I need some serious advice from people in the industry... - GoFuckYourself.com

Alltopnotch · 01-17-2005, 07:56 PM

I'm 22...this upcoming fall i will be transferring to a university. i've been dabbling with a few sites for the last year or so and checks are starting to come in here and there. my dad is a very successful man in commercial real estate. after finding out about me "peddling porn" he wants me to shut everything down because he says it could ruin me in the future with things such as running for public office (which i doubt i would even do). i disagree with him. i want to continue to pursue my websites in this industry because i like making money from it and it also has become a hobby. what the hell should i do? i've gone through my whole life lying to my father and he always seems to find out what i've lied about. i could tell him i'm done with this...but i know he will find out i lied somehow. is my dad right? or does he not know what he's talking about? i really need some input and advice from some smart people...thanks...

Illicit · 01-17-2005, 07:58 PM

I would get into the commericial real estate biz with dad... definately money in that...

Hue G. Pness · 01-17-2005, 07:59 PM

Do what you want. You answered your own question. You don't care about running for public ofice and that sort of shit. So, as an adult make a descision about what you want to do, not what your dad wants you to do. Fuck, it's not that fucking hard to figure out. Grow up.

warlock5 · 01-17-2005, 07:59 PM

Just tell him you'll run as a libertarian since he's so concerned about it.

BT · 01-17-2005, 08:01 PM

Your dad is a smart man!! Commercial real estate is where the real money is
and the days of peddling will be long gone. I suggest you use the porn as an outlet
and persue Real estate ventures

Alltopnotch · 01-17-2005, 08:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Hue G. Pness

Do what you want. You answered your own question. You don't care about running for public ofice and that sort of shit. So, as an adult make a descision about what you want to do, not what your dad wants you to do. Fuck, it's not that fucking hard to figure out. Grow up.

fuck you. you don't know my whole situation. i have to go along with shit that he wants. he pays half of my rent...my car insurance...damn near everything while i'm in school. i would be fucked right now without him that's why it's such a hard decision.

TheMob · 01-17-2005, 08:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Alltopnotch

fuck you. you don't know my whole situation. i have to go along with shit that he wants. he pays half of my rent...my car insurance...damn near everything while i'm in school. i would be fucked right now without him that's why it's such a hard decision.

you're pretty fucking friendly for someone who's asking for advice.

KRosh · 01-17-2005, 08:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Alltopnotch

fuck you. you don't know my whole situation. i have to go along with shit that he wants. he pays half of my rent...my car insurance...damn near everything while i'm in school. i would be fucked right now without him that's why it's such a hard decision.

You should not have said those things... Get ready for the flaming. Hope you can handle it

simple simon · 01-17-2005, 08:06 PM

Put away the tgp's and galleries and get with the real estate. It's really a no brainer

Alltopnotch · 01-17-2005, 08:06 PM

lol whatever...that guy is talking shit to me telling me to grow up...dude doesn't even know me.

Illicit · 01-17-2005, 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Alltopnotch

fuck you. you don't know my whole situation. i have to go along with shit that he wants. he pays half of my rent...my car insurance...damn near everything while i'm in school. i would be fucked right now without him that's why it's such a hard decision.

if you dont make enough to pay the bills yourself then the decision is pretty damn simple if you ask me

Illicit · 01-17-2005, 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Alltopnotch

lol whatever...that guy is talking shit to me telling me to grow up...dude doesn't even know me.

yet your asking for advice on gfy ?

misty_dayz · 01-17-2005, 08:13 PM

Well I think your dad is missing his own point. You see, you have already DONE porn, so the damage is done. So if you enjoy it, you are not going to cause yourself anymore harm (harm in his eyes) than you already have.

