Reason for a guy to hit me?

I posted this in the wrong thread so I'll repost it here again:

Before I even say anything, I just want to say that the guy in question DID NOT hit me HARD, I don't have any bruises or anything! I don't want people to think that I get beaten on, or that my bf abuses me, or ANYTHING alike. I only got a little bit red and that was all, and it's the first time this has happened. But I am almost afraid to state what the reason was for the fight happened between me and my bf and I am hesitant that you all will think it is my fault.

What happened was that my bf was on the laptop on the pc, and I came outside to see what he was doing, and I kept on bugging him and reading over his shoulder, so he told me to go back into the bedroom. I didn't feel like going inside so I kept by his side and according to him I was annyoing him really badly (which is probably true) . So eventually he told me 5 times to go in the room, but he said it in a mean tone "Go in the room now." But the thing is that if he said it in a nice way, I probably wouldn't have gone inside anyways, because I'm stubborn. So instead I said
"Why do I have to always listen to YOU. You can't tell me what to do."

So he got really pissed off, and when we went into the room he was extremly pissed, like almost shaking and hyperventilating. He says that he does always listen to me (which is mostly true btw) and that he listens the first time whenever I tell him something, and that I am exaggerating and making it seem like he is always forcing me to obey him. And then he told me to get out of his house, and I wouldn't, so after he said it a few times, he got pissed and hit me on my thighs and slapped me (not too hard though) and threw my wallet me. It was hard enough that I could feel it, and I turned red, but i's not abuse I think, because I did not even get bruises or anything.

Even after the fight he still doesn't think he is wrong because he claims that I provoked him because I didn't listen to him when he told me to go inside 5x. And then he said that if I was a guy he would have punched me for "fucking with him in his house". And he says that sometimes that's why people kill their mates, because they get "pushed" emotionally.

And then he said that women these days really push it when it's the "man that goes to war." WTF, he never even joined the military, which I told him. But he said that if the troops in Iraq died and USA got invaded, the first line of defense would be the MEN, and that would include him, so therefore the women (I) should show more respect because the men fight for the women and children.

He is trying to say that I am being a hypocrite for thinking that it's not ok for him to hit me, just because I'm a girl, because it's the MEN who go to war. And the he asked why it's ok for me to hit him, but not vice versa? The thing is that I hit him playfully, and not with as much force as he did me, and I NEVER did it during a fight. Plus he was choking me too (not hard to the point where I am even close to dying, but just enough that I felt tingling). and then he STILL says that it's my fault because I was annoying
him while he was on the laptop.

He says that he was looking to order something for Valentines day for us, and he was mad because I was just bugging him non-stop. It's true that I can be very very very annoying sometimes, but I don't feel that's enough reason for him to hit me! He still will not admit that he is wrong and he still thinks that I deserve it, and I don't know what to do.