errrr. My girlfriend doesnt like porn. what now?

[CancerFactory]

ok, my girlfriend of 2 months does not like porn i believe. she doesnt know that i run a porn site, she thinks im making money in stock market(thats whaat ive told her)
anyways, im basically in love with this girl, and even though ivbe been with her for only 2 months, i really feel a connection with her
problem is, im pretty sure she doesnt like porn, and its really killing me to keep on lying to her. should i tell her? and if so, HOW?? this is really stressing me out

[funkmaster]

... does she like anal sex ?

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[BrettJ]

1 in 6 girls (personal statistic) will dig it. another 1 out of 6 will tolerate.

1/2 the girls i know would rather I do something else

and there is that final one...that just doesn't get it...thinks your sleazy.

I lucked out...over the summer ... I found the girl that advertised my sites to all her friends. But I think that was pretty rare.

If she is really as cool as you say... ya gotta come clean with her. There is really no way around it. what happens happens.

[codecrawler]

Just get better in bed she will grow to love it

Tell her it fires you up afterwards

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[12clicks]

if your business is about money, she'll be ok with it. if your business is about looking at naked chicks, get a real job.

[Viper2K1]

This situation makes me think about this

Tonight on Jerry Springer:

Honney, I run a porn-site

No, seriously, I think you should tell her.
Make sure you can show some checks/bankstatements in case she's not so happy about it

[This message has been edited by Viper2K1 (edited 11-29-2001).]

[FreeNetPass Steve]

Why not tell her now? Honesty is a good thing, especially if you're 'in love' with her.

If she doesn't like it, then you could always go the local Wal-Mart and annnounce "Attention Shoppers, I sell porn on the internet, and I'm looking for a girlfriend. Please make your way to customer service if interested in hooking up." This is a win-win situation because there's almost always a line at customer service, so they'll be lined up before you start.

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[mailman]

this is how i broke it to my gf..

I just opened my site and left it on the monitor told her to come here.. She said WTF si that i told that is what i run she got pissed but then came around and i told her straight out this is what i do to make $$ i said i dont look at this all day and wack off.. so she does not say hey let me make some porn now she is just cool with it and knows it is a job.. So dude if she loves you also she will come arounf to and know that it is only a job..

> BEST OF LUCK <

[Chris R]

You could sell other things besides porn. There are tons of other programs - that way you can be considered a Internet Marketing Professional vs. Porn Peddler.

I have noticed many people are hypocrites about tons of stuff - if you give her an out - something she can believe in - then you may be ok. People might get hung up on I SELL PORN, but they wouldn't get hung up if you were an exec for yahoo taking money to promote porn sites. The difference is that they do other things as well. If she really oves you - she may overlook the porn aspect if you do other things as well.

I started selling personals and other stuff before Porn (and still do). I tell some people EXACTLY what I do, others I simply say - "I will market just about anything on the Internet - I have sold everything from books to credit cards to online personals." If the asked about porn - I would tell them the truth, but they are just another client to me - if the church of st. whatever wants to pay me $40 per member - I would promote them too.

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[bryany]

I waited 8 months to tell my gf.

She didnt mind because I gave her access to our sites, lol

Buy her a ring or something, and say that old harry perverted sick-minded men paid for it, lol

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[Slick]

Originally posted by 12clicks:
if your business is about money, she'll be ok with it. if your business is about looking at naked chicks, get a real job.

12clicks hit it RIGHT on the head there. I know that when I first got connected to the net many years ago, I was all about looking for porn on the net. In the years since I became an adult webmaster, it became business to me. I don't look at pictures the same way as I used to. I look at them from a professional standpoint rather than a "I'd like to fuck that" standpoint, he he he.

Explain to her that it's a business, that's all. My wifey supports my pages now. Sometimes she gets a little jealous because I sit on here all day with naked pics all around my pages, but it's not like that.

Tell your girlfriend this, say that being an adult webmaster is like being a gynecologist, you can look at pussy all day, but that doesn't make you a pervert.

[AaronM]

1: Bang the shit out of her.
2: Get all the action on a hidden camera.
3: Have her sign the bottom of a blank sheet of paper then print a model release on it.
3: Sell it on your own sites.
4: Hand her a check and say "any questions?"

