help me with my girl!!!

[StickyGreen]

what the fuck should i do? me and my girl been together for a year as of yesterday...and our sex is OFF THE FUCKEN HOOK. i hate to say it but i think thats what really keeps us together. i do really care about her...but the problem is she'll trip off little shit and we both turn it into huge arguments and she goes crazy all the time. tonite it got really bad almost to the point where i found myself about to get physical with her. that is the last straw for me...but now i dont know...its only been a few hours a i miss her a lot...we barely ever spend time apart...its like we're fucking married. so what shuold i do? is our relationship really unhealthy and we just dont wanna admit it and give it up? or should we stick it out cuz we're really meant for each other??? help!

[brand0n]

1st time with a girl? they are alot diffrent then men.

[StickyGreen]

no its not my first time with a girl...and yes i know they're different from men...what the fuck is that shit supposed to mean?

[stocktrader23]

Originally posted by brand0n
1st time with a girl? they are alot diffrent then men.

[wdsguy]

u need to fuck other chix

[fuzebox]

My relation ship with my girl was like that sex was great and we loved being together but she said the shit wasnt thre so she dupmed me but a fwe mnonths later we goth abck toegehter and nwo it's all good sex is better than before !@!woot so yeah it sall good.... someone otld me if you love soemthing let it go and if it wa s meant to be it 'll coem abck s ot ry tthat out



focking aclohoool

[[Brian]]

sounds hopeless -- unless you're young, then at least you have the hope of evolving together and the relationship going in better directions

[vapser]

I have been with my BF for 2 years and we have only had a few fights. We have lived together for 1 year, and in that time i only think we have had one big argument.
You guys have to sit down and have a talk about what you want to do with this. It sounds like she has made you the "under dog" in this relationship, and that just doesn't work!
You have to meet each other halfway and not fight about the little things. Look at it in the big picture and i gotta say, nobody can answer the question about you 2 splitting up, or not. you could be made for each other, if you start to talk about things in stead of fight. And further more, i think you need to tell her that a relationship is like being equal partners, dont let it get you down when she get's pissed about the little things, tell her that you love her and leave it be. Be the bigger man, and talk to her about why she feels the need to get pissed all the time?
She must have some kind of aggression that might lay awhile back?

Hope you guys work it out. And don't let other people control how your relationship should or shouldn't work out ;)

[StickyGreen]

well see, thats actually what i did. before the summer we would fight and i finally told her to fuck off cuz it wasnt working. i regretted it like a week after i did it...but she went to washington for the summer. we both had our summers apart...but when she came back to california we went out to dinner and sparks flew...we ended up sleeping with each other again that night and were back together ever since. so i guess in theory i did let it go and it came back...so what does that mean?

[fuzebox]

Oh man you were reading into what I was saying? nice?.

Taht's what people told me anwyay. My gf was with my BES TFUCKING FRINED for like 2 weeks, fucking tore me aprt, this was 6 months ago and I nor my friend ahv spoke to him since, and w'ere back together....

Still bothers me, but if I want to make the realtionship workt I have to sput it behind eme, so ....



sorry fo rthe enrgrish i just go back tfom a chrismtasparty and I can barely stand but i'm not ready to apss out yet so i'm posting

[GonePhishing]

Hard to say... It depends on if you really want to stay with her. I dated a girl that I would have big fights with... We also didn't spend much time apart... Eventually, we were pretty miserable together. I think if we didn't have a lot of fights that went on too long we would be okay.

I understand if you really love this girl... I loved the girl mentioned above... The thing is the fighting really did make me unhappy. This is the thing... I didn't think relationships should have frequent fights or drama. I met a girl three years ago that I have been dating ever since. In stark contrast... We seldom argue and when we do it is very civil. I can honestly say I am so much happier and stable with that kind of relationship... I guess it depends on your threshold for fighting... Mine is very low... The sound of fighting bothers me.

