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ThunderBalls · 11-17-2003, 01:50 PM

Curious if others think this is out of line or am I over reacting.

I have a 5 year old in kindergarten. My ex wife has him 3 days a week and I have him 4 days a week and I am the legal primary decision maker of him. Recently my girlfriend moved in with me and she also has a 5 year old. When she went to register him at the same school as my kid the principal asked her if my ex was aware we were living together and she said (the principal) that she needed to make sure it was okay with my ex that her kid was going to be attending the same school. My girlfriend asked her why she needed to call my ex and she said because she knew there was "conflict and tension" between me and my ex, which is completely untrue, we get along fine.

So the principal called my ex and told her the situation. My ex already knew and doesnt care but I think its fucking bullshit that these assholes think they can invade my personal life like this not to mention slander me by telling my girlfriend there is 'tension and conflict'.

Should I just let this go?

EZRhino · 11-17-2003, 01:54 PM

Fucking principle needs to stay out of your business. If it happens again I would definately do something about it.

hyatla · 11-17-2003, 01:54 PM

Let her

Brad-Wishing · 11-17-2003, 01:55 PM

No. I would talk to her and state that the situation is none of her business - and that enrolling in school is enrolling in school.

Call her. I don't think I would let that go easily.

Sly_RJ · 11-17-2003, 01:55 PM

Principal was completely out of line. I'd just write it off, but if you're really pissed, send a letter to the Super. Don't even bother with the Principal, go right to the head honcho.

tootie · 11-17-2003, 01:56 PM

WTF? That sounds like a severe invasion of privacy to me. I think the principal was probably against you living with someone without being married (none of her fucking business) and thought she could get you in trouble or something. I don't know that there is much that you could do about it, but that's just wrong

basschick · 11-17-2003, 01:56 PM

call your school board - that is bullshit. with all the privacy issues in schools today, i seriously doubt they're allowed to inform your ex of anything you do. shit, what if she's a nut and goes and blows you away because you're living with another woman?

Furious_Female · 11-17-2003, 01:56 PM

WTF that's none of the principal's business who you live with and whom knows about it. That was wrong for her to call anyone.

theking · 11-17-2003, 02:00 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by ThunderBalls
Curious if others think this is out of line or am I over reacting.

I have a 5 year old in kindergarten. My ex wife has him 3 days a week and I have him 4 days a week and I am the legal primary decision maker of him. Recently my girlfriend moved in with me and she also has a 5 year old. When she went to register him at the same school as my kid the principal asked her if my ex was aware we were living together and she said (the principal) that she needed to make sure it was okay with my ex that her kid was going to be attending the same school. My girlfriend asked her why she needed to call my ex and she said because she knew there was "conflict and tension" between me and my ex, which is completely untrue, we get along fine.

So the principal called my ex and told her the situation. My ex already knew and doesnt care but I think its fucking bullshit that these assholes think they can invade my personal life like this not to mention slander me by telling my girlfriend there is 'tension and conflict'.

Should I just let this go?

Private or public school? If it is a private school...is it a religious or secular school?

detoxed · 11-17-2003, 02:02 PM

Shoot the principal in the head and you wont have to deal with that BS anymore.

Basic_man · 11-17-2003, 02:03 PM

Well, what else can you do about that? I don't think you can get a penny from that situation

Sosa · 11-17-2003, 02:04 PM

WTF? Why would the principle even take it that far? I'd give him/her a call

doober · 11-17-2003, 02:05 PM

north america is so disfunctionnal

Sly_RJ · 11-17-2003, 02:06 PM

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Originally posted by Basic_man
Well, what else can you do about that? I don't think you can get a penny from that situation

Ahaha, first thing you do is look for a law suit?

LadyMischief · 11-17-2003, 02:06 PM

That is absolutely NOTHING to do with the principal. I would seriously consider taking it to the school board. She's inflating the situation and although she might have had best interests, what she did could be construed as malicious.

