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Originally posted by MandyBlake
Ok...I guess I'm the only one on this board that feels this way, but I don't think you should tell him he did a good thing.
If you tell him that it was ok, because the other kid started it, then you're only promoting violence.
You should tell him that he shouldn't have hit the kid...explain that kids can be mean sometimes, but he should always go tell someone of authority what is going on. If you tell him that he shouldn't have hit the kid, then this behavior could continue.
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obviously you have no kids of your own
while I'm not a fan of violence, if he just runs and tattles everytime someone starts a fight, he's going to get his ass kicked harder the next time.
I've taught my oldest son to stand up for himself, but that doesn't always mean beating the shit out of the other kid. Sometimes talking can go a long ways. A kid that he nearly got into a fight with last year is now his best friend.
It's not always easy to teach your kid to be strong and stand up for themselves without resorting to violence.
While I wouldn't congradulate him on the victory, I would congradulate him on standing up for himself and explain why fighting isn't the answer.
If one of the GFY parental experts want to write that magical book, I'll buy the first copy...