Friends that can't keep up with/afford your lifestyle...
 

Anybody have this problem?

Your best friends just can't keep up with you, since you are fine spending money but they are not.

There are so many things I Would love to do with my friends, but most of the time it's not possible unless I pay for them.

Many times my friends say no to a nice supper at a nice restaurant because they don't have the cash.

For example, what I really want to do is go to Vegas for my birthday with my closest friends and party. Nobody would even consider it because they can't afford it.

Now I wouldn't mind paying for my friends when we go out, or maybe even pay a vacation for them. But then THEY feel like shit.

It seems like there is no solution to this problem!
What is one supposed to do in this situation?

get richer friends

get richer friends

treat your friends more often. share the wealth

there ya go

Yes, I have this same problem. You feel like you are being a good friend by offering to pay for them to go, but then like you said, they end up feeling like shit. It's sad because I find myself not asking them to do things anymore and I am sure that makes them feel like crap too, what do you do?

Get a girlfriend. She'll go anywhere with you and at least you SHOULD get a fuck for your cash once in a while.

I get fucks already, and no cash at all needed

to tell you the truth, most girls annoy me, it's very hard for me to find a girl that I will actually enjoy traveling with

my close friends on the other hand, nothing I love more than spending time with them.

I had this particular problem with a friend last year. Everything we did, she would back out of unless I or another friend paid.

Funny thing is, this year she's making more money than me. Turns out she was saving her pennies to start a business, and now she's doing just fine. :)

Maybe that's your solution... Teach THEM how to make money doing what you do. Maybe even set up a site as a "friend fund" or something and tell them they have to work it but they will make the money from it, with your guidance.

Teach your friends how to rake in the cash.

This is true as well....I think this is one of the many reasons people get a girl friend. This way you only have to pay for one:winkwink: If you marry them, it could be a better idea to just stay single and pay for your friends as it is cheaper if it does not work out...Mr. Romance is in the first husbands club...

MR. Romance

Now, he is the rich ... if he gets richer friends, he could end up being in the position of his actual friends : poorer ... :1orglaugh

This could solve the low cash problem his friends have. :thumbsup

I've found that with true friends, it always works out.

For a number of years I made under 5K a year trying to change the world and my friends helped me out, alot. Finally the world caught up to my brilliance and now I make a good living. Now that I can, I pick up the tab as often as i can with them.

But if it would make everyone feel odd (i.e. paying for a trip to vegas) than it probably wouldn't be that fun anyways.

GAY ALERT :warning

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friends are only "gold" you need...

Same problem here. I hardly travel with friends since they can't afford it, it's mostly with gf (who can in fact afford it, although I pay most). I'd love to travel and do more things with friends though.

I just accept it. I'm living well below my means, but I don't really have a problem with it. I don't really like luxury and consumerism.

Here's what you tell them bdjuf. Tell them that you just won big on a bet, say $25 to $50K and that you are going to put the winnings in a special "Party Account" for you to use with you and your friends.

This will make them think that it's not actually your hard earned money but that you want to share in your "Good Fortune". That way when it's time to party then you can say you're tapping into the "Party Account' that was financed by your "Winnings".

This should take the pressure off so everyone can have a good time.:thumbsup

Just treat them to Vegas or hire them, I am sure you could give them all work and you'd pay them much more than they currently make. :2 cents:

I'd say just do cheaper things with your friends. I swear sometime it's even better than going to said fancy restaurant.

:1orglaugh :1orglaugh That's a solution lol

Hire them all as your bodyguards and people that repeat what you say.

i like the party account thing..lol


but seriously..tone it down a bit if you are always going big....who wants to do that all the time? If they cant afford a meal in a restaurant..they need to try harder.

even if you make 250k plus a year....do you really need to be blowing 40k a year on crap?

Sounds weired to me that you have to go to fancy resturants and go to Vegas to party, just to have fun. I mean why arent McDonalds and Montreal good enough anymore? If it was your girlfriend, I would understand you, but not with your friends. If these people are good friends, it is you who have to adapt.

Live more modestly. I have a few friends who got rich and became different people. I can toss around as much money as they do but that's not me. I am the same guy that I was when I was making $6/hr cleaning up on construction sites. Don't let money change you. Scale down your activities when you want to hang out with them. If you feel like you're too good for them, just kill yourself and will all your money to your friends. Everyone involved will be better off.

i had that problem
shared all my shit
and now i'm po' again
heh

Nice idea :thumbsup

yup same shit i get too. wanna go out to eat they don't have the cash. wanna go on vacation they don't have the cash. i just end up saying fuck it and going myself and meeting people while im there.

