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wyldblyss · 12-07-2003, 08:41 AM

If you would have asked this question of me 6 years ago I would have told you to forget the relationship and move on because it was doomed.

Then I met my husband. Our first year was rocky and everything told me that it wasn't going to work. Then some miracle happend and we both came to the conclusion that most of the time we were "making much ado about nothing".

In other words we were having a lot of useless arguments over really stupid stuff.

I remembered what my father had told me years before and I try to always use it. It goes like this:

Before you get all hot headed and blow your stack, first think of the importance of what is making you angry. If it is something that will effect your life 10 years down the road then get pissed. If 6 months from now you won't be able to remember it, then it is just not worth your time and energy making a fuss about it.

So, if your husband cheats on you, then that is something you will remember and it is ok to get angry. If your husband forgets to take the trash out 3 weeks in a row, you aren't going to remember it so forget about it. Sure you can say "the trash is your job, please do it" But to get in a huge argument about it is silly.

Save your arguments for the important stuff.

12-07-2003, 08:41 AM
wyldblyss Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: The Buck Starts Here Posts: 5,779	If you would have asked this question of me 6 years ago I would have told you to forget the relationship and move on because it was doomed. Then I met my husband. Our first year was rocky and everything told me that it wasn't going to work. Then some miracle happend and we both came to the conclusion that most of the time we were "making much ado about nothing". In other words we were having a lot of useless arguments over really stupid stuff. I remembered what my father had told me years before and I try to always use it. It goes like this: Before you get all hot headed and blow your stack, first think of the importance of what is making you angry. If it is something that will effect your life 10 years down the road then get pissed. If 6 months from now you won't be able to remember it, then it is just not worth your time and energy making a fuss about it. So, if your husband cheats on you, then that is something you will remember and it is ok to get angry. If your husband forgets to take the trash out 3 weeks in a row, you aren't going to remember it so forget about it. Sure you can say "the trash is your job, please do it" But to get in a huge argument about it is silly. Save your arguments for the important stuff.