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MPBWhitney · 01-28-2004, 03:53 PM

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Originally posted by BlackCrayon

hints are gay. why can't women just say straight up that they are not interested?

I agree hints are gay... and unfortunatly because of how mellow the situation was i figured drifing off would be the best solution. I didn't want to seem arrogant or high on myself by stating that " iwas not interested" so quickly.

ElvisManson · 01-28-2004, 03:55 PM

hey Whitney...Best bet is to tell him it has got to the point where he is harrassing you and he should beat it.

if that doesn't work sic Jman on him..

Kimmykim · 01-28-2004, 04:00 PM

Tell him you've been too busy to take his calls because you had to spend some time at the clinic getting that rash taken care of, but now you're all better (for awhile at least) and that you'd LOVE to hang out and REALLY get to know him...

That should do the trick without hurting anyone's feelings lol.

Wiseman · 01-28-2004, 04:01 PM

I am sorry I thaught we both knew I was just messing with you!!!
Fuck I am sorry

Kimmykim · 01-28-2004, 04:02 PM

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Originally posted by THE WISEMAN
I am sorry I thaught we both knew I was just messing with you!!!
Fuck I am sorry

At least we all know where the rash came from now.

goBigtime · 01-28-2004, 04:03 PM

Return his call & give him an all-teeth blowjob.

He'll never call again.

MPBWhitney · 01-28-2004, 04:10 PM

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Originally posted by Kimmykim
Tell him you've been too busy to take his calls because you had to spend some time at the clinic getting that rash taken care of, but now you're all better (for awhile at least) and that you'd LOVE to hang out and REALLY get to know him...

That should do the trick without hurting anyone's feelings lol.

LOL good one!

MPBWhitney · 01-28-2004, 04:11 PM

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Originally posted by THE WISEMAN
I am sorry I thaught we both knew I was just messing with you!!!
Fuck I am sorry

You know i looooooooooove you!!!

CDSmith · 01-28-2004, 04:19 PM

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Originally posted by BlackCrayon
hints are gay. why can't women just say straight up that they are not interested?

Sorry but men are ten times worse for ignoring chicks and not returning calls, hoping they'll just "get the fucking hint" as it were. I really don't blame women for doing it back, people just need to realize that after you leave a few messages with no return call, LET IT GO and move on. If they call a week later with some excuse and an apology, great. If not, you've moved on already, right?

Right.

AmeliaG · 01-28-2004, 04:34 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney
This dude wont stop calling and text messaging me. Despite the fact i have not returned his calls or text messages in well over two weeks. I have only reallymet him twice ....

Does he cross the line when the calls come in three times a day and mid nite text messages at 3 am.?

The dude's a creep. I dont want to call him and tell him to fuck off cuz i really dont want to speak to him. I will have to keep sending to voicemail until he stops i guess.

He becomes a stalker when you file the restraining order

Eric · 01-28-2004, 04:47 PM

Prego or VD are the ways to go. Sure they are lies, but fuck it. Not like you want to see or hear from the dude again. and if you use prego and he sees you out somewhere just tell him you lost it and are an emotional wreck.

MPBWhitney · 01-28-2004, 10:42 PM

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Originally posted by AmeliaG

He becomes a stalker when you file the restraining order

Good point. ;)

AmeliaG · 01-28-2004, 10:48 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney

Good point. ;)

Just a suggestion if the guy is really driving you crazy after a while. You shouldn't be made afraid to use your own phone.

Anthony_A · 01-29-2004, 11:40 AM

Hey Whit,

Let me know if you want someone local to take care of this. Since I know you, it's free.

jasmine · 01-29-2004, 11:52 AM

Number 1 rule do not call him back, this will only encourage him to call you more. Once he knows you could care less hopefully he will get tired and stop calling you and move on to someone else.

How did this all start anyway ?

L0stMind · 01-29-2004, 11:55 AM

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Originally posted by BradShaw
If it is your boss, it is called sexual harassment.

hahahaha

Phoenix · 01-29-2004, 11:55 AM

Whitney, just tell him off.

ignoring him or returning his calls and leaving a message is not going to work

either never return a call again, or answer the phone next time, and politely tell him you are not interested. I'll get the hint then.

