Should I continue to pursue her?
 

I'll try to explain this situation as best as I can without dragging on.

Met said chick on the subway by chance about a year and a half ago. It was at a time when I was moving out of the country that very week, so we didn't get a chance to go out until over a year later.

Anyways, we finally went on a date. Things went amazingly well, great chemistry and no one we met could believe it was our first date together. On top of that, spent the night at her place and all was great.

Two weeks went by, she ended up inviting me to a get together with some of her friends but timing was wrong (I live hours away) and wouldn't have been able to make it. Next thing I know she has pics with some new guy pop up on her facebook, then they are in a relationship.

Anyways, about four months go by, they break up and she asked me out again. We went out again but I was too pre-occupied with being the rebound guy (for the second time actually, the first time we went out was just after she ended another relationship). So anyways, I let it interfere with our night and I was not able to perform in bed because I was too pre-occupied and in a jealous rage.

After I got back home, I asked her for another chance, she said "we'll see"

She messaged me two weeks later wanting to be in a committed relationship. I told her I didn't want to commit at this time but liked her and told her she was an awesome chick and just wanted to get to know her better.

Two weeks went by and I started thinking that I really couldn't look at other women the same, and I did like her over anyone else. I finally messaged her telling her that I only liked her and no one else.

She told me it was too late and now she's seeing someone else.

She says it is non sexual at this time, they are neighbours and just walk their dogs together but she "wants to see what could happen and doesn't want any regrets"

She blamed me for shrugging her off twice and showing no interest in her when she was "throwing herself at me" because I never asked her to be my girlfriend after only two dates.

Now I'm at a point where I feel like I've made a mistake and I am literally obsessing over winning her back and "making things right"

I reminded her that I didn't shrug her off and that she was in a four month relationship two weeks after our first date and she blew me off the second date.

She blamed me for playing the "blame game" and to "stop it I'm letting this go".

How is it possible that she had feelings enough for me that she wanted to be my girlfriend two weeks ago, and now tells me I blew my chance and I should have told her sooner.

This is the reason I don't date much.

Trying to figure out if I should try to work this out, or just forget her and move on?

Really looking forward to the GFY branded advice here.

girls are like the subway you met her on.
there is another one by every ten minutes.

go out and get some :)

If she does anal - let that be your guide.

she is like yesterday's newspaper

Yeah she wanted it up the ass but I don't like doing that.

What a painful read that was. How old are you?

Is there any context to the way she says these things? Like "you blew your chance". If she's sending these via text, it could be flirting, if it's by voice or face to face, what is her body language, or her tone of voice?

Can't help you without more details my friend.

What do your parents think?

Why would you pursue that?

too damn old for this shit.

She sounds like a wonderfully old fashioned girl who your mother would love.

Facebook. Basically she said if I had just "let us date" we would be happy together right now but it's too late now. Why didn't you want me like this when I was throwing myself at you? etc.

Whats the link to her facebook?

THIS! ^^^^

Oh my god PLEASE tell us!

So you are her rebound guy two or three times and you are asking her for another chance? Not much of a man now are you?

The chick I dated before I met my wife threatened me once saying "If you walk out that door I won't give you a second chance". Sure sure. I walked right out, making sure the door didn't hit me in the ass on the way out. A day later she's begging me to come back. Pass.

So many fish in the sea.

And this goes for women too. Your man disrespects you... Drop kick his ass, wear something slutty, zoom zoom, find a new man.

Sounds like she is playing ya. We all have been played, Always want what we can't have. Remember that song Self Esteem?


Go to a chat room buy lots of tokens and tip lots of random camgirls. You will feel better.

You should start an advise column.

Women have been trying to pressure me into relationships for years. Difference is, in this case I was seriously considering her as possible girlfriend material which is why I've become so worked up over this. But committing after two dates after she just got out of another relationship? Too much too soon.

How much does she charge?

Restraining order in motion :thumbsup

I got dizzy reading this shit. If things flow you got chemistry/good relationship. If it takes a scientist to figure shit out fuck it move on too much work, unless she takes it up the pooper then maybe worth the effort.

You considered her as girlfriend material but you didnt put it in her ass?

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Should have grab as much as you could before they grab onto something else.they just have to smile to get laid.move onto somebody new

lmao, she asked me to but I didn't feel like it at the time.