[xenigo]

When your relationship consist mostly of petty arguments, and is held together only by great sex, I'd say it's time to break it off as a relationship... and maybe hold onto her as a bootycall. I was with my girlfriend for the same amount of time, but after about a year she was begging me to get married. Around this time came some deep thought about the plans for my future, and I couldn't imagine spending the rest of my life with someone who's completely emotionally unstable, and has no ability to reason rationally. I'd say that when your relationship is overwhelmed by petty arguments, break it off. There's way too many fish in the sea to invest all your energy into making a relationship work that could be a lot better with someone else.

[liquidmoe]

I have a friend going through something similar except shes the girl in the relationship. They've been together a few years but they constantly fight about stupid petty shit. And it always turns into these huge arguments, there isn't much besides the sex that still keeps them together. Honestly, if the fights are occuring very often, and they arent substantial it may be time to call the relationship quits. There are certainly plenty of fish in the sea, certainly some girls who fuck better and some who wont give you as much grief just gotta find the one that does both better

[Undutchable]

I see it like this, you guys are interested in each other and thats a start. A LOT of women are with guys they're only mildly interested in but can't find any better at that particular moment. Your case sounds a lot healthier than that

But it does stop there. You're simply incompatible. If you fight over petty shit then it means that even small things you two have big differences about. Save yourself the time and cut her off as relationship material completely.

It'll be hard to do but it'll be one of the best things you've ever done in the long-term. The last thing you want is waking up next to someone you can't stand and has lost her once-so-great physical qualities. Bail while you can.

Growing old with a woman can be a beautiful thing, but you'd better be compatible

[Johny Traffic]

dump the bitch

[irishfury]

I don't even argue with woman anymore.....it's amazing I learned how to let go fast....I can walk away from a woman in 30 seconds...I hate fighting over petty shit. I am a real logical person so fighting over dumb shit doesn't make since to me....so if they get pissed over petty shit...I just smile and nod.....

[StickyGreen]

/\ you smart. the only problem is its easier said then done...somehow we always end up back together...so i dunno...

[Mr Pheer]

more than 1 fish in the sea, send her packing
find one that isnt nuts and that you can along with

they all can fuck, but not all are mentaly stable

never, ever fucking stay around someone that makes you unhappy, why waste your time on that kind of bullshit

[kmanrox]

bang other chicks and see if u still like her best.... if you dont bang other chicks then u will miss her cuz yer used to her.....

[pornkitten]

dont bang other chicks that is mean, its true you wont miss her as much but you might feel bad if you really love this girl. Try to talk to the girl and if she doesnt want to stop arguing then break up with her. Tell her how you feel and figure out what the problems r.

[strobi]

Originally posted by pornkitten
dont bang other chicks that is mean, its true you wont miss her as much but you might feel bad if you really love this girl. Try to talk to the girl and if she doesnt want to stop arguing then break up with her. Tell her how you feel and figure out what the problems r.

If a woman is the arguing type she will never ever stop doing that... People NEVER change.

[wyldblyss]

If you would have asked this question of me 6 years ago I would have told you to forget the relationship and move on because it was doomed.

Then I met my husband. Our first year was rocky and everything told me that it wasn't going to work. Then some miracle happend and we both came to the conclusion that most of the time we were "making much ado about nothing".

In other words we were having a lot of useless arguments over really stupid stuff.

I remembered what my father had told me years before and I try to always use it. It goes like this:

Before you get all hot headed and blow your stack, first think of the importance of what is making you angry. If it is something that will effect your life 10 years down the road then get pissed. If 6 months from now you won't be able to remember it, then it is just not worth your time and energy making a fuss about it.


So, if your husband cheats on you, then that is something you will remember and it is ok to get angry. If your husband forgets to take the trash out 3 weeks in a row, you aren't going to remember it so forget about it. Sure you can say "the trash is your job, please do it" But to get in a huge argument about it is silly.

Save your arguments for the important stuff.

[chodadog]

Simple rule: Nod and smile. Pretend she's always right. Say sorry. Be her bitch and enjoy the sex.

[Kicker]

Originally posted by wdsguy
u need to fuck other chix

It is the best decision

[beemk]

treat girls like dirt and they will stick like mud

[Raf1]

Originally posted by beemk
treat girls like dirt and they will stick like mud

Strange... but true

[jimmyf]

Write Ann Landers

[Carlito]

Originally posted by Undutchable


But it does stop there. You're simply incompatible. If you fight over petty shit then it means that even small things you two have big differences about. Save yourself the time and cut her off as relationship material completely.