ThunderBalls · 11-17-2003, 02:23 PM

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Originally posted by Brad-Wishing
No. I would talk to her and state that the situation is none of her business - and that enrolling in school is enrolling in school.

Call her. I don't think I would let that go easily.

I did speak to the principal and asked her why she felt it to be necessary to 'clear this with my ex' even though I am the legal decision maker. It was the first time I ever spoke to her and she was a fucking bitch, she used the old 'best interest of the kid' bullshit. I think this is nothing more than gender discrimination, she probably feels women are the ones that should be with their kids.

Fu-Q · 11-17-2003, 02:25 PM

i hear if you duct tape a towel to a baseball bat, it wont break bones (or at least as easy). that sounds like the route i would take

theking · 11-17-2003, 02:30 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by ThunderBalls

I did speak to the principal and asked her why she felt it to be necessary to 'clear this with my ex' even though I am the legal decision maker. It was the first time I ever spoke to her and she was a fucking bitch, she used the old 'best interest of the kid' bullshit. I think this is nothing more than gender discrimination, she probably feels women are the ones that should be with their kids.

Private or public school?

EscortBiz · 11-17-2003, 02:30 PM

out of line

but I never had a kid in school so I dont know how it works, even myself I cant remember school I was a total dropout

ThunderBalls · 11-17-2003, 02:30 PM

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Originally posted by theking

Private or public school?

Public school, I guess I could see it if it was a private school.

TheLegacy · 11-17-2003, 02:31 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by ThunderBalls
Curious if others think this is out of line or am I over reacting.

Should I just let this go?

No - you are within your rights and the principal was not!! I would suggest calling a lawyer, if nothing else - charge a few site(s) to the principals CC and get them kicked out that way.

fyrflygrl · 11-17-2003, 02:47 PM

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Originally posted by ThunderBalls

I did speak to the principal and asked her why she felt it to be necessary to 'clear this with my ex' even though I am the legal decision maker. It was the first time I ever spoke to her and she was a fucking bitch, she used the old 'best interest of the kid' bullshit. I think this is nothing more than gender discrimination, she probably feels women are the ones that should be with their kids.

Whoa. This principal has overstepped her boundaries by leaps and bounds. A judge has already made you the primary care giver of this child, not to mention your God given right to determine 'what's in the best interest of the kid'. Not all parents are fruit cakes and some of us really do know what's best for our kids. Why? Because they're OUR kids!!

She's made an inaccurate assumptioin and acted on it. No stretch of the imagination could relate this to the course and scope of her responsibility as principal.

I'd react by making my presence felt at the next board of education meeting in your area. I'd force them to address the situation, the same way she forced her hand in your family: without consideration or permission.

Fyrflygrl!

Furious_Female · 11-17-2003, 02:49 PM

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Originally posted by TheLegacy

No - you are within your rights and the principal was not!! I would suggest calling a lawyer, if nothing else - charge a few site(s) to the principals CC and get them kicked out that way.

Actually signing her email up for a few opt-in lists would be better

Unfortunately any recourse will be taken out on the children. We've all had those bitchy school teacher's that forever hate you after your parent has a problem with something they do.

GTS Mark · 11-17-2003, 02:51 PM

You know what this might conflict with what everyone else is saying but at least the pricipal was looking out for YOUR child's best interest. I don't agree with the invasion of privacy but at least he/she cares about your kid.

DH

DatingGold · 11-17-2003, 02:55 PM

i'd just call the principal to ask the reasoning behind it politely

goBigtime · 11-17-2003, 02:56 PM

I would anonymously call her husband (the principles) and tell him that you are a 'concerned faculty member' who thought that he should be aware that his wife is having on-campus affairs with two of the staff members.

EscortBiz · 11-17-2003, 02:56 PM

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Originally posted by DatingGold
i'd just call the principal to ask the reasoning behind it politely

nah wont work

ThunderBalls · 11-17-2003, 02:56 PM

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Originally posted by Furious_Female

Actually signing her email up for a few opt-in lists would be better

Unfortunately any recourse will be taken out on the children. We've all had those bitchy school teacher's that forever hate you after your parent has a problem with something they do.