Wolfy · 01-17-2005, 08:14 PM

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Originally Posted by ajpiii

if you dont make enough to pay the bills yourself then the decision is pretty damn simple if you ask me

:P yepyep

Alltopnotch · 01-17-2005, 08:25 PM

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Originally Posted by misty_dayz

Well I think your dad is missing his own point. You see, you have already DONE porn, so the damage is done. So if you enjoy it, you are not going to cause yourself anymore harm (harm in his eyes) than you already have.

good point. so what you're saying is that since my name is already officially in the records of porn companies and shit already it's the same as if it was there for years and years to come?

Alex · 01-17-2005, 08:26 PM

Start making enough to pay your own rent, own payments and his rent.

sickkittens · 01-17-2005, 08:28 PM

Why not just promote dating sites and softcore stuff then (models, etc.)?

baddog · 01-17-2005, 08:32 PM

You are 22, why do you feel the need to lie to your dad? Just tell him, "Dad, I don't plan on running for political office." Tell him how much you make and how it is that much less you need to take from him.

Cory W · 01-17-2005, 08:32 PM

Become content.

Illicit · 01-17-2005, 08:33 PM

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Originally Posted by sickkittens

Why not just promote dating sites and softcore stuff then (models, etc.)?

sounds like a reasonable alternative

sickkittens · 01-17-2005, 08:34 PM

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Originally Posted by baddog

You are 22, why do you feel the need to lie to your dad? Just tell him, "Dad, I don't plan on running for political office." Tell him how much you make and how it is that much less you need to take from him.

Good call. 22 and he's telling you how to run your life?

Advice is good but it seems as if he's demanding.

baddog · 01-17-2005, 08:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Alltopnotch

fuck you. you don't know my whole situation. i have to go along with shit that he wants. he pays half of my rent...my car insurance...damn near everything while i'm in school. i would be fucked right now without him that's why it's such a hard decision.

Then why are you asking us?

Alltopnotch · 01-17-2005, 08:34 PM

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Originally Posted by baddog

You are 22, why do you feel the need to lie to your dad? Just tell him, "Dad, I don't plan on running for political office." Tell him how much you make and how it is that much less you need to take from him.

but i think he's under the impression that being in the porn industry will have other reprocussions(sp) later in life other than just public office...

Alltopnotch · 01-17-2005, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by baddog

Then why are you asking us?

didnt you see i was only replying to that one guy...not everyone...

baddog · 01-17-2005, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Alltopnotch

lol whatever...that guy is talking shit to me telling me to grow up...dude doesn't even know me.

sickkittens · 01-17-2005, 08:36 PM

What would be done to actually "track him"?

Alltopnotch · 01-17-2005, 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by sickkittens

What would be done to actually "track him"?

that's also what i would like to know...all the companies have discreet names such as ICS, Inc and shit like that right...

baddog · 01-17-2005, 08:39 PM

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Originally Posted by sickkittens

Good call. 22 and he's telling you how to run your life?

Advice is good but it seems as if he's demanding.

I would be so pissed and disappointed if either of my kids felt the need to lie to me . . . about anything.

FelixFlow · 01-17-2005, 08:39 PM

porn is "mainstream" now

Alex · 01-17-2005, 08:41 PM

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Originally Posted by baddog

I would be so pissed and disappointed if either of my kids felt the need to lie to me . . . about anything.

Even if you 18 y.o daughter suddenly wanted to become content, and not only that, but gagging content.

Im sure there are somethings you rather not know.

cherrylula · 01-17-2005, 08:45 PM

http://www.gofuckyourself.com/showthread.php?t=417873

baddog · 01-17-2005, 08:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Alltopnotch

but i think he's under the impression that being in the porn industry will have other reprocussions(sp) later in life other than just public office...

So fucking what? Are they any repercussions that would apply to you? Will it effect your ability to be an astronaut? Priest? Boy Scout Leader? Race car driver?

Again. You are 22. You are old enough to be making your own decissions.

Dude, I have to tell you, you are really making me appreciate my kids. Self-sufficient. They may ask for advice, or a favor, or a loan, but not to the point that I have any say in their personal/professional lives.

i.e.: If my son was making a living robbing liquor stores, I would probably try to point out the repercussions, but if that is was what he was good at, and wanted to do, so be it.