Sorry to ruin your fantasy, I don't like getting shit on my dick!

I've been in a similar situation(sweating over a flakey chick). The best thing to do is ignore her for a while, and if she wants you badly enough she'll come after you. Never chase a girl around -- you'll only end up feeling pathetic.

If you find a girl that sucks the shit off before you see it. That is a keeper. I let that one get away. Miss her.

:1orglaugh:1orglaugh:thumbsup

Did you kiss her after?

Is this what GFY has come down to now, juvenile relationship advice? Holy shit, this sound like something that a teenager would post to r/relationships on Reddit, lol.

I get the sense she's the type of chica who always has to be in a relationship...she's either in one or looking for the next person to fill the slot. That's not a gender thing either, guys do it to.

That's maybe why the push/pull thing has you a bit dizzy? When she has a guy she doesn't need you, when she's single she's on you, trying to 'force' the type of relationship that can only happen organically over time. I say even if you get her it'll probably end badly; people who 'need' to be in a relationship aren't looking for a partner, they're looking for someone to fill a void until the next new thing comes along. If you're kind of sick of the games, move on. Even if you have real feelings for her I'd still suggest you move on because I doubt she'll be able to reciprocate.

:2 cents:

You're right. This is seriously gay.

You sensed right. I'm more comfortable living the single life. All I really need is the odd one night stand or escort to keep my head straight.

Unfortunately one night stands can blow up too, as I have learned a couple of weeks ago. Chick I haven't seen in like half a year blows up at me at the bar for "being a slut" and being unable to commit etc.

I feel like I was just raped of some dignity... give it back please because I read about half of this

Bitches are like monkeys swinging through the jungle. They dont let go of one branch until they have a firm grip on the next branch.

Before paying any attention to any of the other responses I only have two questions; how old are each of you? Would I be correct in presuming neither of you has been married?

Yes, it makes a huge difference.

correct :thumbsup

why do you ask?

To me it sounds pretty simple.

She seems like the kind of girl who prefers to be in a relationship and not just a casual thing. You made it pretty clear to her twice that you were not that guy. She moved on. She still has feelings for you, but doesn't trust you and likely thinks you are not relationship material.

You have two options as far as I am concerned.

1. Tell her exactly how you feel and that you want to be in a committed relationship with just her. The odds are even if she gives you a change this will eventually end badly anyway, but if she is serious about giving you a shot this might be what she needs to hear.

2. Move on. Sometimes you meet people that you are attracted to, but it doesn't work out. It is life. It sometimes sucks, but that is how it goes.

Just my 2cents

I think someone enjoyed this thread lol

Hey mate, if you're unsure to the point that you can't perform in bed, maybe it's time to let her go, find someone else. Don't waste your time with just one chick who you've met in a subway. move forward, YOLO !

i think you should wait.. she will come back looking for you.. just make sure, you don't blow it this time..

:thumbsup I hope this is the case for my situation now.

:1orglaugh:1orglaugh

I know you guys would love that, but I can't.

I completely understand where she's coming from. We each brought different expectations to the table, and although we seem to have wanted the same things I was in no rush to jump into a commitment after two dates, and each time was after she just broke up with some other bloke.

It was seriously awkward being the rebound guy twice in a row. It was a recurring thought throughout the first & second date, which ultimately lead to a downward spiral of negative thoughts, constant self blame, and huge loss of confidence.

Instead of relaxing and enjoying our time, I was constantly thinking about being in competition with these other guys and basically just ended up freezing.

My head has been spinning since we first went out. This has been the most dizzying experience I've had in a long time. The last time I was able to think with a clear head feels like forever ago.

Right now she's moaning and screaming for god while some dude has his morning wood balls deep in the hungry ass you didn't want to fuck. He's going to pull it out, stick it in her mouth to clean then pump a Peter North sized load all over her face before he farts and goes back to sleep for a half hour while she staggers to the kitchen and makes him waffles for breakfast in bed.

But hey, I'm sure she's thinking of you right now too ??.


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I only read your first post. I don't know how young you are but my advice is to let it go. Good relationships just tend to naturally flow without all the problems. Bad ones usually have problems like this right from the start and they usually stay no matter how hard you try. Find someone where it all just mostly clicks into place right from the start. You'll save yourself lots of hassle and possibly a divorce or two!

I'm definitely saving this one! LOL