Yep, thats the problem. Any boat rocking I do will cause problems for my kid.

Furious_Female · 11-17-2003, 03:00 PM

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Originally posted by ThunderBalls

Yep, thats the problem. Any boat rocking I do will cause problems for my kid.

I guess you'll just have to grin and bear it the best you can. On a lighter note, with all the attention on kidnapped kids, school might be advised to investigate any possible situations. Better to be safe than sorry I guess. So at least she is doing her job, even if it's personally offensive.

axelcat · 11-17-2003, 03:00 PM

that principle is a moron

Tala · 11-17-2003, 03:03 PM

That was completely outta line. I would find a new school for my kids, or better yet, homeschool them.

That principal needs a visit from the superintendant, in your presence, to be reviewed on things you do and don't do. If that doesn't help, move the kids to a different school or district altogether, even if you have to drive them yourself.

FrankWhite · 11-17-2003, 03:08 PM

you should move out from your Hicksville and move to a bigger city, where you principle doesn?t know what?s going on in your life !

Rich · 11-17-2003, 03:22 PM

Please, whatever you do, DON'T let this go. Call the school board and/or the superintendant, and make sure they follow up on it. What she did was a total invasion or privacy, people who abuse their power like that make me sick. Don't let her get away with pulling that shit or she'll just keep doing it.

<---- DAMN THE MAN, DON'T PROMOTE THIS BULLSHIT. ANYONE WITH A GOOD PROGRAM THAT WILL MAKE WEBMASTERS MONEY DOES NOT NEED TO WHORE IT OUT LIKE THIS.

bopha · 11-17-2003, 03:39 PM

Don't use baseball bats or threats. Be a concerned parent and be smart.

Schedule a meeting with your child's principal and before you do, type a letter that you will copy and have sent to the board asking where in the school handbook, you'll find that consulting another parent was in order before enrolling a student that is of no relation to the parent that was consulted. You can get a lot done with concerned parent letters to the Superintendent, and board of Education. Alienating potential families of the school is not the proper stance to take especially when parental involvement in schools is critical and is of benefit to not only your own child but your girlfriends child.

Unless there is a restraining order in effect for biological mom or or your child, there is no reason that biological mom should be
consulted before enrolling a student that is of no relation to her.

If your school is public, they cannot turn away your girlfriends child. If your talking about private school, they would have more latitude, although, tact was surely lacking here. They could have simply said they were full and not take the child if it was a conflict with your child's mom. Sometimes smaller,private schools are on such a personal level with tuition paying parents and for non state funded schools, you might have a little more resistance
if mom has a relationship with the principal. She was wrong to pointedly pry.

I'd still follow through as a "concerned parent".

Schools have to deal with all kinds of unsavory situations and act in unjudgemental fashion for a miriad of crappy parents and bad situations for the children. This woman was out of line to act in this fashion. Partners living together is not unusual.

Good luck.

sperbonzo · 11-17-2003, 04:11 PM

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Originally posted by goBigtime
I would anonymously call her husband (the principles) and tell him that you are a 'concerned faculty member' who thought that he should be aware that his wife is having on-campus affairs with two of the staff members.

This is the best suggestion.......

along with calling the regional Superintendent of schools and the school board......making the call along with a lawyer would definitely help scare their ass, but I would still do the thing with her husband also!

Fu-Q · 11-17-2003, 04:17 PM

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Originally posted by bopha
Don't use baseball bats or threats. Be a concerned parent and be smart......

yeah i was just joking about using a bat, obviously the best solution would be to have someone else use it

puresexnow · 11-17-2003, 04:35 PM

See that's what happens when women get the slightest hint of power in the workforce...

They become gibbering fools bereft of anything resembling rationality...