Shoehorn! · 01-17-2005, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Alltopnotch

I'm 22...this upcoming fall i will be transferring to a university. i've been dabbling with a few sites for the last year or so and checks are starting to come in here and there. my dad is a very successful man in commercial real estate. after finding out about me "peddling porn" he wants me to shut everything down because he says it could ruin me in the future with things such as running for public office (which i doubt i would even do). i disagree with him. i want to continue to pursue my websites in this industry because i like making money from it and it also has become a hobby. what the hell should i do? i've gone through my whole life lying to my father and he always seems to find out what i've lied about. i could tell him i'm done with this...but i know he will find out i lied somehow. is my dad right? or does he not know what he's talking about? i really need some input and advice from some smart people...thanks...

Well, I can't say that I have more life experience than you do cause I am 22 as well, but if his only beef with you selling porn is that it'll come back to haunt you when you run for office, you should probably talk to him and tell him your grand plan. Maybe he thinks that you don't have a direction in life, so hes trying to help you speed things up by choosing one for you. If you know what you want to do, then tell him thats what you want to do. My suggestion is to sit down and have a talk with him, but you know better than me if hes the type of person you can sit down and have a talk with. Regardless, good luck.

sickkittens · 01-17-2005, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by baddog

I would be so pissed and disappointed if either of my kids felt the need to lie to me . . . about anything.

Don't ask, don't tell is ok, I guess. But lying is a no-no.

SureFire · 01-17-2005, 08:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Alltopnotch

fuck you. you don't know my whole situation. i have to go along with shit that he wants. he pays half of my rent...my car insurance...damn near everything while i'm in school. i would be fucked right now without him that's why it's such a hard decision.

Your dad is right in a way. A few months ago I heard on the news that a prison guard lost her job because some inmates found out she was a prior web-porn-star. Even if you are not running for public office, some employers take offense to people pushing porn and may use it against you if they found out past or present.

If your dad is paying half of all your expenses and while in school near everything, I would put your porn peddling on hold till graduation. When you don?t depend on him for your welfare, do what you want and hope you don?t get written out of his will.

BTW, 22 years old shouldn't you be graduating soon?

baddog · 01-17-2005, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Alltopnotch

didnt you see i was only replying to that one guy...not everyone...

So, if the opinion/advice given isn't what you wanted to hear, "fuck them, they don't know me."

Alltopnotch · 01-17-2005, 08:49 PM

i think he's just all freaked out simply because it's "porn." he's pretty old fashioned and thinks its such a bad industry to be in or something. maybe i should just talk to him some more about it because i do respect his requests he is a very smart man and i dont know my ass from a hole in the ground. he is usually right...but i dont see the harm in making a few websites.

baddog · 01-17-2005, 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by kaliboy2g

Even if you 18 y.o daughter suddenly wanted to become content, and not only that, but gagging content.

Im sure there are somethings you rather not know.

I said my kids. My daughter would never want to be content. If she was, then perhaps my above comment would not apply. However, as I am talking about my kids, I stand by the comment.

Alltopnotch · 01-17-2005, 08:51 PM

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Originally Posted by SureFire

Your dad is right in a way. A few months ago I heard on the news that a prison guard lost her job because some inmates found out she was a prior web-porn-star. Even if you are not running for public office, some employers take offense to people pushing porn and may use it against you if they found out past or present.

If your dad is paying half of all your expenses and while in school near everything, I would put your porn peddling on hold till graduation. When you don?t depend on him for your welfare, do what you want and hope you don?t get written out of his will.

BTW, 22 years old shouldn't you be graduating soon?

i took a year off...now i'll be transferring as a junior this fall...

th3g4me · 01-17-2005, 08:53 PM

Bahhh If porn is bad then make casino pages!!!

