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NickPapageorgio · 05-17-2004, 12:39 PM

Ok I know violence isn't good but my kid had his first fight today in second grade and he kicked the other kids ass. Do I tell him good job for not taking no shit. (The other kid started it) Or do I tell him he is a jackass for fighting? They need to include a manual with these kid things...

alexg · 05-17-2004, 12:48 PM

you should be glad it's not the other way around

WarChild · 05-17-2004, 12:50 PM

Nick,

Depending on your child's after school and summer schedules .. You might want to consider martial arts for the little guy.

Not only will he learn how to deffend himself, but he'll learn when not to do it. Dicipline at it's finest.

Plus it's fun, and great exercise. Just a thought.

TheFrog · 05-17-2004, 12:52 PM

Punish him, but forgive him like 10 mins into the punishment

loverboy · 05-17-2004, 12:53 PM

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Originally posted by WarChild
Nick,

Depending on your child's after school and summer schedules .. You might want to consider martial arts for the little guy.

Not only will he learn how to deffend himself, but he'll learn when not to do it. Dicipline at it's finest.

Plus it's fun, and great exercise. Just a thought.

good suggestion

unconnected · 05-17-2004, 12:53 PM

tell him good job? that is the first step towards getting him a lift in the prison system
jesus.. they need a manual on parenting

ztik · 05-17-2004, 12:54 PM

haha nice nickname

okny · 05-17-2004, 12:54 PM

I agree with warchild.

EviLGuY · 05-17-2004, 12:55 PM

I'd punish him, but not too much.

You want a kid thats willing to defend himself, but doesnt turn into the schoolground bully... at least I would.

NickPapageorgio · 05-17-2004, 12:58 PM

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Originally posted by WarChild
Nick,

Depending on your child's after school and summer schedules .. You might want to consider martial arts for the little guy.

Not only will he learn how to deffend himself, but he'll learn when not to do it. Dicipline at it's finest.

Plus it's fun, and great exercise. Just a thought.

He has been in Tae Kwon Do for 3 years...

Sly_RJ · 05-17-2004, 12:59 PM

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Originally posted by NickPapageorgio
He has been in Tae Kwon Do for 3 years...

Does Tae Kwon Do not teach discipline?

beergood · 05-17-2004, 01:01 PM

Tell him now that he's whipped the kids ass to start taking shit from him for protection such as lunch money, etc.

NickPapageorgio · 05-17-2004, 01:01 PM

It does but...I am thinking that second graders are gonna be second graders. I would expect him to retain some of the dicipline if he were slightly older but with all his classmates standing around and this other kid fucking with him, I think his "family brand" temper got the best of him. He isn't in a whole lot of trouble but I did let him know I approve of him standing up for himself but not by the means in which he took. Plus no Xbox for a week...

WarChild · 05-17-2004, 01:02 PM

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Originally posted by NickPapageorgio
He has been in Tae Kwon Do for 3 years...

Good planning on your part. A bored child is a dangerous one.

Maybe go over the whole thing with his instructor at Tae Kwon Do? See what his thoughts are? They're usually pretty good at dealing with stuff like this.

WarChild · 05-17-2004, 01:03 PM

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Originally posted by Sly_RJ
Does Tae Kwon Do not teach discipline?

Grade 2 is quite young. Disicpline takes time to master.

V_RocKs · 05-17-2004, 01:03 PM

One of the reasons I liked Bruce Lee movies is that he never started it. He never walked in and started punching anyone, he just tried to bring the girl out and then only started fighting when they decided to throw the first punch. So if there is a lesson here, it is that your son waited until their was no other choice. In that situation, Martial Arts doctrine dictates that he can apply enough force to give his combatent the feeling that he has made a mistake and should back down.

sicone · 05-17-2004, 01:05 PM

Did he fuck the kid up or did he have enopugh control to defend himself and keep the otehr kid from hurting him.

Either way you should sit down and talk with him about it, make sure understands that defending himself is one thing, but taking it too far and injuring the other is not good.

Dont punish the child if all he did was defend himself.. you may turn the child into the kid he gets his lunch dumped on him daily or the kid who gets thrown in the gym butt nekked in front of the school.

In the end, if you feel he did right byhiself, then take him out to McDonalds and get him a sundae

NickPapageorgio · 05-17-2004, 01:06 PM

Well he was defending himself but he didn't go to the extreme. He hit the kid and knocked him down but no blood or missing teef or anything. The kid he hit is an ass too lol...I hate to be like that but he is. Spoilt little shit...

