Originally Posted by signupdamnit (Post 19801126)

I only read your first post. I don't know how young you are but my advice is to let it go. Good relationships just tend to naturally flow without all the problems. Bad ones usually have problems like this right from the start and they usually stay no matter how hard you try. Find someone where it all just mostly clicks into place right from the start. You'll save yourself lots of hassle and possibly a divorce or two!

Originally Posted by andrew1009 (Post 19801160)

If there were actual "problems" from the start, I would let this go no problem. The haunting comes from how GOOD it was at the start, as short lived as it was.

Originally Posted by andrew1009 (Post 19800776)

I'll try to explain this situation as best as I can without dragging on.

Met said chick on the subway by chance about a year and a half ago. It was at a time when I was moving out of the country that very week, so we didn't get a chance to go out until over a year later.

Anyways, we finally went on a date. Things went amazingly well, great chemistry and no one we met could believe it was our first date together. On top of that, spent the night at her place and all was great.

Two weeks went by, she ended up inviting me to a get together with some of her friends but timing was wrong (I live hours away) and wouldn't have been able to make it. Next thing I know she has pics with some new guy pop up on her facebook, then they are in a relationship.

Anyways, about four months go by, they break up and she asked me out again. We went out again but I was too pre-occupied with being the rebound guy (for the second time actually, the first time we went out was just after she ended another relationship). So anyways, I let it interfere with our night and I was not able to perform in bed because I was too pre-occupied and in a jealous rage.

After I got back home, I asked her for another chance, she said "we'll see"

She messaged me two weeks later wanting to be in a committed relationship. I told her I didn't want to commit at this time but liked her and told her she was an awesome chick and just wanted to get to know her better.

Two weeks went by and I started thinking that I really couldn't look at other women the same, and I did like her over anyone else. I finally messaged her telling her that I only liked her and no one else.

She told me it was too late and now she's seeing someone else.

She says it is non sexual at this time, they are neighbours and just walk their dogs together but she "wants to see what could happen and doesn't want any regrets"

She blamed me for shrugging her off twice and showing no interest in her when she was "throwing herself at me" because I never asked her to be my girlfriend after only two dates.

Now I'm at a point where I feel like I've made a mistake and I am literally obsessing over winning her back and "making things right"

I reminded her that I didn't shrug her off and that she was in a four month relationship two weeks after our first date and she blew me off the second date.

She blamed me for playing the "blame game" and to "stop it I'm letting this go".

How is it possible that she had feelings enough for me that she wanted to be my girlfriend two weeks ago, and now tells me I blew my chance and I should have told her sooner.

This is the reason I don't date much.

Trying to figure out if I should try to work this out, or just forget her and move on?

Really looking forward to the GFY branded advice here.

Originally Posted by SimonSays (Post 19801174)

http://i1324.photobucket.com/albums/...ps2aa9f957.jpg

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Originally Posted by andrew1009 (Post 19800825)

lmao, she asked me to but I didn't feel like it at the time.

Sorry to ruin your fantasy, I don't like getting shit on my dick!

Originally Posted by L-Pink (Post 19801121)

Right now she's moaning and screaming for god while some dude has his morning wood balls deep in the hungry ass you didn't want to fuck. He's going to pull it out, stick it in her mouth to clean then pump a Peter North sized load all over her face before he farts and goes back to sleep for a half hour while she staggers to the kitchen and makes him waffles for breakfast in bed.

But hey, I'm sure she's thinking of you right now too ??.


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Originally Posted by L-Pink (Post 19800813)

You should start an advise column.

Originally Posted by andrew1009 (Post 19800786)

Yeah she wanted it up the ass but I don't like doing that.

Originally Posted by suesheboy (Post 19801564)

I know how you feel but I can boil it down to this RUN!

Originally Posted by _Richard_ (Post 19801358)

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and on the second she asked you to fuck her up the ass, and you said... no. cause you didn't wanna get shit on your dick

#firstworldproblemz

Originally Posted by andrew1009 (Post 19801783)

First date actually

Originally Posted by L-Pink (Post 19801121)

Right now she's moaning and screaming for god while some dude has his morning wood balls deep in the hungry ass you didn't want to fuck. He's going to pull it out, stick it in her mouth to clean then pump a Peter North sized load all over her face before he farts and goes back to sleep for a half hour while she staggers to the kitchen and makes him waffles for breakfast in bed.

But hey, I'm sure she's thinking of you right now too ??.


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Originally Posted by Rochard (Post 19801529)

I have a "zero bullshit" policy which has worked rather well for me. If a girlfriend gave me flak or was caught in a lie, instead of trying to work it out or work around it I walked. It's the same for my friends - if you have too much drama in your life and it spills over into my life, you get dropped as a friend. If a friend of mine calls me from jail at 2am because they got a DUI and need to be bailed out, fine, I'll be there as quickly as I can - we all make mistakes. The next time it happens call someone else.

This has worked great with dating. I walk away from bullshit and drama. After you've walked away from a dozen relationships "quickly once there is bullshit or drama, the one you are currently dating quickly pick up on this - you get once chance and that's it. Most chicks were gone in a month or two; Anyone who lasted past that was drama free for the most part.

My wife and I have been together for twenty years, and we've had one fight: July 2nd, 2006. I won the fight at the time, but years later she was in fact proven right. My kid is the same way - drama free.

Originally Posted by CDSmith (Post 19802069)

I'll interject here to say thankyou to Seth Manson and L-pink for making this thread far less painful than it started out being.

Thank you.

Originally Posted by CDSmith (Post 19802069)

I'll interject here to say thankyou to Seth Manson and L-pink for making this thread far less painful than it started out being.

Thank you.

Originally Posted by lezinterracial (Post 19800841)

If you find a girl that sucks the shit off before you see it. That is a keeper. I let that one get away. Miss her.

Originally Posted by SuckOnThis (Post 19802281)

Not sure if my main criteria in a mate would be someone who eats shit, but to each his own.

Originally Posted by SuckOnThis (Post 19802281)

Not sure if my main criteria in a mate would be someone who eats shit, but to each his own.