Success changes people.
 

There are a number of people I have seen grow into various success stories in this business. Not all, but MOST of them changed along the way. For the most part, they became assholes.

I'm glad I chose to be an asshole from day one. When I reach their level of success then I will either be the same asshole or maybe I will be a bit nicer.

Time will tell. :glugglug

agreed. i know a few too that were small fries in 99 and are now chips on the shoulder types.

sucks.

Success hasn't changed me at all :Oh crap :1orglaugh !!

Sadly, it seems to be true.

I find that people treat friends, acquintances and other's in business with a certain level of equality and fairness... until they begin to gain a certain level of success, at which point they begin to not only value some people more.. but feel others aren't worth their time.

It's almost comical to see these people fully dismiss others simply because they don't have enough to offer them in return, $$ wise.

STFU, fag. :321GFY

It worked for Pimpdog. :1orglaugh

Some acquire confidence that they were lacking before and don't know how to deal with it.

:1orglaugh :1orglaugh :1orglaugh

Damn it....You were supposed to take that seriously and get pissed off at me.

I've failed again. :disgust

It comes from a long-history of thinking our biz is ZERO-SUM. The more you have, the more you have to worry. I am NOT an advoacate of poverty -- :1orglaugh But, I remember it -- :thumbsup

2hp

that's the point. :thumbsup

This subject comes up from time to time and its only ever an issue for the small guy who thinks he should be treated better.
"oh, we used to be friends and now you're a big shot with no time for me, boo hoo"

here's a clue, they're successful now and its much harder to find time for people who bring nothing to the table. This is a business, you want friends? spend more time on myspace.

People who gain success have done so by prioritizing their time. If you're getting less of their time, look at yourself for answers, not them.

do you really think you are an asshole or someone who just keeps it real?

In my life, I have clearly seen that success enhances who you truely are..


Mr. Romance

maybe because as people get richer they want more respect?

well said. Now I gotta work to get to the level where people will listen to me ;)

At least you still take time out to cuddle with me.

one thing many in the biz fail to realize is that you meet the same people on the way down as you have met on the way up your ladder. no one stays at the top forever. well, there are a small percentage that always will just because of certain chokeholds they have on the markets they live in, but for the most part adult is an up today, down tomorrow game. treat people like shit on your way to the top and see how they treat you when you're back at the bottom trying to get back up because your niche of the moment has expired. for the most part technology and the advancement of online determines who stays at the top and who falls and hits the rungs the stepped on getting to the top. there are variables to what i just wrote, but i think you get the general idea.

There is a fine line between confident and cocky. Being confident is an essential quality of the succesful, but blind cockyness causes poor judgement and the alienation of others. You should always try to treat others the way you would like to be treated, whether it benefits you or not.

This being said, there is also always a certain amount of hate towards those who are succesful whether they deserve it or not, its just human nature. I know I feel envy whenever I see a program blowing up. The trick is to turn it into a source of inspiration. People making it BIG in our industry these days just proves there is still lots of cash to be made in adult :thumbsup :thumbsup

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Originally Posted by slapass well said. Now I gotta work to get to the level where people will listen to me ;)

They call that SHOUTING -- :thumbsup

2hp

Here's the thing about that.

People tend to remember and focus more on the negative things in life rather than the positive. Because of this, I can post 10 threads on GFY that either compliment or praise 9 people then tell one person that they fucked up and guess which one of the 10 threads I will be remembered for?

You can't keep it real without telling it like it is and the truth tends to be offensive at times and THAT is what makes me an asshole....Among other things. :glugglug

I love you.:winkwink:
you just give me a lot of stuff to play devil's advocate with.

Yep personally witnessed it. :Oh crap Dont forget where you use to shit. Cause it might come back and smack you in the face.

A1R3K is a good example of how people should be. Doesnt think his shit dont stink yo! :winkwink:

And you are one of the few who realise this and plays the part well. :thumbsup

My God...Intelligent debates on GFY., WTF is this place coming to? :Oh crap

:1orglaugh :helpme

say it isn't so!!!!!!! :Oh crap

LOL...Fucker :321GFY

Shit... it doesn't even have to involve "success". Many people that I have come across over the years are so weak and insecure that they change and/or turn into assholes the minute that you give them any extra authority or put them in any kind of position of perceived "power". :disgust

Edgexxx is another person that reaches out to help others, and knows his shit stinks. :winkwink:

Here's a given in life:

a wise man learns from his mistakes a fool doesnt...

now matter how successful you become, remember, its a long climb to the top and a short fall to the bottom.. i have seen many people, including myself, become successful and then lose it in the blink of an eye.. its a humbling experience and one i hope to never repeat...

Intelligent debate? lol

:winkwink:

"One cannot be betrayed if one has no people" - Kobayashi

"Gay people take it up the ass" - BoyAlley

haha that's my first impression of you.. I get the same thing though lol.

perfect words

Very very true bro

:1orglaugh :winkwink:

Right back at ya, Sticky :thumbsup

I'm witnessing this first hand. It sucks.