is probably true) . So eventually he told me 5 times to go in the room, but he said it in a mean tone "Go in the room now." But the thing is that if he said it in a nice way, I probably wouldn't have gone inside anyways, because I'm stubborn. So instead I said
"Why do I have to always listen to YOU. You can't tell me what to do."

So he got really pissed off, and when we went into the room he was extremly pissed, like almost shaking and hyperventilating. He says that he does always listen to me (which is mostly true btw) and that he listens the first time whenever I tell him something, and that I am exaggerating and making it seem like he is always forcing me to obey him. And then he told me to get out of his house, and I wouldn't, so after he said it a few times, he got pissed and hit me on my thighs and slapped me (not too hard though) and threw my wallet me. It was hard enough that I could feel it, and I turned red, but i's not abuse I think, because I did not even get bruises or anything.

Even after the fight he still doesn't think he is wrong because he claims that I provoked him because I didn't listen to him when he told me to go inside 5x. And then he said that if I was a guy he would have punched me for "fucking with him in his house". And he says that sometimes that's why people kill their mates, because they get "pushed" emotionally.

And then he said that women these days really push it when it's the "man that goes to war." WTF, he never even joined the military, which I told him. But he said that if the troops in Iraq died and USA got invaded, the first line of defense would be the MEN, and that would include him, so therefore the women (I) should show more respect because the men fight for the women and children.

He is trying to say that I am being a hypocrite for thinking that it's not ok for him to hit me, just because I'm a girl, because it's the MEN who go to war. And the he asked why it's ok for me to hit him, but not vice versa? The thing is that I hit him playfully, and not with as much force as he did me, and I NEVER did it during a fight. Plus he was choking me too (not hard to the point where I am even close to dying, but just enough that I felt tingling). and then he STILL says that it's my fault because I was annoying
him while he was on the laptop.

He says that he was looking to order something for Valentines day for us, and he was mad because I was just bugging him non-stop. It's true that I can be very very very annoying sometimes, but I don't feel that's enough reason for him to hit me! He still will not admit that he is wrong and he still thinks that I deserve it, and I don't know what to do.

Sounds to me like you actually wanted to get hit. What were u hoping to achieve from bugging him?

Trixxxia · 02-14-2005, 10:48 AM

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Originally Posted by L0stMind

you know, there is NO reason for a man to hit and choke a woman, unless she is somehow a threat (knife, guns, etc.) and his life was threatened.

I couldn't ever see myself hitting a girl like that.

Reading your post, almost seems like you are accepting of abuse somehow. Dont turn into one of those women who defend their abusive husband...

I'd say you've picked a real loser and you should just leave.... his going to war bullshit is some weird fucked up shit.

Good post & yeah, his going to war bullshit is him justifying his actions but more to let her know she should be worshipping him and 'obeying' his requests without further thought.

I'd run so fast & far - I'd be Skinny Mini Miller by the time I'd stop!

Downtime · 02-14-2005, 10:53 AM

There's never a reason for a guy to hit a girl. Period.

Trixxxia · 02-14-2005, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by MGPspots

Sounds to me like you actually wanted to get hit. What were u hoping to achieve from bugging him?

Excuse me? He could have simply said - "It's a damn surprise, GTF out of the here or you'll ruin it!" Then she would have mozzied on down back to the bedroom & they could have fucked for a few hours in orgasmic peace. There is definitely something flawed with your thought if any of you think that an annoyance is a good enough reason to hit or choke someone - girl or otherwise. Screw up and hit a vital spot and that person dies and go to jail explaining you killed someone because 'they annoyed you'.

dozey · 02-14-2005, 10:55 AM

I can understand how annoyed he was, but regardless of that, you dont hit women. No matter what. Inexcusable.

gangbangjoe · 02-14-2005, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by michel

Start a new topic (post your pic) called: "would you hit it?"

MGPspots · 02-14-2005, 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by TopBucksTrixxxia

Excuse me? He could have simply said - "It's a damn surprise, GTF out of the here or you'll ruin it!" Then she would have mozzied on down back to the bedroom & they could have fucked for a few hours in orgasmic peace. There is definitely something flawed with your thought if any of you think that an annoyance is a good enough reason to hit or choke someone - girl or otherwise. Screw up and hit a vital spot and that person dies and go to jail explaining you killed someone because 'they annoyed you'.

Lots of double standards in the world today thanks to people like you - spousal abuse of husbands is actually quite common but no-one does a fucking thing about it 'cos it a woman belting a man. I don't think its ever OK to hit a person - doesn't make much dif if its a woman hitting a guy or viceversa

Trixxxia · 02-14-2005, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by MGPspots

Lots of double standards in the world today thanks to people like you - spousal abuse of husbands is actually quite common but no-one does a fucking thing about it 'cos it a woman belting a man. I don't think its ever OK to hit a person - doesn't make much dif if its a woman hitting a guy or viceversa

Double-standards? Where did I say beating up a husband/boyfriend is acceptable? The moment you have to resort to hands to get your point across is the moment you have lost the battle cuz your brains find nothing else to justify your thoughts - that goes for man, woman, child.