Make an example of her so that other women know where their place is!

ThunderBalls · 11-17-2003, 04:46 PM

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Originally posted by puresexnow
See that's what happens when women get the slightest hint of power in the workforce...

They become gibbering fools bereft of anything resembling rationality...

Make an example of her so that other women know where their place is!

Well I hate to say it but there is a lot of truth to what you said. I have seen plenty of times in my life where women in some type of managerial position let their hormones get the best of them and act completely irrational. Not putting women down, I love women most the time, and not all women do this but it does happen.

rebel23 · 11-17-2003, 05:02 PM

write (type) a letter and send it via registered mail asking her to explain herself. if you're not satisfied with the response you can always follow it up

HEARTBREAKER · 11-17-2003, 05:31 PM

go to her office and tell her straight on her face that it's your business and not hers!!!
nosey bitch (the principal)!!!!!!

Fu-Q · 11-17-2003, 05:39 PM

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Originally posted by MSB
go to her office and tell her straight on her face that it's your business and not hers!!!
nosey bitch (the principal)!!!!!!

but thats not fair to his kid(s)

myjah · 11-17-2003, 05:39 PM

sounds like you tried to speak with the principal to no avail. Definitely take it up with the school board or superintendant. Even if your ex did have a problem with this situation, the principal could in no way turn down the enrollment of any child. Sounds like she may be friends with your ex or all those rubber cement fumes have gone to her head.

Scootermuze · 11-17-2003, 05:54 PM

There were a couple of valid suggestions given...

I'd take it to the next level.. her boss... Explain what she did/said.. and how she said it (if she was being a bitch about it) Ask them if they agree with these tactics and invasion of privacy, then demand that action be taken against this principal for such invasion and using her powers in an unprofessional manner..

Then let her boss know that if nothing is done, you will take it to the board.. the super.. the state.. and whomever else you need to take it to in order to make sure this type of nonsense doesn't happen again.. and your x should be with you the whole way in that the two of you are in harmony and no friction exists..

Gemini · 11-17-2003, 06:15 PM

I'd be finding out when the next school board meeting was and be sitting in the front row when it took up with a real attitude going on. Maybe its ok in YOUR state but its not in this one and that principle would be walking egg shells as long as my kid was in her school. As well as having it in her permanent folder.

Phoenix · 11-17-2003, 06:19 PM

it is probably one of those things that you have to let go.

When people are mean spirited towards me or do something like stab me in the back. I usually tend to be overly nice to them..it confuses them. I believe it also tends to reverse their intent unless they are just pissed at the world...lol

anidifranco · 11-17-2003, 06:46 PM

The obvious question here is are you public about the nature of the business you are in? If you are, this (sadly) explains the principle's attitude toward you and your girlfriend. If you have children school age or younger, you have responsibility as their parent to keep your mouth shut about your business. Even though they may enjoy countless fruits of your labor and their life be greatly enhanced by the money you make (however you make it), they are children and other children (and adults) can be cruel. Your actions will be judged and they will be treated according to those judgements however unfair or amoral that may be. Rule number one for anyone in the adult business with kids ( or may one day have them) is to keep your work a secret. It is not a matter of being ashamed or embarrassed of what you do, but a matter of following the path of least resistance where our children are concerned. If you are public in any way about your business ( trusted friends and/or family never keep your secrets), then you need to drop this. Do not draw any more attention to yourself or your child. Be ever watchful of the people they are exposed to at school and out, but don't let YOUR emotions in this case or any other over-ride your common sense. If you are already talked about, going to the school board or making any trouble at all will result in more gossip/tongue wagging at your child's expense. Voices carry.

anidifranco · 11-17-2003, 07:10 PM

This is an addition to my last reply...

This lady will not lose her job over this even if you hire Johnnie Cochran and Alan Derschowitz. Her actions have already proven her to be an unfair and emotion-ruled nitwit. Why antagonize an unreasonable person in a position of authority in your children's lives? You have 2 choices, STFU and try to kill them with kindness or take those 2 kids to another school district far enough away for your business affairs not to follow you. If you ex-wife knows of your affairs, this will not even work because she will follow your child with her mouth.

