When does a persistant guy become a fucking stalker? - GoFuckYourself.com

MPBWhitney · 01-28-2004, 03:03 PM

This dude wont stop calling and text messaging me. Despite the fact i have not returned his calls or text messages in well over two weeks. I have only reallymet him twice ....

Does he cross the line when the calls come in three times a day and mid nite text messages at 3 am.?

The dude's a creep. I dont want to call him and tell him to fuck off cuz i really dont want to speak to him. I will have to keep sending to voicemail until he stops i guess.

RRRED · 01-28-2004, 03:04 PM

Have a guy answer the phone or have a guy do your voicemail message for you. He'll think you have something new going on the side and might just go away.

pornkitten · 01-28-2004, 03:05 PM

the guy sounds like a real loser

DreamCumTrue · 01-28-2004, 03:05 PM

Guys like that are just weird. Tell him he can't call like that because a) you use your phone for business or b) you aren't interested in him.

The text messaging at 3 am is just plain rude. Doesn't he understand you need to sleep?

Jman · 01-28-2004, 03:05 PM

ICQ me his number l'ill sista or his home address would even be much better

JCM · 01-28-2004, 03:05 PM

he is crazy!!!!
have him killed.

hershie · 01-28-2004, 03:06 PM

That sounds scary as you would think he would have gotten the meassage loud and clear by now that you aren't interested.

CDSmith · 01-28-2004, 03:06 PM

Why is he calling you?.... as in..... what does he want? Does he want to do gay things to you? What did you initially talk to him about that he is now calling so much?

And where do you get your hair cut?

Your post leaves so many questions unanswered.

Brad Xtremepay · 01-28-2004, 03:06 PM

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Originally posted by JMan
ICQ me his number l'ill sista or his home address would even be much better

What the J said.

Dwreck · 01-28-2004, 03:07 PM

OKOK I will stop

J-Reel · 01-28-2004, 03:07 PM

Answer the phone, and tell him to Fuck Off. It's not that tough.

sickkittens · 01-28-2004, 03:07 PM

Just answer and tell him to stop calling and that you're not interested. Some people are clueless and he probably thinks that there is still hope.

jimthefiend · 01-28-2004, 03:07 PM

it would help me give you better advice if you flashed your rack.

axelcat · 01-28-2004, 03:08 PM

When he dosnt get the point after telling him numerous times

MPBWhitney · 01-28-2004, 03:09 PM

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Originally posted by CDSmith
Why is he calling you?.... as in..... what does he want? Does he want to do gay things to you? What did you initially talk to him about that he is now calling so much?

And where do you get your hair cut?

Your post leaves so many questions unanswered.

He is calling ( ia m assuming) cuz he wants to hang out or something. I met him at a xmas party and we had lunch a few weeks later. We talked about lots of things mainly traveling etc just getting to know eachother.

Aaaand i get my hair cut at "head space"!

Rich · 01-28-2004, 03:10 PM

Send him a blunt text message... fuck off, stop calling me. If he keeps calling, get a guy friend to call him and tell him to leave you alone. If you don't have anyone I'm sure you could find some volunteers here.

rocki · 01-28-2004, 03:10 PM

you should post his phone number here so we can stalk him back...

MPBWhitney · 01-28-2004, 03:11 PM

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Originally posted by Rich
Send him a blunt text message... fuck off, stop calling me. If he keeps calling, get a guy friend to call him and tell him to leave you alone. If you don't have anyone I'm sure you could find some volunteers here.

Yeah I'm at the point whre i have to be really aggresssive. Its just not in my nature to be like that. I figured the cold shoulder and NEVER answering his calls or text messages would be enough. I guess not

MetaMan · 01-28-2004, 03:11 PM

maybe you shouldnt have strung him along?
maybe he thinks you just arent getting his calls.

hah women

pornstar2pac · 01-28-2004, 03:12 PM

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Originally posted by DreamCumTrue
Guys like that are just weird. Tell him he can't call like that because a) you use your phone for business or b) you aren't interested in him.