I can almost say that the only reason i`m still with my GF is that i`m worried about how she`d react after I broke it off. I am literally looking for an excuse to break it off. All I ever want to do is work, and she really fucks that up everytime she comes to my place. In that I may be strange, but its how I want to be, and thus we are incompatible.

I have no idea how to let her go. She has nothing and i`ve helped her with that, but my help was only necessary because she is nuts. Kinda thinking about breaking it off if possible, as soon as she finishes college and can get her life started.

[tical]

Originally posted by Carlito



I can almost say that the only reason i`m still with my GF is that i`m worried about how she`d react after I broke it off. I am literally looking for an excuse to break it off. All I ever want to do is work, and she really fucks that up everytime she comes to my place. In that I may be strange, but its how I want to be, and thus we are incompatible.

I have no idea how to let her go. She has nothing and i`ve helped her with that, but my help was only necessary because she is nuts. Kinda thinking about breaking it off if possible, as soon as she finishes college and can get her life started.

don't stay with a girl out of pity

cheat on her and get caught... she'll think she's doing the right thing when she leaves you. just make sure you backup all of your shit and convienently hide your valuables

[Furious_Female]

Chances are she will always argue with you about petty things until she trusts you enough that she doesn't feel the need to. Women like a lot of attention and she wants to be sure you are giving it to her.

She's probably starting many of the arguments to test you and see what you do. In her mind, if you walk away or dump her, you don't love her but if you stick around and battle it out with her, then you really do love her. Twisted but true.

She's insecure and that's normal in a lot of women, especially young ones. I don't know how old she is, but it sounds like she is young.

It doesn't sound like the relationship is just sexual, because you said you miss her when you aren't with her and that means your emotions/feelings are there as well.

Obviously you care about her to even bring this up... so you need to communicate with her. If it's making you unhappy now, it will make you unhappy in the future. You'll have a pattern of make up/break up for years... then eventually you'll get sick of it and end it for good. Possibly throwing away the right one, because you guys didn't do the right thing for each other. If you love her and you know she loves you, nip it in the bud now. Make her trust you, don't give her reasons not to... but also tell her how it makes you feel. She will justify her arguments, because to her, she's fighting for a cause, but probably not the right one. Find out what's going on in her head.... compromise but make sure she understands its heading for disaster if she doesn't make an effort to lighten up. I don't know what she starts arguments over, but chances are she's starting them over something much bigger than the trivial things you think it is.

If you love her and want to make it work... talk to her, honestly and don't hold anything back. Many guys make the mistake of not wanting to talk about things and that's how emotions build up and eventually explode. If you aren't happy and she isn't willing to make you happy, end it now before it goes on for a long time... which would be even worse if it ended later than sooner. If both of you want to be with each other, do what it takes to make each other happy. It's not healthy the way it is, but it can be if you communicate with honesty.

[Nanda]

Originally posted by StickyGreen
what the fuck should i do? me and my girl been together for a year as of yesterday...and our sex is OFF THE FUCKEN HOOK. i hate to say it but i think thats what really keeps us together. i do really care about her...but the problem is she'll trip off little shit and we both turn it into huge arguments and she goes crazy all the time. tonite it got really bad almost to the point where i found myself about to get physical with her. that is the last straw for me...but now i dont know...its only been a few hours a i miss her a lot...we barely ever spend time apart...its like we're fucking married. so what shuold i do? is our relationship really unhealthy and we just dont wanna admit it and give it up? or should we stick it out cuz we're really meant for each other??? help!

If u already fight to the point where you want to get physical...get out before you physically hurt each other...once you loose respect it gets bad. With time the arguments can escalate to larger worst things..
Unless you both feel like seeing a councelor...

[IntenseCash]

1st mistake... trying to get advise from GFY members about relationships.

Good Luck! Hard to say what to do when I dont know you in person.

[wyldblyss]

Originally posted by jimmyf
Write Ann Landers

Ann Landers died so I don't think she could be of too much help to him