MetaMan · 11-17-2003, 07:12 PM

that is bullshit i would b pissed, i hate stupid ass do gooders. these type of people cause problems for the world and think they are always correct. please march right down to the school and fuck the principal in the ass and stamp a big F on her forehead. i am sick of do gooders and the weight they bring to society for no reason, and same with moms in vans.

JDog · 11-17-2003, 07:14 PM

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Originally posted by Sly_RJ
Principal was completely out of line. I'd just write it off, but if you're really pissed, send a letter to the Super. Don't even bother with the Principal, go right to the head honcho.

Fuck that, call the Super!

jDoG

KMR Stitch · 11-17-2003, 07:32 PM

Call up local news stations, Go the pubic school board.

Then Acquire a free scholarship to a private school that is being paid by the state and us taxpayers. Then have that principle resign with all the news hype.

11-17-2003, 01:50 PM	#1
ThunderBalls So Fucking Banned Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Mesosphere Posts: 2,926	Problem with my kids principal Curious if others think this is out of line or am I over reacting. I have a 5 year old in kindergarten. My ex wife has him 3 days a week and I have him 4 days a week and I am the legal primary decision maker of him. Recently my girlfriend moved in with me and she also has a 5 year old. When she went to register him at the same school as my kid the principal asked her if my ex was aware we were living together and she said (the principal) that she needed to make sure it was okay with my ex that her kid was going to be attending the same school. My girlfriend asked her why she needed to call my ex and she said because she knew there was "conflict and tension" between me and my ex, which is completely untrue, we get along fine. So the principal called my ex and told her the situation. My ex already knew and doesnt care but I think its fucking bullshit that these assholes think they can invade my personal life like this not to mention slander me by telling my girlfriend there is 'tension and conflict'. Should I just let this go?

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tootie Confirmed User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Planet Earp Posts: 6,041	WTF? That sounds like a severe invasion of privacy to me. I think the principal was probably against you living with someone without being married (none of her fucking business) and thought she could get you in trouble or something. I don't know that there is much that you could do about it, but that's just wrong __________________

11-17-2003, 01:54 PM	#2
EZRhino Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: couch Posts: 6,258	Fucking principle needs to stay out of your business. If it happens again I would definately do something about it.

11-17-2003, 01:56 PM	#7
basschick Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: el lay, ca usa Posts: 2,540	call your school board - that is bullshit. with all the privacy issues in schools today, i seriously doubt they're allowed to inform your ex of anything you do. shit, what if she's a nut and goes and blows you away because you're living with another woman? __________________ Got Gay and For Women Traffic?

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11-17-2003, 02:02 PM	#10
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Sosa In Tushy Land Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Nebraska Posts: 40,149	WTF? Why would the principle even take it that far? I'd give him/her a call

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Fu-Q Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Seattle Posts: 1,546	i hear if you duct tape a towel to a baseball bat, it wont break bones (or at least as easy). that sounds like the route i would take

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GTS Mark Vrume Mark Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Toronto, Canada Posts: 20,912	You know what this might conflict with what everyone else is saying but at least the pricipal was looking out for YOUR child's best interest. I don't agree with the invasion of privacy but at least he/she cares about your kid. DH

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goBigtime Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 7,761	I would anonymously call her husband (the principles) and tell him that you are a 'concerned faculty member' who thought that he should be aware that his wife is having on-campus affairs with two of the staff members.