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[Rob Roy]

Tell her -- but tell her that it's a business. Which it is.
Had a similar issue with my wife. And I only do this a few hours per week. But I didn't want to lie, and would have stopped if she asked me too -- which she might have until I showed her a few deposit slips . Now she sometimes asks what's new in the business.

[NickB.]

Originally posted by 12clicks:
if your business is about money, she'll be ok with it. if your business is about looking at naked chicks, get a real job.

Yeah, you're right mate

[Allison]

I am in the same boat as your girlfriend- I'm a chick and I don't like porn. I actually throw a fit when my husband surfs throught the adult softcore channels on TV.

Yet somehow when it comes to work, I really don't mind what I do and if my husband did the same I wouldn't mind it either. As long as she understands that you're not looking at to make yourself horny all the time and that it is just part of your job (=making money) you should be fine. So be honest and show her exactly what you do. It might be wierd for her at first, but I think she would still be cool about it. No promises though!

Good luck!

~~Alli

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[12clicks]

Originally posted by Allison:
As long as she understands that you're not looking to make yourself horny all the time

Christ, life with Allison must be a real party.
no wonder the old man surfs the adult softcore channels on tv.

[codecrawler]

What's wrong with the softcore channels?

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[codecrawler]

On the other hand you could always get a GF that does like porn, might be more fun also

CC


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[Gary]

Allison = lots of fun to live with

I could be watching a goat sex tape and wife wont care. the only thing that pisses her off is she thinks i'm unemployed. No matter how much money i make she doesn't think i work. LOL

[Wizzo]

Originally posted by 12clicks:
if your business is about money, she'll be ok with it. if your business is about looking at naked chicks, get a real job.

Once again 12clicks is right. I've found most all women get real ok with what I do, when they found out how much money it pulls in. If your not making any money at this, maybe you should follow 12clicks advice and get a real job...

[erotictrance]

I was friends with my husband for years before we got married ...

And when I found out he was in the porn business ... I had the typical knee jerk female reaction and was horrified ...

But then I realized it all came from the Catholic repressed "Sex is Bad" upbringing I had ... which is really stupid and doesn't make any sense ...

I dunno ... I guess a lot of mothers grill this stuff into their daugher's heads ... but eventually I got over it ...

So now hubby and I are in the sex business together ... LOL

[This message has been edited by erotictrance (edited 11-29-2001).]

[Allison]

Thanks Gary and 12Clicks

Maybe I brought that on myself, but just as a statement to my defense. The only reason I am so anal about porn (pardon the pun) is that I prefer to think that my man really only needs me(which I know is probably just my romantic idea)- so I do my best to fulfill that. However, in defense of porn, I admit that I have seen things that I think are "good ideas" and take them home to use.
And I do believe that despite my attitude in the home about porn, I am a bundle of fun and more to live with

Gary, where does your wife think the money comes from then?

Anyway, again best of luck to you Cancerfactory.

~~Alli

[erotictrance]

Allison brings up an interesting point ...

My husband surfs porn all the time, but I don't get jealous at all ...

Maybe it's because we're both bored by most of it. Let's face it ... there's not too much original stuff out there ... It's all pretty much the same ...

But my husband points out porn to me all the time ... usually to flag the rare site that's doing something original or unique ... or to figure out why a particular site is becoming popular ...

A lot of women hate porn, I think, not just because of the jealousy factor ... but a lot of these sex scenes just aren't very sexy ... especially from a female perspective ...

But then again, what the hell do I know ... LOL

[Gary]

Originally posted by Allison:
Thanks Gary and 12Clicks

Gary, where does your wife think the money comes from then?

Anyway, again best of luck to you Cancerfactory.

~~Alli

She thinks it grows on trees. So do the 50 or 60 family members of hers that she's always giving my money away too. They all just pretend theres a tree outside that grows money.

It must be nice to live in their world.

[Kimmykim]

Well I guess everyone knows why you like to hang out on my couch now Gary...

Maybe cancerfactory could tell his girl he's looking for proxy servers for his diabolical plans. She might like that better.

[GTS Mark]

I say dump her and find a porn star that can appreciate your work! LOL!!

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[FreeOnes]

Most of you are big hypocrites ! My summary of what I read is that it doesn't matter as long as it is a "business". Watching smut is not done. You are ashamed to confess that you simply like porn and watch naked girls and all the shit ! This is the worst I have heard since years. I don't care if somebody is telling me that porn is dirty and only for perverts etc. etc. I know that most of them are still watching pictures on the Internet when their wife is sleeping, but to hear this kind of stories from other adult webmasters is FUCKING unbelievable!!