MetaMan · 05-17-2004, 01:07 PM

beat the little shithead up, i hate kids.

bizmak · 05-17-2004, 01:12 PM

Sign him up for karate or something...

detoxed · 05-17-2004, 01:15 PM

He might kick your ass if you piss him off

Webasic · 05-17-2004, 01:15 PM

congrats

I think the martial arts idea sounds like a good way to go.

kmanrox · 05-17-2004, 01:16 PM

tough call... i have 2 daughters so i dont really have to make that call.. it's mom's call =)

NickPapageorgio · 05-17-2004, 01:17 PM

I have a 2 year old daughter also and I am already dreading the boyfriends....WHAT DO I DO...WHO HID THE MANUAL

bufferover · 05-17-2004, 01:17 PM

Haha GFY is adult webmaster board not place for solving family problems but anyway you need to tell him that it not good to fight with others

NickPapageorgio · 05-17-2004, 01:20 PM

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Originally posted by dimitar
Haha GFY is adult webmaster board not place for solving family problems but anyway you need to tell him that it not good to fight with others

Well I seen the "Do you shave your balls" thread and figured i was safe...eh well...what's a n00b to know.

tranza · 05-17-2004, 01:24 PM

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Originally posted by WarChild
Nick,

Depending on your child's after school and summer schedules .. You might want to consider martial arts for the little guy.

Not only will he learn how to deffend himself, but he'll learn when not to do it. Dicipline at it's finest.

Plus it's fun, and great exercise. Just a thought.

SykkBoy · 05-17-2004, 01:32 PM

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Originally posted by unconnected
tell him good job? that is the first step towards getting him a lift in the prison system
jesus.. they need a manual on parenting

so, are you going to write this magical book?

NickPapageorgio · 05-17-2004, 01:34 PM

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Originally posted by SykkBoy2
so, are you going to write this magical book?

lol...no shit. I will buy the first 5 copies.

SykkBoy · 05-17-2004, 01:36 PM

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Originally posted by NickPapageorgio
lol...no shit. I will buy the first 5 copies.

I find it funny that the first people trying to dispense parental advice have no kids of their own. Just like these authors of parenting books are often childless themselves.

mindoza · 05-17-2004, 01:38 PM

Let him know that he can not always solve his problems with ass kicking and that if you go after someone you must be prepared for the other side, that you could get your ass kicked as well.

As long as he knows that he should try everything else posible before he lets thinks escalate then you have to hope he makes the right choices in the heat of a moment!

MandyBlake · 05-17-2004, 01:39 PM

Ok...I guess I'm the only one on this board that feels this way, but I don't think you should tell him he did a good thing.
If you tell him that it was ok, because the other kid started it, then you're only promoting violence.
You should tell him that he shouldn't have hit the kid...explain that kids can be mean sometimes, but he should always go tell someone of authority what is going on. If you tell him that he shouldn't have hit the kid, then this behavior could continue.

detoxed · 05-17-2004, 01:41 PM

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Originally posted by MandyBlake
Ok...I guess I'm the only one on this board that feels this way, but I don't think you should tell him he did a good thing.
If you tell him that it was ok, because the other kid started it, then you're only promoting violence.
You should tell him that he shouldn't have hit the kid...explain that kids can be mean sometimes, but he should always go tell someone of authority what is going on. If you tell him that he shouldn't have hit the kid, then this behavior could continue.

LOL thats like saying to your kid "I want you to get beat up daily, so go tell the teacher when anyone makes fun of you"

SykkBoy · 05-17-2004, 01:49 PM

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Originally posted by MandyBlake
Ok...I guess I'm the only one on this board that feels this way, but I don't think you should tell him he did a good thing.
If you tell him that it was ok, because the other kid started it, then you're only promoting violence.
You should tell him that he shouldn't have hit the kid...explain that kids can be mean sometimes, but he should always go tell someone of authority what is going on. If you tell him that he shouldn't have hit the kid, then this behavior could continue.

obviously you have no kids of your own
while I'm not a fan of violence, if he just runs and tattles everytime someone starts a fight, he's going to get his ass kicked harder the next time.

I've taught my oldest son to stand up for himself, but that doesn't always mean beating the shit out of the other kid. Sometimes talking can go a long ways. A kid that he nearly got into a fight with last year is now his best friend.

