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Originally Posted by badmunchkin
(Post 12601941)
more evolved people don't need to follow these same herd-like patterns :2 cents: some of my best and longest relationships were open and threesomes and/or swinging was never the cause of our problems - people in monogamous relationships still cheat and instead lie about it which ends the relationship - the real point of everything is relationships END - and people are starting to realize that nothing lasts forever - when you are unhappy in a relationship, yes, it makes more sense to move on instead of staying with someone your whole life who you're miserable with...
As the world and humans continue to evolve there will be more sexual openness, less traditional relationships, more non-conventional situations - monogamy is not natural to humans - it is based on cultural norms - it is not natural and ultimately will be wiped out and become an oddity in society. Already being sexually open is much more accepted then 50 years ago. This is where we are headed - pyschology is based on the norms of the day - remember when homosexuality was supposed to be a mental illness? If Dr Drew were 50 years older he would have been one of the guys spouting that line. Times are a'changing - threesomes and moresomes are good fun and there's nothing but invisible barriers in your mind that are stopping you from enjoying life to it's fullest. :2 cents::thumbsup
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I agree with much of what you are saying. I agree that humans are typically not meant to be monogomas. I think some people can be in a relationship with the same person for years and years and be happy, but most of us cannot. Also you are right, sexuality is getting to be more and more open as is happiness in a relationship. I would say the divorce rate now shows that. People are unhappy in a marriage and they leave where 50 years ago they just stayed and remained miserable.
However, none of this goes to the root question. Do threesomes destroy relationships? The answers is almost always yes. Dr. Drew, I think, isn't spouting the mantra of the day. If you spend a long time seeing people with problems eventually you see patterns. It is a numbers game. If you interview 1000 girls that lost their virginity at a very young age or started experimenting sexually at a very young age and 980 of them have some kind of abuse in their past, you start to see the pattern and it is fair to speculate when a girl tells you she lost her virginity at 12 that she was abused. She may be one of the few that don't fit the pattern, but most likely she is. The same goes for threesomes. If you talk to 1000 couples that had a threesome and 950 of them ended up breaking up you can say with some authority that threesomes help cause break-ups. More realistically, and I think most doctors agree with this, there were problems in the relationship before the threesome ever came into play and the threesome ends up just being a catalyst for the end. After all, as you said, all relationships eventually end. People do crazy things to try to hold on to relationships. They have kids, change jobs, move, change who they are and all kinds of stuff. Having a threesome is often just one of those things.
I think there may be a time 1000's of years from now where people can be sexually open. A couple can have a committed relationship but still have a threesome or swing every now and then and have it not affect their relationship. That said, in the end we are still jealous animals and we get emotionally involved with each other so that hurdle will be a very difficult one for most people to get past. |
