An Open Letter To The XXXJay Haters

[xxxjay]

SOME OF THIS MAY BE MY FAULT, BUT A LOT OF PEOPLE HAVE BEEN TALKING A LOT OF SHIT ABOUT ME RECENTLY. I'D LIKE A CHANCE TO SET THE RECORD STRAIGHT! THIS IS A "MUST READ" AND IS NOT ADDRESSED TO ANY ONE PERSON! THINK YOU KNOW ME SO WELL? YOU PROBABLY DON'T! - http://www.xxxjay.com/index.php/2013...n-open-letter/

[Got Domains?]

must of took the douche thread to heart

[Just Alex]

Question. Why?

[JustDaveXxx]

I like you..


But then again, I know you.


Just Dave

[InfoGuy]

Fuck the haters. They're just jealous of you.

[brassmonkey]

Originally Posted by xxxjay

SOME OF THIS MAY BE MY FAULT, BUT A LOT OF PEOPLE HAVE BEEN TALKING A LOT OF SHIT ABOUT ME RECENTLY. I'D LIKE A CHANCE TO SET THE RECORD STRAIGHT! THIS IS A "MUST READ" AND IS NOT ADDRESSED TO ANY ONE PERSON! THINK YOU KNOW ME SO WELL? YOU PROBABLY DON'T! - http://www.xxxjay.com/index.php/2013...n-open-letter/

you look like a brotha dogg. what's up with that long list of shit? you trying out for big brother or sum shit?? hope you qualify

[The Heron]

I haven't even read any of those other threads...

[Imortyl Pussycat]

when Kira saw a thread or two posted about you that were negative she said to me in a quiet, sad voice "why are people being mean to Jay?" my reply was "remember when we talked about trolls? that's what they do to people." oh to be innocent again

you know you haven't truly arrived unless people are talking shit about you

[lagcam]

Am I the only one not having a conversation with myself? Yes I think you are.

[georgeyw]

Why you care about what the halfwits say in those threads is beyond me.

Fuck em, do your own thing.

[Phoenix]

if i dont hate you...can i still read it?


Dude come visit in korea...gangnam style!!

[Due]

now I gotta check out the other threads lol
don't worry school is starting soon so half the tell trolls will be gone soon!

[Dankasaur]

Ignore them.

[xxxjay]

Originally Posted by Got Domains?

must of took the douche thread to heart

Haha. Not really. I was not a douche by a landslide.

[itx]

Haters gonna hate, simply just ignore them.

[DatePoster]

I didnt hate you until I read the letter

[Got Domains?]

Originally Posted by Twerk Tube

I didnt hate you until I read the letter

i admire jay for being honest.. but i bet you he does cocaine and bathsalts on the side i wouldn't put it online either!

[Got Domains?]

[brassmonkey]

Originally Posted by Got Domains?

that's wrong

[Rochard]

Cliff notes?

[amacontent]

Fuck the haters Jay look at the ones that are the haters, too chcikenshit to do it face to face. Too chicken shit to use a real nick.

[KillerK]

Originally Posted by Got Domains?

i admire jay for being honest.. but i bet you he does cocaine and bathsalts on the side i wouldn't put it online either!

he wasnt honest though..

[JFK]

Originally Posted by itx

Haters gonna hate, simply just ignore them.

[RevSand]

Well said with some good points but I also think unneeded, Fuck them. BUT if it helped you get it off your chest then it was worth it for the personal piece of mind.

Also.. Ppl should check out Jays new band https://soundcloud.com/jason-quinlan Circle of Violence.. Whores Ballad is a personal favorite..

[Lichen]

Get over yourself, douche.

[SomeCreep]

[AsianDivaGirlsWebDude]

Originally Posted by RevSand

Ppl should check out Jays new band https://soundcloud.com/jason-quinlan Circle of Violence.. Whores Ballad is a personal favorite..

What did Jay's band do to get on Ron Paul's bad side?





ADG

[Grapesoda]

Originally Posted by xxxjay

SOME OF THIS MAY BE MY FAULT, BUT A LOT OF PEOPLE HAVE BEEN TALKING A LOT OF SHIT ABOUT ME RECENTLY. I'D LIKE A CHANCE TO SET THE RECORD STRAIGHT! THIS IS A "MUST READ" AND IS NOT ADDRESSED TO ANY ONE PERSON! THINK YOU KNOW ME SO WELL? YOU PROBABLY DON'T! - http://www.xxxjay.com/index.php/2013...n-open-letter/

4am up, edit to 9-9.30am, shoot, edit to 8-9pm... read for a bit or watch TV with the dog, sleep 10-1.30pm.... rinse and repeat. day off: sleep

[Jay-Rock]

Get involved with porn social circles and the same people that come to your parties will jump on the bandwagon to throw you under the bus as soon as they get the chance. I had people around me that I trusted and helped out even come back to shove knifes in my back as soon as they had the chance. I wont get into details, but after I had this type of experience a few times I stopped going to porn parties, stopped posting my good times on Twitter, and never hung out with porn circles again unless I was doing business or getting laid. This kept me out of trouble the last 2 years I was in LA but the haters lasted a good 6 months after that. I am sure its the same situation for others in porn. Run with the dogs, get fleas. If I was Jay I would limit who I hang out with in this industry and hang out with people outside of the industry to have a good time. Its not worth the trouble these people are all fake to your face then stab you in the back when you aren't looking. Some porn clients are quite 2 faced as well but I wont get into that I have always kept my problems to myself and not posted them on GFY for the whole industry to gather their opinions.