Jason · 01-29-2004, 12:00 PM

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Originally posted by JMan
ICQ me his number l'ill sista or his home address would even be much better

Call me when you get it JMan.. We have a way of dealing with this.

evilshaun · 01-29-2004, 12:10 PM

Whit,

When will CB get the picture that you only want to be friends...???

Cory W · 01-29-2004, 12:19 PM

Honestly, I don't think you should have to call him back. There is an established code of communication that is developed among those that hardly know each other.

Falls into the same category of a guy telling a girl he is not interested in her because he has a girlfriend when she approaches him. The fact that he lied is ok. If she finds out different and gets upset with him, then she is an idiot.

A guy forcing direct rejection upon himself is out of whack. Common sense would tell him that you aren't interested via the unreturned calls. He obviously lacks that.

If you have to speak with him, I say be honest and tell him that the sheer volume of phone calls contributed to your distaste for him. Maybe it will help him in the future.

MPBWhitney · 01-29-2004, 12:39 PM

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Originally posted by Anthony_A
Hey Whit,

Let me know if you want someone local to take care of this. Since I know you, it's free.

hahahaha DOPE thanks dude!

Jman · 01-29-2004, 12:55 PM

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Originally posted by PornDollar

Call me when you get it JMan.. We have a way of dealing with this.

HELL NO!!!

I can deal with this one on my own... Can send you the residue if ya want ;-))

69pornlinks · 01-29-2004, 12:57 PM

I usually stalk a chick till i get the ass

just give him some and then you won't have to worry about him calling anymore

VirtuMike · 01-29-2004, 01:10 PM

Tell him you're madly and passionately in love with a very large and powerful man from New Jersey named Mike. Tell him how every time you kiss him you get weak in the knees. Tell him every morning you wake up you wake up excited you have another day with the man you love. And tell him that your Jersey Boy feels the same way you do.

And ask if he's ever seen the Sopranos.

AbulletAway · 01-29-2004, 01:22 PM

It sounds like two different things have happened here that you are both responsible for.

You hung out with him twice. To you it may have been just that. To him they may have been dates. You seem like a really nice person and many are gonna take being nice and hanging out as girlfriend potential.

Where I think you were a little responsible is when you didn't call him and tell him you're not interested in him. From his point of view he met a great girl that likes him. You not returning his phone calls in his optimistic mind just mean you were or are too busy to get back to him. Expecting people to get the point in a situation like this is like asking them to read your mind. I'm not trying to say that you led him on or anything. I'm just saying that's how dating someone usually starts. You meet them, you hand out and you have fun.

However, if he did call repeated for days and you never called him back it should be common sense that you're not interested. But one, common sense isn't that common and two, common sense plays no part whatsoever in dating and liking someone.

I think you mentioned in one of your posts that you have now told him that you're not interested. That's good. If he keeps calling, write down the time he calls and what was said. If you have a voice mail or answering machine than save the tapes, call the police and make a report for "Annoying Phone Calls". I know in California its section 653m of the penal code and it's a misdemeanor unless he threatens you in some way and you believe that he has the ability to carry out the threat. Than it's called Terrorists threats and it's a felony.

Something similar happened to a girlfriend of mine. The cops took the report as a misdemeanor. The guy threatened to kill her. I went to the police station with her and a copy of the answering machine tapes. They changed it to terrorist threats and he was picked up in a day and arrested.

Remember if you can't prove it than in the eyes of the court, it never happened. So protect yourself.

Good luck and I hope it all works out well for you. I'm sure he just wasn't getting the hint and all will be well.

MPBWhitney · 01-29-2004, 03:28 PM

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Originally posted by VirtuMike
Tell him you're madly and passionately in love with a very large and powerful man from New Jersey named Mike. Tell him how every time you kiss him you get weak in the knees. Tell him every morning you wake up you wake up excited you have another day with the man you love. And tell him that your Jersey Boy feels the same way you do.

And ask if he's ever seen the Sopranos.

Your sweet!

Fluid of Fuck Me · 01-29-2004, 03:32 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney

I know its like he is seriously oblivious to the fact ihave not returned his calls. He seemed rather desperate to begin with which was why i stopped talking to him all together... he seemed too obsessed way too quickly!

you're in toronto right? Forward your phone number to the call number for 52 division. It'll get his attention REAL fast

My mom did this to her stalker when I was young, he departed quick

12clicks · 01-29-2004, 03:36 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney
When does a persistant guy become a fucking stalker?