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11-17-2003, 03:03 PM	#31
Tala Fucked if I know Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Do you have a flag? Posts: 23,368	That was completely outta line. I would find a new school for my kids, or better yet, homeschool them. That principal needs a visit from the superintendant, in your presence, to be reviewed on things you do and don't do. If that doesn't help, move the kids to a different school or district altogether, even if you have to drive them yourself. __________________ ICQ: 11120676 \| Google: mindcrime \| Skype: suitemindcrime\|E-Mail: mindcrime AT gmail.com\|PR girl with great writing skills for hire!!!! Contact me to work for YOU!\|TECHIEMEDIA? 24/7 support from some of the best techs in the biz. Tell Jim that I sent you.

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FrankWhite Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: nyc Posts: 3,540	you should move out from your Hicksville and move to a bigger city, where you principle doesn?t know what?s going on in your life !

11-17-2003, 03:22 PM	#33
Rich So Fucking Banned Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 11,486	Please, whatever you do, DON'T let this go. Call the school board and/or the superintendant, and make sure they follow up on it. What she did was a total invasion or privacy, people who abuse their power like that make me sick. Don't let her get away with pulling that shit or she'll just keep doing it. <---- DAMN THE MAN, DON'T PROMOTE THIS BULLSHIT. ANYONE WITH A GOOD PROGRAM THAT WILL MAKE WEBMASTERS MONEY DOES NOT NEED TO WHORE IT OUT LIKE THIS. Last edited by Rich; 11-17-2003 at 03:24 PM..

11-17-2003, 03:39 PM	#34
bopha Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 1,882	Don't use baseball bats or threats. Be a concerned parent and be smart. Schedule a meeting with your child's principal and before you do, type a letter that you will copy and have sent to the board asking where in the school handbook, you'll find that consulting another parent was in order before enrolling a student that is of no relation to the parent that was consulted. You can get a lot done with concerned parent letters to the Superintendent, and board of Education. Alienating potential families of the school is not the proper stance to take especially when parental involvement in schools is critical and is of benefit to not only your own child but your girlfriends child. Unless there is a restraining order in effect for biological mom or or your child, there is no reason that biological mom should be consulted before enrolling a student that is of no relation to her. If your school is public, they cannot turn away your girlfriends child. If your talking about private school, they would have more latitude, although, tact was surely lacking here. They could have simply said they were full and not take the child if it was a conflict with your child's mom. Sometimes smaller,private schools are on such a personal level with tuition paying parents and for non state funded schools, you might have a little more resistance if mom has a relationship with the principal. She was wrong to pointedly pry. I'd still follow through as a "concerned parent". Schools have to deal with all kinds of unsavory situations and act in unjudgemental fashion for a miriad of crappy parents and bad situations for the children. This woman was out of line to act in this fashion. Partners living together is not unusual. Good luck.

11-17-2003, 04:35 PM	#37
puresexnow Confirmed User Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 300	See that's what happens when women get the slightest hint of power in the workforce... They become gibbering fools bereft of anything resembling rationality... Make an example of her so that other women know where their place is!

11-17-2003, 05:02 PM	#39
rebel23 Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 817	write (type) a letter and send it via registered mail asking her to explain herself. if you're not satisfied with the response you can always follow it up

11-17-2003, 05:31 PM	#40
HEARTBREAKER Confirmed User Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 2,984	go to her office and tell her straight on her face that it's your business and not hers!!! nosey bitch (the principal)!!!!!! __________________ An Adult IT Staffing Solutions Company email: [email protected] icq: 418366319 Tel.#: 1-702-940-0789 (U.S. Toll Free)

11-17-2003, 05:39 PM	#42
myjah Back in the harbor Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 11,482	sounds like you tried to speak with the principal to no avail. Definitely take it up with the school board or superintendant. Even if your ex did have a problem with this situation, the principal could in no way turn down the enrollment of any child. Sounds like she may be friends with your ex or all those rubber cement fumes have gone to her head. __________________ VP of Marketing AVN Media Network Skype: AVNJill [email protected]

11-17-2003, 05:54 PM	#43
Scootermuze Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 4,513	There were a couple of valid suggestions given... I'd take it to the next level.. her boss... Explain what she did/said.. and how she said it (if she was being a bitch about it) Ask them if they agree with these tactics and invasion of privacy, then demand that action be taken against this principal for such invasion and using her powers in an unprofessional manner.. Then let her boss know that if nothing is done, you will take it to the board.. the super.. the state.. and whomever else you need to take it to in order to make sure this type of nonsense doesn't happen again.. and your x should be with you the whole way in that the two of you are in harmony and no friction exists..