I guess my point is these porn social circles can be fun but also can be very dangerous and you can't really trust anyone even if they seem genuinely sincere about being your friend and having your back. Porn people will cut each others throats if it means they can make themselves look better or advance from it.

I got an invite to the party where Jay got in that big fight and I had already learned my lesson before then so I declined.. I haven't been to a porn party or event in over 3 years. Fuck that.

[DeanCapture]

Originally Posted by Jay-Rock

This kept me out of trouble the last 2 years I was in LA but the haters lasted a good 6 months after that.

You're not in LA anymore?

[Roald]

41 huh ....

[bigluv]

Must be tiring worrying so much about what other people (that you may not even know?) think of you.

[wehateporn]

It was just GFY Drama Bots trollin you, now that they know that you bite they'll be back

[VenzuelanChick]

Originally Posted by Imortyl Pussycat

when Kira saw a thread or two posted about you that were negative she said to me in a quiet, sad voice "why are people being mean to Jay?" my reply was "remember when we talked about trolls? that's what they do to people." oh to be innocent again

you know you haven't truly arrived unless people are talking shit about you

I loved every little bit of this post, the fact that you and Kira are so adorable plus mommy having to explain what a troll is is just precious

I really dont get how so many people have time to talk shit, I´m already working extra hours to keep up with my own stuff and I barely get time to look at the boards.

[LAJ]

Sucks that you felt the need to have to do this since haters aren't worth the time and they are usually a good reminder that you are doing something right

But fwiw... I've known Jay on and off for over 10 years... nothing he posted in his open letter surprised me.

All around good guy.

Carry on.

[xxxjay]

Originally Posted by Jay-Rock

Get involved with porn social circles and the same people that come to your parties will jump on the bandwagon to throw you under the bus as soon as they get the chance. I had people around me that I trusted and helped out even come back to shove knifes in my back as soon as they had the chance. I wont get into details, but after I had this type of experience a few times I stopped going to porn parties, stopped posting my good times on Twitter, and never hung out with porn circles again unless I was doing business or getting laid. This kept me out of trouble the last 2 years I was in LA but the haters lasted a good 6 months after that. I am sure its the same situation for others in porn. Run with the dogs, get fleas. If I was Jay I would limit who I hang out with in this industry and hang out with people outside of the industry to have a good time. Its not worth the trouble these people are all fake to your face then stab you in the back when you aren't looking. Some porn clients are quite 2 faced as well but I wont get into that I have always kept my problems to myself and not posted them on GFY for the whole industry to gather their opinions.

I guess my point is these porn social circles can be fun but also can be very dangerous and you can't really trust anyone even if they seem genuinely sincere about being your friend and having your back. Porn people will cut each others throats if it means they can make themselves look better or advance from it.

I got an invite to the party where Jay got in that big fight and I had already learned my lesson before then so I declined.. I haven't been to a porn party or event in over 3 years. Fuck that.

Well said.

[O MARINA]

Originally Posted by LAJ

All around good guy.

Carry on.

+ mad SEO skills.

[RyuLion]

Originally Posted by InfoGuy

Fuck the haters. They're just jealous of you.

[dyna mo]

keep your chin yup xxxjay!

i can only imagine how tough things must be for you right now.

[O MARINA]

[DeanCapture]

Originally Posted by xxxjay

SOME OF THIS MAY BE MY FAULT, BUT........

We all have haters man, just part of the game. Anytime you put yourself out there for consumption, you'll have haters and low-lifes with nothing better to do than talk shit about you. The way I see it, you have two choices. You can pull back and be less visible or you can "do yer' fucking thang'.....and just ignore those piece-of-shit mother fuckers

[alex.missyouth]

Originally Posted by The Heron

I haven't even read any of those other threads...

Yep, me neither.

[sperbonzo]

Nice post Jay. Well done. ....in the end though, at 50 I have learned that if it doesn't affect my families security and well-being, then I don't give a flying toss what anyone thinks of me. I think you are probably only a few years away from that place in your life also....







.

[JustDaveXxx]

Originally Posted by Jay-Rock

Get involved with porn social circles and the same people that come to your parties will jump on the bandwagon to throw you under the bus as soon as they get the chance. I had people around me that I trusted and helped out even come back to shove knifes in my back as soon as they had the chance. I wont get into details, but after I had this type of experience a few times I stopped going to porn parties, stopped posting my good times on Twitter, and never hung out with porn circles again unless I was doing business or getting laid. This kept me out of trouble the last 2 years I was in LA but the haters lasted a good 6 months after that. I am sure its the same situation for others in porn. Run with the dogs, get fleas. If I was Jay I would limit who I hang out with in this industry and hang out with people outside of the industry to have a good time. Its not worth the trouble these people are all fake to your face then stab you in the back when you aren't looking. Some porn clients are quite 2 faced as well but I wont get into that I have always kept my problems to myself and not posted them on GFY for the whole industry to gather their opinions.