The text messaging at 3 am is just plain rude. Doesn't he understand you need to sleep?

He could be in europe and text messaging you at his lunch break not realizing it's 3:00am.

or he can be a freak.

BradShaw · 01-28-2004, 03:12 PM

If it is your boss, it is called sexual harassment.

MPBWhitney · 01-28-2004, 03:13 PM

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Originally posted by MetaMan
maybe you shouldnt have strung him along?
maybe he thinks you just arent getting his calls.

hah women

Nah i wasn't stringing shit along. We kicked it TWICE together, no sex was involved, no romanticism just a few drinks and sushi.

I suppose i should not have been so vague and i should have just said "dude im not interested" but thats just not my personality. I felt bad at first... and now i fucked myself.

boardersweetie · 01-28-2004, 03:15 PM

I can't tell you how many times me or close friends have had this happen to us. Depending on how gutsy you are, there are a lot of ways to deal with it. My roomie had me call her ex and tell him to fuck off. Another popular method that friends and I have used to deter stalker guys is to tell them you're a man-hating lesbian. You gotta add the man-hating part though or they'll get all these weird threesome fantasies. One last thing, it's my experience that telling a guy you have a boyfriend is NOT an effective deterent. They only see it as another hurdle to hop over.

NiTe-HaWk · 01-28-2004, 03:17 PM

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This dude wont stop calling and text messaging me. Despite the fact i have not returned his calls or text messages in well over two weeks. I have only reallymet him twice ....

Does he cross the line when the calls come in three times a day and mid nite text messages at 3 am.?

The dude's a creep. I dont want to call him and tell him to fuck off cuz i really dont want to speak to him. I will have to keep sending to voicemail until he stops i guess.

Be very careful about guys like this they are fucked in the head normally. I had a friend that had this happen 2 her. She had to change her number and stuff to get him to stop calling her. He was married with kids too.

NiTe-HaWk · 01-28-2004, 03:19 PM

Also document everything or the cops can not do anything if it gets worse. You also should just tell the police if it keeps up.

WiredGuy · 01-28-2004, 03:19 PM

Best way is really to just tell the guy you're not interested. If you don't want to tell him directly, leave him a voicemail and tell him that you're not interested in seeing him or make it casual like saying your not in a place to start a relationship or you're seeing someone else. This guy could just really like you (I can see why) and really be interested in you and if you let him down easy he'll likely go away. If not, the Jman approach should be used

WG

block · 01-28-2004, 03:21 PM

I'm not sure what you should do, but obviously the guy might be a little crazy for calling so much. Try search on google for some good info maybe.

Mrdredd · 01-28-2004, 03:21 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney
and now i fucked myself.

How many times do I gotta tell you to let me do that?

JustJen · 01-28-2004, 03:22 PM

Damn, Whit. I promise. I will sit Ian down and explain to him that he is just too old and creepy for you....... will that help?

shit. there goes Nice-Jen.

MPBWhitney · 01-28-2004, 03:23 PM

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Originally posted by NiTe-HaWk
Be very careful about guys like this they are fucked in the head normally. I had a friend that had this happen 2 her. She had to change her number and stuff to get him to stop calling her. He was married with kids too.

I know its like he is seriously oblivious to the fact ihave not returned his calls. He seemed rather desperate to begin with which was why i stopped talking to him all together... he seemed too obsessed way too quickly!

Froey Twe · 01-28-2004, 03:23 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney

Nah i wasn't stringing shit along. We kicked it TWICE together, no sex was involved, no romanticism just a few drinks and sushi.

I suppose i should not have been so vague and i should have just said "dude im not interested" but thats just not my personality. I felt bad at first... and now i fucked myself.

hey that last part sounded good for a sec

sorry to hear that you have a friend stalker, you should just tell him that it will never happen.

