If you saw your ex,
 

from over just about a year ago, and you still had feelings would you go for it. I feel bad and I still have some feelings for her. I was an asshole and kicked her out just over a year ago.

Today I saw her, and I can't stop thinking about the time's we had now. And don't know if I should try to get her back, do you think it would be worth it?

jDoG

Ask her.
:2 cents:

If you kicked her out there must have been a reason for it right?
Think about that instead of thinking about the good times...

Never a good idea to go back together with an ex, will just pull out the same old problems :2 cents:

Obviously you've forgotten something. Why did you kick her out?

Follow your hard ... er ... heart.

I left my last girl in November... she met someone new in February and is happy with him still.

I feel bad, and I left her on the pretence "you deserve to be more happy than what I can make you." and 4 months later, she found someone who made her happier.

It hurts to see her and she doesn't talk about him, because she knows.....

But in my case, it's for the best. I did what was best for her.

Your situation is different but the desire should be the same.... do what's best for her. If you can make her happy and not be the "asshole" you say you were, then sure... if not... then... well....

:thumbsup

Move on...

http://users.cis.net/sammy/syne.htm
Met my old lover in the grocery store,
The snow was falling Christmas Eve.
I stole behind her in the frozen foods,
And I touched her on the sleeve.

She didn't recognize the face at first,
But then her eyes flew open wide.
She went to hug me and she spilled her purse,
And we laughed until we cried.

We took her groceries to the checkout stand,
The food was totalled up and bagged.
We stood there lost in our embarrassment,
As the conversation dragged.

We went to have ourselves a drink or two,
But couldn't find an open bar.
We bought a six-pack at the liquor store,
And we drank it in her car.

We drank a toast to innocence,
We drank a toast to now.
And tried to reach beyond the emptiness,
But neither one knew how.

She said she'd married her an architect,
Who kept her warm and safe and dry,
She would have liked to say she loved the man,
But she didn't like to lie.

I said the years had been a friend to her,
And that her eyes were still as blue.
But in those eyes I wasn't sure if I saw,
Doubt or gratitude.

She said she saw me in the record stores,
And that I must be doing well.
I said the audience was heavenly,
But the traveling was hell.

We drank a toast to innocence,
We drank a toast to now.
And tried to reach beyond the emptiness,
But neither one knew how.
We drank a toast to innocence,
We drank a toast to time.
Reliving in our eloquence,
Another 'auld lang syne'......

The beer was empty and our tongues were tired,
And running out of things to say.
She gave a kiss to me as I got out,
And I watched her drive away.
Just for a moment I was back at school,
And felt that old familiar pain .........
And as I turned to make my way back home,
The snow turned into rain ..............

If I saw my ex, there will be so many little pieces of her.

:1orglaugh :helpme

Actually, I had and now I blame myself I did :(

If saw one of my ex's I hide and hope she didn't see, and if she did see she me I run. :1orglaugh

Got one now trying 2 find me. All of' em are nothing but big time trouble.

is itr so bad?

jDog we are running on the same lines tonight bro.

i just found a scrapbook my X made for me about 4-5 years ago (we have been apart for about 2 years) that i had totally forgot about...

that said at the end... "no matter what happens we will fill the scrapbook with our lives and live and love as always"...





now...

i miss this girl, loveeee this girl, we had it rough, saw the same angles and were truly "meant" to be together" but eventually broke up for stupid bullshit reasons so there was never any solid closure on it.

but now she's been dating someone for about 2 years, i just dumped a girl about 7 months ago that i dated for about a year, but still have always thought of that "x" daily, even when dating the other girl..


I'd say go for it man, thats what i tell myself but outta respect for the dude she is with I"ll lay off. He's the lucky one now.... but i may start fillin that book up and FEDEX it to her someday soon, just to "do what she wrote" ;-).

It takes balls and humility to go back to something you once fucked up, but if you turn around for the right reasons then i would say it's the only thing to do...



/self-disclosing

FF

Mmmm... chicken salad...

I'm a quick trigger at some things and don't get anybody's full stories, but now I know what went on from a few different people, her ex was helping her get a job around my area. But my roommates told me they were kissing and hugging and all but then I find out from some other friends that they weren't they were just walking to a job interview.

jDoG

I guess im different, they are my ex for a reason if it didnt work then it probably wont work now. I had great times with my ex *coughcheaterliarstupidasshole* and he was fun in bed, but didnt work then and deffinately wont work now. I am sure if you saw All of your ex's you would run the great times through your head, it just happens. Shit i do it to compare my life now to then.