You never know in 10 years you might see things the way your dad does. -_-

baddog · 01-17-2005, 08:54 PM

22 and a junior? oh man . . my daughter is 22 and in grad school. What's taking you so long? Can't be just a year off.

sickkittens · 01-17-2005, 08:59 PM

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Originally Posted by baddog

22 and a junior? oh man . . my daughter is 22 and in grad school. What's taking you so long? Can't be just a year off.

Not everyone goes to college right after high school.

Alltopnotch · 01-17-2005, 09:00 PM

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Originally Posted by baddog

22 and a junior? oh man . . my daughter is 22 and in grad school. What's taking you so long? Can't be just a year off.

so i'm like a couple years late...so what. my head is on strait and i'm on the right track...

Alex · 01-17-2005, 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Alltopnotch

so i'm like a couple years late...so what. my head is on strait and i'm on the right track...

Are you sure your head is on straight

r3ap3r · 01-17-2005, 09:02 PM

I know this may sound lame but do what you feel is right. Given that your father helps you out financially I suggest you don't piss him off.

kane · 01-17-2005, 09:03 PM

to me his saying this to you is more about him than you. He is saying that porn could cause you problems in the future. what he means is that you selling porn could embarass him and your family in the future. If he's a well know real estate guy then it could be a black eye for him to have a son in porn and this is his way of telling you this. But you only have two real choices. Stop doing porn, focus on school and get a job and move in a different direction ( whatever that may end up being ) or keep doing porn. But before you choose to stay in other people here have made good points. First, if you are not making enough to pay your bills, you may want to rethink this as a full time job. second, if you continue to do this you may cause a rift in your family. Clearly you do not respect your dad because you said yourself that you have spent most of your life lying to him so causing this rift may not be a big deal to you. But if you continue and he cuts you off, then where are you.

In the end you need to decide what will make you happy. If your strongest desire is to stay in school and get an education and do something with it, then you should think about getting out. If you would rather be independent and do as you please, then contiue and if you get cut off you will have to quit school and support yourself. If you want to finish school but continue in porn maybe come up with a business plan and present it to him. Show him this is a legitimate business and if he sees you have a plan for the future then maybe he will continue to support you.

Just make sure you whatever you pick, you are picking what will make you happy.

Hue G. Pness · 01-17-2005, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Alltopnotch

fuck you. you don't know my whole situation. i have to go along with shit that he wants. he pays half of my rent...my car insurance...damn near everything while i'm in school. i would be fucked right now without him that's why it's such a hard decision.

Thanks for taking my side and proving you need to grow up and cut daddy's umbilical cord away. Once again, I say grow the fuck up. You are 22? That makes you by most standards an adult. It seems though that you defy those standards. Make your own way and do what makes you happy, stop being a daddy's girl.

Alltopnotch · 01-17-2005, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by kaliboy2g

Are you sure your head is on straight

oh god...i like spelling it like strait...just like i like spelling "tonite"

baddog · 01-17-2005, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by sickkittens

Not everyone goes to college right after high school.

If he's on my dime he sure is.

baddog · 01-17-2005, 09:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Alltopnotch

so i'm like a couple years late...so what. my head is on strait and i'm on the right track...

Strait? Nice. College is doing you well. I ignored the previos one as a typo, now I am not so sure.

On the right track? 22 and coming to GFY for advice on whether or not you should listen to your dad since he is making it possible for you to survive.

Yep, . . .

01-17-2005, 07:56 PM	#1
Alltopnotch Confirmed User Join Date: May 2004 Location: Oakland Posts: 2,845	I need some serious advice from people in the industry... I'm 22...this upcoming fall i will be transferring to a university. i've been dabbling with a few sites for the last year or so and checks are starting to come in here and there. my dad is a very successful man in commercial real estate. after finding out about me "peddling porn" he wants me to shut everything down because he says it could ruin me in the future with things such as running for public office (which i doubt i would even do). i disagree with him. i want to continue to pursue my websites in this industry because i like making money from it and it also has become a hobby. what the hell should i do? i've gone through my whole life lying to my father and he always seems to find out what i've lied about. i could tell him i'm done with this...but i know he will find out i lied somehow. is my dad right? or does he not know what he's talking about? i really need some input and advice from some smart people...thanks... __________________ WANT A FREE LAPTOP?