Ive got friends who take me out for a $10 meal and I gotta say I appreciate that as much as a $250 sushi plate.

Share you're blessings buddy.. It's better to give than to receive:1orglaugh

when i offer to buy my friends something or "loan" them money. I tell them it's a gift. That I really love hanging with them and I don't care about the money. As long as it is never brought up again most people can get over you buying them something. Just let them know it's ok to receive. If on the other hand you hold it over their heads then it will never fucking work.

Don't put them in such dilemmas. You can have equally good time with your friends without going to Vegas for your birthday.

I understand what you're saying, but am curious... why work so hard if you aren't going to reap the profits?

get a tranny, best of both worlds...

Money isn't an issue between TRUE friends. That's the least of the things that matter to me in a friend. Poor, medium, rich - how much money they have or don't have is silly. I have a friend who lives in a double wide all the way to a friend who is the CEO of the one of the biggest national companies based in GA. And EVERYONE in my family makes more than me, lol.

My best friends were broke as hell for the longest time, one of my buddies couldnt even afford to eat properly for awhile living on ramen noodles and shit like that. I always stocked my fridge in my house and gave them keys to come and go as they pleased (these are supper close friends i trust with anything, i consider them brothers more than friends) they came over ate when they needed and drank all my beer. But i never minded, since i always made a very good living.

I would love to go bar hopping, or out to good dinners and always take them. And i told them straight out, dont dare turn me down this is what i want to do, one day youll be in my position and understand. Well both of them make good money now and one of them grabbed me a few months ago and thanked me for everything i did for him.

Tell them striaght out, this is who i am and what i want to do. Please dont feel like its a handout. I want to enjoy my b-day with all of you in vegas on me.

yeah like some dude said.. do cheaper things like stay in and have dinner with them

your not hanging out with the right arminean croud
what about madawg? lol

I save my money. I have a decent car, a decent place to live, a fridge full of food and I don't owe anyone a dime. I couldn't ask for more. I have no house payment, no car payment and therefore very little stress. I'm a Levi jeans, t-shirt and Bud Light kind of guy. That's what I like. I can afford a big house and a BMW but I don't want them. I understand the appeal but it's just not me.

I know several people who make a lot of money but spend it all on things they don't really need (like a big house or a BMW). If they get hurt or sick and missed a few paydays they would be in financial ruins. If I can't work for a year I would still be fine.

Honestly I would like to completely retire at about 50 (another 19 years away), move someplace warm and never work again. That is when all my work will pay off.

Who am I kidding? Some beautiful, high maintenance woman will catch me someday and I will end up with a big house, BMW and 4 kids to put through college. I will never retire and will feel like an idiot for not pissing my money away when I had it.

get richer friends.

Oh no, I understand what you're saying. Material possessions.

This thread is more about going out and enjoying the "nicer" things... fun clubs, some travel, good food, maybe some shows. If one wants to do those things and can afford it, why not do it?

guys I Want you to know something

I see my friends almost every day

usually its the exact same thing.

- They come over
- We play some gamecube or wii
- We pop in a movie
- We make popcorn and eat frozen foods


Some of my close friends don't even have a job because they are more focused on School.


it's not like I need to go to restaurants and travel and this and that... no
I would just LIKE to, a nice restaurant once a week maybe, once every 2 weeks.
A nice vegas vacation, something to remember for the rest of our lives

I live in Kansas. There isn't anything like that to spend money on around here. I haven't been to Internext in a couple of years and may not ever go again. I ended up with a week long hangover and got absolutely nothing accomplished. I would like to go to Cabo or someplace like that but as in the title of this thread, my friends couldn't afford to go or couldn't take the time off to go. I doubt Cabo would be much fun alone.

Someone suggested "get richer friends." If I want to go to Cabo, I may have to do that. :1orglaugh

:1orglaugh

Jesus, that sounds familiar. If you listed "drink cheap beer" then I would be convinced that we have the same friends.

With my close friends I live very modestly because I KNOW they can't afford alot of the things I Want to do and also do not feel comfortable when I keep talking about. I simply enjoy spending time with them, no matter what.

I just wish we can fly to vegas, have some drinks, see cirque du soleil and gamble some money together.

or try out the new high end sushi shop around the corner...

just things you would love to share with your friends, you know?

Find new friends!!!

send me traffic

that was a little off topic? lol

Put your friends on scholarship anytime you have the opportunity cause life will

treat you the same when you are pulling rabbit ears out for a tab!!