11-17-2003, 06:15 PM	#44
Gemini Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: o-HI-o Posts: 7,183	I'd be finding out when the next school board meeting was and be sitting in the front row when it took up with a real attitude going on. Maybe its ok in YOUR state but its not in this one and that principle would be walking egg shells as long as my kid was in her school. As well as having it in her permanent folder. __________________ <center><a target="_blank" href="http://dev.datedollars.com/index.php?s=signup&aid=535&cfg=aac"><img border="0" src="http://216.130.172.224/gfy/gsig.gif" width="490" height="100"></a><br><a href="http://dev.datedollars.com/index.php?s=signup&aid=535&cfg=aac" target="_blank"><b><font face="Arial"><font color="#FF99FF"> Buy me away from Slavedriver Smokey!<br>It's May Sig Sweeps!<font></b></center>

11-17-2003, 06:19 PM	#45
Phoenix BACON BACON BACON Industry Role: Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Poems everybody, the laddie fancies himself a poet Posts: 35,462	it is probably one of those things that you have to let go. When people are mean spirited towards me or do something like stab me in the back. I usually tend to be overly nice to them..it confuses them. I believe it also tends to reverse their intent unless they are just pissed at the world...lol __________________ Skype Phoenixskype1 Telegram PhoenixBrad https://quantads.io

11-17-2003, 06:46 PM	#46
anidifranco So Fucking Banned Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 711	The obvious question here is are you public about the nature of the business you are in? If you are, this (sadly) explains the principle's attitude toward you and your girlfriend. If you have children school age or younger, you have responsibility as their parent to keep your mouth shut about your business. Even though they may enjoy countless fruits of your labor and their life be greatly enhanced by the money you make (however you make it), they are children and other children (and adults) can be cruel. Your actions will be judged and they will be treated according to those judgements however unfair or amoral that may be. Rule number one for anyone in the adult business with kids ( or may one day have them) is to keep your work a secret. It is not a matter of being ashamed or embarrassed of what you do, but a matter of following the path of least resistance where our children are concerned. If you are public in any way about your business ( trusted friends and/or family never keep your secrets), then you need to drop this. Do not draw any more attention to yourself or your child. Be ever watchful of the people they are exposed to at school and out, but don't let YOUR emotions in this case or any other over-ride your common sense. If you are already talked about, going to the school board or making any trouble at all will result in more gossip/tongue wagging at your child's expense. Voices carry.

11-17-2003, 07:10 PM	#47
anidifranco So Fucking Banned Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 711	This is an addition to my last reply... This lady will not lose her job over this even if you hire Johnnie Cochran and Alan Derschowitz. Her actions have already proven her to be an unfair and emotion-ruled nitwit. Why antagonize an unreasonable person in a position of authority in your children's lives? You have 2 choices, STFU and try to kill them with kindness or take those 2 kids to another school district far enough away for your business affairs not to follow you. If you ex-wife knows of your affairs, this will not even work because she will follow your child with her mouth.

11-17-2003, 07:12 PM	#48
MetaMan I AM WEB 2.0 Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 28,682	that is bullshit i would b pissed, i hate stupid ass do gooders. these type of people cause problems for the world and think they are always correct. please march right down to the school and fuck the principal in the ass and stamp a big F on her forehead. i am sick of do gooders and the weight they bring to society for no reason, and same with moms in vans.

11-17-2003, 07:32 PM	#50
KMR Stitch I am cool Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 14,494	Call up local news stations, Go the pubic school board. Then Acquire a free scholarship to a private school that is being paid by the state and us taxpayers. Then have that principle resign with all the news hype.