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01-21-2005, 03:51 AM

You got up and read the newspaper and read that one of you're Ex's had died? I just found out a guy I dated died, he was diagnosed with stomach cancer a year after we broke up.We did stay friends after we broke up but then I moved to NJ. I have not seen or talked to him in 5 years and don't know if I should go to the funeral or not. What do you think? Should I go? I have some mixed feeling here.
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01-21-2005, 03:56 AM

I think it would be nice if you went to the funeral, but thats just me...
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01-21-2005, 04:09 AM

The only thing is I know his ex-wife will be there and she didn't like me at all, I'm 15 years younger than her. I don't want to upset her by going. I don't know what to do.
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01-21-2005, 04:15 AM

better if you visit the funeral.....it won't cause you any harm aiyt?
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01-21-2005, 04:17 AM

Personally I hate funerals, just send a card and some flowers.

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01-21-2005, 04:18 AM

Originally posted by TurboAngel

The only thing is I know his ex-wife will be there and she didn't like me at all, I'm 15 years younger than her. I don't want to upset her by going. I don't know what to do.

I think she would be worried about her ex-husband being dead. You should defiently go to the funeral. I mean we are talking about a dead guy here, who cares who you upset.

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01-21-2005, 04:29 AM

trust in your own feelings, if you want to go then no matter who is there go, as you were part of each others lives, you have the same rights as anyone else there. all the best.

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01-21-2005, 04:31 AM

under those conditions, i doubt i woud go...been 5 years since you have seen him...maybe if you dated like 10 years or something, then maybe...
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01-21-2005, 04:58 AM

We were together for 7 years. We broke up cuz he wanted to get married and I didn't.
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01-21-2005, 05:05 AM

I would go to the funeral, just to pay your respects. You can blend in with the crowd as to not upset the wife.

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01-21-2005, 05:18 AM

Sorry hun...the best thing to do is follow your heart...I think it would be nice to pay your respects...

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01-21-2005, 05:27 AM

Personally, I would prolly go to the funeral. It's really going to depend on what is going to effect you more. Will you regret it forever that you didn't go? Will it be really painful but worth the closure? Or would it be too awkward for you? It's a hard decision, but after careful thought, I'm sure you will know what's best for you.

I'm really sorry, by the way. I know loss is painful, of any kind, even people that aren't that close any more.

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01-21-2005, 05:28 AM

akward situation.... no advice from this boy sorry....
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01-21-2005, 05:29 AM

Every person has to come to grips with the loss of someone that was special in their lives. Going to the funeral is one way most people do this. If you go to that funeral it will be for you and for his memories...it won't be for an ex.

In your position, I would go.

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01-21-2005, 05:30 AM

Originally posted by TurboAngel

We were together for 7 years. We broke up cuz he wanted to get married and I didn't.

7 years is a substantial part of life. I take back my post and I would attend the funeral.

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01-21-2005, 05:31 AM

If they are having a wake at least go early in the day (a lot of family may not be there) and pay your respects. Sign the guestbook and leave a cash donation for mass or whatever.

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01-21-2005, 05:32 AM

Send some flowers to his funeral

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01-21-2005, 05:33 AM

Originally posted by Furious_Male

If they are having a wake at least go early in the day (a lot of family may not be there) and pay your respects. Sign the guestbook and leave a cash donation for mass or whatever.

That's a good idea... even maybe just send flowers...? How far would you have to travel? That would be a factor in my decision as well...
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01-21-2005, 05:37 AM

I vote for the flowers myself.

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01-21-2005, 05:43 AM

Originally posted by VanessaG

7 years is a substantial part of life. I take back my post and I would attend the funeral.

Yea, 7 years is a substantial part of life. I have only had 4 boyfriends he was the longest. I just don't want his ex-wife to get upset, there hadn't been together for 3 years before we got together but I was younger than her so she didn't like that at all. I was 19 when we got together and 26 when we broke up.
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01-21-2005, 05:43 AM

It's sad for sure but at least you guys didn't break up after you found out that he had stomach cancer. Regardless, I would attend the funeral.

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01-21-2005, 07:23 AM

Oh .... I'm so sowwe to hear that .
But I don't think you should necessarily go to funeral . Well it depends of how you gonna feel if you go there and how close you were when you were together .... etc.

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01-21-2005, 07:26 AM

You single now?.....
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01-21-2005, 07:30 AM

Just go with your heart on this one.

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01-21-2005, 07:32 AM

Yeah i´d say if you can make it, you should go

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01-21-2005, 07:33 AM

I kow how you feel. It's happened to me and you just gotta move on.
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01-21-2005, 07:36 AM

Damn, that is messed up.
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01-21-2005, 07:41 AM

you should go and pay your respects, if you were close to someone it is the decent thing to do.

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01-21-2005, 07:43 AM

Originally posted by TurboAngel

You got up and read the newspaper and read that one of you're Ex's had died? I just found out a guy I dated died, he was diagnosed with stomach cancer a year after we broke up.We did stay friends after we broke up but then I moved to NJ. I have not seen or talked to him in 5 years and don't know if I should go to the funeral or not. What do you think? Should I go? I have some mixed feeling here.

Originally posted by TurboAngel

We were together for 7 years.We broke up cuz he wanted to get married and I didn't.

Originally posted by TurboAngel

Yea, 7 years is a substantial part of life. I have only had 4 boyfriends he was the longest. I just don't want his ex-wife to get upset, there hadn't been together for 3 years before we got together but I was younger than her so she didn't like that at all. I was 19 when we got together and 26 when we broke up.

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01-21-2005, 08:06 AM

Do what feels good in your heart hon.

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01-22-2005, 03:39 AM

Thank you everyone I'm going.
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