It's not always easy to teach your kid to be strong and stand up for themselves without resorting to violence.

While I wouldn't congradulate him on the victory, I would congradulate him on standing up for himself and explain why fighting isn't the answer.

If one of the GFY parental experts want to write that magical book, I'll buy the first copy...

beemk · 05-17-2004, 01:57 PM

tell him that he was good doing it in self defense, but if you catch him starting any fights hes in deep shit.

MandyBlake · 05-17-2004, 02:06 PM

I guess I have to be super detailed here lol.
I didn't mean that if another second grader calls him a name or something to go tell someone...I mean if things are so bad that kids are swinging at each other, to tell someone.

Jeff aka NIGHTfall · 05-17-2004, 02:16 PM

dont ground or yell at him for it... the other kid started it which means your kid isnt the trouble maker.. if your kid was starting shit then you give it to him, but being that he was protecting himself and stood up to the bully you pat him on the back and support him... if you ground him he will only be afraid to fight next time, and you dont want your kid to take a beating because he dont want to get grounded again... tell him even though fighting is bad and you do not approve of it, he did the right thing for not taking shit... just dont yell at him over it man, just think if you were in his shoes, the kid was picking on him, prolly threw the first punch and you tore him a new asshole... just my

maxdaname · 05-17-2004, 02:22 PM

Tell Him that now that he has a good reputation, he could charge other kids for protection!

Oncle_Benny · 05-17-2004, 02:25 PM

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Originally posted by detoxed
He might kick your ass if you piss him off

WebTitan · 05-17-2004, 02:28 PM

tell him like it is, fighting should be your last resort, but if you need to defend yourself, you do what you have to do to protect yourself

twistyneck · 05-17-2004, 02:33 PM

You should praise him, congratulate him on his first victory, and then reward him. This is Parenting 101 dude, you don't want him to grow up to be a pussy.

robfantasy · 05-17-2004, 02:37 PM

beat up the other kids dad because his son is an asshole

jk

blazin · 05-17-2004, 02:38 PM

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Originally posted by beemk
tell him that he was good doing it in self defense, but if you catch him starting any fights hes in deep shit.

Word

ella · 05-17-2004, 02:53 PM

good for him!!

NickPapageorgio · 05-17-2004, 02:54 PM

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Originally posted by twistyneck
You should praise him, congratulate him on his first victory, and then reward him. This is Parenting 101 dude, you don't want him to grow up to be a pussy.

Thing is his dad's a bigger fuckin punk than he is.

iDiz · 05-17-2004, 02:54 PM

Your kid the best!

Theo · 05-17-2004, 03:00 PM

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Originally posted by robfantasy
beat up the other kids dad because his son is an asshole

great idea

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Originally posted by robfantasy

jk

robfantasy · 05-17-2004, 03:01 PM

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Originally posted by Soul_Rebel
great idea

NickPapageorgio · 05-17-2004, 03:02 PM

McKracken · 05-17-2004, 03:13 PM

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Originally posted by MandyBlake
Ok...I guess I'm the only one on this board that feels this way, but I don't think you should tell him he did a good thing.
If you tell him that it was ok, because the other kid started it, then you're only promoting violence.
You should tell him that he shouldn't have hit the kid...explain that kids can be mean sometimes, but he should always go tell someone of authority what is going on. If you tell him that he shouldn't have hit the kid, then this behavior could continue.

first rule in my book.. dont be a rat!

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NickPapageorgio Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: NC Posts: 8,323	My kid kicked another kids ass.. Ok I know violence isn't good but my kid had his first fight today in second grade and he kicked the other kids ass. Do I tell him good job for not taking no shit. (The other kid started it) Or do I tell him he is a jackass for fighting? They need to include a manual with these kid things... __________________

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NickPapageorgio Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: NC Posts: 8,323	It does but...I am thinking that second graders are gonna be second graders. I would expect him to retain some of the dicipline if he were slightly older but with all his classmates standing around and this other kid fucking with him, I think his "family brand" temper got the best of him. He isn't in a whole lot of trouble but I did let him know I approve of him standing up for himself but not by the means in which he took. Plus no Xbox for a week... __________________

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WarChild Let slip the dogs of war. Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Bermuda Posts: 17,263	Nick, Depending on your child's after school and summer schedules .. You might want to consider martial arts for the little guy. Not only will he learn how to deffend himself, but he'll learn when not to do it. Dicipline at it's finest. Plus it's fun, and great exercise. Just a thought.

