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TurboAngel · 01-21-2005, 05:51 AM

You got up and read the newspaper and read that one of you're Ex's had died? I just found out a guy I dated died, he was diagnosed with stomach cancer a year after we broke up.We did stay friends after we broke up but then I moved to NJ. I have not seen or talked to him in 5 years and don't know if I should go to the funeral or not. What do you think? Should I go? I have some mixed feeling here.

Rui · 01-21-2005, 05:56 AM

I think it would be nice if you went to the funeral, but thats just me...

TurboAngel · 01-21-2005, 06:09 AM

The only thing is I know his ex-wife will be there and she didn't like me at all, I'm 15 years younger than her. I don't want to upset her by going. I don't know what to do.

ocho-ocho · 01-21-2005, 06:15 AM

better if you visit the funeral.....it won't cause you any harm aiyt?

since you together have had great times....its time to show how you appreciate the memoirzz

VanessaG · 01-21-2005, 06:17 AM

Personally I hate funerals, just send a card and some flowers.

xlogger · 01-21-2005, 06:18 AM

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Originally Posted by TurboAngel

The only thing is I know his ex-wife will be there and she didn't like me at all, I'm 15 years younger than her. I don't want to upset her by going. I don't know what to do.

I think she would be worried about her ex-husband being dead. You should defiently go to the funeral. I mean we are talking about a dead guy here, who cares who you upset.

gunfodder · 01-21-2005, 06:29 AM

trust in your own feelings, if you want to go then no matter who is there go, as you were part of each others lives, you have the same rights as anyone else there. all the best.

WebTitan · 01-21-2005, 06:31 AM

under those conditions, i doubt i woud go...been 5 years since you have seen him...maybe if you dated like 10 years or something, then maybe...

TurboAngel · 01-21-2005, 06:58 AM

We were together for 7 years.

We broke up cuz he wanted to get married and I didn't.

ADL_Christy · 01-21-2005, 07:05 AM

I would go to the funeral, just to pay your respects. You can blend in with the crowd as to not upset the wife.

Nanda · 01-21-2005, 07:18 AM

Sorry hun...the best thing to do is follow your heart...I think it would be nice to pay your respects...

BitterPen · 01-21-2005, 07:27 AM

Personally, I would prolly go to the funeral. It's really going to depend on what is going to effect you more. Will you regret it forever that you didn't go? Will it be really painful but worth the closure? Or would it be too awkward for you? It's a hard decision, but after careful thought, I'm sure you will know what's best for you.

I'm really sorry, by the way. I know loss is painful, of any kind, even people that aren't that close any more.

::hugs::

d00t · 01-21-2005, 07:28 AM

akward situation.... no advice from this boy sorry....

CoreAdult-Dee · 01-21-2005, 07:29 AM

Every person has to come to grips with the loss of someone that was special in their lives. Going to the funeral is one way most people do this. If you go to that funeral it will be for you and for his memories...it won't be for an ex.

In your position, I would go.

VanessaG · 01-21-2005, 07:30 AM

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Originally Posted by TurboAngel

We were together for 7 years.

We broke up cuz he wanted to get married and I didn't.

7 years is a substantial part of life. I take back my post and I would attend the funeral.

Furious_Male · 01-21-2005, 07:31 AM

If they are having a wake at least go early in the day (a lot of family may not be there) and pay your respects. Sign the guestbook and leave a cash donation for mass or whatever.

Spunky · 01-21-2005, 07:32 AM

Send some flowers to his funeral

BitterPen · 01-21-2005, 07:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Furious_Male

If they are having a wake at least go early in the day (a lot of family may not be there) and pay your respects. Sign the guestbook and leave a cash donation for mass or whatever.

That's a good idea... even maybe just send flowers...? How far would you have to travel? That would be a factor in my decision as well...

digifan · 01-21-2005, 07:37 AM

I vote for the flowers myself.

TurboAngel · 01-21-2005, 07:43 AM

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Originally Posted by VanessaG

7 years is a substantial part of life. I take back my post and I would attend the funeral.

Yea, 7 years is a substantial part of life. I have only had 4 boyfriends he was the longest. I just don't want his ex-wife to get upset, there hadn't been together for 3 years before we got together but I was younger than her so she didn't like that at all. I was 19 when we got together and 26 when we broke up.

EyesWideShut · 01-21-2005, 07:43 AM

It's sad for sure but at least you guys didn't break up after you found out that he had stomach cancer. Regardless, I would attend the funeral.

Denis_SC · 01-21-2005, 09:23 AM

Oh .... I'm so sowwe to hear that .

But I don't think you should necessarily go to funeral . Well it depends of how you gonna feel if you go there and how close you were when you were together .... etc.

DEA - banned for life · 01-21-2005, 09:26 AM

You single now?.....

xclusive · 01-21-2005, 09:30 AM

Just go with your heart on this one.

IwantU Bryan · 01-21-2005, 09:32 AM

Yeah i´d say if you can make it, you should go

Head · 01-21-2005, 09:33 AM

I kow how you feel. It's happened to me and you just gotta move on.

pxxx · 01-21-2005, 09:36 AM

Damn, that is messed up.

Wiggles · 01-21-2005, 09:41 AM

you should go and pay your respects, if you were close to someone it is the decent thing to do.

TurboAngel · 01-21-2005, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by TurboAngel

You got up and read the newspaper and read that one of you're Ex's had died? I just found out a guy I dated died, he was diagnosed with stomach cancer a year after we broke up.We did stay friends after we broke up but then I moved to NJ. I have not seen or talked to him in 5 years and don't know if I should go to the funeral or not. What do you think? Should I go? I have some mixed feeling here.