I *did* tell you I was a big fan

MPBWhitney · 01-29-2004, 03:50 PM

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Originally posted by Fluid of Fuck Me

you're in toronto right? Forward your phone number to the call number for 52 division. It'll get his attention REAL fast My mom did this to her stalker when I was young, he departed quick

Nope I'm in Vancouver.

MPBWhitney · 01-29-2004, 03:52 PM

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Originally posted by 12clicks

I *did* tell you I was a big fan

Did? Meaning your not my fan anymore?

Fluid of Fuck Me · 01-29-2004, 03:55 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney

Nope I'm in Vancouver.

ok..something a little closer might be in order. RCMP or vancouver police.

Aly-Python · 01-29-2004, 04:14 PM

You've got to tell him to bugger off at some point, darling. Failing that, having a guy leaving a 'we're not available right now' message is a darn fine idea!

Steve · 01-29-2004, 04:19 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney

Nah i wasn't stringing shit along. We kicked it TWICE together, no sex was involved, no romanticism just a few drinks and sushi.

ah, he's trying to set up the third date, which means sex is legally binding in most states!

beemk · 01-29-2004, 04:22 PM

be mature and just tell him the truth. then if he keeps it up hes a stalker.

Herb Kornfield · 01-29-2004, 04:27 PM

Just tell him the truth, unfornately, most men dont seem to get the message even then. Once he finds someone else he'll forget about you and then harrass them in most cases.

Really, Just dont give out your# to anyone, make them earn the right to talk to you, lol... Have them only reach you via instant messages that way you can block their ass with ease.

I never like to give out my cell# unless its to a trusted person that way, I get no oddball calls.

Wanna talk?... Instant Message me.

Jman · 01-29-2004, 05:11 PM

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Originally posted by Fluid of Fuck Me

ok..something a little closer might be in order. RCMP or vancouver police.

RCMP or Vancouver Police... ROFLMAO... And what do you expect them to do???

Whitney you have my number I am a phone call away and will be downtown Vancouver ALL weekend. If this assclown is still calling I'll go knock knock on his door Babygirl ;-)

12Clicks, I sure hope it's you. I always love it when you and I get roughed up .. ;-)))

12clicks · 01-29-2004, 05:11 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney

Did? Meaning your not my fan anymore?

No, I've crossed the line to stalker.

If Virtuemike's face doesn't scare him away, send him my way.

webgurl · 01-29-2004, 05:23 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney

He is calling ( ia m assuming) cuz he wants to hang out or something. I met him at a xmas party and we had lunch a few weeks later. We talked about lots of things mainly traveling etc just getting to know eachother.

Aaaand i get my hair cut at "head space"!

whitney , gotta becareful who u give your info to lots of pyscho's ... oh and my b/f bought a loft right across the street from "head space" that artsy farty round high rise ...

Ross · 01-29-2004, 05:25 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney
Does he cross the line when the calls come in three times a day and mid nite text messages at 3 am.?

That to me is time to get the cops in. Stop giving your number out to weird people.

Holly Lez! · 01-29-2004, 05:28 PM

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Originally posted by MPBWhitney
This dude wont stop calling and text messaging me. Despite the fact i have not returned his calls or text messages in well over two weeks. I have only reallymet him twice ....

Does he cross the line when the calls come in three times a day and mid nite text messages at 3 am.?

The dude's a creep. I dont want to call him and tell him to fuck off cuz i really dont want to speak to him. I will have to keep sending to voicemail until he stops i guess.

Whitney,
Just tell him about us!

WankTank · 01-29-2004, 06:25 PM

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Originally posted by jimthefiend
it would help me give you better advice if you flashed your rack.

Very well put. I agree

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01-28-2004, 04:47 PM	#61
Eric Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: The Helm! Posts: 8,818	Prego or VD are the ways to go. Sure they are lies, but fuck it. Not like you want to see or hear from the dude again. and if you use prego and he sees you out somewhere just tell him you lost it and are an emotional wreck. __________________ No One

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01-29-2004, 11:52 AM	#65
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01-29-2004, 11:55 AM	#67
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01-28-2004, 03:55 PM	#52
ElvisManson Looking California Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 5,476	hey Whitney...Best bet is to tell him it has got to the point where he is harrassing you and he should beat it. if that doesn't work sic Jman on him..