I'd suggest you read it again cuz I never said a woman should/could beat up her boyfriend.

tranza · 02-14-2005, 11:15 AM

Dump him, you both will be more happy...

MGPspots · 02-14-2005, 11:19 AM

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Originally Posted by TopBucksTrixxxia

Double-standards? Where did I say beating up a husband/boyfriend is acceptable? The moment you have to resort to hands to get your point across is the moment you have lost the battle cuz your brains find nothing else to justify your thoughts - that goes for man, woman, child.

I'd suggest you read it again cuz I never said a woman should/could beat up her boyfriend.

Suggest u read my thread cos I never said you said hitting a guy was acceptable - was simply making a point. Totally agree that hitting anyone isn't acceptable (except that Bush guy - grrrrrr)

Trixxxia · 02-14-2005, 11:23 AM

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Originally Posted by MGPspots

Suggest u read my thread cos I never said you said hitting a guy was acceptable - was simply making a point. Totally agree that hitting anyone isn't acceptable (except that Bush guy - grrrrrr)

Cool cuz from this:

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Originally Posted by MGPspots

Lots of double standards in the world today thanks to people like you

It sure sounds like you were talking like I have double-standards - but thanks for clarifying.

XxXotic · 02-14-2005, 11:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by phogirl69

I posted this in the wrong thread so I'll repost it here again:

Before I even say anything, I just want to say that the guy in question DID NOT hit me HARD, I don't have any bruises or anything! I don't want people to think that I get beaten on, or that my bf abuses me, or ANYTHING alike. I only got a little bit red and that was all, and it's the first time this has happened. But I am almost afraid to state what the reason was for the fight happened between me and my bf and I am hesitant that you all will think it is my fault.

What happened was that my bf was on the laptop on the pc, and I came outside to see what he was doing, and I kept on bugging him and reading over his shoulder, so he told me to go back into the bedroom. I didn't feel like going inside so I kept by his side and according to him I was annyoing him really badly (which is probably true) . So eventually he told me 5 times to go in the room, but he said it in a mean tone "Go in the room now." But the thing is that if he said it in a nice way, I probably wouldn't have gone inside anyways, because I'm stubborn. So instead I said
"Why do I have to always listen to YOU. You can't tell me what to do."

So he got really pissed off, and when we went into the room he was extremly pissed, like almost shaking and hyperventilating. He says that he does always listen to me (which is mostly true btw) and that he listens the first time whenever I tell him something, and that I am exaggerating and making it seem like he is always forcing me to obey him. And then he told me to get out of his house, and I wouldn't, so after he said it a few times, he got pissed and hit me on my thighs and slapped me (not too hard though) and threw my wallet me. It was hard enough that I could feel it, and I turned red, but i's not abuse I think, because I did not even get bruises or anything.

Even after the fight he still doesn't think he is wrong because he claims that I provoked him because I didn't listen to him when he told me to go inside 5x. And then he said that if I was a guy he would have punched me for "fucking with him in his house". And he says that sometimes that's why people kill their mates, because they get "pushed" emotionally.

And then he said that women these days really push it when it's the "man that goes to war." WTF, he never even joined the military, which I told him. But he said that if the troops in Iraq died and USA got invaded, the first line of defense would be the MEN, and that would include him, so therefore the women (I) should show more respect because the men fight for the women and children.

He is trying to say that I am being a hypocrite for thinking that it's not ok for him to hit me, just because I'm a girl, because it's the MEN who go to war. And the he asked why it's ok for me to hit him, but not vice versa? The thing is that I hit him playfully, and not with as much force as he did me, and I NEVER did it during a fight. Plus he was choking me too (not hard to the point where I am even close to dying, but just enough that I felt tingling). and then he STILL says that it's my fault because I was annoying
him while he was on the laptop.

He says that he was looking to order something for Valentines day for us, and he was mad because I was just bugging him non-stop. It's true that I can be very very very annoying sometimes, but I don't feel that's enough reason for him to hit me! He still will not admit that he is wrong and he still thinks that I deserve it, and I don't know what to do.

he put his hands on you. that's abuse. doesn't matter how you TRY to justify it a man should NEVER put his hands on a woman in such a fashion.

take this however you like as well, but take it from someone who's watched it happen multiple times. It's only gonna get worse. It may have only been a light slap now, next time it'll be harder and the time after that even harder. And if you think it won't happen again, you're seriously fooling yourself.