Quote:

Originally Posted by TurboAngel

We were together for 7 years.We broke up cuz he wanted to get married and I didn't.

Quote:

Originally Posted by TurboAngel

Yea, 7 years is a substantial part of life. I have only had 4 boyfriends he was the longest. I just don't want his ex-wife to get upset, there hadn't been together for 3 years before we got together but I was younger than her so she didn't like that at all. I was 19 when we got together and 26 when we broke up.

No DEA I'm not single.

myjah · 01-21-2005, 10:06 AM

Do what feels good in your heart hon.

TurboAngel · 01-22-2005, 05:39 AM

Thank you everyone I'm going.

01-21-2005, 05:51 AM	#1
TurboAngel H.B.I.C. Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: NC Posts: 30,122	How would you feel if....... You got up and read the newspaper and read that one of you're Ex's had died? I just found out a guy I dated died, he was diagnosed with stomach cancer a year after we broke up.We did stay friends after we broke up but then I moved to NJ. I have not seen or talked to him in 5 years and don't know if I should go to the funeral or not. What do you think? Should I go? I have some mixed feeling here.

01-21-2005, 06:15 AM	#4
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01-21-2005, 06:17 AM	#5
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01-21-2005, 06:29 AM	#7
gunfodder Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in my pants, mostly.. Posts: 245	trust in your own feelings, if you want to go then no matter who is there go, as you were part of each others lives, you have the same rights as anyone else there. all the best. __________________ Everybody together now, repeat after me ... We are all individuals.

01-21-2005, 07:05 AM	#10
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01-21-2005, 05:56 AM	#2
Rui web Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: On icq: 85-483-060 Posts: 9,533	I think it would be nice if you went to the funeral, but thats just me...

01-21-2005, 06:09 AM	#3
TurboAngel H.B.I.C. Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: NC Posts: 30,122	The only thing is I know his ex-wife will be there and she didn't like me at all, I'm 15 years younger than her. I don't want to upset her by going. I don't know what to do.

01-21-2005, 06:31 AM	#8
WebTitan Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Western NY Posts: 5,114	under those conditions, i doubt i woud go...been 5 years since you have seen him...maybe if you dated like 10 years or something, then maybe...

01-21-2005, 06:58 AM	#9
TurboAngel H.B.I.C. Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: NC Posts: 30,122	We were together for 7 years. We broke up cuz he wanted to get married and I didn't.

01-21-2005, 07:18 AM	#11
Nanda Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: African Safari Posts: 5,310	Sorry hun...the best thing to do is follow your heart...I think it would be nice to pay your respects... __________________ My Ex-husband SKULL-BUITRE ran off to Colombia with OUR money and screwed me after I helped him build OUR business. He is hiding in Colombia and never paid the settlement $ from our divorce!

01-21-2005, 07:27 AM	#12
BitterPen Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: TN Posts: 1,926	Personally, I would prolly go to the funeral. It's really going to depend on what is going to effect you more. Will you regret it forever that you didn't go? Will it be really painful but worth the closure? Or would it be too awkward for you? It's a hard decision, but after careful thought, I'm sure you will know what's best for you. I'm really sorry, by the way. I know loss is painful, of any kind, even people that aren't that close any more. ::hugs:: __________________

01-21-2005, 07:28 AM	#13
d00t Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: In your mind Posts: 3,766	akward situation.... no advice from this boy sorry....

01-21-2005, 07:29 AM	#14
CoreAdult-Dee Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 187	Every person has to come to grips with the loss of someone that was special in their lives. Going to the funeral is one way most people do this. If you go to that funeral it will be for you and for his memories...it won't be for an ex. In your position, I would go. __________________ Professional design, development, and "grunt work" for webmasters and sponsors at reasonable prices. NOT OFFSHORED. ICQ: 312068826 ::: AIM: CoreAdult :: Check us out

01-21-2005, 07:31 AM	#16
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01-21-2005, 07:32 AM	#17
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01-21-2005, 07:37 AM	#19
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01-21-2005, 07:43 AM	#21
EyesWideShut Confirmed User Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: New York City Posts: 354	It's sad for sure but at least you guys didn't break up after you found out that he had stomach cancer. Regardless, I would attend the funeral. __________________ $$$$$$ $$$$$$ $$$$$$

01-21-2005, 09:23 AM	#22
Denis_SC Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Toronto Posts: 2,332	Oh .... I'm so sowwe to hear that . But I don't think you should necessarily go to funeral . Well it depends of how you gonna feel if you go there and how close you were when you were together .... etc. __________________ Denis B. ICQ 342-587-607 denis AT detamed.com

01-21-2005, 09:26 AM	#23
DEA - banned for life V.I.P. Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: InYour Head Posts: 7,886	You single now?.....

01-21-2005, 09:30 AM	#24
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01-21-2005, 09:32 AM	#25
IwantU Bryan Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Costa Rica Posts: 1,764	Yeah i´d say if you can make it, you should go __________________ Bryan D ICQ: 293214625 !!!Coming Soon!!!

01-21-2005, 09:33 AM	#26
Head Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Starship Enterprise Posts: 8,278	I kow how you feel. It's happened to me and you just gotta move on. __________________

01-21-2005, 09:36 AM	#27
pxxx First African GFY Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: New Jersey Posts: 12,114	Damn, that is messed up.

01-21-2005, 09:41 AM	#28
Wiggles Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 14,423	you should go and pay your respects, if you were close to someone it is the decent thing to do. __________________ no sig

01-21-2005, 10:06 AM	#30
myjah Back in the harbor Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 11,482	Do what feels good in your heart hon. __________________ VP of Marketing AVN Media Network Skype: AVNJill [email protected]

01-22-2005, 05:39 AM	#31
TurboAngel H.B.I.C. Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: NC Posts: 30,122	Thank you everyone I'm going.