Well it was all great times, but I over reacted that one time and just kicked her out with out getting the whole story from anybody just what I thought. I got the story from people that didn't like her.

jDoG

I was enguaged and broke up with the girl then got back together, WE WERE NOT THE SAME, we worked it out but the relationship ended again very dramticly that time. Since then we have talked and then decided to not talk and then off and on again. We both care for each other deeply but she has a lot of fear and growing up to do, sweet girl and I thank her for protecting me from herself. It is nice to know no matter where I am or what I do there is a wonderful person who loves me, that is enough. You can try it man, but be ready for lots of communication to get over the past, good luck no matter what you do.

If you still talk to her, you should try to get closer if you have feelings (which you have). If not, try to get closer to her and find out what she wants (with your situation) and how she thinks about it.

translation : sex

Call her, you aiint got nothing to loose

if you are 100% sure about her, just go and try, because might happen that if you won't try, one day you can be really sorry......, so I am saying go ahead and good luck:thumbsup

:1orglaugh :1orglaugh That was the least of the memories! :1orglaugh

jDog

We both miss each other, but she is dating somebody else right now.

jDoG

ya ex' will fuck with your mind for sure,

my ex and i broke it off after 2 years basically because she is going away for school come next year,

she looked so good, lost weight and everything, i went out with her during the toughest times in her life, got her on track and now she is gonna become something.

i feel good knowing she is happy and u never know wat the future brings,

i believe in fate and if u r truly meant to be together all pieces will fall in place.

but for now if u do still love her, call her up, start fresh, people say it is never different but it is.

If i saw my ex id probably spit on her..Well after I fucked her one last time..Only thing i loved about my ex was that she got so damn creamy and wet during sex it became a fetish for me.

You know I know this story very well Jdog! And I am gonna have to say HELL NO....run run fast! Need we bring up the past dearest? I have absolutely not problem knocking some serious sense into you

i feel yer pain, i saw my ex twice this weekend,totally sucked!

I moved to a different town after the last one to prevent from seeing any of them.

Never a good breakup in the bunch.

Please God, keep me from having to run into my psycho ex girlfriends!

I agree with this. I don't know hy some men have so much pride. If you made a mistake let her know and try to make things right. People make mistakes, things can be fixed...if you don't try then you'll be wondering what if for the rest of your life! Put your pride aside and do what your heart tells u!

looks like i'm ganna have another ex soon too... fucking girls, they're nothing good for except sex... and that "love" feeling sux, can't get them outta my head..

No way for me... last ex cheated so nooooo...
WG

I'm trying to, but a lot has changed since the last year and I'm not as big of an asshole as I use to be because of work I had.

jDoG

I always think about my ex's brings me good memories back, but I just can not forget my first real love....:glugglug

I just recently broke up with my ex (Monday). We both still love each other, and was a very clean break up. We just decided that we fight too much and wanted to stop it and thought breaking up was the only way. The fights were nothing major, but consumed our minds and affected all the other aspects of our lives negatively. I still love her very much, she says she still loves me.

The first couple of days after the break up were really hard. My friends had to literally drag me out of bed, lol. It's only been 3 days and I feel so much better. I am also trying to decide whether or not to get back together. I'm going to give it about a month before I consider getting back together or not.

The hardest part is picturing her with someone else. Someone else's arms around her instead of mine etc. I've already had five girls try to "get with me" since the breakup, but I had to decline because I would still feel like I'm cheating on her.

Anyways enough babble... lol.

I fucked my ex the other day and I don't even like her!~LOL

Why not! It's not like you have much to lose...

Call her. :)

Dude, I hear you on that one. I used to be a total dick and drove lots of people away. I wish I could go back and show them I have changed. But they wont have anything to do with me.

:thumbsup

and my advice to jDoG is most of the time your 1st choice is the best one...

i always go with the "dont look back" option.

Seems like guys always do this. They don't know what they have til it's gone. This just happened to me recently. An ex he treated me pretty shitty left a note under my door saying how horrible he was to me and how sorry he is and how much he misses me...blah blah blah. All this now of course when I am happy and with someone else. I say should have treated me right the first time around. No second chances. But good luck to you anyhow. You seem to be sincere. :)

Give it another shot, people change with time, learn from the past and try not to make the same mistakes again.

Big deal if you still feel something about her better tell to her

Yea I'm having the same thing happen over here.

jDoG

I think you might need to knock some since in to me darling! :) Shoot!

jDoG

I'd leave the country, and wonder how the hell she got out of that box at the bottom of the lake.

really?!?! how's he doing? ;)