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TheFrog Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 4,095	Punish him, but forgive him like 10 mins into the punishment

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EviLGuY So Fucking Banned Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: malta Posts: 12,745	I'd punish him, but not too much. You want a kid thats willing to defend himself, but doesnt turn into the schoolground bully... at least I would.

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beergood Confirmed User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: United States Posts: 2,918	Tell him now that he's whipped the kids ass to start taking shit from him for protection such as lunch money, etc.

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V_RocKs Damn Right I Kiss Ass! Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Cowtown, USA Posts: 32,413	One of the reasons I liked Bruce Lee movies is that he never started it. He never walked in and started punching anyone, he just tried to bring the girl out and then only started fighting when they decided to throw the first punch. So if there is a lesson here, it is that your son waited until their was no other choice. In that situation, Martial Arts doctrine dictates that he can apply enough force to give his combatent the feeling that he has made a mistake and should back down.

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sicone Retired Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Sac Posts: 18,453	Did he fuck the kid up or did he have enopugh control to defend himself and keep the otehr kid from hurting him. Either way you should sit down and talk with him about it, make sure understands that defending himself is one thing, but taking it too far and injuring the other is not good. Dont punish the child if all he did was defend himself.. you may turn the child into the kid he gets his lunch dumped on him daily or the kid who gets thrown in the gym butt nekked in front of the school. In the end, if you feel he did right byhiself, then take him out to McDonalds and get him a sundae __________________

05-17-2004, 01:06 PM	#18
NickPapageorgio Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: NC Posts: 8,323	Well he was defending himself but he didn't go to the extreme. He hit the kid and knocked him down but no blood or missing teef or anything. The kid he hit is an ass too lol...I hate to be like that but he is. Spoilt little shit... __________________

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MetaMan I AM WEB 2.0 Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 28,682	beat the little shithead up, i hate kids.

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bizmak So Fucking Banned Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 10,014	Sign him up for karate or something...

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detoxed vip member Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 17,798	He might kick your ass if you piss him off

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Webasic Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 1,889	congrats I think the martial arts idea sounds like a good way to go.

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mindoza Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Philadelphia Posts: 1,625	Let him know that he can not always solve his problems with ass kicking and that if you go after someone you must be prepared for the other side, that you could get your ass kicked as well. As long as he knows that he should try everything else posible before he lets thinks escalate then you have to hope he makes the right choices in the heat of a moment! __________________ SIG TOO BIG! Maximum 120x60 button and no more than 3 text lines of DEFAULT SIZE and COLOR. Unless your sig is for a GFY top banner sponsor, then you may use a 624x80 instead of a 120x60.

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MandyBlake The one and only! Industry Role: Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Atlanta, GA Posts: 17,761	Ok...I guess I'm the only one on this board that feels this way, but I don't think you should tell him he did a good thing. If you tell him that it was ok, because the other kid started it, then you're only promoting violence. You should tell him that he shouldn't have hit the kid...explain that kids can be mean sometimes, but he should always go tell someone of authority what is going on. If you tell him that he shouldn't have hit the kid, then this behavior could continue. __________________ Mandy's Playhouse Her First Fat Girl If you're interested in promoting my sites, ICQ me! 178411921

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MandyBlake The one and only! Industry Role: Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Atlanta, GA Posts: 17,761	I guess I have to be super detailed here lol. I didn't mean that if another second grader calls him a name or something to go tell someone...I mean if things are so bad that kids are swinging at each other, to tell someone. __________________ Mandy's Playhouse Her First Fat Girl If you're interested in promoting my sites, ICQ me! 178411921

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Jeff aka NIGHTfall Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Port St. Lucie, Florida Posts: 5,162	dont ground or yell at him for it... the other kid started it which means your kid isnt the trouble maker.. if your kid was starting shit then you give it to him, but being that he was protecting himself and stood up to the bully you pat him on the back and support him... if you ground him he will only be afraid to fight next time, and you dont want your kid to take a beating because he dont want to get grounded again... tell him even though fighting is bad and you do not approve of it, he did the right thing for not taking shit... just dont yell at him over it man, just think if you were in his shoes, the kid was picking on him, prolly threw the first punch and you tore him a new asshole... just my __________________ Register Now For PimpinPays.com

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