01-17-2005, 07:58 PM	#2
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Hue G. Pness Confirmed User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Variable Posts: 1,237	Do what you want. You answered your own question. You don't care about running for public ofice and that sort of shit. So, as an adult make a descision about what you want to do, not what your dad wants you to do. Fuck, it's not that fucking hard to figure out. Grow up. __________________ GFY Voice of Reason

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BT Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Ft liquordale FL Posts: 6,481	Your dad is a smart man!! Commercial real estate is where the real money is and the days of peddling will be long gone. I suggest you use the porn as an outlet and persue Real estate ventures __________________ IS Prime Hosting Bald Head Shine "BT" The American Dream, baby! " THE HOST WITH THE MOST!" My ICQ 122994792

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Alltopnotch Confirmed User Join Date: May 2004 Location: Oakland Posts: 2,845	lol whatever...that guy is talking shit to me telling me to grow up...dude doesn't even know me. __________________ WANT A FREE LAPTOP?

01-17-2005, 07:59 PM	#4
warlock5 Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Uranus Posts: 2,808	Just tell him you'll run as a libertarian since he's so concerned about it.

01-17-2005, 08:06 PM	#9
simple simon Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 854	Put away the tgp's and galleries and get with the real estate. It's really a no brainer

01-17-2005, 08:13 PM	#13
misty_dayz Confirmed User Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: The bank with all the cash Posts: 475	Well I think your dad is missing his own point. You see, you have already DONE porn, so the damage is done. So if you enjoy it, you are not going to cause yourself anymore harm (harm in his eyes) than you already have.

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baddog So Fucking Banned Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: the beach, SoCal Posts: 107,089	You are 22, why do you feel the need to lie to your dad? Just tell him, "Dad, I don't plan on running for political office." Tell him how much you make and how it is that much less you need to take from him.

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01-17-2005, 08:49 PM	#37
Alltopnotch Confirmed User Join Date: May 2004 Location: Oakland Posts: 2,845	i think he's just all freaked out simply because it's "porn." he's pretty old fashioned and thinks its such a bad industry to be in or something. maybe i should just talk to him some more about it because i do respect his requests he is a very smart man and i dont know my ass from a hole in the ground. he is usually right...but i dont see the harm in making a few websites. __________________ WANT A FREE LAPTOP?

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baddog So Fucking Banned Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: the beach, SoCal Posts: 107,089	22 and a junior? oh man . . my daughter is 22 and in grad school. What's taking you so long? Can't be just a year off.

01-17-2005, 09:02 PM	#45
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01-17-2005, 09:03 PM	#46
kane Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: portland, OR Posts: 20,684	to me his saying this to you is more about him than you. He is saying that porn could cause you problems in the future. what he means is that you selling porn could embarass him and your family in the future. If he's a well know real estate guy then it could be a black eye for him to have a son in porn and this is his way of telling you this. But you only have two real choices. Stop doing porn, focus on school and get a job and move in a different direction ( whatever that may end up being ) or keep doing porn. But before you choose to stay in other people here have made good points. First, if you are not making enough to pay your bills, you may want to rethink this as a full time job. second, if you continue to do this you may cause a rift in your family. Clearly you do not respect your dad because you said yourself that you have spent most of your life lying to him so causing this rift may not be a big deal to you. But if you continue and he cuts you off, then where are you. In the end you need to decide what will make you happy. If your strongest desire is to stay in school and get an education and do something with it, then you should think about getting out. If you would rather be independent and do as you please, then contiue and if you get cut off you will have to quit school and support yourself. If you want to finish school but continue in porn maybe come up with a business plan and present it to him. Show him this is a legitimate business and if he sees you have a plan for the future then maybe he will continue to support you. Just make sure you whatever you pick, you are picking what will make you happy.