01-28-2004, 04:00 PM	#53
Kimmykim bitchslapping zebras!!!!! Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: In a shack by the beach Posts: 16,015	Tell him you've been too busy to take his calls because you had to spend some time at the clinic getting that rash taken care of, but now you're all better (for awhile at least) and that you'd LOVE to hang out and REALLY get to know him... That should do the trick without hurting anyone's feelings lol.

01-28-2004, 04:03 PM	#56
goBigtime Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 7,761	Return his call & give him an all-teeth blowjob. He'll never call again.

01-29-2004, 12:10 PM	#69
evilshaun Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 295	Whit, When will CB get the picture that you only want to be friends...???

01-29-2004, 12:19 PM	#70
Cory W Deeply shallow Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Hollywood, Ca. Posts: 9,133	Honestly, I don't think you should have to call him back. There is an established code of communication that is developed among those that hardly know each other. Falls into the same category of a guy telling a girl he is not interested in her because he has a girlfriend when she approaches him. The fact that he lied is ok. If she finds out different and gets upset with him, then she is an idiot. A guy forcing direct rejection upon himself is out of whack. Common sense would tell him that you aren't interested via the unreturned calls. He obviously lacks that. If you have to speak with him, I say be honest and tell him that the sheer volume of phone calls contributed to your distaste for him. Maybe it will help him in the future.

01-29-2004, 12:57 PM	#73
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01-29-2004, 01:10 PM	#74
VirtuMike Confirmed User Join Date: May 2002 Location: Seat 1A Posts: 2,483	Tell him you're madly and passionately in love with a very large and powerful man from New Jersey named Mike. Tell him how every time you kiss him you get weak in the knees. Tell him every morning you wake up you wake up excited you have another day with the man you love. And tell him that your Jersey Boy feels the same way you do. And ask if he's ever seen the Sopranos. __________________ Host it in AMSTERDAM at EUROTIVITY! - We also offer BACKUP SERVICES! XYZZY4L

01-29-2004, 01:22 PM	#75
AbulletAway Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Hesperia, CA Posts: 760	It sounds like two different things have happened here that you are both responsible for. You hung out with him twice. To you it may have been just that. To him they may have been dates. You seem like a really nice person and many are gonna take being nice and hanging out as girlfriend potential. Where I think you were a little responsible is when you didn't call him and tell him you're not interested in him. From his point of view he met a great girl that likes him. You not returning his phone calls in his optimistic mind just mean you were or are too busy to get back to him. Expecting people to get the point in a situation like this is like asking them to read your mind. I'm not trying to say that you led him on or anything. I'm just saying that's how dating someone usually starts. You meet them, you hand out and you have fun. However, if he did call repeated for days and you never called him back it should be common sense that you're not interested. But one, common sense isn't that common and two, common sense plays no part whatsoever in dating and liking someone. I think you mentioned in one of your posts that you have now told him that you're not interested. That's good. If he keeps calling, write down the time he calls and what was said. If you have a voice mail or answering machine than save the tapes, call the police and make a report for "Annoying Phone Calls". I know in California its section 653m of the penal code and it's a misdemeanor unless he threatens you in some way and you believe that he has the ability to carry out the threat. Than it's called Terrorists threats and it's a felony. Something similar happened to a girlfriend of mine. The cops took the report as a misdemeanor. The guy threatened to kill her. I went to the police station with her and a copy of the answering machine tapes. They changed it to terrorist threats and he was picked up in a day and arrested. Remember if you can't prove it than in the eyes of the court, it never happened. So protect yourself. Good luck and I hope it all works out well for you. I'm sure he just wasn't getting the hint and all will be well. __________________ 11 MODEL SITES \| NOW WITH PPS Sign up now or your dog will die.

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01-29-2004, 04:27 PM	#85
Herb Kornfield Is on the 1 Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Philly Burbs Posts: 4,996	Just tell him the truth, unfornately, most men dont seem to get the message even then. Once he finds someone else he'll forget about you and then harrass them in most cases. Really, Just dont give out your# to anyone, make them earn the right to talk to you, lol... Have them only reach you via instant messages that way you can block their ass with ease. I never like to give out my cell# unless its to a trusted person that way, I get no oddball calls. Wanna talk?... Instant Message me.