As a 3rd party who doesn't know you or your boyfriend from a hole in the ground it's easy to be objective. Walk away from this relationship ASAP before it's too late

eddie-executive · 02-14-2005, 11:42 AM

If you think any man is allowed to hit you i suggest you seek counseling. No man should hit you at all no matter what the situation is. If its a sexual fetish you have thats another story but this is not the case. Yes you sound really annoying why would you piss him off like that? Sounds like your gonna get tossed soon or he might beat you up badly. I suggest 2 things:

1. get out now 2.change your attitude and stop acting like a kid

ULVideo · 02-14-2005, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by BadFun_Nikki

The fact that you spent the time writing that mini-novel instead of dumping his ass makes me want to hit you.

I have a solution: If you* had more money you'd have nicer things and you wouldn't be so tense. So, I'll video Nikki smacking you around and we can all start www.TheBitchNeededToGetTunedUp.com and make a pile of $.

* phobitch

PS You pushed his buttons to see what you could make him do/how much attention you could get from him, and you found out. So where's the surprise?

Nubiles · 02-14-2005, 12:13 PM

Most likely what happened is that you were testing his levels to see how he would react (subconsciously you were doing this and didnt realize it) and how far you could push him before he snapped and what he would do. Now you are upset that his reaction was to hit you and if another fight happens he will probably really hurt you because he thinks what he does was ok. This fight was all over you being a pest, what if the fight was about something real and meaningful, how would he react.

This is a sign that you should break up, you are not right for each other. You need a man who puts you in your place (when you need to be put in your place as all humans do from time to time) and who wont hit you to accomplish that.

BuggyG · 02-14-2005, 01:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Kapitan Ivanov II

You don't seriously think anybody in here cares enough about you to read this ridiculously long post, do you?

too late.. read it all

iwantchixx · 02-14-2005, 01:19 PM

I noticed she completely ignored my post on the matter. I guess i either it a nerve or she totally doesn't get it

Corona · 02-14-2005, 11:30 PM

Hopefully he didn't read this thread

wargames · 02-14-2005, 11:31 PM

A man shouldn't hurt a girl for whatever reason.

TooDoLittleIzALot · 02-15-2005, 12:21 AM

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Originally Posted by TeenGodFather

You sound like an annoying bitch. I wouldn't hit you though. But I hate annoying girls.

You sound like an annoying bitch, and I would hit you!!! But her, no, she shouldn't be hit, whether she is annoying or not!!

xxxdesign-net · 02-15-2005, 12:29 AM

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Originally Posted by phogirl69

Plus he was choking me too (not hard to the point where I am even close to dying, but just enough that I felt tingling). .

Report his sorry ass.. this guy is a woman beater.. maybe more in a couple of years..

swedguy · 02-15-2005, 12:30 AM

There's never an excuse for hitting someone else. Doesn't matter if it's a guy hitting a girl or the other way around. This time he didn't hit your hard, but he has proven himself to be physical, what will he do next time?

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eddie-executive Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 2,061	If you think any man is allowed to hit you i suggest you seek counseling. No man should hit you at all no matter what the situation is. If its a sexual fetish you have thats another story but this is not the case. Yes you sound really annoying why would you piss him off like that? Sounds like your gonna get tossed soon or he might beat you up badly. I suggest 2 things: 1. get out now 2.change your attitude and stop acting like a kid __________________ Jealousy... is a mental cancer. ~B.C. Forbes

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02-14-2005, 10:39 AM	#104
jayeff Confirmed User Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 2,944	There is nothing borderline about this and I'm sorry, but you are a fool if you start trying to find reasons to blame yourself for other peoples' bad behavior. There are lots of acceptable ways to deal with the situation you described, but a physical reaction isn't one of them. Unfortunately, I suspect that since you are even asking the question, you are already busy rationalizing/excusing his behavior. So let's just hope next time the consequences are no more serious.

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The Bootyologist So Fucking Banned Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: m00dville Posts: 2,912	get the fuck out of that relationship that is totally and completely abusive you did nothing to deserve to be hit

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dozey Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Moonland Posts: 552	I can understand how annoyed he was, but regardless of that, you dont hit women. No matter what. Inexcusable.

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Nubiles Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Tempe, AZ Posts: 1,496	Most likely what happened is that you were testing his levels to see how he would react (subconsciously you were doing this and didnt realize it) and how far you could push him before he snapped and what he would do. Now you are upset that his reaction was to hit you and if another fight happens he will probably really hurt you because he thinks what he does was ok. This fight was all over you being a pest, what if the fight was about something real and meaningful, how would he react. This is a sign that you should break up, you are not right for each other. You need a man who puts you in your place (when you need to be put in your place as all humans do from time to time) and who wont hit you to accomplish that. __________________ NUBILES.NET : Hosted galleries with thumbs and descriptions \| nn galleries \| Hosted free sites \| 3 new girls shot each week \| Icq 143674274

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02-15-2005, 12:30 AM	#129
swedguy Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 7,981	There's never an excuse for hitting someone else. Doesn't matter if it's a guy hitting a girl or the other way around. This time he didn't hit your hard, but he has proven himself to be physical, what will he do next time?