MPBWhitney · 01-28-2004, 03:24 PM

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Originally posted by WiredGuy
Best way is really to just tell the guy you're not interested. If you don't want to tell him directly, leave him a voicemail and tell him that you're not interested in seeing him or make it casual like saying your not in a place to start a relationship or you're seeing someone else. This guy could just really like you (I can see why) and really be interested in you and if you let him down easy he'll likely go away. If not, the Jman approach should be used

WG

Yeah thanks sweetie i may need to sick my brutha' Jman on him... lol

dantheman · 01-28-2004, 03:24 PM

ANSWER MY CALLS DAMNIT!

MPBWhitney · 01-28-2004, 03:26 PM

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Originally posted by PornkingsJen
Damn, Whit. I promise. I will sit Ian down and explain to him that he is just too old and creepy for you....... will that help?

shit. there goes Nice-Jen.

Hahahahahaha...

Fletch XXX · 01-28-2004, 03:26 PM

Froey Twe · 01-28-2004, 03:27 PM

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Originally posted by dantheman
ANSWER MY CALLS DAMNIT!

ahh its the stalker !!! kill him!

yys · 01-28-2004, 03:27 PM

How's this guy stalking you? People throw that term around to easily. Have you told this guy your not interested and to stop calling and text messaging you? If not then get too it. If the guy starts showing up at your work and home or you see his car following you around town then you have a stalker. Otherwise you just have yourself a smitten suitor who needs to be told the deal.

webair · 01-28-2004, 03:29 PM

politely ask him to stop calling you the next time he calls, if he doesn't get the hint at that point, it may be time for a restraining order...if that doesnt work:

BradShaw · 01-28-2004, 03:31 PM

Maybe he is upset customer about the spyware you guys installed on his pc. Or maybe he works for FTC and they are about to nail Charlo once again?

MPBWhitney · 01-28-2004, 03:32 PM

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Originally posted by yys
How's this guy stalking you? People throw that term around to easily. Have you told this guy your not interested and to stop calling and text messaging you? If not then get too it. If the guy starts showing up at your work and home or you see his car following you around town then you have a stalker. Otherwise you just have yourself a smitten suitor who needs to be told the deal.

I'm just pissed and yeah i told him to lay off and i would call him if i wanted to talk to him.

CDSmith · 01-28-2004, 03:32 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney
He is calling ( ia m assuming) cuz he wants to hang out or something. I met him at a xmas party and we had lunch a few weeks later. We talked about lots of things mainly traveling etc just getting to know eachother.

Aaaand i get my hair cut at "head space"!

Oh, it's YOU Whitney..... color me clueless, I didn't recognize your nick at first... I thought you were one of the guys here..... ha ha.

So you spent some time with the guy and now he thinks he has a shot? Well, no need to be rude at least at first..... just answer one of his calls or message him back and say you're not interested, you've met someone else and won't be taking calls from anyone else. Period.

If he calls after that, the gloves come off. <img SRC="http://members.shaw.ca/billy1-99/pics/boxer.gif">

Rich · 01-28-2004, 03:33 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney

Yeah I'm at the point whre i have to be really aggresssive. Its just not in my nature to be like that. I figured the cold shoulder and NEVER answering his calls or text messages would be enough. I guess not

Some people can't take a hint.

yys · 01-28-2004, 03:35 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney

I'm just pissed and yeah i told him to lay off and i would call him if i wanted to talk to him.

see, you made the mistake of leaving him a glimmer of hope that maybe just maybe he still has a chance to get into your pants. Just be blunt with the next guy. No need to beat around the bushes when you know that you don't like him; no need to be mean when you tell him though either.

MPBWhitney · 01-28-2004, 03:35 PM

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Originally posted by CDSmith
Oh, it's YOU Whitney..... color me clueless, I didn't recognize your nick at first... I thought you were one of the guys here..... ha ha.

So you spent some time with the guy and now he thinks he has a shot? Well, no need to be rude at least at first..... just answer one of his calls or message him back and say you're not interested, you've met someone else and won't be taking calls from anyone else. Period.

If he calls after that, the gloves come off. <img SRC="http://members.shaw.ca/billy1-99/pics/boxer.gif">

What color would clueless be? ;)

Yeah i'm gonna text him something today i needed to rant for abit... its really annoying and irritating and warped for him to call SO much!