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[ElvisManson]

I met my GF in the porn industry.

I can't help but wonder ( and shudder at the thought of ) what it would be like having a GF that didn't love porn too.



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[Allison]

Freeones,

Nobody is being hypocritical. Everyone realizes the porn surfers make us money and nobody is ashamed that they get to look at porn everyday. It is just a delicate matter when it comes to discussing it with those who may not understand so easily. Sometimes its just easier not to tell them.

~~Alli

[kai-tracid]

Be honest and show her your checks I bet she will love that diamond ring you are gonna by from you porn money
peace out ::Kai

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[Warphead]

I find the longer you wait the more annoyed they are when you fess up.

[Sjayne]

Honesty is the best policy. I would more hurt if my husband lied to me about what he was doing than I would be if he was doing something I didn't like him doing.

In my own life I am upfront with all of my friends (my husband was never an issue as he helps me out sometimes, etc) and they all know what I do. What is the point of hiding part of your life from people that you care about? I want them to like and love the real me..not some me I make up.

Telling my born again Christian parental units is a different matter.

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[Rivux]

Kick her in the junk.

[Black Night]

Tell her, you'll have to do it, sooner or later...

[FreeOnes]

Yes indeed it's a very delicate matter because many people don't respect my job if I tell them about it. I can write a whole story why they should respect my job which I'm busy with 24*7*365 days of the year, but that's not the matter here. If somebody simple doesn't respect me then I won't respect the other person and say fuck you go away and don't waste my time. And if you think your girlfriend won't respect your job as well then you can do 2 things. Quit your job or your girlfriend. If you do the first thing then your are certainly not proud about your current job. If you choose for option 2 and search another girl then I can talk with you.

Bye bye
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[Brad Mitchell]

All I can say is you better tell her, and quick. Lying is no way to start a relationship! Use it as an opportunity to grow your relationship... assuming she doesn't freak out. AND, if she does freak out and leave you then she wasn't worth having.


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[Moose]

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[CancerFactory]

thanx for all the advice guys! wow, you guy were very helpfull, trully!
ok, ive come to the conclusion that i wanan tell her. My one and last dillema, is that more than likely, she is prolly gonna tell her mom about what i do, as they are like best friends. Her mom, currently likes me, but she is the religious type(shes mormon)
i dunno, this is just one big mess. Im sure her mom might try and persuade her to dump me, im guessing.

One thing about the money, everyone is saying to just show them a your check and they will be converted. well, what if the checks are not big enough yet? I mean i just started putting up sponsors, and my checks are total $1000 a month, right now (i dont have another day job, im full time student,and ive told her that im making a grand a month in stock market from savings)

so you think she would be okay wit that? I know im gonna be making more than a grand a month later, this is just the beggining, but exactly how convincing is "honey, i do this for $1000 a month!)

[FreeOnes]

If your checks aren't big enough then you maybe can better wait untill you are deeper in the pornshit hahaha

About your mother in law, if she is a real mormon then you have a big problem I guess...
sorry to tell you the bad news

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[FATPad]

Just tell her you're opposed to her being an executive administrative assistant. Then start a fight. Then apologize and offer to compromise. Then make up.

You'll get great makeup sex and look like a compromising, sensitive guy all at once.

[CancerFactory]

shes not my mother in law(but she may be, as i really Love this chic)
but yeah, she is a true mormon. goes to LDS church every sunday, and the whole bits.

basically, the only people who know what i do, are my mom, sister, brother, and a friend.
and my mom doesnt like it, she sais to not tell anyone, because it would bring shame to the fammily. so she doesnt want me telling anyone. she wants me to leave the biz, but i refuse to. i just love this job, and will not leave it for anyone but myself, not even my girl, prolly, even though i love her.

[Allison]

I would ask your girlfriend not to tell her mother unless she knows her mother would understand. I'm sure she doesn't want her mother to dislike you just for this.

~~Alli

[MrBrian]

my girlfriend didnt like it at first. but, when she realized i had more time for her than a normal job, she changed her mind. the money doesnt hurt either

[oscer]

Well if she truely Likes you she will respect you for who you are and will understand that this is a job like any other job

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