I guess my point is these porn social circles can be fun but also can be very dangerous and you can't really trust anyone even if they seem genuinely sincere about being your friend and having your back. Porn people will cut each others throats if it means they can make themselves look better or advance from it.

I got an invite to the party where Jay got in that big fight and I had already learned my lesson before then so I declined.. I haven't been to a porn party or event in over 3 years. Fuck that.

Well said and very on point!


Now you know why you don't see me at too many social functions.


But you need to actually go through it to learn it. Cant learn it through what people tell you. Been there done that.



Jay and I are friends. Love that guy!! Great guy and class a act. Good person, with a good heart and he always has the best intentions. But I cant hang out and party with him often when there are a shit ton of other porn people. I just know, that it will end up not good.(I know I too can be a dumb ass when I'm drunk)



I have had a lot of fun in the past and would talk to everyone and I got along well with everyone. People would ask me what I did and I would tell them.(Thats when U get haters!) But now, I say I'm a PA, and I just let my work do all of my talking for me.


And To Jay Rock: I saw what happened to him as it was happening. Super talented guy, with drive and know how. Great work ethic and his skills were getting better and better month by month. Jay Rocks skills and talent grew faster than anyones I have ever known in this business. As Jay Rock got really good, is when he started getting the serious hate.


I would hear it almost daily from girls and other guys. But I knew Jay Rock and I knew he was getting the hate because of his skills, not because he did something so bad.


Me? I am super nice, easy to get along with, very professional, never banged any of these girls and I still seem to get hate from people that don't know me.



HATE=SUCCESS


Thats my 2 cents on this situation.


Just Dave

[nextri]

tl;dr


!

[xxxjay]

Originally Posted by JustDaveXxx

Well said and very on point!


Now you know why you don't see me at too many social functions.


But you need to actually go through it to learn it. Cant learn it through what people tell you. Been there done that.



Jay and I are friends. Love that guy!! Great guy and class a act. Good person, with a good heart and he always has the best intentions. But I cant hang out and party with him often when there are a shit ton of other porn people. I just know, that it will end up not good.(I know I too can be a dumb ass when I'm drunk)



I have had a lot of fun in the past and would talk to everyone and I got along well with everyone. People would ask me what I did and I would tell them.(Thats when U get haters!) But now, I say I'm a PA, and I just let my work do all of my talking for me.


And To Jay Rock: I saw what happened to him as it was happening. Super talented guy, with drive and know how. Great work ethic and his skills were getting better and better month by month. Jay Rocks skills and talent grew faster than anyones I have ever known in this business. As Jay Rock got really good, is when he started getting the serious hate.


I would hear it almost daily from girls and other guys. But I knew Jay Rock and I knew he was getting the hate because of his skills, not because he did something so bad.


Me? I am super nice, easy to get along with, very professional, never banged any of these girls and I still seem to get hate from people that don't know me.



HATE=SUCCESS


Thats my 2 cents on this situation.


Just Dave

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[_Richard_]

Originally Posted by Imortyl Pussycat

you know you haven't truly arrived unless people are talking shit about you

[Grapesoda]

Originally Posted by Jay-Rock

Get involved with porn social circles and the same people that come to your parties will jump on the bandwagon to throw you under the bus as soon as they get the chance. I had people around me that I trusted and helped out even come back to shove knifes in my back as soon as they had the chance. I wont get into details, but after I had this type of experience a few times I stopped going to porn parties, stopped posting my good times on Twitter, and never hung out with porn circles again unless I was doing business or getting laid. This kept me out of trouble the last 2 years I was in LA but the haters lasted a good 6 months after that. I am sure its the same situation for others in porn. Run with the dogs, get fleas. If I was Jay I would limit who I hang out with in this industry and hang out with people outside of the industry to have a good time. Its not worth the trouble these people are all fake to your face then stab you in the back when you aren't looking. Some porn clients are quite 2 faced as well but I wont get into that I have always kept my problems to myself and not posted them on GFY for the whole industry to gather their opinions.

I guess my point is these porn social circles can be fun but also can be very dangerous and you can't really trust anyone even if they seem genuinely sincere about being your friend and having your back. Porn people will cut each others throats if it means they can make themselves look better or advance from it.

I got an invite to the party where Jay got in that big fight and I had already learned my lesson before then so I declined.. I haven't been to a porn party or event in over 3 years. Fuck that.

never hung out however I can see this shit in action just by the malicious gossip I hear on set

[Grapesoda]

Originally Posted by JustDaveXxx

I say I'm a PA, and I just let my work do all of my talking for me.

I'll tell people I shoot internet commercials and straight to net infomercials as well as model portfolios... then I say this, which is absolutely true in very sense, the people that need to know me, do. if you don't know me or know who I am, you don't need to know

[stickyd]

I still love you Jay, even if you don't return my calls...