Libertine · 01-28-2004, 03:41 PM

Simply tell him you're not interested. Not returning calls is not a good way of telling people... some people are rather blind.

WiredGuy · 01-28-2004, 03:42 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney
Yeah thanks sweetie i may need to sick my brutha' Jman on him... lol

Jman can definitely influence people

WG

Detour-Diva · 01-28-2004, 03:47 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney
This dude wont stop calling and text messaging me. Despite the fact i have not returned his calls or text messages in well over two weeks. I have only reallymet him twice ....

Does he cross the line when the calls come in three times a day and mid nite text messages at 3 am.?

The dude's a creep. I dont want to call him and tell him to fuck off cuz i really dont want to speak to him. I will have to keep sending to voicemail until he stops i guess.

Hey Whit....we could send him a picture of my pregnant belly and your head with the caption... "Sorry I haven't been able to return your call...life has taken an unexpected turn!"

MPBWhitney · 01-28-2004, 03:48 PM

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Originally posted by Detour-Diva

Hey Whit....we could send him a picture of my pregnant belly and your head with the caption... "Sorry I haven't been able to return your call...life has taken an unexpected turn!"

OMG LOL AHAHAHAHA

Thats brilliant!

BlackCrayon · 01-28-2004, 03:49 PM

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Originally posted by Rich

Some people can't take a hint.

hints are gay. why can't women just say straight up that they are not interested?

Detour-Diva · 01-28-2004, 03:53 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney

OMG LOL AHAHAHAHA Thats brilliant!

Hey...anything I can do to help!

01-28-2004, 03:03 PM	#1
MPBWhitney Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Vancouver, Canada Posts: 507	When does a persistant guy become a fucking stalker? This dude wont stop calling and text messaging me. Despite the fact i have not returned his calls or text messages in well over two weeks. I have only reallymet him twice .... Does he cross the line when the calls come in three times a day and mid nite text messages at 3 am.? The dude's a creep. I dont want to call him and tell him to fuck off cuz i really dont want to speak to him. I will have to keep sending to voicemail until he stops i guess. __________________ SIG TOO BIG! Maximum 120x60 button and no more than 3 text lines of DEFAULT SIZE and COLOR. Unless your sig is for a GFY top banner sponsor, then you may use a 624x80 instead of a 120x60.

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DreamCumTrue Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 2,985	Guys like that are just weird. Tell him he can't call like that because a) you use your phone for business or b) you aren't interested in him. The text messaging at 3 am is just plain rude. Doesn't he understand you need to sleep?

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Rich So Fucking Banned Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 11,486	Send him a blunt text message... fuck off, stop calling me. If he keeps calling, get a guy friend to call him and tell him to leave you alone. If you don't have anyone I'm sure you could find some volunteers here.

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MetaMan I AM WEB 2.0 Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 28,682	maybe you shouldnt have strung him along? maybe he thinks you just arent getting his calls. hah women

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boardersweetie Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Santa Barbara, ICQ 301-613-472 Posts: 1,889	I can't tell you how many times me or close friends have had this happen to us. Depending on how gutsy you are, there are a lot of ways to deal with it. My roomie had me call her ex and tell him to fuck off. Another popular method that friends and I have used to deter stalker guys is to tell them you're a man-hating lesbian. You gotta add the man-hating part though or they'll get all these weird threesome fantasies. One last thing, it's my experience that telling a guy you have a boyfriend is NOT an effective deterent. They only see it as another hurdle to hop over. Last edited by boardersweetie; 01-28-2004 at 03:18 PM..

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NiTe-HaWk Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: USA Posts: 1,196	Also document everything or the cops can not do anything if it gets worse. You also should just tell the police if it keeps up.

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yys Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 1,922	How's this guy stalking you? People throw that term around to easily. Have you told this guy your not interested and to stop calling and text messaging you? If not then get too it. If the guy starts showing up at your work and home or you see his car following you around town then you have a stalker. Otherwise you just have yourself a smitten suitor who needs to be told the deal. Last edited by yys; 01-28-2004 at 03:30 PM..

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